You can tell a great deal about people by the way they look at you. Eye contact makes it much harder to be dishonest or to ignore what is being said.
Yes, you may be shy, or you may have difficulty looking at your partner in the eye. Please find a way to deal with this problem – unless you and/or your partner come from a culture in which this is impolite.
No, you don't have to stare at each other for the entire date. However, each of you should be the general focus for the other.
This recommendation is not as obvious as you may expect. Observe some couples the next time you are traveling by public transportation, when you are walking down a street, when you are sitting in a hotel lobby, or when you are in any other public location. Sometimes one partner seems to find Very Interesting Things to look at in another direction. When that happens, it is necessary to gain the partner's attention before speaking.
Keep watching. The person ultimately does gain the partner�s attention, but they are not really focused on each other. After the message is completed (or even before!) the reticent partner may focus on something else again, in a decidedly uninterested manner, until brought back by the partner.
Such body language is unquestionably a warning sign. If the scenery is more exciting or important than you are, then there may be little reason to pursue the date.
Of course, your partner may be giving you a different message. Any body language does require an interpretation. Be sure that you are not pushing your partner away. Do you talk too much? Are you boring? Are you nagging him/her? Are you saying things that the partner does not want to hear?
If either you or your partner are exhibiting unsatisfactory body language or vibes, then you may want to ask yourself why you have such a problem at this early stage of your relationship. Perhaps you should re-discuss this relationship with your confidant.
If you have lost friends or you have been rejected frequently, then you may consider this to be a serious issue that warrants professional attention.
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