Some people postpone a decision about whether to have a second date, whether to meet, or whatever else until the very last minute. The excuse that they give is that they can't think that far in advance. They can't plan in advance. This may or may well be true, they cannot think that far in advance in which case that's an important issue for you to consider. You would like to know whether you want to marry a person who lives for the day and who doesn't plan out things in order to know where they're going. You would like to have somebody has a direction in life, possibly. You might want to have such a person. You might want to have a person who knows where he's going, knows what he's doing, knows what he's going to be doing five years from now, ten years from now, twenty years from now, and so on. And if it bothers you that that person cannot think too far in advance such as from now until three or four days from now, then you might question whether that person can think about ten years from now. If the person cannot think that far in advance then the person might not really know where he's going. He may be pushed around by external forces because he doesn't have serious goals and then you'll want to know that you can decide whether the delays are legitimate or not. Sometimes the delays are legitimate. Sometimes they lead to a question about the person and it could be a warning that there is a problem.
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