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However, sometimes you may encounter a person who is desperate to get married. That might be a warning sign.
It is possible that they are dealing with raging hormones, in which case the desperation might be acceptable but there is no guarantee that this is the case.
However, in many cases the desperation means that the person is in a hurry to get married before something else happens. They might be willing to get married to just anybody in order to deal with something that they are trying to cover up. Perhaps it is a skeleton in their closet. Perhaps it is an impending physical or health problem, or it may be anything else.
Do check out this warning sign before taking a serious step. It may be nothing at all. It may be something that you can ignore.
But then again, you would stop at a red light even if there is no traffic coming to your left or right, wouldn't you? It's something that you should check out. It's something that you should be warned about. There definitely could be danger awaiting you.
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