As we grow older, we see many changes that affect all of us, and many times we look the other way instead of saying enough.
Now, as we watch shows on the tube, we don't have to bring up any pictures as they are right there in front of you. There are shows on television, that would shame the worst of people. They show it all, and that is one of the problems that we are faced with, while trying to bring up our children. You don't have to teach sex to them, because they can get the whole story from the tube. As parents, we've let it happen, and it will be hard to get it stopped. How can we as a parent , keep the filth out of our children's hands and minds. That is a question that only you as a parent can answer.
They took prayer out of the schools, and the discipline out of the home, just because someone thought that their rights were being taken away. What about the rights of all the others.? The ones that want prayer in the school and discipline in the home are the ones that had their rights taken away. When you are told how to believe, and how you can discipline your children, you are the ones that lost a God-given right. It is really bad when you can smack a child because he doesn't do as he is told, and be arrested for it.. I do know that there are cases where the child is beaten, and that is wrong. Discipline should only be as a way to teach respect and responsibility. Most parents are good to their children and they know that their children love them. But the small number of complaints by some kids who can't be trained, are sent to the police, who have to do their job, and that makes it hard for parents and school-teachers to do their job. We, as the parent let this happen, until it was too late to stop it. We can stop it by going back to old way of doing the training of our children , so that they can carry it on with their children. All I can say to those youngsters out there is that it doesn't get any easier. To teach respect, you have to be respected. To teach responsibility, you have to be responsible.
I am very happy that I came from the days ,when respect and responsibility were taught in the home. And I am very proud to say that instead of abuse, we had discipline. Maybe it hurt a little back then, but you can see that it did me a lot of good. And my parents were taught the same way by their parents, only they came from a much tougher time, when nothing came easy, and anything you worked for went toward your living expenses. There was no extra in the old days as far as money was concerned, but there was always a lot more love to go around, and families were a group of one. And the neighbors were part of your family. They were always looking out for you too, and they helped keep you out of trouble. They say that you can never go back, but I say that if you want, you can always go back to the memory bank, and remember when it was cool, to sit on the front or back porch and just spend time with your family and friends. A man's word was as good as the man himself. Oh, I miss those days, when honor and responsibility was part of growing up, and when respect for your fellow man was part of it too.
In these days, we see homes broken up because of failures to keep jobs, or to a sickness of a family member with no way to pay for their recovery. We see women who go through the change of life and men who either drink or lose their jobs, and they wind up in the mental hospitals, where many times they are hit with "suggestions "of abuse as a child, or "control" by their mates. Enough suggestions about this and the patient finally believes it themselves. I don't mean to put down that part of the profession, because there are a lot of patients that need help, and they get it from those people who are trained right for that job. But you can tell someone that they are sick enough times, and they will believe it.
We see people on disibility , and they are out playing ball, or working at jobs where money is always cash, so that they won't lose the money that they shouldn't be getting anyway. There are those out there that collect money as a surviving parent, that is supposed to go toward the child's welfare, but instead it is used as an extra source of money that they can blow away. What kind of a parent can a man be that will not use that money for the welfare of the child? How can any man live with himself, knowing that what he does with the money is wrong? How can the kids gain respect for a parent that has no respect for himself? Oh yes, there are some parents out there that need to be held accountable for their actions. Most of the time, the officials that should be watching for this type of child abuse, are looking the other way. Maybe the Social Security System needs to check a little closer with the people that are abusing the system.
And take the so-called psychics on television, who pull you into their fold with the answers that you want to hear. They are some of the best con-men around. Tell a fool what he wants to hear and he will ask for more. Tell a person who is not loved ,the things that he or she wants to hear and they will buy some more of your time. It all goes down to one thing. Make a suggestion enough times, and the person who needs help, will finally believe it. Your best con-men are these people who pray on other people who need some help. Enough said on that subject.
And one other thing that really burns me up are the so-called polls, that they take at election time. Do they really believe that we think that those polls are correct. They actually are the attempts by groups who want to sway your vote to their side. Many people are influenced by those polls. Many voters will look at a poll, and then vote for the man who is supposed to be ahead. My gosh, we haven't even voted and they are telling us who the winner will be. I say that they should make polls, a violation of the voting system. Let us hear from the horse's mouth what he is going to do for us, and then let us make up our own mind who to vote for. How many times has a good choice to run our country, dropped out because he was low man on the polls? How many great men and women have gone by the wayside because they just did not have the backing needed to go against the big money groups? I will tell you one thing ,and that is that I vote the way I want to, and not because they say that my choice can not win.
I really have to say that my feelings toward this DNA testing is for the birds. They use the DNA in order to convict someone charged with a crime. The theory is that the DNA of a person is confined to him or a very few. They contend that it is a very true way of connecting someone to a death or another crime. How can anyone in their right mind, say that all of us have a certain DNA, when the only way that it could be true, would be to test every single one of us, and have it on record? I hope that never happens. If a person is guilty, then prove it to the rest of us, but don't use something that really is only a theory.
What I am trying to say is that most of the things that we have to live with is because we let a very few run our lives with their polls, their suggestions, and some laws that were put on the books to benifit a few.
One thing for sure, and that is if I lived in many other countries, I wouldn't be able to say the things that have been said in this article. Probaly I would of been beheaded or put away in prison, where nobody would ever find me. That is what is right with the good old USA, and this is one proud American, who wants only the best for all of us.
Uncle Ray sometimes gets on the soapbox and blows off too much, but it seems like the readers enjoy it, so I will continue to bring you my thoughts of today, mixed with my memories of yesterday, so that just maybe we can see what the future holds for us. Once in awhile, I will give my thoughts on what is wrong with what is going on today, and how I think it should be corrected. Just remember that they are my thoughts, and they are not designed to sway your thoughts. If you do like my articles, you can pick them up on my web page at, www.geocities.com/Colosseum/Arena/2161/ and you can e-mail me at [email protected] So until the next time, when I once again bring you my thoughts and memories, "from the heart" , I bid you "God Bless".
Ray "Uncle Ray" Day---1616 Primrose Court--Kokomo Indiana 46901-2522--
If you think that your life has not changed, then you either are very lucky or you have had your head in the sand too long.
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