When you love your kids but can't stand their behavior
When you consider how babies learn - everything a first experience, each new day a new
adventure and every idea a new experiment - it's no wonder so many parents conclude their
toddler is probably the best kid in the world. It's also no wonder how that once cute little
bundle of joy can become annoying to adults - when the genius in the child discovers how to
control mom and dad, how to take over the household and eventually how to take over the classroom.
By James Kraemer
A child's mind is intelligent and can sense
a lacking in an adult's parenting skills the first time
it happens. And according to Victoria A. Milller, author of the new book, Defensive
Parenting for the 21st Century, the child can predict the second time and can cause it
every time after that! But equipped parents are fully aware that they (mom and dad) are in
charge of their kids and what their kids are allowed to do. These parents are what the rest of
us might want as our 21st century neighbors -- their kids mind their parents and demonstrate
respectful behavior toward adults and property - the kind of consistent behavior the rest of us
would appreciate exhibited from all kids.
Defensive Parenting for the 21st century is 90 pages of easy reading for the parent
ready and willing to take charge of their little toddler, their terrible two year old, or their
rebellious teen. The author's own experiences, while growing up in a Children's Home,
presents in her book a unique understanding of the need in children for positive stimulation.
Her book enables adults to become aware of the thought processes and capabilities of
children. Miller gives sound, basic parenting advise, ground floor advise you might have missed in your
effort to become an adult, only to discover this truth while noticing your child's skillful strategies
to sabotage the expectations you give at home, at the store and at school.
Defensive Parenting for the 21st century helps today's fast-paced single parents and
parents with skillfully mischievous kids establish appropriate and effective relationships with
their children, including:
- How to learn to think like a child, so as to understand their motivations and elicit the
desired behaviors;
- How to establish an all-important atmosphere of respect between the toddler and parent;
- How to encourage the building of the child's character through allowing them to do things for
themselves;
- How to circumvent the child's propensity to plead "I'm sorry, I forgot" when avoiding chores;
- How to appreciate the importance of being a true parent to the child and not just another
friend;
- How to take responsibility for instilling acceptable behavior patterns in the child rather than
leaving it up to outside parties, such as the school;
- How to positively promote the successes of the child rather than accentuating the failures.
If you've come to recognize in yourself a lacking (here and there) in some of your parenting
skills, and you want to fill in the gaps before your healthy child conquers and terrorizes the
entire neighborhood, then consider Defensive Parenting for the 21st century a must
read.
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Safe Schools Note: Defensive Parenting for the 21st Century, by
Victoria A. Miller, a new book available soon at most book stores for
$14.95 (paperback), or you can order this book through Safe Schools. For more information about this book
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