Fear From Marriage

A 45 years old man who was unwilling to marry, married to 28 year old girl upon extreme insistance from his family. He had all the wealth and happiness in his life except a wife. After a day before his wedding, he suffered a heart attack and passed away. Could we neglect such cases? Why should be be silent about this?

A common question: I used to masturbate a lot and now my penis has deformed. I ejaculate too early and I am am not able to marry because I cannot satisfy a my wife.

Remember that doctors still think that what we are talking about is just what our minds says and that there is no real truth in it that masturbation can cause impotance or it reduces size or that you are not able to satisfy a woman sexually. I will now discuss doctors point of view. Since i am not an authentic source on this matter i would advise you to listen to what i say but believe in what you believe. I would be gratefull if you give your comments about it.

First of all i will give some proofs that excessive masturbation does cause prematur ejaculation and that his fears are rigth that he can not marry a woman because he can not satisfy her and she will eventually leave him and break the relationship

Here is what we say

After falling into this problem remember the after maths : i will discuss shorty here

Cause the penis to be narrow in base, it reduces in size
Cause pain in the back and legs
The penis bends towards on side
The penis leeks semens even when you think about girl, leaving alone touchin them and don't even mention touching them with penis

Since i leak even at thinking of sex with a woman how can I have real sex with them. I will ejaculat just when i touch her. I can not have intercourse with her.
My penis has become wrinked in the base. It has ruduced much in size and it is no more rock hard. Can a girl be happy to have sex with me?
I already have pain in my back. When i masturbate I immediatly feel that pain. The pain is not only in lower back but also in the legs muscles. It means that i am too weak to have sex. Ok suppose i marry. How often can i have sex with my wife. If i do it twice at a time, i wont be able to get off the bed. Do you think i am still fit to marry?
What is a proper sex? A man and woman looks at each other with eager eyes. They are intersted in each other. They start a fore play. They begin to touch each other body and immediatly start to enjoy themselves. The man does not care 'oh i am going to ejaculate!!!'. For a man with premature ejaculation problem (PE problem), he will ejaculate right at this point. Do you think this is healthy for sex? Have you satisfied your partner? No. In a proper sexual encounter the next thing might be taking off clothes and seeing each other naked and then touching each other naked. Ofcourse to enjoy sex you do not have to be aware that you are ajaculating and have to stop it. Next thing you touch each other body wildly and enjoy the feelings. Now you are touching the genitals and after that you will for intercourse. For a person with PE problem all this is a dream. He can not do it. Even if he do it he has to call his partner a number of times "stop i am ejaculating and then start". Is it fear to do it to a woman? Does a woman likes it to stop and then start after she is hot? Is it proper sex? NO noway.
Ok. I cannot have peroper sexual intercourse (lets assume you can sexual intercourse for 10 seconds assuming that you are in hawaii in your mind and not in sexual encouter [which means that you are not in a position to enjoy sex and are doing it only for the sake of partner]. You ejaculate as soon as you enter. What is the result. Will you wife be happy with it. To be true, if you do it a number of times, she is not going to touch you next time [unless she is very obedient]. A proper way of sex for a man is that he should enter his wife and indulde her while she enjoys herself. Even if the man comes early he should stay inside till his wifes comes also.
There are other ways to make a woman come so intercours is not important. Someone might say the above word. Ofcourse you can use your finger to stimulate your wife and make her cum. Of you may use other objects. It should be enough for a woman. My answer is NO. These are extra activities that people do to make their sexual experience more exciting. If you think you will make ur wife cum with ur fingers or any objects, it might be enought for one or two times but it is never the replacement of sex where you use your genital with hers. In a way you are proving that you are handicapped as your can not use your genital which is designed for this purpose.
Even if i marry i will not be able to enjoy sex. This is true. Because each time you are staring a sexual encounter you are more aware of your premature ejaculation rather than the actual act of sex. A number of times in sex you have to stop and change your thinking so that u do not ejaculate. This might be fine with you but not with your parnter. When i am touching her body i think of my problem, when i am kissing her i think of my problem and to be true my genital becomes somewhat not so responsive as it should be. It is not enjoying that touch that it should. Again the feelings are in the brain that are hindering the pleasure. But what if i do not think this way. I am thinking that i am 100% fit person to have sex. In that case i will ejaculate far before taking off my clothes. So you can think of my pleasure level. It is far far belove that pleasure level which is received by a healthy man. I hope i have made my point here.
If i am not enjoy sex what am i enjoying. Atleast i am satisfied with it. Yes you are not enjoy sex, you are enjoy something else. That something else is your thirst for desire of sex. Now that you have had sex (so called sex) you are satisfied. This is what the real case is. Most people will do acts that will give them almost no pleasure but the pleasure they are getting is that they are doing it. So in real it is not the pleasure from sex but the pleasue that you are fulfilling your fantasy. This is a great point.
Now that i have spoken so much that i am not enough to marry, there is one more last point. It is very very important to be consider. Now what do you think what a woman want from man. They want him to satisfy her right? But does that mean if the woman comes she is satisfied no matter what way she has achieved the orgasm [ she could have achiee orgasm by masturbating herself and not by his erotic actions ]. The answer is most women except something from men which is not just fondling and making love. The ultimate thing for a woman that she want is they want to see their men ejaculate inside her or out side. The stronger the ejaculation the more they like. A man withe PE problem can not ejaculate. Even if he does, his ejaculation is too weak. Even if it is weak, he feel severe pain in the back and legs. So my question is, is it fear for a man who has this problem and who marries a normal female deprives her from so many things.
What the Doctor says
The doctors are of the opinion that this problem is not really an actual problem but it is merely created by our minds and my misinformation. So it will also mean that what ever i have disccusses in the above para are totally lied no matter i have experience by myself. Yet still the whole thing can be the fooling of the brain that is the male gential shrinks in size ( actually it is what our brain thinks it has shrinks, it has not shrinked in real). I feel pain in the back ( no it is what my mind says, i do not feel any pain in real). If that is the case let put some pressure on your back and see the result. You will paralize yourself for the rest of your life. The third one that i ejaculate when i think about girls what would they say about it [ they can't say it is also what our mind think] so they say, it is normal with every man. Yest again they can not explain why we come so early and how on earth can we satisfy a woman think that you have to use your genital and not anything else. this is debate which i will discuss later also. However at this point of time i will ask these questions to a docotor and i would be pleased if he comes up with any good answer.
Here is the doctors point o view
- First thing a doctor says "You are 100% OK".
- The leakage of seimens (or sperms) is natural phenaomina when you think about sexual fanatasies.
- You penis does not change in size not matter how much you masturbate. It is merely wrong information.
- The actual problem is that your seimens become a little thinner and they ejaculate easily. In this case they might prescribe you a little medicine ( i would not name it as any one can use it without a prescription). the medicine is actually for another purpose like headache etc but they doctors recommends it because it alos helps in thickening the seimens ( or the sperm count).
- In short the doctors totally discards your problem and says that you are normal.
Remember that doctors are human being and they have their own prejudices. A doctor my come up with his own thinking ( which is not proved my medical scince ) and advice you something that is not mentioned in medical sccience. This is well possible. Here when we are taking about doctors, we are strictly talking about those medical facts which are proved my medical science and which are not influenced by any individual. Now in that case medical science does not believe at all the such excessive masturbation can cause so many problems for a man. Here i would ask a question to the learned doctors, if you have any adequate answer about this issue please let us know. If you dont know we can do some research in it, that's how we can solve problems.
My own view about what medical science say
What i have arrived on my conclutions is that medical science is oblivious of human man thinking and since it was unable to solve such important problem for man kind as premature ejaculation ( may be the phenomina is too intricate) it just gave its own statement that there is nothing wrong with such person. They even say masturbation is good for health and it wont give you any harm no matter how many times you do it. I am stricly against excessive masturbation and believe that at one point it will give you all those problems that i mentioned and the worse thing is "there is no way back". And I think that is one reason the science has somewhat ignored. But again i cannot blame science or doctor, they might have their own proof which we don't know.
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