THE
GIFT OF ONE’S SELF
It occurred to me last Fall
that I would be spending Christmas 2002, alone… no family anymore. Money was
short.. and really not many to buy presents for. My son, Andrew at 23, was on his own and soon leaving for Florida
to be with his father in Key West. My
marriage had ended in between the loss of both my parents. My mother, Olive,
had passed away in February of 2000 and my father, George passed away the next
February 2001. Since I was an only
adopted child, I had no siblings. In my
whole life, I had never experienced one moment of living without my parents.
And I had never spent one Christmas without my mother and father… Lots of
presents, a Swedish smorgasbord, baking tons of things starting right after
Thanksgiving… cleaning the house until everything sparkled. That chapter of my “family” life was gone
forever now... they had always been a part of my life for as far back as I
could remember… almost.
I have always
known that I was adopted… as my mother had always told me I was “special”
because I was wanted twice. I have had a fleeting picture in my mind’s eye for
as long as I can remember, of laying on my back in a crib in a large room of
many cribs. My view of one wall held many large windows on one wall. The windows were open with light- weight
curtains gently billowing with a gentle Spring breeze. – somewhere with a
second story view of many large tree branches
– mostly barren but beginning to bud.
There were some women in the room wearing white covering their heads – resembling
nuns. I wrote it off vision of memroy to being in some type of orphanage for
the first six months of my life.
I had grown to
believe that my birth mother must have loved me very much to give me up, in the
knowing she was giving me a better life than what she was able to provide
me. When I became a young woman and was
unable to have children of my own… I gained a new and wider appreciation for
adoption because without a biological mother’s giving, I would not have
received the gift of having a son myself ( who happened to have been born on
Good Friday in 1978)
What does it feel
like to be adopted? Remember
discussions in science class in school about the concept of the infinity of
space.. going vastly beyond comprehension.. unending blackness? Unending void. A vacuum of life I would never know. Something you didn’t necessarily have to understand.. but just
something you had to accept. So it
is with adoption. There is your coming into the world, being born of persons you will never know, never meet, and
the government deciding you do not have the right to know about your own
truth. It’s just the way it is.. You
have no choice in the matter. It’s just something you have to accept : Blindness, ignorance. And you do
accept it, and you do go on. You
grow, you accomplish, find love, have families of your own, you live. But all the while… there is a void, a vacuum
of your origins that you will never know. It’s a small pocket of internal sadness and aloneness you carry with you
always.
My adoptive mother
had always told me she recalled my birth name was Barbara and that I was of German/English descent – notes left
to my mother from a caseworker – and bequeathed to me. Some 49 years later, while cleaning out my
mother and father’s safe…I came across my final adoption papers sealed in a
yellowing envelope with my name “stephanie lynn” penciled in my mother’s
script. Upon opening it, for the first time my eyes fell upon a my final
adoption papers signed by Garner Shriver which stated my birth name was
“Barbara Lee Horton” would be changed to Stephanie Lynn A. I crumpled to my knees in front of the safe,
bawling my eyes out, knowing my adoptive mother – her love for me being
unending - had saved this important piece of my life for me.
Online one night…
I was surfing around and decided to do a search on adoption stuff in general.
Somehow.. I don’t remember quite how.. I ran across the information that Kansas
and Alaska were the only two states that allowed adoptees to get a copy of
their original birth certificate. This was to become my Christmas gift to
myself in 2002.
Shortly before
Christmas, an envelope arrived from vital statistics in Topeka. I took the envelope to the kitchen table and
just stared at it for a while, fearing to open it – not knowing what I would
find. Inside would be my biological
parents’ names – or so I thought.
I opened it,, my
eyes darting from one section to another.. not remembering a thing…going back
over it again and again. My mother’s name was Ann Louise Horton, age 31 at my
birth, currently residing in Golden City, MO, originally from Texas. I was born at Booth Memorial Hospital in
Wichita. Booth Memorial in Wichita? I grew up and lived in Wichita until I was
21 years old and had never heard of that hospital. My eyes scoured the bottom….there was no information about my
father !!!! How can that be??? I had a father didn’t I? Where was his name
??? I was so overwhelmed with anger and frustration.. I had failed to notice
the greatest surprise of all at the bottom:
I HAD SIBLINGS
!!!!! At the time of my birth, one sibling had died, and three others
were alive. (This became the greatest clue that Glen and Ann were
indeed my parents and the correct Horton family to pursue). Oh my God. I had never, not once, given any thought to
the idea that I might have brothers and sisters. I had always been an “only
child” - why should anything be any
different now? I guess I had just assumed I was the illegitimate child of a
young couple. Siblings? How could that
be? Had the other children been given
up for adoption also? If not, why did she keep them and not keep me? ( I have come to realize that I was very
fortunate not knowing this in my childhood, as it would have haunted me, and
most undoubtedly effected the way I grew up and my sense of self.)
At that very moment, I
knew my life had changed. Forget worrying about the father! Where were my brothers and sisters
!!!!!! I have siblings !!!! I AM NOT ALONE ! Again, at the drop of a pin, I was reduced to uncontrollable
tears to the point I could hardly breath. That night as I lie in bed, my mind
racing. I knew at that moment I needed
to pray and ask God for strength, endurance and guidance in the journey that
lay before me.
Where to begin? Golden City seemed like a good place. Out
came the Rand McNally road atlas to locate Golden City. Then off the to the
computer to “map quest” and ultimately a Web Site of Golden City / Lamar in
Barton County MO. Golden City was small
with a population of about 800 (similar to Walton, KS). Knowing small towns don’t change much over
the years – and some family members are usually around - I sent emails to the
City Clerk of Golden City that were not answered. I finally called the city
clerk and got the name of the local sexton for the IOOF cemetery in Barton and
wrote him. But he didn’t respond either.
The Chamber of Commerce listed a Horton Jewelry Store in Lamar. Could
this be my family? I consulted Yahoo,
MSN people search white pages and came up with five Horton families that still
were listed in Golden City. I drafted a
letter stating I was doing family tree research on Ann Horton from the Golden
City area without mentioning the “adoption” issue as I didn’t want to disrupt
or hurt any others in my search. I was in the hopes that some kind soul might
respond. Larry Chester & Velma
Horton, Dana Horton, nor Helen Horton responded. But Linda Horton-Brunner –
angel, my kind soul, did answer me with an email :
·
“I think the
possibility exists that there is a tie between your family, and mine. My father
(Chester), had a brother Glen that I mentioned earlier. I know that Glen was
married to a woman named Ann. Afraid I don't know her middle name, or maiden
name. I also know that Glen and Ann had at least three children together, and
lived in the Golden City area. These children would be my first cousins. I have
never met them, and do not know where any of them might be. I do know that the
oldest was named Donald Ray, that there was another daughter, Rowena, and
another, Eileen. (not sure of the spelling) Mom thought there was also a fourth
child. The memories I have of Uncle Glen are when he lived around Eldon,
Missouri. He had a salvage yard up there, and on occasion, he would travel to
Golden City, to visit with my father, Chester. Usually for some auto part or
something. I don't think this particular Horton family was prone to closeness.”
God had sent me an angel
for my shoulder. – Linda. Another
prayer was offered up in gratitude and guidance.
When Linda wrote of the
“fourth child” I thought that might have been ME ! I immediately began
searches on the internet for a Ann / Annie Horton. If Ann was age 31 at the
time of my birth - then if she was born before May = 1920, if after May = 1919.
My SSDI searches took me many directions across the United States – none
of which were fruitful.
I also registered
myself with as many adoption search registries online that I could find. Those
registries were not helpful as no one was looking for me.
·
International
Soundex Reunion Registry
·
NAIC –
National Adoption Information Clearinghouse
·
Adoptionregistry.com
·
Birthfamily.com
One
evening while working on familysearch.org I turned “off” the exact spelling.
Soundex pulled up:
Glen
Horten (obvious typo/misspelling)
DOB March 28, 1919
DOD January 20, 1990
SS 513-14-9227
Death
Residence Localities Olean, Miller County, MO
Linda Horton Brunner had
also mentioned that Glen was later married to a woman named Mae and they had
lived in the Elton, MO area. This resulted in another SSDI search:
Mae
B Horton (previously Rea)
DOB October 8, 1911
DOD October 6, 1999
SS 489-07-9382
Death
Residence, Eldon, Miller County, MO
Further internet research
through newspaper obituaries resulted in:
Jefferson City NEWS TRIBUNE
HORTON
Mae
Rea Horton, 87, Eldon, died Oct. 6, 1999 at Capital Region Medical Center. She
was born Oct. 8, 1911 in Olean, a daughter of George W. and Daisy Rebecca
Walker Brouse. She was married May 14,
1933, to George L. Rea, who preceded her in death. She was married September 5,
1959 (eight years after my birth) top Glen R. Horton, who also preceded her in
death. …. Visitation at Phillips Funeral Home in Eldon. (Her children from
George Rea were only ones listed as survivors.)
Following that lead, I
wrote Phillips Funeral Home in Eldon, to find out what funeral/obit information
they might have on Glen R. Horton since families usually use the same funeral
home for arrangements. I was in the
hopes they had some information about his children (my potential siblings), the
daughters’ married names, and their locations in 1990.
On January 16, 2003 I
received a fax from Margie at Phillips Funeral Home, Five South Oak, Eldon, MO
65026
Name……………………
.Glen R. Horton
Age
………………………70
Residence……………….Olean,
MO
Date
of Birth…………… March28, 1919
Place
of Birth…………. .Pittsburg, KS
Parents…………………..Guy
Horton & Bernice Schneider (This Schneider was an error by the Rea family I
believe)
Date
of Death ……….…January 20, 1990
Place
of Death………… Rt 1, Box 82, Olean, MO
City,
State of Death… Olean, MO
Married
to……………….Mae Brouse Rea
Date/Place
Marriage…..9/5/59 Harrison, Arkansas (Boone County)
Occupation……………..Truck
Driver
Survivors and General
Information:
Wife:……………………………Mae Horton
Step Sons………….……..G.D. Rea Kansas City, MO
……………. Walter Rea Valle Jo, California (note
that Walter is now deceased)
Brother …………………… Chester Horton (This is Linda
Horton-Brunner’s dad who is now deceased as well)
Five Grandchildren, two great grandchildren
Lived in Miller County since 1959. Member of the Seventh Day Advent
Church. Owner and operator of an
independent trucking operation. Owned and operated automobile repair garages in
Mt. Pleasant and Olean.
Visitation 6
pm – 8 pm Sunday and 9 am – 3:30pm Monday at the funeral home.
Minister: Rev.
Eldon Myers
Date and Hour of Service January 22 4 pm Monday
Place of Service
Graveside – Greenmore Memorial Park
Palce of Interment
Greenmore Memorial Park, Barnett MO ( I have maps if anyone is
interested)
NOTE TO MY SIBLINGS: I was quite
disheartened that no mention of Ann and Glen’s children was made as “survivors”
in Glen’s obituary. Lesia Horton, Dennis Horton’s daughter telephoned G.D. Rea in Kansas City (9302 Lewis Ave,
Kansas City, 64138 phone 816/763-0651) to see if Mae’s family might know the
whereabouts of Donald, Rowena or Eileen.
G.D Rea was quite friendly and gracious in his conversation but had no
idea that Glen had children from a previous marriage. I was unable to download any obituary from the newspaper online,
as the transcribed records do not go back to 1990,
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Meanwhile.. I had several
other avenues of investigation open.
People I talked with told me the Booth Memorial Hospitals were part of
the Salvation Army and usually hospitals for unwed mothers. So I wrote :
Salvation Army Booth
Memorial Hospital Records through:
Astrid Steinsland
Salvation Army Home &
Hospital Records
10 Algonquin Rd
Des Plaines, IL 60016
They wrote me back January
13, 2003 stating that the Wichita address was 2050 Grand Blvd. Now if you have
lived in Wichita, you KNOW there is no Grand Blvd. in Wichita. Another communication on February 11, 2003
with the Kansas State Historical Society revealed that it had been located at
2050 W. 11th Street circa 1951.
Saturday February 15th
, my partner, Marvin, and I drove to Wichita in search of the hospital. This location is close to where 13th
Street crosses the Arkansas river. The addresses jump back and forth across the
river as it winds through the city. We had almost given up hope… but then..
through the mature tree branches around
a golf course.. this two story, yellow brick building appeared - Very regal in
appearance with two-story, white
painted columns flanking the front door
and large, white trimmed windows with a second story screened in balcony. Amidst the still-bitter winds and blowing
sleet, I jumped out of the car to get closer. I had found where I entered this
world, and understood the fleeting memory of laying in a crib, looking out a
window at budding trees from a second story view. Another one of those moments when I was reduced to tears at a
second’s notice.
**************
Since I had
successfully located Glen’s Social Security number, I mailed SS to receive a
copy of his original application for a SS number. It revealed:
Glen applied for his SS number on 6/27/41 , was currently unemployed and was married at that time. I now had proof that Glen was married a first time, and was at least married in 1941. This gave me the hunch that my first sibling might be born around 1941 as well. (Little did I know that this would become Rowena.) His current residence at that time was Liberal MO. And listed his parents as Guy Thornton Horton, and Bernice Adriene Bowman.
On
January 27, I wrote Gary Hamm, son of Mildred, who stills lives in
Liberal MO, hoping that he might know something about my siblings. To date, I
have not received any response from him.
************
John Albert Chester (1930’s buddy of Chester, Glen and Cecil /
former sheriff of Crawford County KS) 1209 E 8th Street
Pittsburg,
KS 67869
620-231-7943
It
should be noted that John Albert Chester’s sister is Ellen. Ellen was Cecil
Horton’s wife many years ago. She has little desired memory of those days.
Currently she owns Rowden’s Sleek and Chic Salon of Beauty in Pittsburg, KS
. (620-231-4852)
I
had written John Chester at the beginning of January. I received a response from him on January 14, 2003. I am posting here, his letter in its
entirety... as it is colorful and information that all my siblings should have:
Dear Stephanie:
I am an antique. 30 years old when you were born. I knew the Hortons from back in the 30’s,
but probably don’t know the answers to any of your questions but will try to go
right down the line with what I knew of them from that time and hope you find
something useful.
Guy Horton was a fireman on a steam
shovel. Guy was a small man of about 150 pounds. He worked 7 – 12 hour days a week and made real good wages for
those depression days when harvest wages around here were 15c and hour. An man work 6 0 ten hour days per week and
got home with all $9.00 of it.
Naturally Guy wasn’t able to be around his kids very much. I never knew him until after he had
retired. Guy was a very friendly
person and a problem solver. He felt there was always a solution to every
problem and he expected to find it. I
was a hungry hard working teenager at the time but that man could always eat
twice as much as I and I could never figure where he put it.
Chester Horton was well liked by
everyone who knew him He took after his dad in the problem solving department.
He was a top notch welder and all around mechanic. Whenever my motor cycle had
a problem I couldn’t find, he could. He
would stop whatever he was doing and in just a few moments my machine ran
better than it had for weeks. Being his
own boss, Chet never seemed to know when quitting time came. Sometimes it seems he worked day and night
just to keep his friend and neighbors going. Chet could also talk and sell his
point of view with ease. He could certainly been a politician if he had so
chosen. As a matter of fact he did find time to be Mayor of Golden City for a
while.
Mildred Horton went to Texas with the
family. A fellow by the name of Helmer
Jonas came back with them. We all
expected Helmer and Mildred to get married but it didn’t work out that way.
Helmer finally went back to Texas and Mildred married Merle Hamm (both dead
now).
Cecil Horton was pretty much of a “con
man”. None of our family was very impressed with him except Ellen. They got
married and lived mostly on her wages.
When Cecil worked it was mostly as a mechanic or a truck driver. He got hurt badly in a gas truck explosion.
Recovery took most of a year. During the recovery period Cecil went from a non
drinker to alcoholic. One evening when Ellen had spent most of her pay for
groceries on the way home from work, Cecil “blew up” because she hadn’t brought
him a bottle. Ellen decided that was
enough so she got a divorce. Cecil had become quite dependent; now he would
have to go to work. He couldn’t handle
that prospect. He just wouldn’t leave
Ellen alone so she went out to Great Ben and took a job. She didn’t come back
until Cecil had left the country. Cecil
died in the 60’s I think it was. Ellen still operates Sleek and Chic Salon of
Beauty (The slick chick some of us call it.) .. It is probably the largest shop
in Pittsburg.
Glen
Horton was small like his Dad. He was a
likeable little outlaw. He stayed at
our house quite a bit. My dad had been killed in March of 1940 and I got a
dependency discharge from the military. $21 every month just wasn’t enough to
take care of my mother and younger sister. I had turned 20 the same month dad
had did. Glen stayed at our house quite a bit.
Glen was driving a truck and frequently stayed at our house quite a bit.
Glen was driving a truck and frequently away for 2 or 3 days at a time. Glen would often ask my mother for $5 of $10
for gas money and something to eat on until he got back. Everything was quite expensive. Gasoline
cost 10, 12 and even 15c a gallon and you couldn’t find a hamburger for less
than 5c. My mother was a “soft touch’.
She knew Glen would not return her money, but she would never think of asking
for it. I had a feeling that my mother
was almost glad sometimes, when she could tell Glen she just didn’t have any
money.
While Glen was in the “pen”, Ellen
visited him nearly every month. I
didn’t remember why he as sent up so I asked Ellen. She said she didn’t
remember but he was into everything.
Linda Brunner is about as like her dad,
as a female can be. She picked up on
all the good characteristics of her dad even to the hand shank where you fell
like you’re shaking hands with a vice. Even so, she is all woman and quite
attractive.
I was away from home a lot during those
days. I‘ve mentioned the Pre Pearl Harbor discharge. Next came WWII when I was
a paratrooper in Europe 1942 through 1945. I was called back during the Korean
mess 1951 and 1952. My contact with the Hortons was rather “hit and miss”. I made it a point to have coffee with Ellen
thins morning. I let her read your letter with hopes that she might have
answers for some of your questions. She didn’t Her relationship with Cecil was
so negative toward the last that she says she was able to clock out that
portion of her life to the extent that she actually remember \very little of
it. Before the coffee was over I was feeling like a detective with all my
probing of her memory.
I had brought a Texas road map and it
seems Guy Horton and his wife, Cecil and Ellen, Mildred, and Glen had taken a
truck, a trailer, and a camper down to the “cedar break” near New Bronfels,
Texas - which looks to be 50 or 60
miles north east of San Antonio. There
we many Germans in the area who spoke little English. Cecil called them square heads. Helmer Jonas attached himself to
the group at this point, but to Cecil, he was always a square head. A cedar
post is lightweight, straight and has a long life. This made it a very
desirable post to farmers. The lightweight made it attractive to truckers.
There was a good market for these posts in Kansas and on north. Guy, Glen and Helmer cut the posts. Cecil
took them to the market.
Ellen remembers only one thing
distinctly. She started to pull a chair out from under the camper on day and
there was a rattlesnake coiled right on the seat where she had wanted to sit
down. The snake was terminated, but not by Ellen. She also remembered a 15 month old baby of Glen’s that had
died. She didn’t know of a second wife
and was not aware that Glen was even married (the first time).
Well Stephanie, I sure hope I haven’t
said anything that you wish I hadn’t. Your letter seemed to indicate that you
wanted facts. I’ve given the best I could come up with. I hope there is
something this letter that helps resolve some part of your ongoing inquiry.
I wish for you only the best John Chester Arthur
Another trip to the computer and website for New
Braufels, TX. It is a community, rich
with German heritage. Located on interstate 35, just north of San Antonio ( and
by coincidence – just a few miles from Sequin, TX where Ann Louise Horton was
born. Perhaps this is were Ann and Glen met.)
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My next search was
prison records. I contacted Timothy
Rives at NARA (National Archives – Central Plains Region). He checked the
Bureau of Prisons index to Released Inmates 1927-1960 but did not find a Glen R
Horton. Therefore it was not Federal
Prison, but more like state prison – Lansing.
My next contact
was the Kansas State Historical Society in Topeka. They responded to me on
January 22, 2003 reporting “the only card they found in their prisoner index
for a Glen Horton was a “series 3 record” and they were not authorized to
release it”.
Finally, writing
to Bill Miskell, Public Information Officer at the Dept of Corrections, Landon
State Office Bldg in Topeka Kansas January 27, 2003, resulted in the prison
records I received in early March, 2003. There were several pages of documents.
Following is the overall information:
The papers
sent to me by KS DOC reflect that Glen Reavy Horton, prisoner # 9972, was sentenced on February 23, 1950 to a term
of 1-10 years in Pottawatomie County District Court for one count of 2nd
Degree Forgery. Pottawatomie County is just north of Interstate 70, between
Manhattan and Topeka, KS. This is quite a distance from Pittsburgh, Crawford
County, KS – where Glen was born and even further from Liberal & Golden
City, MO where Ann and Glen had resided.
At the time of his incarceration, he had been employed as a mechanic.
·
Glen was
received at the Kansas State Penitentiary at Lansing on February 28, 1950. He was released on parole a little after 1
year on March 8, 1951… three months before I was born. Glen broke his parole by December 19, 1951
by leaving his place of residence and going to another state without the
permission of his Parole Officer – his whereabouts were unknown.
·
Eight months
after he broke parole, Glen was found July 23, 1952 in Garden City by police
officer, D.D. Jones and returned to Kansas State Prison on August 18,
1952. At that point, Glen still owed 6
years. But, after two more years served, he was paroled again on June 1, 1954.
·
Five months
after he was paroled second time - he
was again in violation of his parole, as noted in November, 1954 for failing to
make his regular monthly reports to the institution and his whereabouts were
unknown. He was found again March 17,
1955 by Police Officer Ernest Preston, Crawford County, and returned to prison
April 10, 1955. He still owed 3 years,
one month and 25 days.
·
Glen’s final
discharge from prison was April 29, 1958. All of his paroles were published in
the Westmoreland Recorder (Pottawatomie County) newspaper.
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I was making great
progress in finding out about my father and the Horton side of the family but
not about my mother. Communications
kept flowing between myself and Linda and Lesia in MO. But I didn’t feel I was any closer to
finding my sibilings. Knowing that women marry, and their names change, Donald
Ray Horton, was the only secure name I had to go forward - with my own internet
search.
Using Yahoo
Search, MSN search, google, Omnitrace.com, Usinfosearch.com,
nedsite./search/people, switchboard.com, rootsweb.com, familysearch.org,
PeopleData.com, Knowx.com, USSearch, I created a massive database of D., D.R.,
Don, Donald, Donald R., Donald Ray – Hortons across the United States. Then I
cross referenced it with searches that would yield me ages, or perhaps an
address and maybe even a phone. After several month’s of compilation -at the
end of March, I prepared a mass mailing to all the possibilities. I have again, been amazed at the kindness of
people, from TN, WI, TX, GA - to name a few, that have actually telephoned me.
Each time I answered the phone and a male voice said “This is Donald Horton and
I’m looking for Stephanie Ax” I would get a lump in my throat. Alas those kind
people who called me, were people who were NOT my brother. Someday, when this is
all finished I can only hope that Donald knows how very important it has been
to me to find him.
*************
My most important
avenue of research was to contact the Kansas Children’s Service League in
Wichita, KS as they are the agency that
handled my adoption in 1950-1952. After contacting their website. I received a
letter from them on January 3rd with a “Waiver of Confidentiality”
form I had to fill out and notarize, in order to obtain information along with
a fee.
Acknowledgement of
my request was on January 9th but with the reminder that requests
are handled in the order in which they are received – medical emergencies
taking priority over existing requests.
They estimated a 6-week wait – and it was only an estimate – it may be
sooner or later depending upon a workload.
Karen Standing
Adoption Search Coordinator
Kansas Children’s Service
League
1365 N. Custer
PO Box 517
Wichita, KS 67201
316/942-4261 ext 243
fax 316/943-9995
email [email protected]
Finally, on April 14, 2003
four months later, a response was made to my inquiry for a record check. The “guts” of this information was as
follows:
Your
file contains what I consider to be an average amount of information about your
birth parents and their families. There is more information about your birth
mother and her family than there is about your alleged birth father and his
family. Family medical history is
scanty so I am including what there is with this letter.
·
Your
maternal grandfather died at the age of 72 from a cerebral hemorrhage
·
Your
maternal grandmother died at the age of 56 (reason not stated)
·
Your
maternal grandmother went blind when your mother was a baby. No specific reason
for this was given.
·
Your
maternal uncle died of a heart attack at the age of 31
·
You
had a paternal aunt who died of a heart attack
·
Your
biological half-sister died at the age of 15 months from an attack of
appendicitis.
I was amazed that I had
received this letter on Tuesday, April 15th – the very day that Linda
Horton-Brunner and her son, Steve, were scheduled to arrive here. I was compelled to telephone Karen Standing,
and advise her of all the information I already had accumulated on my own.
In that conversation I
indicated I knew about Glen Reavy Horton, his prison term surrounding my birth
and adoption, and the names of my siblings – Donald Ray, Eileen and Rowena and
a deceased 15 month old child.
Since I already knew so
much on my own , Ms. Standing confirmed that Glen Reavy Horton was my
“legal father” and clarified that Eileen was the name of the infant who had
passed away at 15 months. She also allowed me to know that the three living
siblings at the time of my adoption application were 3, 7 and 10 years
old. I asked which age Donald was – she
replied “7” – and that the other two living siblings were another boy and the
eldest a girl. Although she did not
say so - That meant that Rowena was the 10 year old and the 3 year old was another BROTHER, that I had known nothing
about. She was not able to tell me my
other brother’s name. I asked Ms.
Standing if I would be allowed to know my maternal grandparents’ names and
perhaps the birth date of my mother. She agreed to call me back on Wednesday,
April 16th with that information.
Wednesday, April 16th,
Ms. Standing called me at work with the following information:
Ann
Louise Hortons DOB December 20, 1919
Maternal
Grandparents names : Otto Clarner
Annie
Clarner (nee Linne)
She indicated in our
conversation that there were no notes in my file that anyone had ever called
KCSL searching for me. Indicating further that this alleged father, would
remain exactly that – “alleged” as he took no part in the adoption proceedings
and that Ann Louise was unable to produce any divorce documents from Glen, nor
could Glen be located. As a result Glen
Reavy Horton was/is my “legal father”.
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Now I had the means to go
back on the internet with my mother’s maiden name of Clarner and start the search
all over again at familysearch.org. No
information was available on Otto or Annie Clarner.
The inquiry of Ann* Clarner
produced results from the International Genealogical Index which indicated:
Annie
Louise Clarner
DOB 12/20/1919 in Sequin, Guadalupe, Texas
Marriage
October 1952, Miami, Oklahoma
DOD September 1989
Husband:
Orville
Morris Ryan
DOB June 10, 1909 Eldora, Hardin, Iowa
Marriage
October 1952 Miami, Oklahoma
DOD April 25, 1975
This
record indicated that Ann and Orville, did not have any children of their own.
This was the most
incredible find. I thought that my
mother must have remarried, but had no idea of how to find out her new married
name. And here it was. But I was saddened as well, to discover that my mother
had died so many, many years ago and that I would not see her face, nor ever be
in her presence.
Next I researched the
Social Security Death Index:
Ann
Louise Ryan
DOB 12/20/19
DOD 9/23/1989
SS 450-01-5677
State
issued : TX
Death
Residence Location : 67501 Hutchinson, Reno, Kansas
Orville
Ryan
DOB
June 10, 1910 (This disagrees with the
IGI of June 10, 1909)
DOD
April 1976 (This disagrees with the
IGI of April 25, 1975)
SS
483-28-8936
State
Issued: Iowa
Death
Residence Location: 67505 Hutchinson, Reno, Kansas
I surmised from this information that Annie and Orville, both, had
resided in Hutchinson for quite some time, and perhaps, if I was lucky… the
Horton children, or maybe adopted Horton to Ryan children, might still be in
Hutchinson.
Later that Wednesday
evening, on April 16th, Linda and her son Steve, arrived at my
home. I took the afternoon of Thursday
off from work so that Linda and I could crunch together on locating family in
Hutchinson.
After many hours on line
Thursday afternoon and into the night.. I threw my hands in the air.. feeling I
was getting nowhere. Linda and Steve
were planning on leaving on Friday morning.. and we hadn’t gotten any closer.
Finally, on Good Friday
morning, April 18 while I sat at my desk in the City Office, I thought I’d pull
out the Feist directory for this area.
Lo and behold, I saw a Donald Ray Horton located in Partridge, KS – this
one had NEVER shown up on any of my searches and compiled database of possible
Donalds. I pulled out a Kansas map and
discovered that Partridge was only 5 miles SW of Hutchinson on Highway 61. I couldn’t wait to get home at lunch time,
and catch Linda before they left on their return to MO.
Linda agreed to call while
I paced and waited in the kitchen.. and then I heard her scream.. “Come in
Here” “It’s him”…. My heart stopped beating.. I couldn’t
speak.. and once again, I was reduced to uncontrollable tears..
For the first time in my
life.. I was speaking on the phone with my Brother, Don Horton. I had found my siblings – Donald Ray, Rowena
and Ralph DeWayne. An additional surprise was that Ann and Orville did have two
children of their own, so I also have a half-sister named Judy and Rodney who
recently passed away.
The Christmas gift I had
given myself has evolved into the second blessing I was to receive on a Good
Friday. In a matter of months, my
family of few has grown into a family of many people. Sometimes I felt like the roller-coaster of this half-year
journey was too much to bear. But then
I think of the numerous adopted people who have searched a life-time without
results, and feel ashamed for my impatience.
For all who read this, I am
sure that your minds are reeling with information overload – and your hearts –
emotional overload.
With love in my heart,
Stephanie Lynn Ax
Barbara Lee Horton
5/21/1951 - present