This site contains most of the contents of a magazine called HEW which ran to seven issues before closing.
The following was taken from all the editorials that appeared.
Some of what follows concerns HEW's dating service, which no longer runs. It is included for historical interest
I must say that all the people who have corresponded with me over the period that I have been setting up the
project have been kind, helpful and appreciative. Despite what many may believe, HEW enthusiasts do not
have horns or three heads etc. They are ordinary people, many of whom are undoubtedly better citizens of the
world than conventional folk. You have only to read through the interests of the people placing the contact
advertisements we have received to confirm this. Provided that they take sensible precautions to start with,
women wanting an understanding man with whom to share the joys of HEW should have no fear in placing
their listings with us.
HEW is not about hurting people, it is about the ultimate in pleasure. If you want to hurt people, then collect
Poll Tax, or join a dictator's army or something like that. We are not right for you.
Women's Judo made its appearance for the first time in the Olympics in 1993. Several bouts were televised
during the late evening sessions on BBC1. Instead of a contest of all throws and no holds, there were several
holds similar to wrestling moves. If Judo is to become a television spectator sport, though, the contestants will
have to wear different colour costumes to make the action easier to follow. Ron Farrar (Ace Sports Promotions)
wrote that it is the closest sport to pro-wrestling. The amateur and Greco-Roman wrestling seen at the Olympic
Games bears little or no resemblance to pro-style.
Also, as Judo is supposed to be a game of skill and not strength, maybe one day there will be mixed bouts
arranged as an "establishment" sport.
The future of HEW is becoming a problem. We seem to attract very few females. Maybe the stance of the
newsletter is too male orientated. The explicit clinical approach may be a turn-off for females who do send in
for details. Therefore I have toned down the wording in the introductory sheets. The other problem is that the
flow of articles is too slow for a regular newsletter, so we have to publish as and when material is present. One
alternative that I am considering may be to publish just as a listings sheet with possibly an "annual" with
articles etc. The other difficulty is the cost of advertising. A solution to this may be to put the price up
substantially, to �60/$100, but people probably won't be able to afford this, and anyway it will all be pointless if
we can't get women to join. I had thought that a good place to advertise HEW would be alongside other
specialised dating agencies in Dateline magazine. However they refused the advertisement.
I did apply to advertise in the American magazine New Body. The advertisement the publishers turned down
was Lonely Hearts interested in fun wrestling: Bargain! After faxes to and fro, the publishers finally
suggested: Women interested in wrestling for fun! Great Bargain! It appeared that "lonely hearts" triggered the
unfavourable reation. Time will tell whether the advertisement will bring any response from the publication (in
April 1993).
Issue Six, as you all know, is the last of the volume and as everyone pays for
six issues we can stop then without anyone being left with their subscription
unfulfilled. The fact that we have been running for some considerable time
longer than the year originally intended means that we have given the idea
of a newsletter coupled with singles advertising a good try. As we have had
only one female advertiser over this period obviously we have got something
seriously wrong, and there seems little point in continuing from the point of
view of solving the problem for men who want ladies who like to wrestle.
Video Cassettes
If it wasn't for Ron Farrar, who has provided the bulk of the articles, there would also be little to fill each issue.
As Ron is writing about the past, obviously his source of material isn't infinite. Various video tape vendors
have sent advertising features, but the prices of these tapes is very high because they sell in small numbers to a
specialist market. This high price ensures that the market stays very small and so it is a vicious circle, with
only the tax authorities winning, (as taxes and duties are usually a percentage of selling price.) Often cheaper
tapes have very little actual wrestling action, which makes them just as expensive in terms of �/min of
wrestling.
Satellite Television
Subscription fees are being charged for more and more satellite channels, so the chances
of these being sources of low cost female wrestling material are waning. As satellite tv is
charged for on a monthly basis, rather than pay-per-view, subscribing just for wrestling is
not a reasonable option. (And many viewers of the once free Sky One etc are likely to
dispose of their equipment rather than pay fees to watch pictures degraded by the
encoding and decoding process.)
Virtual Reality
It is an interesting thought that at one
time still photographs of women
wrestling (and magazines containing
them) were sold at high prices. Now
they are given away to promote video
cassettes. Maybe in the future video
cassettes will be given away to promote
virtual reality entertainments? Virtual
reality wrestling would be very much
more difficult to implement than virtual
reality sex, (also known as "dildonics")
because of the risk of injury. But no
doubt some sort of entertainment of
interest to mixed wrestling enthusiasts
will be developed even though it isn't
actual wrestling. Worldwide the market
is large enough, and it only takes one
talented individual also bitten with the
wrestling bug and with the right skills to develop software for existing virtual reality systems.
Attitude of female wrestlers
I would suspect that most (female) wrestlers would regard an erotic interest in their sport about as strange as a
(female) tennis player or cricketer or even (female) accountant would regard an erotic interest in their
sport/profession. (Don't confuse this with an erotic interest in a particular person, eg tennis star, pop singer
etc.) Therefore the female wrestling stars themselves are just as unlikely to be suitable
girlfriends for men excited by wrestling as any other females. Very often, they lead
perfectly ordinary lives out of the ring as housewives and mothers, and regard themselves
as entertainers by profession, no different to a singer or comedian.
Finding a girlfriend
However the fact remains that there are a measurable number of men who are excited by
wrestling with (or more usually being wrestled by) a woman. Also, I would suspect from
the advertisements that most subscribers want to hear about how to get girlfriends and as this isn't easy there have been few articles on this subject. We are fortunate in
having the services of Helen Paris, who has had
professional experience in sex education and
relationship counselling, but even she cannot
work miracles! Few readers wrote in
specifically with problems, and she has had
to try and estimate what people want to
know.
One
possible
solution is
to
advertise
for a
broadminded female interested in erotic
experiment, in a general dating magazine such as Dateline (found at most newsagents). Such broadminded
females are usually middle class and fairly intelligent, so if you are put off by such ladies then you may have a
problem. Such advertising is expensive - to place a 50 word advertisement may cost �50-75 per month and you
would have to advertise for many months in order to get a result. Some magazines may have a "three for the
price of two" advertising offer which is worth taking. I would advise readers to be specific about all their
interests.
It is no good just saying that you like to be given a particular wrestling hold and leave it at that. The only effect
that advertisement will have will be to give comfort to a few other men who like the same thing and won't feel
quite so odd and alone. Some people have told me that they have advertised in Amfem for tens of years with no
result. Sure, people copy adverts that are already there, but this is no good if those adverts aren't getting results.
It's like a craze people had in the 1960s for advertising Bill Hailey 78 rev/min records for �25 in Exchange and
Mart - one advert spawned many like it, but who ever sold one?
Assuming you are looking for someone to marry or live
with, you should decide before you meet anyone whether you would be prepared to go and live somewhere else,
possibly changing your job or losing contact with friends. If you live somewhere nice, then it is more likely that
you can get someone to come to you. If you are willing to move, it may be worthwhile saying this in your
advertisement, as it would put you at a definite advantage to many people who can't or won't. If you live
somewhere nice it would be worthwhile putting this, as many magazines don't state location. Therefore spend
one word at the end of your advertisement to state your county or town, eg (Cornwall) Box 123456.
If you are looking for a female partner, then I can only suggest that you do what I did and advertise in
Dateline, although I loath to give this advice as they wouldn't accept an advertisement for HEW. Dateline can
be found in newsagents. However they did let an interest in wrestling through in a private advertisement, and
this is how I found my present companion. The cost is not insignificant at about �50 for a reasonably sized
advertisement. Although the magazine appears monthly, they advise advertising at six monthly intervals as
each issue has quite a long life as it is passed between friends or gets read in waiting rooms.
Finding a girlfriend who likes wrestling is probably the
most difficult thing you will ever do. It is not impossible,
but it will involve work, and some of that work may be
self improvement, such as improving your writing and
communicating skills.
Fortunately you don't need much
equipment to write, although if
you can afford it a word processing typewriter can these
days check spelling as make a perfect looking document
emerge without crossings out. I would advise using a
good quality notepaper for your letters, as the quality of
presentation will be the first impression you will give to
your potential new friend. Ideally if you can get headed
paper made this is best, and there are many cottage
industries set up by people with personal computers and
laser printers who will produce a few sheets for a
minimal outlay.