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I have, up to now, tried to help you with all of the outwardly characteristics and wiles of femininity. There is a lot more on that level; however, I now turn to the most important feminine characteristic of womanhood, the feminine mystique, or more commonly, the feminine inner self. This is the most revealing, interesting and I repeat, the most important, sometimes baffling trait of femininity, womanhood. It is a natural mindset, G-d given. A natural woman knows that she is feminine, a woman. She instinctively feels without a doubt that she is a feminine being. It is conscious as well as subconscious. When G-d created woman, he created Eve from Adam (who incidentally was a hermaphrodite, physically as well). To be Adam's companion, to keep him company, to share in his wonderment and joy of living. She was to support, sustain and nurture him and to procreate with him. To cut to the chase - Eve was created for Adam. Think of the feminine characteristics then. Supportive, nurturing, giving, empathetic, companionship, sharing, selfless to an extent, to help someone else. I'm sure you can ad to the list. This mind set was given to woman from the beginning of time. So, to really be a woman, feminine, you should or have to believe you are a woman and think and act like a natural woman, and have these traits. For a real TS, if you are true to yourself, this is as natural as breathing. If it's not, then you are not true to yourself, or, in my estimation, not a real TS. Which is OK! You can have fun as you are in the TG community as a CD, SheMale, etc. As long as you are true. Remember, Descartes: I think, therefore I am… Well this may work for some to an extent. But it has to be NATURAL. For Real!! Again, think of womanly characteristics. Demure, nurturing, passive, caring, empathetic, verbal. For an experiment, the next time you have a conversation with some friends, eliminate the word "I" and "me" if you can. See how long you can last. Truly be concerned and care about your friends. Ask them things and listen to them. Try to help them. Be caring, nurturing, be feminine!! Feel the words you are using, touch the other person. Natural women are more in touch with their feelings and can intuitively know your feelings. When you talk, try to be more verbal, tell a story, and be melodic. Interestingly enough, your body will respond naturally and hands will move as well. Remember body language!! Try not to abbreviate. Don't use phrases like " I went to my Endo. My T level was 10, my ph & LH were 0. I got a new driver's license. I'm now F. Electro went fine. …There is a lot wrong here. Using the words I, me, abbreviating, too much self-concern. Also, If I may be allowed to use the expression to make a point…TMI….too much information. If you are truly a woman inside, you will not reveal this kind of information. It is too personal. Natural woman won't reveal things like that. They do not say, " I went to my gyno yesterday. Tubes fine. Breasts clear. My E level was 200. Think about this. I think you are now beginning to understand. It is all about being natural, FEMININE!!
Spend a lot of time with other women. Go out with them as girlfriends. I'm 24/7 and am treated as a natural woman. Sometimes we meet in the ladies room at work helping each other with womanly wiles. When you are natural, woman will treat you as a natural woman. Their conversation changes and usually their voices drop. They also become more relaxed and more assertive, sometimes even aggressive. They are not threatened as they are by men. My feelings about this are mixed. It's a compliment in a way because you know they are treating you as a natural woman without a doubt, but sometimes the aggression is intimidating, but the compliment overpowers this. You will know what I mean instantly if you are naturally a woman. If you follow my advice you will know the difference immediately. You're passing psychologically, your inner self is as a woman the same as theirs. You will feel fantastic when you first experience this. On those rare occasions when women read me on the street, they usually smile at me empathetically and knowingly. They know that I know what they know. IT'S WONDERFUL TO BE A WOMAN. They do not look at me in disgust or laugh like I was a freak or drag queen. That's because my inner self outwardly expresses womanhood, . Girls just want to have fun. Sex is an afterthought. Be slow in relationships and mysterious. Try not to reveal too much. Get to know a man first. Let him lead. Phone cons, email, 2 or 3 dates--casual to elegant- then decide if sex is in the picture. That's being a woman, really! Also, try not to talk about your sexual escapades. Keep them to yourself. If asked about them, just smile and be demure. Remember the feminine mystique!! Again, go out with the girls. Be one of them, BE NATURAL! No phonies, please. Just have fun, be feminine. Be real! STAY WELL & PRETTY! Gina |
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with a friend or group ask them where they want to go and what they would
like to do. Offer suggestions to SUPPORT what THEY want to do. Again, be
feminine!! Really care about others. Be really feminine. You don't have to be
fancy, wear makeup all the time or dress up. Two of my dearest TS
friends…..Sarah & Joanne…are as natural as can be. Both are feminine
inside!! I love them both. When we get together we support each other. When
we go out it usually takes a while to decide where to go because we all are
so caring about the other that a decision takes a lot of time. When a
decision is reached…. No one cares where or what we do as long as we are
together. How wonderful…How feminine!!!