A Plea For True Transsexuals...

and how to get that first job as a full time woman!!

Gina Elizabeth

Gina makes a plea to the Transsexual's who are not true to themselves or the lifestyle, to get serious. Gina explains how becoming more natural and more aware of yourself can help you find out who you really are.

Something has recently surfaced that I feel compelled to address at this forum.

You girls that have read my previous articles here know how I feel---Once Again---BE NATURAL!!! I cannot emphasize that enough. I have been out 24/7/365 for 2 years and have experienced quite a lot, which I will pass along to you, for your benefit.

At the risk of offending some friends, this article concerns first ,pseudo transsexuals, ones that are not TS’s, but may be transgender, have gender dysphasia. That is, they have a gender identity crisis which may have been caused by problems in their youth, failed marriages, career problems, emasculation by a ball-breaking spouse, sexual malfunction and/or failure to succeed as a man and so on.

These so-called TS’s try to adopt a female persona eliminating the pressures of life as a man, as basically a defense mechanism. Depending on the degree of intelligence of such a person, this facade can go on for years. Typically TS's mostly work/live as men. Then on occasion they adopt a female persona, dress as a woman, usually provocative, drag queenish, as they think this will make them appealing because they were not appealing as men.

This behavior is contrary to everything that I believe in and a that which a true TS is and does. Some of them are not under any medical care, but may take hormones on their own. I won’t even get into that! Most true TS’s that I know and/or my friends know are NATURAL! They are women just like natural born women except for that one birth defect. They mold into society, nondescript just like most other women. They live and work and think full time as women. They just want to live their life as others do and being a TS is not an outwardly issue.

We have discussed this topic and we all agree. We can always spot the false ones by their titillating, false mannerisms and actions. These pseudo TS’s are hurting and hindering the progress of showing the world that TS’s are no different than other women except that some of their physical characteristics may appear to be different.

When people associate these pseudo TS’s as true, they think we are all freaks, weird and only interested in sex of any form. On behalf of all true TS’s, I am making a plea…. Please do not tell people that you are a TS. Tell them that you are transgender and have a problem with your gender that you are trying to figure out.

Also see professionals, especially therapists, have psychological tests and let the doctors tell you their opinion. After that, if you are revealed as a true TS, then go to an MD for HRT and monitoring if that is your desire, and try very hard to be NATURAL. Please!

Be true to yourself. If you are a true TS and act natural, you will be perceived as such by most in a positive light. It is not going to be easy. Who said it was?? That is an understatement, for creditability personally, I have gone through 2 marriages, 2 successful businesses, a small fortune, a six-figure bank account and a mid-six figure income. My colleagues, friends and family have shunned me. Worst of all, my son who lived with me 50% of the time since separating with my spouse more than 4 years ago, has recently moved out and lives with his natural mother and hardly talks to me.

He won’t go with me anywhere. We were very close and had a special loving relationship. It has been agonizing for me since I lost him. Would I think of going back…? NEVER… there is no other way for me. I am a woman. Be prepared for the worst. If that doesn’t happen, so much for the better. If you are not prepared for these things or willing to lose all, then you are not a real TS in my estimation.

Stay as you are, just be trans gendered and have fun until you figure things out, truly. A real TS only wants and… HAS TO….MUST... live as a woman. No wildness, no flaunting sexuality, just blend in with the rest of the world, like a natural born woman. My previous articles have explained the feminine mindset, inner self, and feminine mystique. Please refer to them for reference.

Now on to living full time as a woman, getting a job, the do's & don’ts.

Unless you’re independently wealthy, you must get a job as a woman. I personally needed to prove to my son that I can survive as a woman, and that meant getting a job as a woman. My therapist disagreed with this. She already believed that I was a woman. If you look, dress, act like a drag queen, expect to be treated as one! The only job you will get will be in a bar or circus or freak show.

Spend time with natural woman, watch them, and learn! For dress...generally and for work… or to get that job, think Laura Ashley, Anne Taylor, Liz Claiborne, Jones New York, David Warren, Channel. No short skirts especially if you’re over 40 no matter how good you think you’re legs look. To the knee at the shortest, mid-calf and to the ankle are very alluring and appear professional.

In the beginning, wear muted, natural dark tone suits, small print dresses, etc. Nothing tight. There is nothing more professional looking than a black loose fitting but well tailored business suit, long sleeved jacket and below the knee or mid-calf length skirt. Shoes…think low heel or flats. Make-up, wear very little. When wearing make-up your good features should be enhanced and flaws covered up, but appear like you are wearing NONE! You don’t have to be gorgeous or pretty. Not all natural born women are either!! But they are NATURAL!!

Don’ts…Nix on leather, high heels (only for the boardroom), nix on anything tight, short, colored eye make-up such as blue, green, silver, red tones, etc. Appear androgynous for starters. Try not to be noticed for your sexuality, but for your talents to perform on the job. Blend in as much as possible.

If you have to, practice first. Call up different companies and say anything that will get you an appointment in a business environment, not for a job, but for practice. For example, call one, say that you are interested in buying their product or service and want to come in to talk about it. Make appointments with women and men. See how they react to you and then you will know.

Try out your outfits the same way. Also, when going out socially, alone or with others, go to straight places. Especially go out in the daytime, for lunch. Avoid the gay crowds, unless you don’t feel safe or you are out with your gay friends, of whom I have many, or with somebody that you feel may tarnish your image or embarrass you. Go to power restaurants, professional hangouts and popular places for business. Stick with going to upscale places.

At the job interview, be androgynous. You want to keep your sexuality out of it. If it comes up, which it probably won’t, but may if interested, then address his/her questions honestly without any pretensions the best you can and then change the topic back to the job at hand, by asking her/him another question.

The most important trait that you want to convey is that you’re HONEST. If you appear false in any way, you won’t get the job under any circumstances. No false mannerisms, no falsettos, NO GIGGLES or laughter. BE NATURAL, BE GRACEFUL, BE CONFIDENT, BE A LADY!

Remember the feminine inner self. My previous article dealt with this, Reread. However, be prepared, most will not offer a TS the job because of personal prejudices or negative job related rationality's. But don’t give up. Take anything in the beginning.

I went through at least six months of heartache and frustration to finally get an offer and I grabbed it even though if didn’t pay enough to survive. BUT I GOT A JOB FULL TIME AS A WOMAN! THAT WAS THE GOAL!! After a week or so, I found out that my boss didn’t know, he thought I was a natural woman when he hired me. After a month or so, I had to get another full time job at night to supplement my day job and another job on the weekends. I worked almost every day from 9 AM until 12:30AM, just to survive financially. I kept looking for other opportunities that would pay more. After 11 months of additional searching and working almost around the clock, I found another opportunity and am now able to survive with one career as most people.

I recommend being OUT so to speak as a woman for a year or so, before trying variations on your looks, dress, or to be more daring. If you have any doubts about your looks or that what you are wearing is not appropriate, it probably isn’t, so forget it. If you are NATURAL, it won’t matter if you make mistakes. You will just learn. If you want to be more daring, revealing, fancy, sexy, quixotic, eccentric, save those looks for the appropriate place or occasion. HALLOWEEN would be fine.

I hope I have helped you and please heed my plea. We TS’s need your help too. I have always worked in a fashion conscious environment where personal demeanor and appearances are very important. Be Natural! Always be a lady!.. A Real Queen!

Visit my websitewww.geocities.com/gina-ts for more background and advice. Stay well & pretty!!

gina