To the Newcomer and Sponsorship in Nicotine
Anonymous
Welcome It doesn't matter in what form you have
used nicotine or how many times you may have
tried to quit. If you have a desire to live
nicotine-free you are welcomed here. We have
found that as we attend meetings regularly, we
come to believe in the shared experience of our
fellow members. Sharing together creates hope
and helps us to keep an open mind. We suggest
attending a number of meetings to discover for
yourself how the caring support of others and
the daily practice of Nicotine Anonymous
principles has helped us experience the gift of
freedom from nicotine.
Deciding to Stop Using Nicotine Most of us smoked cigarettes. It is the
most efficient way to get nicotine to our brain
- through our lungs. There are other means of
getting nicotine such as cigars, pipes, dipping
and chewing. Then there are the withdrawal aids:
inhalers, the patch, and gum. The common element
in all these is nicotine. Each of us had our
"reasons" for using nicotine, even if only to
temporarily relieve the continuous craving. Many
of us have used nicotine to lessen physical and
emotional pain.
Now that you have made a decision to stop using
nicotine, you might feel some anxiety as you
begin this process. For many of us, early
recovery was difficult. However, with the
group's support, our worries were eased and our
struggle was often less than we had anticipated.
Most of us have used tobacco for years, and it
was hard to imagine living without our "constant
companion." A sense of isolation is at the core
of our addiction. We receive strength and
understanding from our fellow members, which
especially helps when we feel we might be
"losing it."
You Control Your Attitude Make freedom from nicotine a challenge!
Look at the process as an adventure. Use the
"bumps in the road" to strengthen your skills
and spirit to smooth out the next "bump." As
your connection with fellow members develops,
new attitudes are learned. Anxieties may appear,
but only for moments. Keep in the present;
that's where the gift is. Start living "One Day
At a Time."
Ask for Help
This is a "we" program. We work together to help
ourselves and each other reach our goal. We
experience Step Two, "a Power greater than
ourselves could restore us to sanity," in action
when listening at meetings.
Make a commitment to call your sponsor before
you put any nicotine in your body again. Talk to
another member after a meeting. We don't have to
wait for a major problem to develop before
calling someone. Making a call will usually put
off a craving until it passes. Calling before a
craving even starts is good insurance toward
abstinence. The phone list keeps us connected to
a true source of support.
Step Two, "came to believe," becomes an even
more intimate experience when we ask for help
from a Higher Power of our own understanding.
This is all part of a recovery process toward
your own spiritual awakening and a life with
more hope, joy, and peace.
The Urge Passes Whether You Use Nicotine
or Not We've learned to dismiss the lie that
we "must" use nicotine to function. Our
addiction is a disease that progressively gets
worse if we don't stop. The only way to truly be
free of nicotine cravings is to stop putting
that drug into our bodies. Each nicotine dose
insures the next physical craving cycle.
Withdrawal is difficult, but unpleasant symptoms
decrease with abstinence and time. Our own faith
in recovery grows as we witness the freedom and
joy in others, then ourselves.
If You Debate It, You'll Lose A slip starts in our heads before we
put tobacco in our hands. To accept Step One -
that we are "powerless over nicotine" - is to
also realize that using is not negotiable. For
many of us, living nicotine-free takes several
attempts. We only fail when we stop trying. If
we pay attention, our trial runs can teach us a
lot about what triggers our "need."
Make a List of What You Want from
Recovery
Many of us may have set aside certain goals or
dreams by medicating our anxieties and
disappointments with nicotine. We settled for
less. Our continuous nicotine use limited our
possibilities. Now recovery offers us new hope
to change old patterns and accept new
opportunities.
Make a thorough list of reasons not to use
nicotine, such as increasing your self-esteem,
taking deep breaths, having more energy, really
tasting food again, etc. Rereading your own
words can be a source of strength, especially
during times of stress. Leave room on the list
for new hopes. Freedom from nicotine creates new
possibilities.
Get Involved in Nicotine Anonymous
Our addiction does not take a day off. What we
do today to stay nicotine-free does not
guarantee our recovery tomorrow. Make your
return to abstinence and sanity easier: Get
involved. Come to as many meetings as you can
during the week, or start a meeting. Share your
experience, strength, and hope. You have a
valuable story for the newcomer and old-timer
too.
Commitment creates change. Be of service to the
group or another member. Help to set up, put out
literature, or clean up after the meeting.
Consider anything that needs to be done for the
group to function. Service is gratitude in
action. Gratitude can be a gateway to a peace
and serenity that can help you remain
nicotine-free and have a more joyous life.
An Invitation
We invite you to join and enjoy our
member-supported program of recovery. Over time,
by using this program of recovery to abstain
from nicotine: physically, we achieve better
health; emotionally, we become more serene;
spiritually, we find hope and courage where
there was doubt and fear. Our respect for each
other is evident in our commitment to not
criticize, gossip, or offer unsolicited advice.
Members can work this gentle program at their
own pace, but we strongly suggest newcomers
select a sponsor as a source of help and
guidance.
Sponsorship in Nicotine Anonymous
Who is a sponsor? A sponsor is someone you ask to help
guide you through the Twelve Steps. A sponsor is
usually someone who has successfully stopped
using nicotine. He or she has firsthand
knowledge and understanding of what you are
going through. Sponsors are members willing and
able to share their recovery experience.
Why have a sponsor?
Getting and staying free from nicotine is not
easy and most of us need all the help we can
get. Most of us have problems with how to live
life. Sometimes we need guidance and
understanding on a more personal level.
Sponsorship can be a big help to us as we learn
to apply the Steps to our lives. We are always
learning.
When do you get a sponsor?
Get a sponsor as soon as possible, even if you
haven't quit using nicotine. A sponsor is
valuable at any stage of the recovery process. A
sponsorial relationship can begin on a
"temporary" basis. However, it is important to
work at developing a sponsorial relationship
based on trust and honesty. This helps improve
our other relationships.
What are the benefits of being a
sponsor?
Many of us used nicotine to separate ourselves
from our feelings and from others. Sponsorship
is an opportunity to realize new rewards in a
personal relationship. Health and recovery are
wonderful experiences to share. Sponsoring
someone can remind us of what it was like when
we were quitting. This helps us to maintain a
healthy respect for nicotine.
By being a sponsor, we are given a chance to
work the Twelfth Step. We also receive a fresh
opportunity to rework our own step process and
further our own spiritual awakening.