Why he's swoonworthy: Whether he's your teacher, your sister's friend, or any other guy, this aged stud has tons of amazingstories to tell--and he speaks to you as if you're mature, not just a kid. "Most likely, the crush you have on him is nurturing. Your're looking for a protector, someone with power who can take care of you," Dr. Glass says. Plus, he's got much more to offer than those immature goofballs at school who drool over Britney Spears and make PMS jokes. So what if he thinks Blink-182 is a contact-lens cleaner? He's opened your eyes to tons of new musical concepts.
Crush Reality Check: No matter how alluring Old Spicy may be, if your attraction to him is making you ignore ever guy under 20, you're setting yourself up for sadness. "When all your emotional energy is bound up in an older man, you're automatically shutting yourself off from great dating opportunities," says Dr. Shepherd-Look. Instead of seeing him as your knight in shining armor, try to be your own hero and save yourself from taking this American Beauty fantasy too far. There are tons of teen guys who have great life experience to offer (no, not that kind!), such as the sweetie who spend his Connecticut trip sitting next to you in a speeding vehicle. OR the goofy looking drummer kid who always seems to hit on you in the band room! So what if he's ugly and gay looking and asks people to have mad chess on the table...OK bad example...but there are still pleanty of non-lander guys out there! The more of an effort you make to learn new things and become worldly, just like your crush seems, the more attractive you will be to guys your own age--and the less you'll crave an older guy's affection. |
