(A number of realities about stalkers)
1) Stalkers remain obsessed with the victim and stalk the victim for a prolonged period of time. How long? Months, years or even decades.
2) Stalking is a physical act which involves behaviors such as: 1) Drive by(s) 2) Spying 3) Watching 4) Investigating 5) Surveillance 6) Photographing the victim, victim's friends or victim's family 7) Videotaping 8) Trespassing 9) Breaking into the victim's or co-victim's home or cars 10) Vandalizing 11) Stealing the victim's or co-victim's mail 12) Taking property or items from the victims or co-victims 13) Sending coercive letters or emails 14) Calling the victim to coerce, scare or terrorize the victim, 15) Harming the Easy Pickens 16) Blackmail behaviors 17) Following the victim or co-victims 18) Other behaviors intended to control, dominate, or terrorize the victim 19) Assault 20) Plotting 21) Planning 22) Attempted homicide 23)Homicide.
3) Stalkers are dangerous.
4) Stalkers frequently have antisocial personality disorder and characteristics of a sociopath or psychopath personality.
5) Stalkers may be completely out of touch with reality or psychotic.
6) Stalkers are unpredictable.
7) Stalker can change their known MO at any moment.
8) Stalkers oftentimes go through active stalking periods and lulls only to return to stalking some more.
9) Stalkers will continue to stalk despite A Court Order of Protection or Restraining Order.
10) Court Orders of Protection or Restraining Orders will oftentimes make the stalker angrier and/or more obsessed with the victim and more determined to stalk.
11) Without a Court Order of Protection or Restraining Order the police will typically not take reports of stalking seriously.
12) Stalkers frequently have delusional thoughts or ideas about both the victim and co-victims and the reality of the stalker's actions.
13) Stalkers oftentimes don't see how their behaviors are hurting others.
14) Stalkers may use any tactic imaginable in their attempts to terrorize and coerce their victims, including slander, leaving perverse or disgusting gifts for their victim to find, making bizarre phone calls, sending terrifying letters, etc.
15) A stalker can be a stranger to the victim.
16) Stalking can be overt or covert.
17) Stalkers typically have an above average IQ.
18) Stalkers are extremely clever at not getting caught by the police and arrested.
19) Stalkers commit bizarre crimes and strange acts of stalking.
20) Stalkers can be physically attractive and charming to people they are not stalking.
21) Stalkers can have charismatic personalities.
22) Stalkers do not view the years spent stalking the victim as a waste of time.
23) Ignoring the stalker typically does not work. Ignoring the stalker frequently makes the stalker more desperate for a reaction from the victim.
24) Stalkers are frequently loners.
25) Some stalkers are highly successful in their professional career lives.
26) Stalkers can be wealthy or poor.
27) Stalkers are experts at of willing to enmesh themselves into activities related to or enhancing stalking, such as: Surveillance, photography, use of night capable equipment, researching, hacking, tapping phone lines, mail theft, breaking and entering, etc.
28) Stalkers can become dangerous towards any person who gets between them and the victim.
29) Stalkers transfer to the victim's friends, co-workers, associates, business partners, clients and family members.
30) Stalkers are totally committed to the activities of stalking the victim and co-victims.
31) Stalkers will stalk or even attack victims that are helpless or defenseless.
32) Stalkers do not have a realistic view of their victim or their victim's situation.
33) A stalker may believe his perverse and/or terrifying behaviors will make the victim
return to a relationship with him or fall in love with him.
34) The stalker may believe that the victim does love him or want him no matter what the victim says or does to the contrary.
35) Stalkers may embark on stalking behaviors for no reason other than revenge against the victim.
36) Stalkers oftentimes have had no or very few healthy long-term relationships in their life.
37) Stalkers can be men or women.
38) Many stalkers have problems getting along with people at work or outside of work for long periods of time. Stalkers are frequently loners who do not have enduring close friendships.
39) Stalkers can match every item in a profile such as this or match only some of such profile items.
40) Stalkers frequently convince themselves of falsehoods about the victim in order to justify the stalking.
41) Stalkers oftentimes don't feel uncomfortable or embarrassed in situations where normal people would.
42) Stalkers frequently have no feelings of self-worth without the victim in their lives. However, the stalker may appear to be very self-assured on the outside.
43) Stalkers oftentimes come from a traumatic or abusive childhood background.
44) Stalkers may have a fascination with macabre things and a lack of a sense of horror about witnessing such things close up and in person or actualizing such things in their stalking behaviors.
45) Stalkers frequently lack skills for processing their rage and pain in non-perpetrating ways.
46) Stalkers rarely voluntarily seek psychiatric treatment.
47) Stalkers are typically not compliant with taking psychiatric medications or sticking to a psychiatric treatment plan.
48) Stalkers frequently become more enraged when the victim changes her phone number or email address in order to prevent him from calling her or writing.
49) Stalkers are totally committed to their stalking mission.
50) Stalkers will frequently make any promise necessary or use any technique in order to get close to, see and speak to, their victim in person once again.
51) Stalkers don't accept the victim's rejection.
52) Stalkers don't take "No" for an answer.
53) Stalkers are rarely capable of feeling any guilt for what they have done to their victim or co-victims.
54) Stalkers frequently misinterpret the victim's or co-victim's statements, body language and/or statements.
55) Stalkers rarely view themselves or their behaviors as destructive or disordered.
56) Stalkers frequently demonstrate controlling, dominating, arrogant, clingy, coercive behaviors while in a relationship with the victim prior to the beginning of the actual stalking. Stalkers may perpetrate acts of domestic violence while in the relationship with the victim.
57) Stalkers oftentimes demonstrate a mean streak while in the relationship with the victim.
58) Stalkers are not capable of recovering from their disorder(s) without psychiatric intervention.
59) Stalkers become obsessed with and stalk a wide variety of victims: Young, middle age, old, any race, any religion, any ethnic background, wealthy, poor, middle class, famous, common, beautiful, plain, homely, obese, thin.
60) Stalkers are generally not capable of feeling any genuine pity for their victim's suffering due to the stalking.
61) Stalkers are frequently turned on or excited by the victim's depression, terror, or other negative emotions in the victim's life due to the stalking.
62) Stalkers may attempt to persuade others, such as family members, to help them with their stalking or to help them avoid capture by the police.
63) Stalkers are oftentimes experts at manipulative behaviors.
64) A Stalker's family will oftentimes help the stalker avoid capture by the police.
65) Stalkers will frequently move many times or live homeless in order to continue stalking the victim.
66) Stalkers are rarely deterred from stalking the victim even if the victim has obtained private protection or is involved with another man.
67) Oftentimes the more the victim does to prevent the stalking the more determined the stalker becomes to continue stalking. However, remember that ignoring the stalker does not usually work either.
68) Stalkers may feign feelings of pity, empathy, guilt, remorse, warmth, benevolence, etc. in order to get closer to the victim or in order to manipulate the victim or others.
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