(Off the Cuff Answers)
1) Is there anything else that you've thought of that you feel you should add to your, "Potential Stalkadillo" list? Sure, tons of things, endless items. However, one point that I think remains understated is simply that most intimate partner stalkers really know how to turn on the charm while they're initially pursuing a relationship with their future victim. Stalkers of this kind are basically experts at snaring victims. Despite the intimate partner stalker's sickness he can keep his predatory behaviors under wraps for awhile and by the time he starts to unravel he's already obsessed with and ready to stalk the victim. Just think about the rather famous serial killer Ted Bundy. Here was a sick deranged horrible monster and think of how many people he fooled into seeing him as such a nice stable man. Intimate partner stalkers frequently have a similar ability to deceive their victims. So it's important, I believe, to really look for the subtle warning signs. Obviously, these are much harder to see and looking too hard for subtle signs can cause a woman to discard men that aren't stalkers. So, it's a personal judgement call. Trust your instincts, I guess. Hire a PI to do a background check into anyone you're interested in dating. Proceed with extreme caution. Live a high security life or perhaps just give up on trying to have relationships? Stalking is a problem, which is so difficult to prevent or deal with after it's begun. It's also important not to blame the victims of stalking above all else. I believe people who hear of stalking cases need to keep the scenario of Bundy and other's like him in their minds at all times and apply some empathy for the victim. It's equally important to remember that a victim definitely does not need to be famous, wealthy, young or beautiful to become a stalking victim. Being a stalking victim does not imply that you're a star or someone of special talents. The fact is that most stalking victims are ordinary people and I think that the only reason the public thinks stalking only affects movie stars and other famous people is because those high profile stalking cases are all over the media, while the stalking of common people is not usually publicized. My situation is a case of a common person being stalked by a nut puppy. I'm certainly not famous, rich, beautiful, glamorous, young, or talented in any outstanding way. I am a relatively average person that has some poetic talent, even if I do write a lot of junk too. I am basically middle aged, I do not own anything spectacular, I do not dress in any fashionable way, I don't get my hair and nails done at the salon, I have some published poetry but I'm not famous, I do not hang out with movie stars, I do not have any famous friends at all. I have not even had many boyfriends in my lifetime, so I'm definitely not a mannizer, a term I made up in one of my essays to reflect the female version of the male womanizer. I live a quiet life that has been uneventful insofar as glamorous events are concerned. Yet I am a stalking victim.
2) What inspired the poem, "The Glare"? Basically just the bright sunlight reflecting off the trees and stones and how it reminded me of a similar reflection off the glass of a windshield or lens in the distance. The Glare was a poem I wrote in about five minutes or so, it's not something I pondered for any period of time.
3) Do you believe that the potential exists for some of this website's readers to react negatively to the poem, "Nymphomuncho"? It's definitely possible, but I see the bottom line as being that within and after over two years of this stalking domestic terrorism problem I'm bound to think and thus write some pretty outrageous stuff. Nymphomuncho, meaning nymphomania for munchausens, is a good example of this. It's sarcastic, to the crux of the matter as I see it and somewhat hard core. It's talking about a sick stalker here, a criminal, domestic terrorist, slander master, perpetrator, not some nice sweet guy living a normal life. It's talking about a wackadoodle A-P who's been obsessed in Nymphomuncho plus some added craziness land one heck of a long time and he's harmed a lot of victims through the years. I believe that almost all people have thoughts that cut others who abuse them to the quick. Many people visit with friends and talk or joke about these reactive thoughts or images that they have. Poets sometimes go the extra step and write these thoughts down. In addition, poets and other writers oftentimes express these reactive or processing thoughts and images in unique ways.
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