Munchausens Subject:
(Off the Cuff Answers)
1) Let's discuss the false munchausens by proxy and munchausens accusations in some depth. How do you feel about ill children and taking a small child to the hospital or other medical facility for treatment? Well, obviously there are times when it's necessary and you'd never want to deny any child you're caring for medical treatment, but I can personally think of very few things that are less rewarding in every way.
2) What are the worst experiences with a sick child? They're usually horribly cranky, crying, whining, miserable, coughing, sniffling, nose running, possibly having problems with vomiting and diarrhea and you know they're not going to make it to the toilet. So you get to clean up all the messes for however long they're sick! They're just very unhappy. And if the child is a baby yet and running a high fever you're going to worry about them too, so it's pretty stressful. They can't tell you how they feel bad so you have to guess until they actually throw up or something and then you know their stomach is upset. Young children can get dehydrated easily as well, so you've got to run to the store and stock up on pedialite. Not to mention the specific bland foods you might have to buy while at the store, like bananas, plain yogurt, applesauce and plain rice. I don't live near the store, so even this part is no fun. And another kicker comes with infants who don't necessarily cooperate at the doctor's office with having their temperature taken and whatnot! They can't understand how it's a must do procedure, they don't like that thermometer up their behind and the nurse is always looking towards the parent to restrain the child, it SUCKS! Once you're done at the doctor's office or ER and you've got all your supplies, food, pedialite, antibiotic, then you get to take care of an extremely cranky baby. No one in his or her right mind would view this as a thrill! And if you're like me you're going to catch whatever the child has, so all the while you just know you're next in line and that part sucks too. Then with kids that are older, they don't comprehend why they've got to rest to get well faster so they're buzzing all over the place at hyper speed and you're fighting with them, not violently I should add since this website is being stalked by the stalkadillo A-P, to try to get them to settle down for naps and quiet activities. Oh yes, and school age kids miss classes too, so you get to look forward to the joy, dripping with sarcasm, of helping them catch up in school when they'd rather play!
3) How do you feel about colic? That's the most awful problem of all! Oh my God, colic is so terrible. It's like permanent birth control for me! If you're like me, once you've experienced that, well, you may still want more children, but you're probably going to be scared to death to ever try it again. I'd need a perfect marriage so that I could have a lot of guaranteed reliable help with walking and driving the baby 24/7 or whenever the colic occurred and this would be a minimum for me. Better yet would be plenty of money so that I could afford a professional live-in nanny to help out! Colic is pure Hell in every way. It's utterly devastating. I really couldn't even describe colic for this website, for many reasons, the stalkadillo being one of them. Not that I did anything in the least improper, because I didn't. I did the ideal job of taking care of it when it happened in my life. And believe me at the time I didn't feel like I was doing such a great job, I felt like a failure as MOST mothers do to some degree. I had to take care of the colic problem all alone and I'll never forget that time of my life. I'll never forget how hard it was, how terrible it was, what it felt like, how exhausted I was, and everything else about it. And how that sick deranged Stalkadillo thinks anyone would want sympathy or attention during a time like this is beyond me! It's so obvious that he doesn't have children and that he's flipping crazy. What you want is HELP from your partner! What you want is for someone else to walk the baby while you take a nap or a long hot bath or just get out of the house for a few hours! Or a back rub sounds good too. Empathy perhaps, an understanding of the reality of the situation and the non-mechanical nature of the primary caregiver, but most of all active physical help from your partner! I'd never be willing to go through that again, not for anything in the world.
4) One of the reasons the alleged perpetrator wages these maliciously false accusations against you was then because of the colic your child and you suffered through? Yes, this is true. He found out my child had had a problem with colic in infancy and he's so loony that he couldn't think of any other reason why this may have occurred other than munchausens. He's just addicted-afflicted to and with munchausens and I believe he has a serious projection problem with this concept. However, he didn't start anything like this actively overt nonsense until I broke off the four-month relationship I'd had with him. Prior to this he asked some strange questions in statement form, which raised my hackles, but that was all. After I broke up with him, he threatened to destroy my life and I got a restraining order or Court Order of Protection against him and the rest is stalking history.
5) Yet, to clarify for new readers, the alleged perpetrator has never met your child? No he didn't. He declined the offer I once made him to spend family time with me and my son. And now I'm relieved he did decline my offer because if he'd actually spent time with my son then it's possible and likely that my child would view the A-P as a buddy and this would have given the A-P opportunity to sneak back into my child's life and harm him! I guess this comes to an important point for other potential victims to consider whenever they're beginning a new relationship -- don't allow anyone new to meet your children until you're sure about them and realize it's probably going to take, I'd say, at least six to eight months to be sure enough about anyone you're dating to bring them home to your kids! It could technically take a year or longer, at least it would take this long for me now that I've been stalked by the A-P, before it's really safe for the children to bring anyone home to meet them! Perhaps hiring a PI to investigate anyone you're dating would help decrease this time period? I don't know, thesedays I'm just really uncomfortable about having any new or unknown men around my son. And for me this goes beyond dating relationmships and into friendships and whatnot, there are just too many wackadoodles out there! So I may not be the best source of advice on this topic, as normal people do require emotional relationships with other people, but I can definitely urge other women to be super careful about this potential problem as many stalkers become fixated on the victim's kids!
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