(Off the Cuff Answers)
1) On December, 11, 2002 I received a reply from one of the co-victims, your gentleman friend-neighbor-ranch owner, in regards to the alleged perpetrator's (A-P's) claims of December, 10, 2002 wherein the alleged perpetrator (A-P) states that this gentleman threatened him. Within your neighbor's response he appears to be less than enthusiastic over communicating about the alleged perpetrator. Can you clarify for this site's readers why this is? Yes and very easily. He is one of the co-victims who is in all honesty a full-fledged victim and he's royally sick of the A-P. We are all just burned out victims and co-victims. Most of the co-victims or victims have been stalked so heavily over the past two years, due to their friendship or acquaintanceship with me, that they're all burned out. So really, the term co-victim, in many cases isn't accurate but it stuck because that's how it started. In the beginning, a long time ago, they were considered co-victims. Now the term's victim and co-victim are pretty much interchangeable. In any case, this specific fellow has suffered perhaps more overt and covert stalking, vandalism, drive by(s), tailing surveillance, spying, watching, harassment, violations and whatnot than I have. This is due to his initial efforts to simply ignore the A-P rather than go through the massive amount of defense maneuvers that are necessary, such as constant calls to the police (which really did no good at all due to the ignorance of the police force about these kinds of perpetrators and the lack of manpower and budget), filming the A-P whenever possible, and everything else. This is the co-victim/victim with the biggest cookie jar of Easy Pickens. He mistakenly believed that if he just ignored the A-P that the A-P would leave him and what's his alone. In reality, ignoring the A-P turned out to encourage the A-P to be more aggressive as it made the Easy Pickens even easier to violate. Those Easy Pickens are a real sick turn-on to the A-P. Anyway, this co-victim/victim is included on the Court Order of Protection. The A-P broke that order of protection and perpetrated against this fellow victim repeatedly earlier this year because this victim was still hoping that if he left the A-P alone in every way possible that the A-P would leave him alone. Again that didn't work out at all.
2) What do you mean by the term, "Easy Pickens" ? Easy Pickens means any victim, human, animal, object, sentimental object, that is helpless due to its/his/her inability to do any of the following: 1) Call the police and report the A-P, 2) Speak and tell about what the A-P has done, 3) ignorance of the need to become extremely and aggressively active in self-defense, or totally helpless to enact any sort of self-defense. Easy Pickens can be a person who ignores the A-P. It can be a small child. It can be a helpless animal or pet. It can be a person who believes the A-P will respond positively to kindness or explanations and thus attempts to communicate with the A-P. Or it can be property that is not adequately guarded 24/7 for whatever reason. Or it can be a combination of all of these things.
3) What is the,"Cookie jar" ? The cookie jar concept refers to an assortment of Easy Pickens in any one location. The A-P loves those cookie jars because he's a complete coward and it's relatively to entirely risk free or easy to violate in a cookie jar. If he had chosen to perpetrate against those who weren't such Easy Pickens he would never have earned the honest titles of utter and complete gutless, spineless, belly slithering, wimpy, sissy whissie blue boy, Ennie Weenie Stalking Beanie, cockroach scurrying from the light coward to the nth and maxim degree.
4) However, you believe that the alleged perpetrator is a "Dangerous coward" ? Absolutely, all stalkers are. They generally all perpetrate against the Easy Pickens but they can become more aggressive and attack others at any given moment. They are unpredictable in this way.
5) Do you carry a weapon by which to defend yourself against the alleged perpetrator? No, not at this time I don't. I believe he's too pathetic to warrant it, as I said in the, "Waiting" or the, "The Time Past," poem. I'm not Easy Pickens enough for him at the moment despite the facts that I weigh about 110 pounds, have no personal self-defense training, have never hit anyone or been in a physical fight ever in my life, have medical problems and have been battered by males before in adulthood and never stood a chance against any of the previous men who wanted to abuse me. I'm still not Easy Pickens enough for him and it's taken me about two years to come to this conclusion. Probably the fact that I'm also a totally burned out victim has a lot to do with this choice not to carry a weapon too. It just seems like more trouble than it is worth right now. However, I do strongly encourage other victims to both take self-defense training and seriously consider carrying a weapon for self-protection. A weapon in this case can be a gun, a taser, an air taser, stun gun, pepper spray or several of these options. Also always carry a fully charged cell phone with speed dial to 911. I really stand on what I said about stalkers being hazardous cowards who can change their M.O. at any moment. So, it's not generally wise to become lax about protecting yourself. I'm just tired of the A-P's bullcrap, I'm worn out over his garbage and don't care to deal with him anymore. So whatever he does he does. I hope he has a wanker yanker sissy whissie good time of it too, dripping with sarcasm.
6) What other advice could you offer to other victims of stalking? First of all, get educated about stalkers! Go to the experts and learn about what these kinds of abusers do and how you can protect yourself. Expect the stalking to last for a very long time. I have spoken to victims who have been stalked for over ten years. Invest in as many security measures for yourself, family members, your Easy Pickens, and other property as you can possibly afford. Plan and budget your security measures because they're going to add up. Have a cell phone ready at all times. Listen to your instincts and raised hackles. Don't ever ignore your feelings about being in danger. Get a Court Order of Protection or Retraining Order and understand that this piece of paper won't protect you but it will give the police more leverage. Consider and comprehend that getting the Court Order will probably make your stalker more angry, more aggressive, and that it will likely drive him to covert activity. Get ready to go it alone without any police protection despite the Court Order. Prepare your children for self-defense whenever possible. Move whenever possible. Think about going underground when you move like people in the witness protection program. Hire a professional PI whenever possible. Consider what it would take to hire an attorney in case this becomes necessary. Keep in mind that meeting with your stalker to speak to him, ask him why he's doing this or beg him to stop will only excite him more. Keep copies of all correspondence you get from you stalker as well as all letters you may send him. Keep things the stalker would like to steal from you elsewhere. Don't get lax in your precautions. Don't go out alone or into isolated areas where you may become too easy of a target. Change your driving and lifestyle routines often. Watch for tailing activity. Keep a camera with you at all times and discretely photograph the stalker when he breaks the restraining order. Realize that if he sees you photographing him he will likely become enraged and the situation could become dangerous or even deadly for you. Realize that defending yourself is likely to be expensive in the long run or even the short run. Pray. Talk to the experts some more. Don't try to live with a stalker without actually speaking to some experts so that you know what the M.O. of stalkers generally is. Understand that stalkers can and do attack their victims. Get ready for a lot of bizarre incidents and crimes. Remember that stalking is basically a form of domestic violence or domestic terrorism. Get professional help from a psychologist, psychiatrist or social worker when necessary to help deal with the stress and depression. Tell your friends and family members as stalkers do transfer to others and begin to stalk others as co-victims. Tell co-workers if at all possible. Alert neighbors if at all possible. And please remember that no matter what you did or didn't do in the relationship or in whatever situation where the stalker became obsessed with you -- no one deserves this, no one deserves to be stalked. I'd be happy to refer other victims to one expert that I know of if they email and ask for this information.
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