(Off the Cuff Answers)
1)What inspired the work, "The Stalker's Song," featured on page 352? Basically, my projection theory which is again based on numerous things. First, his obsession with munchausens and other forms of really sick violent and bizarre abuse against infants, which he himself has never claimed to, have suffered when he was a baby. Therefore, he'd have no other personal need to talk about this endlessly. He'd have no need to discuss it in order to process it out or to make himself understood. He's not even talking about himself when he makes his claims. Second, the repetitiveness of these specific accusations and his compulsive pursuit of these sick topics. Third, he has no children or spouse, at least he had no spouse last time I heard anything, and he has never met my son. So there's just no other place that this can come from. Forth, some things have happened to the innocents. Fifth, the fact that he seemed to have at least some level of preexisting fascination with munchausens and related things before I dumped him. I've just come to believe that these accusations originate from deep within him and not from the outside world. In my opinion, the fact that these things originate from within him makes him an extremely dangerous person.
2)Do you believe that the scenario depicted in, "The Stalker's Song," will ever occur? I don't know. I just can't tell either way. I mean, I'd think the first thing he'd have to do would be to engage successfully in a long-term relationship, which in my opine would be nearly impossible. Unless he gets some serious long-term therapy, at least. And in that therapy he's have to be 100% honest about every single detail of what he's been up to for the past two years plus details about his past. To do this he'd have to see what he's done very realistically. To do that he'd have to own the problem and the consequences. To do this he'd have to take responsibility. I doubt any of this would ever happen. I believe, if he ever went into therapy, which I personally can't imagine will ever happen, he'd just repeat all his claims against me and that would be it. The therapy wouldn't be successful. These kinds of people just aren't healthy enough to volunteer to enter real treatment. These are the kinds of people that think therapy is for crazy people only and that they are wonderful people. They pass all the blame for their actions onto others. Basically, stalking is a form of domestic violence and terrorism. Domestic violence and terrorism are forms of abuse. These people are abusers and these kinds of abusers are the ones that perpetuate the cycle of abuse.
3)What do you think would occur if the alleged perpetrator were to launch his campaign against a lady who truly had issues of maltreating her children? He'd probably cause her to be afraid to seek treatment. So, she'd refuse to get help for her problems because of his constant stalking, spying and prying behaviors. Moreover, he'd increase her stress level though the ceiling, which would likely lead to an increase in the severity of the child abuse at home. He'd cause her to snap and his behaviors could then lead to serious injury of death of the kids. I mean, he's just disgusting and a total ass! If this creep doesn't get a clue he could definitely, one day, get some children badly hurt on one of his sick vendetta based obsessive compulsive crusades! And that's just assuming the projection problem won't cause some serious injuries. When I think about what he could cause for some future victim it makes my blood boil! Thank God for my son, that I just happen to be, in reality, one of the least violent people I have ever known.
4)Do you believe the alleged perpetrator was attempting to cause you to "snap"? Probably yes, when he first threatened me and started this after I dumped him. But, I believe that after awhile his obsession turned into a compulsion and that in turn became his reality. In the end, he snapped. He got to close to his own self-manufactured abyss.
5)Do you believe the alleged perpetrator is finished with his vendetta? Past behavior is always the best predictor of future behavior. So, no I don't think he's done. But whatever, time will tell.
6)You do not seem to be particularly concerned about the possibility of additional stalking? No, not anymore. It's just the way I've adapted as a victim of all of this. I pretty much don't care anymore. I'm sorry for the innocents and the co-victims, but for myself individually and personally, it's done it's damage and it doesn't matter either way.
7)The alleged perpetrator seemed to believe that post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) was a major factor in his claims against you in regards to muchausens. Why is this? His ignorance, I suppose. PTSD can come from many sources, domestic violence, stalking, rape, a major car wreck, an experience of terrorism, war, child abuse, any other major accident aside from a car wreck, a plane crash, mauling by a dog, and onward. PTSD can be caused by any overwhelmingly traumatic event in a person's life and what causes it in any given person is very much related to what hurts that specific person. There is no cookie cutter formula for what causes PTSD. As far as I know, there is no direct consistent link between PTSD and munchausens. If there were such a link, every traumatized war veteran, every plane crash survivor, every survivor of domestic violence, every rape survivor, etc., etc., etc., and every child abuse survivor irregardless of the nature of the child abuse would all have munchausens problems! It's ridiculous. It's a blatantly paraded show of gross ignorance.
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"Reference Information Page:"
Below are some valuable USA referral numbers & information sources for families, children and individuals in crisis: If any of these numbers should undergo change in the near future and you require crisis services please dial information in your state location and ask for Information and Referral. Information and Referral should be capable of assisting you in your search for necessary services within the USA.
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False accusations of Munchausens by proxy:
1) M.A.M.A. (Mothers Against Munchausers by Proxy Accusations) Located on the Internet by searching for, "mothers against munchausens by proxy accusations." Sources of aid are extremely expensive; however, some support is offered by individuals involved.
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Youth Help Lines:
2) Kidspeace Children's Crisis Line:
1-800-344-4KID
3) Children's Crisis Line:
1-800-KID-SAVE
4) Girls and Boys Town Hotline:
1-800-KID-SAVE
5) National USA Crisis Line:
1-800-4-a-child or
1-800-422-4453
**All youths in trouble, please do call one or all of these numbers as soon as it is possible. If you are a youth who has questions about anything you may believe is abuse or are wondering if it is abuse, please call these phone numbers as soon as it is possible to do so.
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Mental Health Help:
6) St. Luke's Behavioral Health (Mental Health Care and Crisis):
1-800-821-4193
7) Value Options Crisis Network (Mental Health Care and Crisis):
1-800-631-1314
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Domestic Violence:
8) Coalition Against Domestic Violence:
1-800-782-6400
9) National Domestic Violence Hotline:
1-800-799-7233 (Open 24 hours)
10) Contacs (homeless, domestic violence victims): 1-800-799-7739 (24 hours)
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Child Abuse Issues:
11) Child Protective Services:
1-888-SOS-CHILD,
or 1-888-767-2445.
12) 1-800-4-a-child or 1-800-422-4453
If you are a youth in trouble or crisis please call these numbers as soon as you
possibly can.
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Support and Education for Parents in Crisis:
13) Parents Anonymous Family Lifeline:
"Hope when parenting gets tough"
1-800-352-0528
This organization's crisis line is available 24 hours per day, seven days per week. Offering someone to listen and offer referral to services including but not limited to parenting classes to improve parenting skills.
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Further Information:
11)Information and Referral: 1-800-352-3792
`12) Tenant Lines: 1-800-362-3474
14) Information and Referral:
1-800-564-5465 (24 hours)
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Elder Abuse:
14) Adult Protective Services:
1-800-SOS-ADULT
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Special Children Resources:
15) Raising Special Kids (Serves Parents of Disabled Children):
1-800-237-3007
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HUD Issues:
16) HUD National Hotline:
1-800-HUD-1010
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Food Sources:
17) Food Banks Information Center (AZ):
1-800-352-3792
18) WIC (Women, infants and children)
1-800-252-5942
19) American Red Cross:
1-800-842-7349
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Easter Seal Society:
20) Easter Seal Society:
1-800-626-6061
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Additional Children's Services:
21) Intervention Program Children's Information Center:
1-888-439-5609 (children 3 and under at risk for developmental delays)
22) Epilepsy Foundation:
1-888-768-2690
23) Kids Care (AZ):
877-764-5437 (kids without medical insurance).
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Pregnancy and Nursing Information:
24) Pregnancy and Breast-feeding Hotline:
1-800-833-4642.
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Sexual Abuse Issues:
25) Sexual Abuse CASA:
1-888-446-2272
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Teen Crisis Issues:
26) Teen Crisis Line Nat'l Christian Crisis Line:
1-800-HIT-HOME
27) Teen Lifeline:
1-800-248-8336
28) Ala Teen and preteen (children of substance addicted parents):
1-888-425-2666
29) 1-800-4-a-child or 1-800-422-4453
If you are a youth in trouble please call these numbers as soon as possible. If you are an abused youth, or believe you may be an abused youth please call 1-800-422-4453 or another number from above on this reference page.
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Pregnancy Issues:
30) U of A Pregnancy Risk Line :
1-888-285-3410
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No rights to copy, print, download, duplicate, or display elsewhere other than this specific website granted or implied without the direct written permission of the author. Please contact agent of the author: Mr. Gunther S. Vanludwick at [email protected]
**As with all poetry, essays, correspondence and/or published letters, e-mails or other communications presented on this webpage, this work is a personal subjective expression of its author's own feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and opinions. This statement is in no way intended to invalidate or minimize the powerful and poignant experiences of this author. However, this statement is intended to indicate that creative expressions such as these written forms of artwork are derived from their author's own personal feelings, thoughts, beliefs and opinions.
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