(Off the Cuff Answers)
1) It seems like there are two theories on this website, in regards to the alleged perpetrator (A-P). Can you explain these theories and their coexistence to our viewers? Sure, one theory is that the A-P is aware of reality, aware that his accusations are false, and aware of what he's doing as a purely revenge effort against me for breaking off the relationship with him. In this one theory he's doing what many disturbed ex spouses do, although he was never a spouse, to hurt the other person. He's using the child as a pawn to get back at me. This is one of the things he basically stated he'd do in the poem, "Enumerations." The other theory is that he's totally unaware of the reality. In this other theory he's severely psychotic, seriously mentally ill, out of touch with reality. He may be suffering from retroactive PTSD due to his own unprocessed issues as he does not process through writing, therapy, support groups or anything else that I know of. So, by retroactive, I mean that the PTSD was always present but the brunt or massive force of it has hit him relatively recently. Both of these theories suggest that, in my opinion, he's wackadoodle crazy. It becomes a matter of whether he's simply an antisocial personality disordered person with sociopath/psychopath characteristics or traits; or whether he's fully psychotic with antisocial personality disorder and features of psychopath or sociopath behaviors. Ultimately this is something for a psychiatric forensic specialist to determine. An accurate diagnosis, I imagine, would take long-term evaluation and treatment.
2) What is your opinion on these theories? Well, I used to think he was aware of reality and simply pursuing a sick revenge plan. However, now I'm somewhat more convinced that he's severely delusional, psychotic. The reasons for this change in general beliefs are due to the pervasiveness and predominance of the apparent delusions and the length of time he has spent pursuing his vendetta. Although he would be delusional in both theories, the delusions are far more severe in the psychotic theory. The fascination with munchausens and the projections he perpetrates also point to the more serious set of problems. When considering the projection aspect one must always remember that it took me almost two years to figure out that he was projecting! He began with his nonsense and hasn't let up for a second. What he's displaying, over years, is a very set delusion, it is unyielding in the face of contrary statements, evidence and whatnot.
3) What led to your initial opinion? His very specific threats which I outlined in the poem, "Enumerations," when I broke off the approximately four-month relationship with him.
4) Do you believe then, in the second theory, as a psychotic individual, that the alleged perpetrator cannot control his behaviors? That's another one for a forensic expert to deal with. Personally, I believe he has some control over his immediate behaviors but none over his thoughts, fixations, obsessions, urges, and long-term behaviors. It is likely that he will decompensate further as time goes by.
5) This paints a rather dismal picture, does it not? Yes it really does. It means that he would probably be forever unwilling to enter therapy voluntarily. If committed he would likely be uncooperative. Upon his release he would be noncompliant with follow up treatment. He'd simply begin to decompensate again after a short period of time. But again, I'm no forensic expert, so I can't really say for sure. All I can offer is my own personal opinion.
6) Do you have any feelings of sympathy or empathy for the alleged perpetrator? No. None at all. I used to but not anymore. Whether he's partly insane or completely insane, I don't care. He shouldn't be my problem. He should be the mental health systems problem. In the least, he should be his own family's problem. I believe he needs COT ASAP! And if he isn't COT'd some real problems are likely to occur. I believe that he won't and can't control his demented thought patterns and his long-term behaviors. In consideration of past behaviors, this means he's DTO and DTS. The only sad part about all of it, in today's reality, is that his family doesn't recognize his very real potential for DTO and DTS. It's pathetic that his family doesn't take the realistic view and responsibility to COT him for help. As far as I can see, instead of being responsible they pander to his sickness and they think this is being helpful and supportive. In their refusal to see him realistically they're both abandoning him and dooming him when he needs mental health help terribly. What the family member I have spoken to does, is literally pass the buck of blame off on me instead of forcing the A-P into treatment through COT where he can get the kind of confinement and aid he requires to stand a chance at recovery. The scape-goating tactic is really crazy. I had a four-month relationship with the A-P and I broke it off one heck of a long time ago now. So the idea that I'm responsible for the A-P is beyond ludicrous. Moreover, I don't have the legal authority to COT him, the family does have some influence, the police likely do, a psychiatrist does, and some agencies do. I used to wonder how the A-P's family would feel if something happened to him due to his stalking, if he got hurt of killed while perpetrating against others. Considering how this website is being stalked, I should add that no one I know of would do anything even remotely violent unless it was a last resort and in self-defense. And the A-P could get hurt other ways too, stalking the way he does, at night, in the dark, can place him at risk for accidents as well. Anyway, back to his family, now I've pretty much concluded that they'd find more ways to deny all reality and keep right on passing the buck. The fact that they could have saved him would never occur to them. The fact that as his family it is their responsibility would never occur to them either. They might be heartbroken over losing him or seeing him seriously harmed, but they'd still pass the blame in an illogical idiotic pass the buck strategy.
7) Why do you believe his family would refuse to acknowledge their responsibility for the alleged perpetrator in this way? Past experience with him and them. Limited experience with the family, but still valid. I believe that they stereotype and stigmatize. They view the concept of seeking mental health help as some kind of dark defective scar on the person in therapy's being. In their minds, it's like once a person has seen a counselor for any reason whatsoever that person is forever proven and labeled hopelessly insane. The mere fact that one has seen a therapist, to them seems to mean that this person is crazy, unreliable, untrustworthy, bizarre, rambling, incoherent, delusional, dangerous, psychotic and more. However, if the person hasn't seen a therapist the person is considered to be just fine. It's an outdated and backwards view of how it works in the real world. This is my observation and take on it all, at least.
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