But it should be a style of interacting that works well for both. 
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SteveMDFP:  I think the vast majority of doms, as near as I can tell, are in it for an ego trip 
SteveMDFP:  Overbearing is NOT my style. 
emma01957:  I''m very comfortable with bondage. I think it brings out more of my submissive nature. 
SteveMDFP:  but really just as a sexual tool 
emma01957:  and I am comfortable with being submissive, especially if the Dom isn''t overbearing. 
SteveMDFP:  I've never been inclined towards the trappings, though. Bondage IS something I'm comfortable with 
SteveMDFP:  but it's now a role I'm comfortable with 
SteveMDFP:  It didn't initially come naturally to be assertive, be in control 
emma01957:  I would agree. 
SteveMDFP:  and that it worked well and comfortably for both. 
SteveMDFP:  of taking the initiative, and providing direction, that this was the essence of a D+S relationship 
SteveMDFP:  It took awhile for me to realize that in taking on the custom of being in-charge, 
SteveMDFP:  As a result of a couple of years with a woman who was just naturally very submissive. 
SteveMDFP:  Being a dom is a role I've grown into. 
SteveMDFP:  I try to be. 
emma01957:  I must say you''re the first person I''ve met here who seems so reasonable. It''s a very pleasant experience. 
SteveMDFP:  if you're comfortable with that. 
emma01957:  OK Steve. 
SteveMDFP:  too soon. Just call me Steve for now. 
emma01957:  That''s fine. Do You mind if i call You Sir? 
SteveMDFP:  makes the initial negotiations easier...if that's ok 
SteveMDFP:  hmmm....not if you're not MY sub yet....until then, I prefer to stay egalitarian 
emma01957:  Yes Sir. You may call me whatever You would like. 
SteveMDFP:  Hi, emma. How are you? May I call you Emma? 
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emma01957:  Hello Sir. 
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SteveMDFP:  G'night Mary/emMa 
emma01957:  Good night Steve. 
emma01957:  It''s a name I made up for myself when I''m feeling submissive. 
SteveMDFP:  Ah. I'll go with Mary, then. 
emma01957:  By the way, my real name is Mary. emMa asks stands for everything my Master asks 
SteveMDFP:  and it is Emma? 
SteveMDFP:  gotcha. 
emma01957:  My email is zzbottom@myself.com 
SteveMDFP:  your e-mail? 
SteveMDFP:  It works better than ALT IMs, by far. 
emma01957:  I''ll work on the download from Yahoo. 
SteveMDFP:  for both e-mail and messenger. 
SteveMDFP:  I'm SteveMDFP4@yahoo.com 
emma01957:  It was very nich chatting with you.  
SteveMDFP:  you should download yahoo messenger at some point 
emma01957:  I''ll look for an email or for you on line next week. 
SteveMDFP:  no need to apologize. 
emma01957:  I don''t mean to be rude but I told my mother I''d call her and 90 to finalize plans for the weekend. 
SteveMDFP:  I don't get demanding until it serves both our needs. 
SteveMDFP:  not at all. 
emma01957:  I''m thinking that would be better, if you don''t mind. 
SteveMDFP:  you'd be more comfortable holding off for an additional week? I'm flexible. 
emma01957:  During my period, I generally don''t feel too submissive or horny. 
SteveMDFP:  That's about as crass as I get. 
SteveMDFP:  to be slightly crass about it. 
SteveMDFP:  yes, true enough. 
SteveMDFP:  so, you'd be down two holes for the weekend. If you want to play despite that limitation, I'm game. 
emma01957:  I''ve seen what hormones have done to some of my friends and I''m trying to avoid it. I just keep telling myself it beats being pregnant at 47. 
SteveMDFP:  I understand. 
emma01957:  Ouch. Do you belong to AA? 
SteveMDFP:  gotcha....sounds like you might need some hormonal regulation 
emma01957:  Being on the brink of menopause is making my periods heavier. I just wish it would be over with. 
SteveMDFP:  so why am I broke? I'm in recovery from alcoholism, and my medical license is suspended. 
emma01957:  That''s an interesting proposition but I''m a little squeamish. I can''t use tampons because I get TSS. The first 3-4 days are so heavy I have to change pads every 2 hours or I''ve destroyed my underwear. 
SteveMDFP:  I've done thousands of pelvic and breast exams 
SteveMDFP:  I'm a doctor. I'm pretty comfortable with the female body 
SteveMDFP:  oh...I should explain 
SteveMDFP:  well, I'm not squeamish....we can stick mostly to oral, and if your OK with tampons, we can just do everything except intercourse 
emma01957:  I could meet next weekend but not play. My period is due to start on Friday. 
SteveMDFP:  possibly I can come up Sat pm next weekend 
SteveMDFP:  don't worry about that. not much more than gas for going round trip by car 
SteveMDFP:  not terribly at all. 
emma01957:  How expensive is Amtrak? 
SteveMDFP:  also not good for me. 
emma01957:  Of course, this weekend isn''t good because I have to go visit my mother in PA. 
SteveMDFP:  Basically runs rush hours M-F, but there's also Amtrack between Baltimore and DC 
emma01957:  I always forget about the MARC trains. 
SteveMDFP:  not metro...too far for you. There's excellent MARC between DC and Baltimore 
emma01957:  I don''t mind at all going dutch. 
SteveMDFP:  dutch at a less expensive one, I can swing. 
emma01957:  I can drive and perhaps pick you up at a Metro station. 
emma01957:  I understand. 
SteveMDFP:  I feel fine about them, but my budget doesn't at the moment.  
SteveMDFP:  so we might have trouble even getting out of the starting gate 
emma01957:  How do you feel about hotel rooms? 
SteveMDFP:  and, though I'm an expert on public transit, I don't drive. 
SteveMDFP:  My living circumstances are even less amenable to play. 
SteveMDFP:  well, that's the kind of thing I was worried about. 
emma01957:  I own a house with a friend of mine so it''s really not conducive to playing here. 
emma01957:  It''s on the northwest side of Baltimore, about 45 mins to an hour from Rockville. 
SteveMDFP:  I have no idea where Parkville is. 
SteveMDFP:  if we can work around the logistics and life complications 
SteveMDFP:  gotcha. we can play. 
emma01957:  Bondage is definitely what arouses me most. 
emma01957:  I''m not into spanking, paddling, flogging a lot but there are times when it definitely adds some heat and variety 
SteveMDFP:  that it's working. 
SteveMDFP:  includes exciting and arousing my partner. If I'm appreciating 
SteveMDFP:  I frankly haven't done any flogging, spanking, paddling...I'd be initially hesitant. But what turns me on sexually 
emma01957:  I would agree. I found that most of them wanted rough sex and/or a good blow job. They didn''t care at all about the woman. 
SteveMDFP:  My sense of most of them is that they're terribly narcissistic, selfish, and not particularly caring. 
SteveMDFP:  I doubt that's the base from which many doms proceed. 
SteveMDFP:  I've grown into this kind of role from a motivation to have mutually enjoyable time together with a woman with submissive instincts. 
emma01957:  I appreciate that. It''s a very nice change from the few experiences I''ve had in the past.  
SteveMDFP:  In many ways, my gut instincts go toward being a perfect gentleman. I take charge as I feel mutual comfort with that. 
SteveMDFP:  I'm likely to be gentler than you'd like, at first, until I'm comfortable with understanding what works for you 
SteveMDFP:  We can play 
SteveMDFP:  and then played with your body... 
emma01957:  spread eagle is always nice. 
emma01957:  I like being blindfolded and gagged. 
SteveMDFP:  and if I tied you spread-eagled 
emma01957:  Some occasional hot wax, light paddling and use of a cat o nine tails also turn me on. 
emma01957:  I also would like to explore anal. My ass needs to be trained and I''m hoping to find a Master who will make sure that I always have a butt plug or something else in my ass. 
emma01957:  Generally, as long as I''m in some form of bondage, I''m happy and willing to serve and please my Master. 
emma01957:  The idea of being in a very confining cage and Master having access to my 3 holes (for him to use as He pleases) and my tits to play with. 
emma01957:  I like being led around on a collar and leash, eating and drinking from bowls on the floor -real food though not pet food. 
SteveMDFP:  you're getting me hard, you know. But tell me more. 
emma01957:  I also like having my tits tied and having a tight crotch rope to remind me that I''m serving at my Master''s pleasure. 
emma01957:  What I like most is bondage. I love being naked (except for my collar and leash), on my knees, blindfolded, hands tied behind my back and serving my Master orally. 
emma01957:  I don''t like pain either. 
SteveMDFP:  please tell me what you like 
SteveMDFP:  and I still haven't come to really understand the attraction of pain.....giving or receiving. 
emma01957:  I''m not into humiliation at all. 
emma01957:  I''ve been with a few Dom''s I met on the local phone chat lines. As soon as I told them what I liked, they never did it to me or allowed me to do it again. 
SteveMDFP:  I don't get anything out of being disrespectful, or unaffectionate, or causing humiliation 
SteveMDFP:  But for this to work, it has to work for both 
SteveMDFP:  spare her the burden of negotiating preferences 
SteveMDFP:  letting her take direction from me 
SteveMDFP:  and I tend to be an accomodating kind of guy. I accomodated by being in charge of things 
SteveMDFP:  until I spent a couple of years with a very, very submissive woman 
SteveMDFP:  I'd never had any interest in dominating anyone, I thought 
SteveMDFP:  yeah..my sense of the typical dom is that they're horrific narcissists 
SteveMDFP:  I have met a couple of women from A F F... they were nice. 
SteveMDFP:  haven't met anyone from here in person. 
SteveMDFP:  on alt...some lovely chats with women who were too far away 
SteveMDFP:  I'm 6' 3" 
emma01957:  Have you had any luck? 
emma01957:  No. Most of the "Doms" are so close to the edge that I''m scared to chat with them. Others seem OK at first but that regress to the Me Tarzan You Jane mentality. 
SteveMDFP:  have you had any luck with ALT? 
SteveMDFP:  voluptuous....that's fine 
emma01957:  5''1", 180 pounds, brown eyes, brown hair, 40DD chest 
SteveMDFP:  sure 
emma01957:  Very nice. Thank you. I''m afraid I don''t have a picture to send. Would you like a description? 
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SteveMDFP:  I was wondering if you had one 
SteveMDFP:  full size version 
SteveMDFP:  photo 
SteveMDFP:  ah, let me correct that.... 
emma01957:  Yes although not at full size, only a thumbnail 
SteveMDFP:  though you might find it worthwhile to download it sometime. 
SteveMDFP:  don't worry about that. 
SteveMDFP:  you've seen my picture? 
emma01957:  I don''t have Yahoo IM. I could try to download it but with my dialup connection, it would take awhile. 
emma01957:   
emma01957:  Spanking is good, usually :_ 
SteveMDFP:  would Yahoo IM work better for you? 
SteveMDFP:  yes 
SteveMDFP:  But if you like, I suppose I could plan on spanking you for it.  
emma01957:  Yes. Is it good for you? 
SteveMDFP:  no, it certainly didn't seem that way 
SteveMDFP:  is this a good time? 
emma01957:  I didn''t want you to think that I disconnected intentionally. 
SteveMDFP:  It's OK...computers are as unreliable as people, sometimes 
emma01957:  I''m sorry about earlier 
emma01957:  Hello 
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