Summary
Don't:
Don't use punishment
without first setting up clear and agreeable rules.
Don't use spanking
for minor offenses.
Don't spank without
adequately explaining why, in each case.
Don't use spanking
implements that are too severe.
Don't use uncomfortable,
unsafe or degrading spanking positions.
Don't increase the
severity if spanking does not seem to work.
Don't give further
punishments in addition to the spanking, such as withholding affection.
Do:
Set up clear rules and be
consistent.
Talk with your child
calmly about the incident before you give the spanking.
Make sure your child
understands the necessity of the punishment and accepts it.
Give spankings only
in privacy.
Give spankings only
on the buttocks with your flat open hand.
Use a comfortable and
safe spanking position, such as "over the lap".
Choose the severity
of the spanking to match the offense and the child.
Reassure your child
by showing your love and affection afterwards.
Last update: Sep-17-2001