Reader's feedback, Sep 2002
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: (none)
Date: Mon, 30 Sep 2002
Spanked i was, like many other childs
The only thing i learned from this was that my parents,
especialy my mother hated me.
How's the life today ? Since i had childrens, my wife became
a mother, i cannot let her touch me now. I drink, smoke, and
have "perverts" hiden fantasies.
A certain intelligence, over the middle i had has been
destroyed, i don't specialy love the life.
I always felt despited and disliked, the system of the strongest
over the weakness has made that, since i became strongest, so
adult, i despited what has been imposed to me by the force.
Spank with love ? Totaly paradoxal, it is a true hiden
perversion of adults against weaker than them.
Do you beat your spouse ? Do you beat your pet ? So, why do
you beat your child ? Because he cannot defend himself ? Of
course, it is easy.
(from France)
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: (none)
Date: Sun, 29 Sep 2002
hi my parents are divorced, and i live with my mom. I want her to start spanking
me, its not that shes anti spanking, she just says shes never done it before.
the problem is she doesnt know exactly how to do it, she gotten advice from to
of my friends parents, ones say that when i commit an offense, you should always
tell the kid the minimum amount of spanks they will get, and for her it always
alot, so no matter how badly it hurts you have to get at least that many spanks
and usually more before its over, so if it hurts very bad after a third it
doesnt matter. the other parent says that when i start crying alot then thats
when it is half over. both ways seem very harsh and i know it will be unpleasant
either way, but if i deserve it then i dont want my mom to go lightly on me, its
not that grounding is too bad, even though it does suck, but it doesnt work for
me. so which of these ways are better? also my mom is wondering, is it better to
spank slowly and wait for a few seconds in between, or do them all very fast. i
dont know why it would make a difference but my mom said to ask
well thanks
bye
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: school spanking
Date: Sun, 29 Sep 2002
Dear SpankWithLove,
My school allows spanking. These spankings are always handed
out by the teacher. A year ago, me and my friend were caught
cheating, and we were both spanked in front of our class in our
underwear with a paddle. It was only 5 spanks, but then we had
to do a class apology. After class, me and my friend had to
stay after. The teacher told us to take off our shoes, socks,
and everything blow our waist, and then stand facing the wall.
She spanked us each across her lap with a slipper. When I looked
at my bottom after, it was a very dark red. After the spanking,
she gave us each notes to bring to our parents. When I got home,
and showed my mom the note, she told me to show her my butt.
She slapped my butt a few times before saying that my dad would
spank me when he got home. I have two brothers, one older and
younger, and they sat in the kitchen while my dad spanked me in
the living room. My dad switched me with a stick, and he also
switched my thighs. It was very painful to sit and walk, and
also hard to face my friends and brothers. Everyone teased me
for a while, and my brothers were both spanked the next week
for telling stories about my spanking. That was when I was
spanked Three times a day. Sometimes I still get spanked at
school, but not in front of my friends and I dont have to take
a note home. I haven't cheated ever since I was spanked by that
teacher.
(in another mail)
I live in Tennesee. Before school started, parents always had
to sign a letter that said that we could be spanked in school.
Every year, my mom and dad warned me that if I ever got spanked
at school, I would be spanked at home too. So, it's kinda my
fault that i got spanked, but that was just the worst spanking
I ever got, I was spanked before too, but not that hard.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: (none)
Date: Thu, 26 Sep 2002
Dear S_W_L,
Your website seems to have the same philosophy my own mother
had about spankings. I think it's the right one.
I've seen several arguments from both sides that just don't
make sense. My favorite one from anti-spankers is "how would
you feel if your boss spanked you?" This is the most ridiculous
argument ever. My boss is not responsible for teaching me right
and wrong, keeping me safe and healthy, or training me how to
be an adult. My boss never stayed up with me all night when I
was sick, provided free room and meals, kissed a disgusting
skinned up knee, or read me a bedtime story, either. Anyone
who thinks an employer and a parent are even remotely similar
has no concept of what a parent is supposed to do, and probably
has never had kids.
I've also seen the one from pro-spankers about not using your
hand because it's an object of love. But what is discipline?
Discipline is supposed to be loving correction. As a child, I
was horrified when my friends talked about getting spanked with
a belt. This seemed like torture to me, whereas my mom's hand
spankings, even though they stung, were not scary at all.
My mom spanked me, when I needed it, up to age 15. The
procedure was always the same, I had to go to my room and wait
for her. Then she would have me lay on my bed, pull my pants
down and roll on to my stomach. Then she would lower my shorts
and spank my bare bottom. I didn't like it, but it worked.
A type of bonding seemed to occur after a spanking that's hard
to describe. The sting never lasted over a couple of hours,
and never left any marks.
I never felt "psycho-sexually abused", either. My mom was in
the exam room at the doctor's office with me until I was 19,
and she often saw me with my pants down, getting shots in the
bottom. Was that psycho-sexual abuse? I was much more embarassed
by the young nurse seeing my bottom, then my own mother!
The bottom is the safest place to smack, and spanking over
clothes just doesn't have the same impact. My mom would
sometimes swat the seat of my pants, as some recommend as the
way to spank, and that only made me angrier and resentful. A
"real" spanking seemed to dissolve all those feelings after the
first few swats.
Just thought I'd join those who shared their opinions. I don't
have my own children, so I can only share my childhood. I
love my parents, and am glad that my mom cared enough to spank
me when I deserved it. I didn't like it as a child, and don't
really believe the letters you seem to get from teens who want
to be spanked. That was the last thing I wanted. But now, as
an adult, I can say that they helped me grow up.
Keep up the good work.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: Your techniques should be essential reading
Date: Sun, 22 Sep 2002
I think that Spanking with love should be an essential part of
parenting and that all parents who choose corporal punishment
should be forced to read it. The slap using the hand being the
normal for any parent from time to time. However,when you start
to talk about implements being used I believe that parents are
treading a thin line between spanking with love,and abuse. My
parents to my knowledge were not spanked as children,but spank
me on numerous occasions. The arguement that "It never did me any
harm" is then thrown out. Also how can someone who has never
been spanked know the pain that is caused to the child. I was
spanked with a wooden spoon by my mother as the normal method,
usually bare. My mother called it a warm bum. Could she not see
the bruising that such an implement causes, and the pain suffered
by the recipient is intense. Such an implement, even used on
underpants, should not be used. Please make this clear to your
readers.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: Sister's kids spanked
Date: Sun, 5 Jan 1997 (wrong date)
Note: this letter is not anonymized on special request.
I know a couple of years ago I visited my sister in New York and one
morning I witnessed her spank her 5 year old son and 4 year old daughter.
The kids both had their pants pulled down around there ankles. She
told them that they were so disruptive that she wanted me to observe
their punishment. She did this several times during my two weeks of
visiting. Overall the kids were well behaved. I personnally thought
she should have used time outs more. Do others have any constructive
thoughts on this subject?
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: babysitting
Date: Thu, 19 Sep 2002
Hi. I am a seventeen year old woman, and many times I am left
to babysit my 6 year old brother. I was spanked since I was 4,
and my parents still spank me occassinally when I break my curfew.
When I baby sit my brother, I spank him when he is naughty. I
spank him on the bare bottom, with my hand. Usually I give
around 40 spanks, and that is enough to let him behave the rest
of the day. When my parents come back, I report to them why he
was spanked. He usually gets a second spanking that day from
my dad. I think that my brother learns from his spankings, and
I am glad that he does. But sometimes, I have to spank him with
a ruler because of what he did. How red should his butt be before
I stop spanking him? I spank him in the middle of his bottom,
but it takes a while before he begins to cry. A spanking usually
lasts around 3 minutes, but i would like to make it shorter. Is
there a more effective area to spank and hurt more so the spanking
can be shorter and is it okay to spank the thighs?
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: (none)
Date: Thu, 19 Sep 2002
I have read your site, and want to tell you about my feelings
for spanking. I am 14 years old, and I was spanked and still
am spanked at home. I always had to participate in my spankings.
I live with my mom, and she spanks me on the bare with her hand.
She usually spanks me 100 times, and I have to count out loud each
time I was spanked. I get sent to timeout for 30 minutes before
I get spanked, to think about what I did. After my spanking, I
have to go stand in the corner again bending over for around ten
minutes, then I'm free. The most she ever spanked me was 200
times, and that was because I was playing baseball inside the
house and broke the window when I was 9. That was one of my most
memorable spanking. After about 100 spanks, I couldnt count
anymore so she spanked me for a long time. I usually dont cry
a lot when I am spanked, but I cried A LOT during this one. It
hurt very badly. As you can see, I never broke a window again.
I think spanking works for me in my life. I hardly repeated
anything that I was spanked for, besides swearing and disobeying,
which I try not to do. I think my moms method in raising me is
good, and would reccommend parents out there to do the same.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: Re: the mother who posted on 9/1/02
Date: Wed, 18 Sep 2002
The purpose of spanking should be to convey a parental message
of disapproval when no other means is possible. It should be
reserved for dangerous, self-injurious, extremely dishonest, cruel,
or otherwise gross misbehavior. It should not be painful enough
to be punitive, for, if it is, the child knows that the parent
had it within him or her to cause pain.
Spanking should not be for a failure to do chores. A more
logical consequence would be withholding of an allowance or
pocket money, or by not going out of one's way in non-essential
ways concerning the child. However, there should be a very
special bonding in a two-person, one parent/one child family,
and theirs should be an especially cooperative effort.
This mother's spankings are excessively ritualistic and much too
painful, even in the so-called mild spankings. I do not see any
love in humiliation and pain. There also is a great risk at his
age in imprinting a sexual fetish.
In a worst case scenario, a rare, single, indignant parental
swat would be far more effective than frequent spankings. This
mother should cease and desist. Our mental health services
spend far too much time undoing parental mistakes.
Remember, a successful parent is one who instills values through
nuturing, not pain and humiliation. Pray tell, how much influence
is this parent going to have when her son finally decides that
he is too old to cooperate with this psychosexual form of parental
manipulation?
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: pro-spanking
Date: Wed, 18 Sep 2002
Hi. May I commend you for a great website. I did not realize
there was such an interest in spanking and that quite a few
parents still practice it. I noted a recent letter from a
mother who says that she spanks her 12 year old son over her
knee and bare bottomed. According to other e-mails received
on this site, more then a few boys and girls at pre-adolesence
and during their teenage years have received bare backside
tannings from their mothers as well as their fathers.
All I can say is...more power to the parents who discipline
their kids this way. I think some teenagers need a good spanking
even more then younger kids. In most cases the parents who
oppose corporal punishment of children are the ones whose own
kids are totally out of control just because they have lacked
the courage and conviction to give them a sound thrashing when
they needed it. It seems to me that todays' youths are very
good at giving out punishment but not so brave when it comes
to receiving it themselves. I think it would do a lot of them
some good if they were made to pull their pants down and given
a very red and sore bottom over Dad's or Mum's lap.
I was never really smacked hard as a child, never had to be.
I was not spanked beyond the age of 11 but there was a time
when I was 13 that I spanked my older sister (no kidding!)
Since our Dad had died when I was just 6 years old my mother
was finding it very difficult to control her. My sister kept
coming home very late every night and she just would not listen
to our Mum. She got threatened a lot of times with a good
whipping but she knew that Mum would not do it to her.
One day I found my mother crying in the living room after a
row with my sister. She had been called some very hurtful
names and was very upset. I was really pissed off with my
big sister on that day. I decided to take it upon myself
to punish her for not obeying Mum. I went straight to her
room and told her I was going to give her the hiding she
deserved.
Even though she was four years older then me, I was just as big
as her. There was a brief struggle. Soon I had wrestled her
onto the bed and was holding her face down across it. I then
pulled up her short skirt and gave her six good smacks
on the seat of her panties. She felt it all right, I can tell you.
She did not speak to me for the next few days. When she told
our Mum that I had spanked her the reply she got was, 'It serves
you right, young lady! You deserve it and I might consider
doing it myself if your behavior does not improve.' Believe
it or not, from that time on, it did. My sister was much more
repectful to her mother and Mum had a lot of pride and
admiration for me after that day.
I rest my case. I just hope many more parents get wise and
realize that a good old fashioned smacking is still the most
effective deterent we have against wrong-doing. I know from
my own experience that it can, and does, work!
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: spanked
Date: Tue, 17 Sep 2002
Note: this letter is not anonymized on special request.
hi i am a 12 year old boy. I get spanked at home usually
whenever i dont listen to my mom. my mom thinks that if you
act like a baby, you should be treated like one. Whenever i
get spanked, my mom puts baby oil on my butt and spanks me
with my legs up with a hairbrush. Its so embarrassing. She
sees everything and she even lets my sister (shes 8) watch.
I think its unfair because my sister doesnt get spanked at
all and she always makes fun of me. After I get spanked my
mom usually washes me and puts a diaper on me. This goes on
for about 3 days. I get spanked every day. Do you think
that's too much? You dont have to edit out my email.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: (none)
Date: Mon, 16 Sep 2002
Dear Sir!
I would like to ask you two questions, as possible you could help me:
My problem is that I am spanked bare-bottom in front of all who
happen to be presented in the room. My Dad said I shall be spanked
in privacy if I shall behave quietly and do not jerk during
spanking. However, he spanks me hard, and I howl and so on.
Would you give me some advice how could I keep quiet?
The second question I ask on behalf of my 7 years old brother.
Until seven, we all were lightly spanked with bare hand on the
clothed bottom but after seven we are spanked with belt on the
bare bottom. He was not spanked by belt yet (we are spanked
rarely) and he mortally dreads it, he cried all night after my
latest spanking. Our parents do not think it is a problem;
however, I would like to ask you for some advice how to prepare
my brother for possible spanking.
I want to not that our parents are quite loving, and Dad always
comfort us after spankings.
Thank you for you help
(from Israel)
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: To a mother who spanks
Date: Sun, 15 Sep 2002
Hello. I have read with interest your letter about how you
spank your 12 year old son bare bottomed over the knee. Well,
I certainly don't hold that against you, in fact I would say
you are doing a good job in raising him.
The fact that he accepts his punishment and takes it like a
man shows that he is a very level-headed young man. According
to the web site where I saw your letter more then a few boys,
past and present, have received bare backside tannings at
pre-teen age and during their teenage years, from their
mothers as well as their fathers so maybe it isn't such a
dying art after all.
Spankings should be administered firmly, should not be too
extreme or too light-hearted, but hard enough to send the
message. When a youngster has to remove his underpants in
the presence of his mother of course it will embarass him
but the whole point of a spanking is to humiliate him as
well as inflict a certain degree of pain to his behind.
Then parhaps he will see the error of his ways.
Anyway, keep up the good work. I maintain that a spanking
is still the most effective deterent against wrong-doing
even though there are probably many who would disagree
with me. I think your boy will turn out ok.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: questions
Date: Sat, 14 Sep 2002
Note: this letter is not anonymized on special request.
i honestly can't believe i'm doing this.
i'm a teenager and stubbled upon your site because of some
research i needed. i've worked with kids for almost my whole
life. in the summer i work with 4 year olds at a camp in chicago.
i see these sweet kids and think how could anyone hit a kid,
whether it's punishment or serious abuse. how can a parent stand
watching their own kid in pain and crying and know they caused
it? i don't understand that.
i'm a high school student at the moment. i'm a writer and a
indie musician, but i also dream of studying psycology at
william and mary. since i love psycology i write a lot of
papers on human behavior, influences, and what not. hitting
children is a topic i've been investing my time into lately.
i've been reading books and reading sites such as your's for
awhile now. i might even do my junior year paper on this topic.
here's my "personal" story. i'm a teenage girl turning 15 in a
few months. i'll admit it, i'm an irritating person to deal
with. i can be really nice and i normally am, but i get annoying
easily. put it this way, i don't do what other people say. i
follow my own rules and do things my own way. that doesn't mean
i'm out doing drugs or anything, i just normally pay no attention
to authority. i look up to musicians, and i base my life according
to my own standards and rules. i'm not religous, i'm atheist. i
never get in trouble for anything i do. it's been that way more
whole life. my parents divorced when i was 5 and i live with my
mom, and we act like sisters/best friends not mother and daugther.
we just don't treat each other that way. i love it that way, i
like having a friend and not a parent.
i just want to know how someone can justify hitting a kid basically.
i would like to leave my email address avalible to others in
case someone else wants to email me, thank you.
erica
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: Spanked with love
Date: Thu, 12 Sep 2002
Hello,
I'm always given two punishments options, a spanking or grounding (or something
else even less pleasant). Except in some circumstances, I always choose
spanking. My parents encourage me to choose spanking, but I'm always given the
choice.
When I was under 12, I got bare bottom spankings over the knees. As I grew up,
it became a ritual that involves tought and prayer. First, I have to write a
letter and explain why I regret my behaviour and desserve a spanking. I have to
ask for a spanking in my letter and sign it. Then I have to read it aloud. If
it's not convincing enough, I have to write it over again. In some occasion, my
parents changed their minds and I got a grounding. It was worse than a spanking
because I once missed the birthday party of my best friend.
I always get the spanking in privacy of my room. I'm not abused in any way. I
willingly cooperate for a discipline ritual based on the Word of God and His
teachings about the Rod of Correction. No one ever puts a gun on my head. I
consider myself intelligent enough to make my own decisions. I read a prayer, I
get myself ready and I bend over the bed. Nothing holds me down beside my
willingness to cooperate for discipline and improve myself.
When it's over, my parents hug me and we pray together. I feel better as I can
turn the page and start anew. It's a true blessing and I wish that more people
could share it.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: 25 and remember all of my spankings
Date: Sun, 8 Sep 2002
Hi, my name is h(...) and i lived with my real mom and dad until i was 23
and got out of college, Well my parents used to warn me and if i did it again
or something the would tell me to come into the living room and they would
talk to me and tell me strip down into a thong and a bra and we had a table
in the living room that was just right to bend over and the would make me
bend over it. Dad would get his hickory(which still had thorns) and he would
give me 15 to 20 smacks. He would have me crying, and i would try to put my
hands over my butt but everytime i did he would at 5 smacks. after he was
done he would make me stand in the corner and if i did anything wrong he
could make me come back to the table and still spank me on my bare butt again
and he usually would because i wouldent stand in the corner right or would
say something. He would usually make me stand in the corner about an hour. I
remember my last spanking. I was 22 and my 3rd year college and i come home 8
hours late and he used the same routine and since i was older made me stand
in the corner 2 hours. but i thank him and my mom because i grew up great and
i turned out fine.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: It Worked I Think
Date: Fri, 6 Sep 2002
Hi I'm 16 and left your page on "How to get my parents
to spank me" on my computer screen a few weeks ago
when I knew my mother would be checking for laundry.
Nothing was said until last night after we had a big
fight. She grounded me and sent me to my room.
Later after we had time to cool off she came up and we
talked. She told me she has been researching the use
of spanking on teens. She said she has read several
books recommended by some prospanking organization she
has joined. She has also contacted other members of
the organization to for advice I guess. She also
showed me a paddle and a hairbrush she has purchased.
The hairbrush she got ordered from some place in
Vermont she said.
She told me that she is making a list of what she
believes are spankable offenses and wants me to agree
on them. She said any outbursts like yesterdays and I
will be spanked whether I make the agreement or
not,and anytime between now and next week I can come
to her and have the grounding lifted by accepting a
spanking in its place. She will give me the agreement
tonight with additions to it negotiable.
So she left it totally up to me if I get spanked or
not. Behave as per her agreement and stay grounded
for 3 weeks for swearing, yelling, and throwing stuff
or take a spanking.
Hehe what I thought i wanted because I deserved it and
felt guilty sometimes I"m now kind of afraid of. What
a decision to make and soon. Mom said that it would
not be a pleasant experience for me as it is
punishment and will be, but it would not be an
unpleasant experience for her if my attitude and
recent habits change for the better.
Oh boy what should I do?
(in another mail, Wed, 11 Sep 2002:)
Hi SWL
Thank you for writing me, I was really surprised to
hear from you. I'll type the agreement in since don't
have a scanner on my computer so it might have a few
typing errors in it.
THE PUNISHMENT CONTRACT
I _______ hearby agree to accept spankings, from my
parents, as my main form of discipline for a 6 month
trial period beginning on date of signature. ALL
spankings will be administered on the bared bottom
using one or more of the following implements, the
hand, hairbrush, paddle, or switch. I understand that
length and severity will depend on the severity of the
offense and my willingness to cooperate, however, the
length that my spankings will last is at the sole
discretion of the parent(s) administering the
punishment.
The following offenses will be considered spankable
offenses. The list is not all inclusive and items my
be added as needed:
Disrespect to parents or other adults
Disobedience
Balktalk
Casual Swearing (an explitive out of shock or surpise
is understandable at times)
Past curfew without prior phone notificaton and good
reason
willful misconduct
Failure to complete and turn in homework assignments
on time (as help is always available at home)
Receipt of tickets for unsafe driving such as speeding
Drinking alcoholic beverages or use of tobacco
Failure to maintain a neat and clean room
Failure to complete assigned chores in a timely manner
I understand I will be fully informed of when and why
I am to be spanked. I may then present a case in
defense of my behavior.
I further understand that
1. you, my parents, are entering this agreement with
me because you love me and wish me to be a better
person and become a responsible adult.
2. All spankings will be administered out of love,
not anger or revenge.
3. All spankings will be administered as soon as
possible after the offense but enough time will be
given to assure any anger has subsided.
I have to go but that is pretty much most of it.
Paddle and switch really worry me the most. And bare
is also scary. I only have till friday to make up my
mind and i've been grounded for another week for
arguing about wanting to go out already so i will
still have 3 weeks left if i don't sign this agreement
and take a spanking. The list is long and some things
not that serious and anything can be added to it. And
the length of the spanking is like not determined
either. 10 swats or 100 or what???
Thanks again
(in another mail, Fri, 13 Sep 2002:)
Hi thank you again I made some compromise with my mom
last night. Mostly with the list of offenses to get
spanked for.
We put them into serious and minor/moderate ones.
Serious ones being:
1. Stealing, borrowing or taking without asking
2. deliberate lie for self benifit or to avoid
punishment
3. disrespectful to parents and other adults
4. Fighting
5. smoking
6. drinkig alcohol and/or being drunk
7. Being punished at school (dependant on offence
may be classed as minor/moderate)
8. deliberate disobedience
9. Damaging someones property on purpose
10. irresponsible acts, driving violations, dangering
self and/or others
11. Negligence with negative consequences
12. Missing curfew without notification and excuse
13. visiting porn sites on internet
14. Poor grades from failure to do homework or poor
study habits
15. 2d offense of a minor misbehavior within a 1
month period
Minor/Moderate misbehavior for spanking :
Being rude to parents and other adults
Using inappropriate words or swearing
being lazy after warning
room not cleaned after warning
General behavior after warning
insulting adults
Showing a temper after warning
Negligence that could have had negative consequences
forgetting chores
bad attitude after warning
other misuse of internet
Homework late without a very good excuse
Good news!! The hand will be used for all
minor/moderate offenses.
Not so good but fair I guess is all serious ones will
be a hairbrush spanking for first offense anyway. The
only time the paddle or switch will be used is for the
2nd offense of a serious one.
She would not go for a set number of spanks at all.
She also would not list non spankable offenses, but
added that any additions would be discussed first.
She said she thinks since this is a 6 month trial most
offenses should be spankable in order to judge how my
behavior changes.
She said how much longer will spanking be practical,
for a child my age, through high school, college, till
I move out on my own?? She said if I am spanked for
all offenses and it works as she hopes it will then
the 6 month trail period well be enough.
Well anyway I signed it last night after the changes
because I think it's be best I can do with her. She
signed it for herself and for dad since he won't be
home for another till weekend after this one.
She was going to give me my first spanking in 7 years
to clear up the grounding from the fight we had last
week, but my aunt showed up to visit and saved me. So
I ended up going to bed after talking for a while. I
felt pretty relieved that she came and saved me for
another day. But now I will have to wait all day till
I get home from school. We both agreed it was a
serious offense to since I yelled and swore at mom.
I also was worried because mom left the brush and
agreement on the kitchen table. I didn't think about
it till after i went upstairs so I hope my aunt didn't
see them, I know she would be nosey about it.
Well thanks alot, I know I didn't get as much changed
as we hoped but I think I made it a little better
anyway. Oh still bare to, she wouldn't budge on that
either.
I really do feel I need to be disciplined like this.
I'm glad or hope you understand. For a long time it's
like I've just been pushed aside with dad changing
jobs and not around much and mom working also it's
like nobody cared what I did. I'd feel guilty about
some stuff I'd do but nothing ever happened. You know
what I mean?? Now I think they do but I wonder if I
did the right thing also, now that it is really going
to happen tonight I am kinda scared.
Thanks again so much for caring
K(...)
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: From a mother who spanks
Date: Sun, 1 Sep 2002
Hello. I'm a single mother of a 12 year old boy. T(...)'s father died
when he was a baby. T(...) is a bright, smart healthy boy but like all
boys needs a spanking every now and then. today was one of those days (he
forgot to do his chores for the 2nd day in a row)
we have both read your site a bunch times together. T(...) is very
cooperative about it and dicates most how the spanking will go. I asked
and T(...) says he's rather have frequent spankings (No matter how small
the offense) as opposed to letting the offenses build up and getting a
big hard spank.
he gets 12 spanks for light offenses, 24 for moderate ones and 36 for
serious offenses. he's rarely need 36 spanks.
my only rule is that spankings are always bare bottom (so I see the
results and how his butt is taking it). He chooses to be spanked in his
room with me sitting on his bed. first we talk about it and he explanins
what he did wrong, and agree he deserves the spanking and how many he
should get. he choose 18 today. 12 for the missed chores and a few extra
for not picking up his clothes. then I ask if he's ready he says yes and
take off his shirt and pants and lies across my lap and then slids down
his underwear, presenting to me a bare bottom that needs to be spanked.
I wait til he said ready then give the first hard spank. the first half
are slow hard spanks, the second half are fast one. He cries but I know
he is learning a lesson. He got extra red today with the
extra spanks but it served him well.
Thank you for making a sensible good website on this topic.
I'd be intersted to hear what you think about my letter to you.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: (none)
Date: Sun, 01 Sep 2002
Gidday
I was wondering regarding your site about spanking teenage
boys, to bare or not to bare. Bare backside was considered
appropiate when it was just me and dad or only a few other
males around. Whenever I was spanked in front of girls it
was decided that jocks would be best. Dad talked this over
with me when I turned 13 and that was what we decided on.
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