i am 14 my parents do not spank me but i wish they would, just once, because i would deserve it. i dont do any thing wrong, but i talk back to them all the time and i know that it makes them feel bad after. also kids r peeple 2. but i think u should talk more about other ways of disciplining kids because spanking is not the best way. it just makes the kid afraid of getting spanked. also grounding kids is bad too, i would die if i ever got grounded for more then two weeks, and being grounded at all suks!!!
 

After reading your site regarding spanking teenagers, I agree that this particular age group should have the option of a spanking and or grounding, restriction or the like.

I think they are old enough to make the choice and that it does support them having a choice. After all, it was a (poor) choice that got them in trouble in the first place.

I was never spanked in high school. However, I can look back and see many instances where that punishment would have curbed much of the negative behavior. I also agree that spanking a teenager should allow the choice of undergarments on or off. However if off, then I think it fair for there to be more spanking applied.

The positive side of spanking, even a teenager, is that the punishment is fairly immediate, and then it's over. And that has been my experience in life. We all have consequences for our actions. And many of the consequences come rather quickly and can be painful. But we can learn from them and move on. I think a good spanking can provide the opportunity to receive an immediate consequence, feel the physical pain of it, and move on.

I'd be interested to hear any replies or thoughts regarding this matter.
 

I liked your site very much it gave me good info on how to spank. I spank my 9 and 11 yr old girls. I found the over the knee postion the best. Sometimes I find spanking the 11 yr old hard (i don`t spank her that much) but anyway I would like to know if you could tell me an easier way.
 

This website is disgraceful. Any parent with half a brain and true love for their child should realize there are effective ways to raise responsible, well behaved children without striking them. No wonder kids are shooting up classmates at school-haven't we all been taught "do unto others". If we use force and pain to try to teach our kids then what are they learning? It's ridiculous! Get some education and start using behavior management techniques properly to disipline children. Yes, that may take more time and preparation on the part of the parent than striking a child but everyone will be better off for it!! It makes me sick to see this stuff on the web!!
 

Dear Sir/Madam.

I find your website on the Net, congratulations for the quality of your site; I think as you that the spanking is necessary for the education of children and teenagers today. You have to explain very well the principals technics for to give a spanking without anatomical and psychological damages.

Please contact in the future already if you have anothers informations. I search actually a good illustrated book and a videotape that describe the technics for to spank. Can you help me?

Sincerely.

(from France)

Excuse me my bad english.
 

I think your website is very good.

I was spanked as a kid. My parents would pull my pants down and bare my bottom, but they would do it in private. I would have to go in my room and lay across my bed. Then they would come in and ask me why I was going to get a spanking, and when I told them the reason why I knew I was going to get a spanking. The spanking begain usually with me going up to my parents and them pulling my pants down. And, oh yeah, can't forget they would expose my little bottom so it would be bare, meaning I would not have any clothes on. But every time I got a spanking, I deserved it. I turned out just fine.

Thanks for your website. I have made up my mind that when I have kids of my own I will use spanking as a method of discipline. Again thanks.
 

I thoroughly enjoyed you site and definitely agree that teens as well as children should be spanked. In fact I have a 14 year old and spank him with the "Family Paddle." I also have a 12 and 10 year old boys. They are wonderful because of the discipline the have received.

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Great site,
 

I believe Spanking helps the child know who is in control. I spank both my kids, over the knee, panties down, and in their rooms. Sometimes I will let one watch the other being spanked. Other times they are spanked privately, but always on the bare bottom with my hand or the hairbrush. They are 10 and 15 and know that I only spank them when necessary, usually twice a week. Spanking is an effective parenting tool and should be used till the child is 18.
 

Dear sir,

Your website recommends only the hand to chastise errant children. The Bible's consistent use of the term rod suggests a neutral object and not the hand for chastening children. "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him/her." Proverbs 22:15.

The value of using a neutral object, such as a paddle rather than the hand, is that a child usually associates pain with whatever inflicts it. Yours hands are part of you. Children should never fear their parents hands. Parental hands should be used to love and comfort the child after a spanking has been administered. A neutral object also communicates the fact that the discipline is from God, as well as from the parent.

When we spank a child with the hand there are several possibilities that may happen. One is, all the force which is brought by the downward motion of the arm is spread out over five fingers failing to deliver the stinging smack that is required; at least not effectively. Another is, because so much force is needed to make the hand felt, we not only administer pain to the presented bottom, we also jar the child's body.

A suitable spanking paddle takes less force to administer the required chastisement and is more keenly felt. A paddle is also more accurate, therefore there is less chance of inflicting the kind of damage that may be caused by excessive force. A paddle is an instrument, a parental tool, a means to help the parent administer firm remedial chastisement and impress upon the heart and mind of the child that each time they manifest their wicked, perverse nature, they will be chastened because God has demanded it.
 

Dear Sir

Although our three children are not yet teenagers (boy 9 years old, twin girls 12 years old), we have already reached the decision that spanking will be used as a disciplinary tool in the family home up to the age of seventeen years.

The girls will continue to be taken across the knee to receive their spankings whereas the boy, depending on his stature, will assume the position over the dining room table.

God's authority, prayer, love and even spanking apply to children of all ages. Teenagers should not be the the exception to the rule.

When spanking is used diligently in the formative years, it will be used less frequently in the teenage years. The paddle should be less prominent in a child's teenage years, because the child has already learnt a salutary lesson in obedience.

Verbal reproof should be sufficient to put an errant teenager back on the right path. But when it fails, the paddle must be brought back to physically reinforce the lesson. The paddle should be seen as a symbol of loving parental care and concern for the spiritual welfare of the child.

The families that experience problems with teenagers are the same families that fail to maintain loving and consistent discipline throughout the teenage years.
 

I received my share and it did me good when I was growing up. Sometimes I think that I need one even now to help keep me straight.
 

I'm 13 years old and I get spanked by my parents bare-bottomed with their hand. They spanked me until I was 8 and then they stopped for a while. I soon behaved very badly. They felt that the only way to punish me was a spanking so when they found this site, they tried it on me. One day, when I was 12, I came home from school, and my mother told me to do my chores. Later that night, she and my dad asked me if my chores were done, and I told them "no and that if they wanted the chores done then they could them themselves." Well, my parents got very angry at that and they told me to go up to my room and get ready for a spanking. Ten minutes later, they came into my room and told me that I would get 30 spanks on my bare-bottom with their hand. They pulled down my pants and panties, to which I became very embarrassed, and then my dad put my over his lap. He asked me why I was being spanked and I said because I had not done my chores and talked back to them. He started spanking me VERY HARD, and by the time got to ten, my bottom was already stinging a lot. I started crying and asking him to stop but he wouldn't until he got all the way to 30. Then, my parents hugged me and told me that every time I misbehaved, I would get spanked. Now, I'm 13 and I still get spanked 4-6 times a month and I deserve it. I'm glad my parents started spanking me again because now I'm much better behaved.
 

I am the father of three boys, 2 by my first wife, 1 by my second. My first wife died. When my now wife had our son, my oldest became very jealous and started hitting his younger brother, my wife, and once he tried to hit the baby. We both sat down with him and explained how his behavior was not going to be allowed, and if he didnt want a spanking (which he never had gotten) it should stop. My wife loves my boys and has been very good to and with them, anyway he kept it up and kept it up, and one day I walked in and found him kicking her, that was it, off to the family room we went. I told him why this was happening and he did remember his last warning, i pulled down his pants and underwear, laid him across my lap and spanked him (being 6) 18 times. Only once trying to cover his butt with his hands, crying, when I let him up, but saying how sorry he was. After that he went right to my wife, and wrapped himself around her saying how sorry he was that he was hurting her.

Now things have been going very well, he is mindful and his bad behavior has ended. That was back in Nov., and since I am happy to say only the middle child has gotten spanked in that time. So say what you want anti-spankers, it works. My kids behave well, have manners, and know the 3 times your out rule. I didnt like doing what I did, and yes I knew his showing his bare bottom was embarrassing, but arent some of you parents embarrased by how some of your kids act in public. I went grocery shopping with my wife and kids last week and it was awful, kids wanting, kids demanding, kids pushing cart running into people just to keep them quiet. We left very proud, our kids behave well, and know we wont tolerate spoiled brat behavior. Our kids are spoiled with love, time, care and knowing when to do the right thing.
 

I'm 15 years old and i'm doing a research paper on the effects of spanking. I found your site to be very useful. Especially the stats!! By reading lots of other information about spanking, i'm convinced that spanking is an affective way of discipline when used correctly. My brother, sister, and I were all spanked and we don't give mom a hard time anymore. We learned our lessons by being spanked. I just wanted to thank you for spending the time to make this site.
 

I just found your website quite by accident and think it is great! As I child, I was spanked rarely, memorably and very effectively by my widowed mother who did here very best for me and my brother. Looking back, it was never abusive and always well-deserved. She used to take me by the hand or arm and led me into her bedroom. Once she sat on her bed, it was usually OTK, slapping my bare bottom with her bare hand, and it lasted nonstop for about three to five minutes. I absolutely hated that, but crying and squirming never lessened my punishment! It was always done in private and never in anger,. These punishment spankings started at age four untill about 10 or 11. After that it was a dose of the strap over a clothed bottom. It still hurt! I turned out OK, and frankly should have received more spankings than I actually got. Here's a Mother's Day salute to my Mom and moms everywhere who cared enough to spank their kids early in life so they learned that misbehavior usually brings very painful consequences! It's much easier when you grow up that way and know what will happen if you break the rules. Then you can avoid trouble (as I have) as an adult. THANKS !
 

i am 12 years old and i think that spanking shold be ilegal! parents sholdnt be alowed to hit kids be cause its just really stupid! when i get hit i usualy havent even dont any thing wrong its my little brother who has done it! but my mom dont lisen to me!

spanking sucks!!!

(age 12 and 4months)

Connecticut, UsA