Reader's feedback, Mar 2003
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: SWL reader's feedback
Date: Mon, 31 Mar 2003
I have read the "Spank with Love" site with interest. It is
certainly highly thrilling to all who enjoy the dramatic
character of spanking situations - independently from the
question whether this is a good way to treat your child.
As a child I was rather infrequently and unsystematically
spanked. Often it came as a surprise to me - I was not
deliberately breaking rules, just "running into a bad
situation" where I was determined to be the guilty one who had
to be punished. Or my parents just were fed up, angry and
thought that a quick slap could help in the situation (if they
spent much thought on it at all). I never felt loved in these
situations. I felt left alone. I didn't dare to talk normally to
my parents for days, I became silent and avoided contact. Things
needed time to get back to normal.
While this site claims not to "encourage, advocate or recommend"
spanking, reading some of the arguments can cause some parents
to think that it is valid as a regular method of childraising. I
have various problems with seeing it as anything to do with
love.
First, I think that children are people like all others, with a
right to remain unharmed. Parents don't "own" their children,
they only have a great amount of influence on them (and a great
amount of responsibility that comes with this). From the
earliest childhood, children have rights and responsibilities.
How does one best teach a child to avoid doing something wrong?
If there is the threat of a punishment, then the parent becomes
an opponent. A punishment doesn't necessarily mean that the
child has understood that (s)he has done somrthing wrong, it can
as well mean that the child will hate the parent because the
child feels unfairly treated. Next time before doing the
forbidden thing again, the child will try not to be caught in
the first place. If however the child understand what is wrong
about what (s)he did, (s)he will hopefully avoid doing these
things because (s)he understands that they are wrong. It is
always better to teach a child self-discipline.
Another problem is that a spanking can be only seen as a last
resort. From the perspective of the child, I couldn't see
anything much more drastic that could happen. So I wonder about
the authenticity of all those replies of children or teenagers
who wish that their parents would spank them. Now if parents
spank on a more or less regular basis, it threatens to become
the main way of getting the point across to the child - which
is not good at all, I think. A child should be taught to listen
without feeling pain. Repeated spankings can only mean that the
method does not have any effect - a child does something, gets
spanked for it, forgets it and does it again.
An important thing in parenting is authority. This word doesn't
mean acting authoritarian, authority is something that you earn.
You have authority if your child listens to you because (s)he
values your opinion. If you must use force, this means that you
don't have enough authority for the child to listen to you
without the use of force.
Perhaps spanking can work if it is given by consent: The child
understands that (s)he has to be punished, and willfully
receives the pain from the parent. If some of the letters in
this section are authentic, then there are probably children who
think this way - I certainly never did, and I also never knew
anyone else who wanted to be punished as a child. Still, if this
degree of understanding is there, why even give punishment at
all? When we grow up, we don't have anyone who will slap us for
having done mistakes in life (unless we really break laws and
get caught). Teach your children to do something constructive
with their feeling of guilt. Apologizing to the person who was
harmed by something that you have done, and becoming friends
again, is a difficult, but important task, and it's never too
early to learn this.
From the child's perspective: If another child has hit you and
is punished for that, this can satisfy your feelings of revenge.
It certainly won't make you friends again. Next time you meet
that other one, you are likely to be hit again, in revenge for
earning him a spanking. So it is an illusion that a spanking can
solve any problems that were caused by what you did.
To get along in life, it is very important to take our own
decisions, to distinguish right from wrong. I am not sure that
spanking can help there. I rather think that it inhibits this
free and responsible decisionmaking: Others take the right/
wrong decision for you, and reward you for what's right, and
punish you for what's wrong. You don't have to think, you just
have to follow orders (or avoid to be caught). I think that it's
highly important to teach a child at the youngest possible age
to take her/his own decisions.
Parents who read this, never forget: You are shaping a
character. Take your time to talk to your children, to discuss
things in depth. They are not dumb ... Spend less time on
finding the "perfect punishment", and spend more time on making
sure that punishments won't have to be necessary at all. Be a
model and friend to your children. They should look up to you
because they want to be like you - not because they know that
you can hurt them.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: Is this a joke or is this real?
Date: Thu, 27 Mar 2003
I literally feel like throwing up after reading your "how to" on spanking
with love. This is the sickest thing I have ever come across on the
Internet. As the mother of three children I am appalled and disgusted. I
was spanked as a child and at age 32 still remember the hate I had towards my
father as a result of his "discipline." It is because of sick people like
you that there is so much violence in this world. Your children are NOT your
property and how dare you lay a hand on them. You reap what you sow and you
are sowing hate into your children. How cowardly you must be to hurt your
innocent children. YOUR job is to protect them, NOT beat them.
SHAME on you. You probably wouldn't beat your dog, but think nothing of
doing it to your own child.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: Reader Feedback
Date: Tue, 25 Mar 2003
Hi,
I am a 19 year old who is not and has never been spanked by
my parents. At my exboyfriends however, its a different story.
Since I am still always over there even after we broke up I
have now been upgraded to a role of honourary parent in their
family. His little sister and brother are 9 and 1. C....y (9)
is punished in one of two ways for most offences. She either
receives a "smacking" which is pants up standing just on the
spot or a spanking which is over the knee bare bottom.
I am often left to babysit and recently experienced a time
with C that I thought I would share and ask advice on. C was
home with me and her baby brother. I asked her to go upstairs
and take her bath and get ready for bed. C looked at me and
said "No I dont have to cause your not my mommy or daddy." I
was angry with her so I said C dont make me give you a smacking.
But again she wouldn't go so I smacked her behind while we
were standing downstairs and I was holding the baby. Then she
kind of gave me a surprised look and ran upstairs. I heard the
water turn on so I focused on getting the baby ready for bed.
I was running around getting blankets and things for the baby
so he could go to bed and I felt my feet wet as I walked past
the bathroom that C has next to her room. Worrying about C's
safety I went in and noticed the water was running and C was
nowhere to be found. I went into her room and found her lying
on her bed wearing loads of make up (against house rules) and
reading a magazine. When I asked what was going on she was
like I didnt want to take a bath so ha ha I fooled you. I told
C that that was totally uncalled for and that a smacking was
minor next to what she would get for this. I then took her and
asked her to participate in her own spanking and she wouldnt so
I did it all for her. I gave her about 15 spanks this time.
When her parents came home I explained the situation since the
carpet was still wet. They agreed. I just wonder if you agree
as well; did I do the right thing? Does anyone else do the
smacking and spanking thing? Just wondering? Please post this
so that it adds to C's embarassment over her bad behaviour.
Thanks
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: spanking with love
Date: Mon, 24 Mar 2003
Dear SWL,
I've found your website very important and helpful.
Keep up the good work!
I believe in spanking because that's how I was raised,
and because as a mother and grandmother I've found
that it works! I am now in my sixties, and I've been
raising my grandson B(...) by myself since his parents'
marriage broke up. He has been in may care for three
years now (he is eleven years old) and I am sure that
an environment combining nurturing, care, and loving
but firm discipline is really helping him to become a
responsible, polite and considerate individual.
I think it's important to emphasise that discipline is
not only about punishment. It is also about creating a
situation with clear rules and boundries for the
child, who only gradually becomes capable of making
his own choices. Here the parent (or grandparent!)
should clarify her position of authority and decision
through things like bedtime, chores or other regular
and fixed habits that the child learns discipline
through.
When it comes to punishment, though, I do think that
spanking with love is the best method there is! I have
found it to be the perfect way of keeping unruly
children in line. I have used spanking as the primary
punishment in my houshold with my grandson, for
offenese that merit a punishment rather than a warning
(overall he is a very good boy). This includes
disobedience, backtalking, foul language, lying, as
well as poor preformance on exams or in a report card.
But my grandson has NEVER stolen, bullied or been
involved in dangerous kinds of mischief and I am sure
it is precisely because I am strict with him that this
has not happened.
When a spanking is necessary, however, I always make
sure that it is a deliberate, long and loving
experience that will prevent a similar offense from
happening for a long time. I never spank in anger, and
in every case I send B(...) to corner time in his room
first. When I am ready to spank him I get the
hairbrush and go to his room, where I take him out of
the corner, undo his pants and underwear and give him
a long scolding that sometimes leaves him in tears
before I even began the spanking. I believe this is
important, both for the 'ritual' aspect of the
spanking and also to make sure the child really
internalises why he is being punished. To interact
with the boy and make sure I'm getting through to him,
I never just lecture him but always also ask him
questions which he answers with 'Yes, Ma'am' and 'No,
Ma'am' (he is always required to use that form of
address with me).
After that I take him over my lap and begin the
spanking, always with my hand initially but also with
a hairbrush because I don't think the hand is enough
(and my hand begins to hurt very fast as well!). I
normally don't spank for more than five minutes,
except for serious offenses, but it usually takes that
time because I believe in spanking slowly and
meticulously.
After the spanking, while the boy is still crying, I
make him repeat why he has been punished and forgive
him. I then wipe his eyes and blow his nose for him
with a tissue. I always give him a Big hug when the
punishment is over!
I have found this to be a perfect method for
discipline and to prove that it my grandson's
behaviour and thre fact that today I only need to
spank him about once in two months or so.
Can you add something in the techniques or implements
section on the use of the hairbrush and paddle, even
if you don't completely endorse them? Since many
parents do choose to use these implements they could
probably benefit from information on how to do so in a
safer and more efficient way.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: I'm 12 and still spanked.
Date: Mon, 24 Mar 2003
I am 12 year's old, and my brother (younger) is 10. We are being
raised by our older brother. Whenever we are bad, we get bare spankings.
My brother gets over the knee spankings with the hand, and I get
laid down on my stomach on the bed, and spanked with the belt.
Believe me, my brother spanks us real hard. We try very hard NOT
to be bad, but at our ages that's not always easy.
I believe spankings help me. They are given with love, but not
affection. And it teaches me that I have to obey. I'm only 12
years old, but believe in spankings.
Thank you,
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: a concerned reader
Date: Sun, 23 Mar 2003
Undoubtedly your site makes fascinating reading for any (predomonantly male)
adult trying to come to terms with HIS own feelings about spanking; to
understand/confront/work-out/enjoy/relish his OWN personal desires about
childhood spanking. (I use 'his' as what I assume to be the majority behind
the screen names and 'female' letters).
My deep fear is that REAL vulnerable children will suffer when their parent -
buoyed with a false sense of normality by your site - decides to administer
humiliating corporal punishment to them in a state of explicit undress. THIS
IS NOT NORMAL PARENTAL BEHAVIOUR. Keep the childhood spankings as a fantasy
and use grounding/CD removal/ treat cancelled ....
I would implore your readers to use very eloquent, informative and well
constructed this site as personal therapy and not a template for dealing with
your own children.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: (no subject)
Date: Sat, 22 Mar 2003
Heya.
I read you site alot. I'm a 13 year old girl and I have
written before but I probably didn't make much sense and
was mad, heh. Well, You see about the fetish on spanking..I
was spanked alot when I was 5 because I would never want to
goto bed (Well you have to admit 8:00 is early.. for me
anyway) by my dad and usually I'd fall asleep everynight
at like 9:30 crying and he'd just sit there watching us
waiting for us to sleep. (Us meaning my little brother,
whom was 3, too) I didn't mind all I minded was that since
he was there I couldn't play with my toys. (But everytime
he'd have to leave to get something from the store my Mom
let us play until he got back without him knowing, ha. )
You see my Mom has never ever spanked me (No wonder I like
her and hate my dad) and well the last time I wad spanked
was when I was 10.. it was embarrassing, made me officially
hate my dad, and was for no reason. (Didn't hurt anyway
haha ) It was for saying the word "Shutup" But seriously I
haven't said "Shutup" to my parents since.. heh go figure.
My Mom is totally cool. I can say/do anything infrount of her.
I ever cuss infrount of her and makes jokes that most parents
would not like, same with my dad but not as much. My Mom is
funny, nice and I seriously am never punished. Never really
have been and never will. You see parents say "Ohh you hate
your kids if you don't punish them!" Makes me laugh because
my parents love me alot and don't punish me. But I don't go
run wild and kill people (I love my parents.. well Mom too
and I don't want to hurt her with my actions)
I have a spanking fetish, yes, and I haven't told anyone
before. It started when I was 9. My dad used to when I was
10- threaten and say he would spank me if I won't stop doing
something and it was so embarrassing. Imagine being cornered
in the wall, being yelled at wile your 8 years old having
your 6 , 13 and 15 year old brother watching.
Ok ok anyway back to the fetish. Everynight all I can think
about is being spanked and how much I'd love to be (By anyone
other than my parents) It's fun to imagine this stuff, it
really is but I seem wierd doing it. I even search for
spanking kid sites and when I hear a story about abusive
things and kids being spanked even when they shouldn't most
of the time when their teenagers.. it makes me wanna go kill
the person who spanks them.. I HATE SPANKING!! I really want
to seek revenge on the person who spanks someone.. makes me
mad.. makes me want to be one of those people who helps
parents raise kids and tell them to raise them right.. erm..
but for now I have another dream.. to be an animationist. :)
But anyhoo.. I seriously love and hate spanking at the same
time. I have no clue it makes me cry when I hear about people
being spanked. My Mom told me when she was little she got
spanked by her Mom using a stick. (She told me thats child
abuse) I am too nervous to talk or mention the word 'spanking'.
Well.. heh this was pretty interesting.. um.. bye,
Oh.. and please don't E-mail me back I'am a nervous person
when it comes to E-mailing strangers.. ^^; I get all panicky.
Thankyou and bye.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: child spankings
Date: Fri, 21 Mar 2003
Hi
My name is T(...),23 and live and have always lived in London,U.K.
I have been looking at your site and I have to say that I don't
really agree with everything you say here even though I do feel
that children should be spanked and I understand that this method
is one of the most common methods of discipline used in the country.
I would never slap a child across the face and I wouldn't do
something stupid like wack a child across the arm with something
like a cane but I 'would' slap a child across her bottom if nothing
else works. Probably the most smacked part of a child's body across
the world ,is the bottom and I see it as a suitable place for a
child to be smacked, providing it is not done cruelly.
When I become a mother, hopefully in the years coming up, I shall
spank my child but only as the last alternative after things like
scoldings ect. and I can admit that I once did pull the panties of
my older sister's 8 year old daughter down, put her over my knee
and gave her a light spanking after nothing else seemed to work
when I was babysitting her (and of course I was given permittion to
give her a good old smacked bottom by my older sister ,who also
beleives in spanking as a useful way to discipline a child).
One thing that child spankers should not do is spank a child so
hard that it get's to the point where you are intent on spanking
the child so hard, that her bottom starts off round and is curving
outwards ,nicely ,but at the end she would be spanked so hard that
her bottom is mashed in and curving inwards instead! Or you spank
her so hard wanting to have the satisfaction of knowing that she
won't be able to sit on it for weeks!
Another thing that I disagreed with is the way the site shows how
spanking can be done with things like paddles ,hairbrushes and canes.
Children's botties are one of the most sensitive parts of the body
and things like paddles hurt to much and is a cruel way to spank
them with. Instead I would use the open hand on children's bare
bottoms as it is less painful and more appropriate. As for school
spankings I disagree as they use things like canes and paddles which
I have already explained why I don't agree with thing like that above.
However if they agree not to use these implements and only spank
with the hand, I would agree as I beleive nowadays, children in
schools have become unruly and need more discipline/spanking.
Therefor I would agree in teachers dishing out non-aggressive bare
bottomed 'hand' spankings. As well as this children are shy in
exposing certain body parts and having their rear ends bared
embarrases them, adding to the affect of the whole thing being a
punishment.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: spankings
Date: Thu, 20 Mar 2003
My name is A(...), I am 10 years old. My older brother is D(...),
he's 17, and then there's my eldest brother who's in his 30's.
My oldest brother is raising me & D(...), and he's real strict.
D(...) gets punished with a tree switch bare butt, and I get the
thick leather strap bare butt. Neither D(...) or me are bad too
often, but when we are, our brother has no qualms about
administering spankings to us.
It was my eldest brother who found your e-mail address, and as
I write this to you now, D(...) is out back in the wood-shed
getting a licking for coming home late on a school night.
Our spankings are always bare, and usually given after or during
our showers, which make the spankings hurt ten times more.
My eldest brother told me to e-mail this to you, because he
says that he is a "pro-spanker", and further he's sorry that
corporal punishment was taken out of the classrooms.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: Spanking
Date: Wed, 19 Mar 2003
(For background, see this sender's mails from Jan 2003)
Thanks to your help, I have now persuaded my parets to spank me. But I would
like to say how they go about it, it might give other people ideas.
I have to go into my room, and stand up and wait for my parent, who will bring
an implement if needed. The parent then sits down on the sofa, and tells me
to stand by them with my hands on my head. They then pull down my trousers
to my ankles. If it is a severe spanking, they pull my underpants down to my
ankles as well. If not, they pull my trousers and underwear off completely
and order me to get a pair of underpants several sizes to small and bring them
to them. My parent (normally my dad) then puts the underpants on me, and pulls
me over his lap. They then say why Im getting a spanking etc. They then spank
me as many times as I deserve. I then have to stand up while they redress me.
If the spanking is for something very severe, I must go upstairs and change
into small underpants and a vest, then come down where my parent lays me on the
couch, with cushions under me, then pulls my underwear into the crack on my
bottom. they then spank me hard with a hairbrush /hand and send me upsatairs
to await another spanking from the other parent, but I must stay in the same
clothes, standing in my room with the door open facing forwards.
I hope this gives other readers some advice. It certainly stops me misbehaving!
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: Spanked at 31
Date: Sun, 16 Mar 2003
At the age of 31 I am still sometimes spanked across my
bottom by my elderly, eccentric mother. Yes, even at 31
she feels I am not too old to have my jeans pulled down
and a hairbrush slapped across my underpants. If I don't
argue I at least am allowed to keep my pants on. Otherwise
it is across my bare bottom, which I find humiliating.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: Catholic spanked virgin
Date: Sat, 15 Mar 2003
I feel much compassion for the dear lady who wrote in to the feedback
column in February that she had been spanked as a child, had discovered
at 19 that it was sexually arousing to her to think about spankings, and
was still a virgin at 30, in part because she felt she could never marry
having such a kink.
Spankos, as we call them, often do marry and raise perfectly
straightforward children, even children whom on occasion they feel they
have to spank. Generally those who are aware of how arousing it is to
them have the strength and wisdom to keep very clear boundaries when
administering this sort of discipline. I know of one woman who was
spanked abusively as a child and was always careful to tell her children
when they stepped out of line that if they continued they risked a
spanking, and if they continued to misbehave she would tell them "That is
a five-spank offense" or however many spanks she thought was appropriate.
She would then spank them in a very businesslike fashion, let them do
their little dance, and then when they calmed down would hug them and
tell them she loved them and that they had been punished so whatever they
did that was naughty, the slate was clean.
This lady was very responsible and probably the woman who wrote in would
be too. In all likelihood she would simply not discipline her children in
that way, period, and that is certainly one way to go.
There is nothing morally wrong, however, with having spanking be part of
her sexual relations with her husband. There are lots of things people
do which are turn-ons for them that have nothing to do with "regular" sex
as such but are part of the arousal play beforehand that can deeply
enrich the closeness and intimacy of sex itself. Of course, it might be
argued that for someone who thinks wanting to be spanked is very naughty,
the best punishment is one that fits the offense perfectly, namely a
spanking. This might have the very real effect both of assuaging the
guilt (after all, even foreplay spankings can hurt!) and of deepening the
bond between her and her husband. A kind husband will always be sensitive
to his wife's needs and desires, and there is no sin in that; that's the
way it's SUPPOSED to be, in Catholicism and any other religion I can
think of.
I would also gently caution her not to jump to conclusions. Some people
are simply going to find spankings sexy, and that seems to have no
relationship to whether they were spanked or not: Of the enthusiastic
spankos I know, some were spanked as children and some never were. Our
sexuality is a gift from God, not a curse; providing we use it in
accordance with what is good and lovely and true -- and certainly within
the context of a loving relationship with one's husband, a spanking can
be a wonderful thing, taking away tension and bringing the couple very
close together -- we can enjoy that gift freely and with thanksgiving,
rather than flee from it as Jonah did from the charge to go preach to
Nineveh (and remember what happened to him!)
Of course, the Church has a long tradition of virtuous virgins too, and
the choice to stay chaste in that way is not one I would fault PROVIDING
it is a choice TO be chaste rather than a flight FROM accepting the
individual sexuality with which God tries to bless us.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: responds to other letters
Date: Sun, 9 Mar 2003
I am writing to respond to the 17 year old who gets spanked
by his brother when he disobey him. It is also in responds
to letter from a teenager who said he/she would rather be
spank than told how much his/her parents worry about him.
The 17 year old mentioned that when he left the his house
after his crew he got 7 swats with the belt, even though he
begged his brother not to spank. He knew it was wrong to break
the rules and from past experience when he disobeyed he had
received spanking. It sound like he wanted to enjoy the
pleasures of disobeying his brother, but was not willing to
except that painful punishment because he disobeyed. I think
whether his brother is right or wrong he is old enough to know,
"If you can’t do the time, don’t do the crime." In other words
if he and other teenager do not like to be spank, don’t do
things that will get them spank. As strange as this sound,
even though I am 39 if a select few of my friends who know
me and cared about me felt they need to spank me I would
access why. On the off chance they would spank me it would
only be for something that was really bad, and only because
they care about me. Although I am far from perfect I do not
mark on other people stuff, steal, or willingly deceive people.
I do not do these things because I afraid of being punish; I
just have respect for other people. I do understand why he
does not like to be spank in front of others or on the
bare-bottom. I think it would be nice if he and his brother
could make a punishment contract, in which spankings are only
used in an extreme cases.
One teenager said he would rather be spank than told how much
his parents worried about him. I believe telling a child how
much you care and want them to be the best they can be should
be part of a spanking. I think there should be more to a
spanking then hitting a person'sgcv behind. I think a good
parents as well a good friends will let a person know when
they are following the wrong path and why they do not want
them to on that path. I have a couple some friends that will
chew me out when I say or do things they do not they don’t
like because they care. I do not like it but I appreciate
that they care enough to do that. I think teenagers should
be ground and have things taken away more than spank. However
if a teenager or an adult wants to behave like a little kid,
I do not see anything wrong with spanking them. I also think
everybody needs to be told they are loved and care for and
how worried people get when they believe they are on the
wrong path.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: I think I could benefit from a spanking
Date: Sat, 01 Mar 2003
Dear spank with love
I am a 30 year old man who live with his mum and my mum has
never spanked me in my life but I so wish that I had, but my
mum is so anti spanking, but I believe in it . the whole of
my life I have been brought up to believe that spanking is
wrong, but when I was very young about 4 years old my mother
told me to get ready for nursery and I went and hid instead
of getting ready for nursery because me and my sister used
to always hide from my mum when we were young it was a game
and she would come and find us, so I hid behind the clothes
in her wardrobe and she came looking for me but she couldn't
find me and I thought it was just a game, she called out my
name several times but I didn't answer because I thought I
was a game then she broke down and started crying because
she thought that I been kidnapped and saw her crying from
behind the wardrobe and I came out from behind the wardrobe
and she stopped crying told me off, then took me to nursery
I was only 4 years old when this happened. and to this day
this memory still haunts me I am now 30 years old and after
coming across your website I have now decided that I didn't
really do anything wrong when hid from my mother and she
should have spanked me for hiding from her. Then I would't
be carrying around the guilt that I have been for all these
years which puts me on to my next question how do I get my
mother spank me? Not only for something that has happened in
the past but for being so disrecptfull to her since I have
moved back home she still has the power to make feel awful
with her guilt trips and I have come to the conclusion that
I don't deserve her guilt trips and I wish she would just
spank me for my disrespectfulness and for what has happened
in the past , but I know she is so anti spanking, but I would
welcome a spanking from her but by now she would consider me
to old for a spanking but I don't because after reading your
website I now feel that I can benefit from a spanking, but my
mum would obviously consider me to old for a spanking which
is understandable but this means I will always be carrying the
guilt she has given me around with me which I don't think I
deserve.
Can you help me?
Your sincerely
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