hi

my name is (...) im from mexico, im 22 years old

I studied psicology and i want to make a tesis about de education (specific in the point of punishemnt) of de children.

Im really thanks with you because your page is beautiful in informantion

i have a problem:

im understand the point of view that the most important of a implemente to spank it being safe and being can control easy but in my country the belt is very common, i was educated by belt and all of my near friends

I think that the belt has a special message for the main (is very asociate with spank)and is not so hard if you care. Is pratical, your parents usually use in their pans. I was been belted few times and i never been hurted. Im my life i never known about a spank with a paddle, cane, etc only hand, belt and shoe. and is difficult find someones that give or recive a spank in bare skin.

Where can i find more information about the tradittion of the belt.

If you want i can give you more information of my own experiences about the belt.

Really Thanks

Congratulation for your page and EXCELENT work
 

Our form teacher at school who I will call Mr. K. was from the Southern Rhodesia a former British Colony where corporal punishment was considered to be most effective. Between the age of 11 and 16 some of us who had truly broken social rules with regard to classroom behaviour or had been caught shoplifting outside of school were kept behind after school in the classroom while the others had gone home.

After a talking to us for several minutes he gave a full explanation of the need for us to be punished. We were then bent over a desk with our arms facing forward. Mr. K would take a heavy but flexible slipper and take a wide arc with his arm such that the slipper would rise upwards and strike the lower part of our buttocks. He never gave less than 6 strokes. He was the only teacher and parent we knew who used the slipper in this way and we assumed it was because it could be the most effective method. In this way Mr. K ensured that at least his class in the school were kept in order and proper discipline was retained without the need for us to be sent to the headmaster or his deputy for a full caning.

When I parented children of my own I adopted the same form of discipline at home. I always asked the children to take down their own underwear after they were placed over the desk to symbolize that they accepted the forthcoming punishment. However, my wife slippered the two girls after they reached the age of 12 and I always slippered our boy. Only when it was felt necessary all our children were slippered from the age of 8 until they were 17 and my wife and I both used the method Mr. K. had effectively taught me and no doubt several others who were in his class at school.

Now our children are grown up, living overseas and have children of their own who require discipline, they came across your web site and sent it to us. It appears that the recommended place to strike the buttocks is shown in orange on one of your diagrams and this now explains to me after all these years why Mr. K. took the slipper in such a wide arc to ensure that it struck the lower part of the buttocks.

You are certainly to be complemented on your diagrams and the information in your web site which unfortunately was not so freely available to parents in the past.

While today's society generally frowns on corporal punishment we must remember it is as old as civilized society itself and probably even older. It is terrible that it was misused by some in the past and applied with nonchalance and in a routine way rather than with love. However, a proper firm spanking across the bare bottom is the most natural means of applying physical punishment to children when other punishments are often somewhat less effective.

After another generation or two has passed by, this form of punishment will certainly return when we realize the terrible legacy society was given by not bringing up our children to be adults that could call on strong reserves of self discipline. Such reserves of self discipline can in most cases only be induced during childhood or during teenage years and a proper spanking is the most effective means of achieving this.
 

I am very impressed with your website. I think it shows parents against hitting that spanking can be a good punishment if you use it right, I am a 14 year old boy and I get a spanking every now and then when I do wrong, and I am glad I do because I know I paid for what I did, and I won't be grounded later.

Bet don't get me wrong the spankings hurt and I do cry, my dad gives me some pretty hard swats, he bares my bottom and then he has me get over his lap, then he spanks me, before I know it, I am crying and the spanking is over. My bottom does hurt a lot though and at the time it is just as bad as being grounded but later you feel better that you paid and that you were spanked hard enough to cry and you won't do it again.
 

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I am in my 50's now but as a teen I was spanked on my bare rear end. Up until I was 18 I was spanked in front of 2 brothers and 2 sisters. I was made to take my pants off. Then the punishment was done. It was very embarssing, but I never repeated an offence. My mother was the one that gave the spankings. It was done in the living room, and the whole family watched. It was much harder for me at the age of 14 or 15 because I was maturing and was not allowed to cover myself at all. When I was 18 I married and even twice after I married my mother had me strip and get spanked. The only reason it stopped was because my wife did not want it done anymore. I feel as though I have a very strong sence of being a man, and very strong beliefs. I think the spankings were good for me.
 

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General reader comments on spanking teens

My name is Josh and I'm now 32. I actually never got a spanking until I was 11 when my mom married my stepdad. He gave my little brother and I an allowance and chores, and usually disciplined with extra chores or grounding. My mom didn't believe in corporal punishment, even though my stepdad felt that it was sometimes necessary. Finally, after getting in a ton of trouble one day, my mom consented, but told my stepdad he could spank me, but not with a belt or paddle.

He took me out to the garage and explained what was going to happen. He ordered me to pull down my jeans and lay across his lap. I tried to talk my way out of it, but he said that I had needed a spanking for a long time, and if I didn't cooperate it would be a lot worse. Once I was over his lap, he told me that he had to spank me on the bare bottom so that the spanking would be effective and fair, then he slid up my jacket and pushed down my shorts, and locked his arm around my waist.

He told me to take a deep breath, relax my bottom and lay still and take my medicine like a good boy. He explained that he hated spankings growing up, but how it taught him discipline, cleared the air, and showed that his parents cared. Then he spanked me like there was no tomorrow. I thought it would be a few swats, but he spanked me for a long, long time with firm, swift spanks again and again. He spanked every square inch of my butt, then focused on the lower sitting down part until it burned so much I started to bawl and apologize. As the spanking finished, he told me that when I was "especially willful and naughty" it would mean a trip back across his lap for another bare bottmom spanking, then helped me to my feet where I stood bawling and rubbing my stinging butt through my jacket.

I didn't get another spanking for a good while after that, I behaved really well, which looking back was probably the worst thing I could have done because I think it helped prove to my mom that sometimes spankings worked. I didn't get spanked that often, mostly for major stuff. Also, lying was a guaranteed spanking in our house. I remember the winter of when I was 13 I was always in trouble and for a while seemed to get a lot of spankings, for going out when grounded, trying smoking, lying, vandalism, etc. My stepdad said that eventually I would get tired of having a sore bottom and start to act my age and behave. The worst part was that since I got spanked in the garage, my best friend who lived next door sometimes heard and would tease me the next day. He sometimes had to bend over his bed for a few licks of a belt on his jeans or shorts, and laughed at the fact that I still got turned over the lap like a little boy and spanked on my bare bottom. That embarrassment was worst than the spanking.

I only got it a few times after that. I got it at 14 twice, including shooting at my brother with my bb gun. My last spanking was at 15 for shoplifting. I complained like hell that I was too old for a spanking and how embarrassing it was. My stepdad said how embarrassed HE was that I still needed to be spanked across his lap, but that if I didn't want a spanking to simply behave. He would also point out how my little brother acted more mature than I did, and how he hardly ever got spanked, and how sometimes I was just "plain naughty" and needed it. Looking back, I think I did learn from it, but at the time would have given anything to have gotten it on the jeans, or with a paddle, rather than the embarrassing way I got it. But I think it is pretty embarrassing no matter how it is given, and for me the memory of how embarrassing and painful it was to get spanked that way definitely kept me in line and helped me grow up and I think it was effective.

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I read with interest your advice on how to spank children - the "bare bottom" question is one that is quite relevant to my household. I have three sons, aged 15, 12, and eight, all of whom get spanked on their bottoms when they are naughty.

I do not like to have to totally bare the 15 year old, for I feel this is humiliating, not humbling at his age. When I saw the advice on pulling the child's underpants into the crack in order to expose the buttocks this seemed like an excellent idea. My 15 year old son needed a spanked bottom recently for talking back, and this would have been a chance to try out this new method. However he has recently started wearing the tight boxer-briefs/trunks underwear that seems so popular amongst the youth of today! Unfortunately these underpants are made from a thick material that is quite "rigid" and is not flexible enough to pull into the crack. My son needed a spanking, but because this was thick material there was not a chance for a proper baring, not a proper smacking over the underwear.

I am a little concerned that my son may feel he "got away" with his crime, because he was not spanked properly.

As I have said, I don't want to give my son a complete baring, but spanking is made difficult because of his choice of underwear.

I should imagine this may seem like a bizarre problem, and may well be the only e-mail you have received on this subject, but I would appreciate any advice you are able to give me.

Thank you.
 

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I am a 13 year old boy who is still spanked at home. I've been reading some of the other comments and thought I'd tell of my situation. I get spanked bare bottom, and I think it is the most effective form of punishment for me. Usually, I am told I am going to get disciplined and my parents tell me to go to my room and wait for them. Then mom comes up, sits on my bed with me and asks me why I'm being punished. We talk about what happened, and why I need the discipline. I understand why, and I am given a chance to give my side of the story, and they never spank me unfairly. I then stand up, pull my pants and underwear down, and bend over a pillow my mom places on her lap. I am spanked with her hairbrush. It hurts, but I don't find it too embarassing. Mom knows I'm growing up and that I can't help any reaction I have, and it's not because I like being spanked. I feel really close to my mom after this, it's like a bonding experience. I know I will be spanked until I leave home, and that's fine with me. They are mom's rules, and I believe she knows what is best. I'd love to hear from anyone about my or their own situation.
 

Hey , i was looking at your site and i think before i begin i should tell you im only fourteen but see i have a problem... my parents think spanking is wrong ...but i feel bad and i know i need something more then just being yelled at our grounded i think what i need is a good hard spanking . But they wont do it no matter how bad i feel they tell me that they wont spank me because that wont solve anything. Can you please give me some advice?
 

I am a 14 year old boy. I am spanked regularly for different offenses. I think it works better than any other form of punishment. The only thing that I am concerned with is how by parents spank me. They force me to take down my pants and boxers in front of them. This is really embarrassing for me. They have no respect for my privacy. Recently I saw my doctor and he told me I have gone through all the tenner stages of development. I think it is different when you spank a nine year old. They don't have any signs of development around their gentiles. My parents don't have any respect for privacy. This was a great site.
 

I am a 14 year old boy that found some of the comments from teens seeking to be spanked by their parents or guardians most interesting. My situation was somewhat different, but along the same lines.

My parents divorced when I was 7 and I ended up living with my dad most of the time as my mom travelled quite a bit for her job as a journalist. I did spend a good part of my summer vacations with mom. The divorce was amicable which made things go as well as possible under the circumstances.

Both parents had spanked me, usually a few swats on the seat of my pants. When I was 9, my dad remarried. My stepmom Janine was really good to me and I liked her, but she was a strict disciplinarian, and with dad's blessings, she started administering my spankings on the bare bottom. I had a difficult time accepting these spankings at first, but then came to appreciate this needed discipline. Naturally they hurt more and were more embarassing, but I had to agree the spankings were more effective than the swats on the seat of my pants, and I found myself getting spanked less often.

A few months later, I was spending two summer months off from school with my mom. One evening, we were staying at a hotel as I had gone with with her on one of her job assignments. She got rather upset with me when I talked back after she told me I could not watch a pay-per-view movie as it was too expensive. After a moment of silence, mom indicated she was going to spank me for my outburst and walked over to the bathroom vanity returning with a hairbrush.

Mom sat down on the bed, faced me and instructed me to bend over her lap. I hesistated for a moment, debating if I wanted to ask her to pull my pants down. Mom gave me a really impatient look and then I finally got the courage to explain my feelings to her. She was a bit surprised as I told her about the recent change in my discipline, but she nodded affirmatively and agreed that she thought it was best too. Mom proceded to lower my pants and shorts and gave me a fairly hard spanking. Later as we went to bed, she praised me for speaking up, as she would have been upset if she had learned about my getting being spanked bare from either my stepmom or dad after the fact.

Mom continued spanking me bare from that day and she discusses discipline issues with my dad and stepmom as well. Now that I am 14, I'm seldom spanked, but it does happen once in awhile. At least in my case, directly confronting my mom about my feelings yielded the right results. My discipline has been good for me and has helped me to stay on a good path such as doing well in school. I understand how some teens feel a need for this discipline and urge them to directly confront their parents or guardians.
 

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Dear Spank with Love,

I thought this would help with other teens and parents in regards to punishment.

I'm writing after my first spanking as a teen. I'm 16 years old and was having problems with always being grounded as punishment. So I decided to ask my father to try spanking. I hadn't been spanked since I was 10. I showed him your site. We agreed to try it. I have a problem with back talking my Dad. That's the thing that usually gets me in trouble as well as disobeying rules. Well tonight, I came home one hour past my 11:00 curfew. He started to lecture me, and I back talked him. Actually I called him names. I was very angry and thinking back, I was being a brat. (It took a spanking to help me realise it)

He reminded me of our agreement and told me I would be spanked. I was taken into his den, and he left the room and came back with a paddle that he used to spank me with when I was 10. I was scared. I hadn't been spanked in ages.

I had to drop my pants and bend over his lap. By the time he was finished I was actually crying and thinking that this spanking idea was a rotten one. It killed.

But now that it's over, I feel better. I realise that he loves me and that I was wrong to back talk. The spanking at first felt like abuse, but it wasn't. It was just some hard smacks on the bare butt. It's really no big deal. But let me tell you, it sure beats grounding and I will never forget it. I want to be a respectful man and I think that hard spanking did the trick. I don't believe I could possibly back talk after that. It hurt.

Please feel free to have other kids or parents e mail me. Spankings are embarassing and they hurt bad but talking about it and if more people would just accept it, It won't be such a big deal. Just discipline you know?

Thanks

Alan