Reader's feedback, Mar 2001
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: uncooperative children.
Date: Fri, 30 Mar 2001
you have the answer for the uncooperative child. one of my kids kicks
and squirms during a spanking. recently i gave a second spanking about
30 minutes later for his being hard to handle during a spanking. since
then, he is very still while over my knee. the second spanking while the
bottom is still smarting only takes a few pops to really bring back the
burning.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: (no subject)
Date: Wed, 28 Mar 2001
I am still spanked and i am 17. although i don't like it, i do understand
that it is for the best. i am spanked over the knee with a paddle. i spank
my sister (8) when i am left to baby-sit and she respects me more for it.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: spanking technique
Date: Tue, 27 Mar 2001
i have read and re-read your site, and i do find it interesting. i was
never spanked by my parents, not a real spanking, i did have my fully clothed
behind swatted to get my attention, which did not hurt much. in jr. hi. i
endured being paddled a few times, fully clothed with a substantial wooden
instrument, and that hurt. the gym teacher paddled the whole class on the
bare once. i was near the end of the line, so by that time he was tired, so
i lucked out.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: spanking site
Date: Mon, 26 Mar 2001
i think your site is a GREAT source of information!
i was spanked when i was young up until the age of 16 by my father in several
positions.
when i was in bed i'd usually get it in the diaper position and always with a
bare bottom and a flat hand, and i can only remember a few times when i
resisted, but i was most often submisive
and when i resisted i was spanked even longer, and i realize now that this
punishment was deserved.
i now have 2 sons of my own ages 14 and 10, i was
wondering if you think it was still right for me to spank them in todays world
so far they have both been spanked for big misdeeds.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: (no subject)
Date: Tue, 20 Mar 2001
Hello,
this is a great website! I have 4 children
of 8, 11, 13, and 16 whom are all
spanked. they are spanked over the knee
until they are begging me to stop
which is usually for about 4 minutes. none
of my children have been punished by
me in any other way and will not be until
they leave this house.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: your website
Date: Mon, 19 Mar 2001
Your website ought to include research into the effectiveness/ineffectiveness
of using corporal punishment (CP) to control children's behavior. There is a
high, positive correlation between using CP, childhood aggression and
anti-social behavior.
I have a 14 year old child and I spanked him one time in his life (he was two
and wouldn't stay in his carseat while I was driving. I swatted him twice on
his diapered butt because I was afraid for his life). He cried and I cried.
That incident was enough for both of us and I decided to try other methods of
encouraging respect and obedience. My son is a great kid and we have a lot of
love and respect in our home, without the use of fear to "teach a good
lesson."
My parents used corporal punishment and I found the experience humiliating
and unnecessary. At some point we need to say, "the buck stops here" to end
the violence towards children. Children who experience violence end up
perpetuating their anger onto others through violent means, including hitting
their children...on and on it goes. I hope my son will treat his children
with as much love and respect as I have tried to show him so he too will
raise non-violent, loving children. If enough people made this same decision,
maybe this world really would be a "safer place to live."
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: From an pro spanking beliver
Date: 11 Mar 2001
Dear "Spank With Love"!!
I have just discoverd your internetsite, and I must gratulate you about your
sites!
Since I was a child I hav had the interest of spanking. I received spankings
from the earliest childhood up to the age of 25 (!!) an I find it ok and an
good method of upbringing/rearing a child and up to the earliest years of the
adolesens.
My last spanking i received as stated at the age of 25, because I then lived at
home with an widowed mother. Mum was of the opinion that as long I was living
at home with her, I had to obey her infact that I was normally past the age of
beeing spanked. I must confess that I acksepted the rules of my mother.
Up to the age of 14 Ivas normally spanked by mums hand. After that sche choosed
to use an cane on mee.
The spanking had the following ceremony: If I had did somthin forbidden my
mother took me into her bedroom and lectured me and then she gave me an sentence
of f.ex 25 smaks with her hands on my bottom. After that my mother ordered me
to take down my trousers/shorts and then I lovered my underpants. The
spanking/caning was allways on the bare. Mum sat down on her bededge with
parallel bones and knees, then she ordered me to lay across her lap, my bones
to the left and my head and arms to the right.And then she begann to spank
me,allways she had the habbits of counting her smacks, I can assure you that
those smacks was hard but allways done with lowe from her. If i moved, then she
wuold add two more smacks.After the spanking I was told to stand in the corner
for about 15 minutes.After that I was allowed to take on mee my underpants and
trousers. When I went out of the bedroom of my mother, she allways treatened me
kindly and like an friend. I accsepted this form of punishment as the best and
most good for an child.
(from Norway)
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: Web Site
Date: Wed, 7 Mar 2001
Have just reviewed your web site and found the information interesting and
informative. I have a Master of Arts Degree in clinical psychology, but
unlike the vast majority of my colleagues do not feel that spanking is always
an inappropriate option. I have worked with children for many years. Based
on my personal experience and the observations of kids I've case managed the
"with love" part is the most critical aspect of the spanking (provided it is
a "spanking" which I do differentiate from physical abuse). Children who are
spanked occasionally by loving parents seem to manage just fine. Those who
do not have the love suffer trauma from the experience. I also believe it is
critically important to use positive reinforcement and reward good behaviors
along with punishing the bad. In my opinion, spanking should be done very
sparingly and on rare occasions when the behavior is dangerous to the child
or others or the parent is trying to impress upon the child the seriousness
of his continued misconduct. Certainly there is no justification for
excessive force or spanking beyond what is necessary to get the child's
attention.
There is one aspect of your web site that is, in my opinion, a bit
controversial. That aspect is the issue of spanking bare bottom. True,
there is the advantage of visual cues so that the parent knows when the child
has "had enough". However, I feel that even prepubescent children have a
sense of modesty and dignity they would like to protect, even when
interacting with parents. I was spanked as a child, but I only recall my
mother pulling down my panties on one occasion. I was only 8 years old at
the time and am female, but I remember feeling unnecessarily "violated" by
having to bare my bottom. I believe I would have been even more so had my
Dad been the one giving the spanking. Panties or underwear do not diminish
the sting that much and parents can always compensate for the small amount of
pain diminished by adding 2 or 3 extra spanks. I was generally spanked by
both parents with skirt or dress up but with panties on and the sense of
dignity and modesty was not compromised as it was when my bottom was bare. I
would wager that most children would prefer a few more spanks with underwear
on that less spanks on a bare bottom, probably depending on age.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: good site
Date: Sun, 4 Mar 2001
I think your site provides needed information for
today's parents. I find your advice to be useful, but
don't think privacy should always be an issue when
children of the same sex are spanked together.
Sometimes watching a sibling get spanked can be a real
deterant. As for me, I credit the first real spanking
I got for helping me to turn out ok. The first
spanking I got came from my mother's older sister. My
mother was a single mom who had trouble with my
brother and I. One day while telling my aunt how bad
we were, my aunt suggested that we should be spanked
and that she would gladly do it for her. After one
particularly bad day, my mother decided she had had
enough and called my aunt. My aunt came into our room
and told us that she wanted us to think about two
things: the first being how much trouble we were
putting our mom through, and the second was that when
she came back into the room, she was going to give us
a spanking that she promised we would never forget.
The next twenty minutes or so seemed like hours as I
thought about the spanking we would get "that we would
never forget". After what seemed like an eternity, my
aunt walked in with my mom and placed a chair from the
kitchen table in the middle of the room. She sat down
on the chair,took a wooden brush out of her purse, and
called my older brother who was eleven over to her.
With my brother facing her she told him "I'm doing
this because I love you and don't want you to turn out
bad. I'm going to take your pants down and spank you.
It will hurt very bad and crying won't make it stop".
She then unbuttoned his pants, and lowered his pants
and underwear to his ankles. She layed him over her
lap and began to slap his bottom with the brush slowly
and methodically. Soon he began to squirm and kick.
Then he reached back to cover his bottom, begging her
to stop. She pinned his arm down and continued to swat
his bare bottom. When he stopped begging her to stop
and began to cry in earnest, she began to rapidly
spank him, bouncing the brush off his now very red
bottom. The first thought that went through my head as
I watched my brother getting spanked was a feeling of
embarrasment for him as my mother, aunt, and myself
watched him squirm and cry over my aunt's lap, his
hanging testicles flopping between his legs with the
beating, trying in vain to get his bottom away from
the punishing brush. The second thought I had was one
of intense fear, knowing that soon I would be the one
crying over my aunt's lap. My brother came off of my
aunt's lap sobbing uncontrolably, tears streaming down
his cheeks, and his bottom glowing a deep shade of
crimson. She made him stand with his pants down as she
told me that I was next. She then bared me from the
waist down and began to spank me. The embarrasment I
felt at first was soon replaced by an intense desire
to have the spanking end. I was shocked at how much
the brush hurt as it stung my buttocks. It felt like
my backside was being stung by a nest of hornets. When
I broke down and began to cry, she finished the
spanking with a series of hard, fast swats. I stood up
and my butt felt as if it were on fire. She said,
"Keep your pants down until I tell you to pull them
up". She then called my brother to her, still
bare-bottomed and crying, and said, "Have you learned
a lesson, or do you need to go over my lap again?".
Needless to say, he had learned a serious lesson. She
then told him to pull his pants up and gave him a hug
and told him that she loved him. Then she did the same
with me. This was the only spanking my aunt ever gave
us, but it left a lasting impression on my brother and
I. My mother gave us a few spankings in our life after
that, but few were ever needed, just the threat of one
was usually all it took to straighten us out.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: A Suggestion
Date: Thu, 01 Mar 2001
Hello!
This is a very thoughtful site. I agree with you
that spanking should only be done with the hand. I
am a mother of two very active boys ages 6 and 9,
and I am a firm believer in giving them lots of hugs
and kisses, but also in spanking their bare bottoms,
whenever they need it, which sometimes can be pretty
often.
I have a friend who has a 5 year-old son who is
really a monster. This is the kind of child who is
always breaking things. When the child really gets
out of hand all my friend does is give him a few
swats over his clothes which have no effect at all.
I have told her that she needs to spank his bare
bottom, but she says that she just can't bring
herself to do it because she is very afraid of
making his bottom red. She thinks that it will do
damage to her son's bottom.
I have tried to explain to her that a red bottom
will not do him any harm, and that the redness only
lasts for an hour or so. I told her that with my
boys not too much time goes by before one of them
will end up with a good red bottom, especially the 6
year-old who can really be a handful.
I think that maybe you should devote a section in
your website to explaining to parents who might want
to start spanking but like my friend are afraid of
making their child's bottoms red. You could explain
that the redness is nothing at all like bruises, and
there is nothing harmful or damaging with giving a
child a good red fanny!
Sincerely,
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