I think spanking is very part of life for a child. My dad knew how to use a razor strap, and it kept me out of trouble and out of jail. He taught me respect for the law and my elders also my self. My children were raised the same way and I am quite pleased my last child to get spanked was 18, and she got a bare but spanking. She also knew as the others knew that if I got a call from their collage they would wind up OTK.

A careing dad.
 

Note: this letter is not anonymized on special request.

Dear SWL,

remember me, I wrote to you a few months ago saying how can I get my mum to spank me? Well I managed to ask her and so far it's been going pretty well, so I wanted to share it with other teens who might have the same dilemma (you can put my address if you want).

basically my main tip is to use two different styles of spanking depending on the occasion. We call them a 'hot spanking' and a 'cold spanking'.

Hot spanking is where I've done something stupid or bad like left the whole house in a mess when mum's been out (this happened a couple of week's ago). As soon as she finds out, she grabs my wrist and takes me to the nearest private place in our house, and makes me pull down my trousers or lift up my skirt. then she bends me over her kneee and pulls my knickers up between my bottoms 'cheeks', and gives me about 20 spanks with her hand, really hard and quickly, (this is why it's called a hot spanking!) until I'm usually crying. then I get dressed again and we hug etc.

Cold spanking is different, it's for when I've done something like talking back or being smart with her. This one is less painful but more embarrassing: first I have to get changed into my pyjamas, then go into my mum's room where she is sitting on the bed. Now I have to stand in front of her with my arms raised, and she pulls down my pj bottoms (I am not allowed to wear knickers). then she tells me why I am going to be spanked, while I'm standing in front of her. then I have to lie down on the bed on my back, and she lifts my legs up like the 'diaper position', and spanks me like that, but much slower, and we use this position so she can keep eye contact and tell me what I did wrong while she spanks me.

these two different types are good because no matter what the situation, one of them is best: for example the hot spankings are a goo 'short sharp shock', but with the cold spankings, if I've been talkin back to my mum or acting a bit clever, they really make me feel quite humble!

so please recommend these two types to your readers, and they can contact me if they want to.

yours sincerely,

K.Barry
 

I would implore you to please to the time to read my thoughts on your website. I see that your site gives parents instructions on how to spank a child, including bare bottomed. I am outraged that such practices can be encouraged by anyone. Most horrifying is that your webpage is entitles "Spanking With Love". Their is no correlation between spanking and love. This is the sad reality that pro spanking zealots are clueless to.

First of all I myself was spanked as child. Not in any manner that you might define as abusive, but exactly in the same manner as instructed in your site. I has some behavior problems due to the fact that my father had died when I three years old and there were many issues in my early childhood. Every time I was spanked I felt my self esteem grow smaller and smaller. I became a depressed child that feared everything and everyone. I later became so withdrawn that had to be placed in a special school for emotionally disturbed kids. With every incident my anger grew and I learned the art of hating others and had so much pent up anger that I acted out in ways that are disturbing.

The point I am trying to make is that there was nothing excessive in the spankings. I wasnt beaten to the point death or anything. But being a child inflicted with pain by my mother ruined my mind forever. Spanking never taught me anything but hatred and violence. I suffered from leaning disabilities as a result and fear or social situations. Spanking taught me in the long run that when you are angry at person you love, you hit. I have hit my mother on numerous occasions in my adulthood. Even though I tell myself that this is wrong and I will never do it again, I end up smacking her yet again in the heat of anger. This is what I have been taught. Spanking can ruin a child's brain. You are not teaching a child a lesson and helping them lean morality when you spank. You are abusing your child's mind and sould. Plain and simple. Spanking = ABUSE!

I hear the argument all the time that if spanking were wrong God would not tell us to do it. This is what my mother was taught in church. If you love your child you must spank. I was told I was being spanked out of love. Nothing but lies spread by so called Christians. God did not come down from heaven and write books on how to parent. The spare the rod spoil the child verse was never inspired by any god. Those are the words some ignorant child abusing men thousands of years ago who claimed their mind was the mind of God. We don't know for sure if God even exists let alone how God wants us to parent.

Many women in abusive relationships and marriages were once told as children that they were spanked out of love. Then some man comes along and begins to beat them, then excuses himself by saying "I love You". What the spankings from these women's childhood implemented in their brains is that thier men hit them because they love them. That they deserve it, just like they deserved to be spanked as kids. Spanked boys on the other hand can grow up to hit their women. Many boys while being spanked on the bare bottom can become sexually aroused from bloodflow to the genitals. They can later grow up to be child molesters from the abuse of spanking.

In conclusion, there is such a think as a loving spanking. There is no such thing a non abusive spanking. Spanking is hitting, hitting is violence, violence is evil and is not of God. With all the scientific evidence we have now on the effects of corpral punishment, it's tome to outlaw spanking in USA. If a husband pulled his wife's pants down and strck her bare bottom he would be arrested. Why then is it ok to do this sick act of vioence to a child. There needs to be a day when any parents or adult who inflicts deliberate pain and strikes a child be charged and jailed for assault, and any adult who slaps a child's bare bottom be jailed for sexual abuse because that is what it is, a form of rape. Stop the cycle of domestic violence now. Take down this evil webpage. You are promoting child abuse.

Think of Children. Please think of the children.
 

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about a week ago i was getting ready for bed when my stepmom came in to my room. she asked me to call for her before i went to bed. she said she had a surprise for me. i told her alright that i would and when i was got done i yelled to tell her i was about to go to sleep. she came in and said before i go to bed she wanted to talk to me. she sat down on the edge of my bed and asked me to stand up. i did and she took my arm and positioned me in front of her and pulled down my pajama bottoms and laid me over her knee.

at this point i was trying to figure out if i had done something to get spanked but i stayed quiet about it. she then started talking about how proud she was that i had taken to the new system so well and that she was happy that i was working with her. she talked for a real long time with me over her knee about how she had been doing some research on spanking and that was how all of this came about. she said that she wanted to start something she called bedtime spankings.

i have never heard of this and so i asked her about it. she pointed out that i shouldnt interrupt and said that she wasnt around me all the time so she couldnt always know if i had done something i wasnt supposed to and bedtime spankings were a way to cover that. she said that everynight before i go to sleep that she would spank me but it wouldnt be as bad as if i had done something right in front of her that i shouldnt. she was like you have done so well with everything and asked me to try with this too.

i have started to get used to this and she was right, the spankings arnt as bad like when i do something in front of her. it has taken a little bit of getting used to, but i think i am doing well and to some degree i am happy about about the bedtime spankings. what do you think?
 

Hey , I got another spanking yesterrdaey. I got it from my mom. my teacher called my mom about my behavoir in school that day. i talked all day , told the teacher to shut up , and got written up for hitting a girl. when i got home my mom told me to go to my room. she talked to my grama about what she should do , and my grama said that i deserved a good , hard , long , spanking. my mom came upstairs and led me to the living room. she pulled my pants down and led me to the couch. she asked me why i was getting this , and i told her it was cauuse i acted bad. she began spanking me with my underwear on , and i got alot. i think i got fifteeen. then she pulled down my pants and gave me a bunch more. i was crying really hard when she was done. she told me that i deserved that with all of my heart. i felt better , but was in pain. that was the biggest spanking i ever got.
 

Deart Staff:

I thought of a way recently in giving an over the knee spanking to a child. When the child is over your lap with their bare bottom showing, I thought it might be useful to take one of your hands and stretch the outer butt cheek applying taught pressure or stretching the cheek while smacking it allow for a little more feeling. Do you think this would warm their little fanny up more? Take care.
 

It was the summer i was turning18,dad was a salesman,mom stayed home with us kids.we lived in Ohio by Amish country.I decided one day to disobey and disrespect my mother,the younger kids listened and watched to see what would happen.mom just ask me to go to my room that she was disappointed in me.I stayed in my room when i saw my dad pull in the driveway.he came in the house carrying something.he talked with mom a minute or two then we were all called into the living room.Dad had stopped to talk with a "elder he was friends with and was told this was the punishment that his son received so dad borrowed the implementsWhen i got there i noticed a kneeler in the middle of the living room floor dad called my name and nodded towards the kneeler.i knelt,and with my butt bare ready he took outof his pocket a razor strap and proceeded to strap my butt untill it was a deep rose color i cried and yelled with the sharp stinging,then it was burning then hot (really HOT)as i got each welt i cyed out.then i was told to tell mom i was sorry which i did and as i walked towards my room my dad told the other kids what they saw was nothing compared to what i would get alone in my room later.i got it worse with mom watching and i relized you are never to old to be spanked!!! if this is put on the web try to put it on soon as i am moving and my not be able to get on line and see if it made it.great site and we all need a GOOD spanking once in a while.
 

I was wondering if you were aware of adults who were punished in the same manner as I was growing up. My parents were from Europe and their method of discipline would be considered severe. Whenever I misbehaved, I get a whipping on my bare bottom with a thin electrical cord. It would be doubled over like a belt and I would usually get ten or twelve lashes. The whippings were painful and would leave red lines or welts. My parents were not mean people. They were often very loving. My sister and I have mostly positive childhood memories, except for these whippings. Everyone I know was either spanked with a paddle or whipped with a belt growing up. So I was just curious if you knew others like me with the same childhood experiences. Please e-mail and let me know.
 

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