Reader's feedback, Jan 2001
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: great site
Date: Tue, 23 Jan 2001
Hello,
I am a twenty something woman, who has some problems with my sister's
kids, they are total brats! To the point of I won't let them in my house
without her. They steal, lie, talk back, all kinds of things I wouldn't
tolerate, and told her so.
I was spanked as a child although it wasn't very
often and I don't remember the individual spankings. But I know that for my
case it wouldn't have done any good to ground me. I loved reading, and being
by myself, so none of those new age punishments worked on me. I was also a
child who loved her parents dearly, and only wanted to please them.
Your site was very informative and well thought out. You presented both sides of
the story so to speak, in regards to spanking, and I think that more parents
should read this site. There would be a lot less abuse of children and also
a lot less bratty kids around. Keep up the good work!
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: (no subject)
Date: Mon, 22 Jan 2001
Hi!
I happend onto your site after getting to the end of my rope with my 7yr.
old daughter. I have two children the 7yr. old and a 11yr old boy. With our
son all we needed to do was tell him once maybe twice to do or stop something
and he would. Then came our daughter. We had tried time out, grounding, taking
things away, you name it. Well, two days ago she cut the dogs hair (for the
third time). I had had it. I told her she was going to get a spanking.
I had
never said such a thing before. I sent her to her room, and sat in mine
saying oh no. I called my husband in and explained to him what transpired. He
agreed we needed to do something. So I entered her room, told her what was
going to happen, why it was going to happen, and how it was going to happen.
Mind you I was never spanked as a child this was all new to me and my
husband. I took her over my knee and gave her 7 or 8 good spanks. Enough to
have her realize I meant business. Afterwards I held her and we talked. I
didn't say I was sorry for what I did, though I was. Afterwards it was not
mentioned again. The rest of that day and the following day she has been good
as gold.
That's when I stumbled onto your site. I don't agree with some of
the things you speak about, but I'm glad that what I did and how I did it
were "the right" way. My husband and I as well as our daughter have now
worked out a sort of contract with her. As far as what will constitute a
spanking and what will be a lesser punishment. We all feel comfortable with
this. I hope myself nor my husband ever have to spank again, but at least I
feel if it has to be we will be administering it with love and respect.
It feels odd though that I who never received a spanking and honestly never
"believed" a child needed one, would now be incorporating this into one of my
children's up bringing.
Thank you for making a very difficult decision a
little less stressful.
A relieved parent
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: No Subject
Date: Sat, 20 Jan 2001
To people who think hitting a child is acceptable,
I was horrified at the information I read on this web page. All it what you
want, but hitting a child, spanking a child, paddeling a child, is ABUSE. It
should never be done. And to read feedback from other people that actually
agree that its ok to hit a child is unbelievable. Anyone advocating spanking
should be ashamed. Childern should be loved, not hit.
Sinceryly,
I very upset reader
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: spanking
Date: Fri, 19 Jan 2001
i am a stepdad with 2 stepdaughters 6 and 8. my wife and i both spank.
we were already using most of what you suggested. they cooperate with their
spankings, so we spank them over the knee, which is what they like. we also
give them less super hard spanks since they like to get it over with in
less spanks. thanks for your page!
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: Your Web Site
Date: Tue, 16 Jan 2001
I believe that your web site is a brilliant source of information. We have
been far too soft in Western Society and as someone who was caned until the
age of 17 I know it is a punishment that really does work.
Everyone I know who was caned as school in England changed for the better
because they were caned, and although it seems barbaric in todays
"politically correct" times one cannot overlook the benefit it gave to
remove school bullies and improve social behavior.
My parent allowed me to get away with much too much when I was young but
fortunately I went to a strict school in England. When I was 15 I punched a
16 year old girl prefect in the face for trying to take cigarettes from me. I
was given 9 very severe strokes of the headmasters cane on the bare bottom
and for this reason I have never smoked and have never hit a girl or women
since this incidence.
It amazes medical practictioners that I have never smoked thoughout my life
but the reason is simply due to the severe caning I recieved. There have been
many times when I have wanted to hit my partner but I simply remember the
punishment I recieved as a 15 year old and control my feelings. I never told
my parents of this very severe punishment but they always knew
surreptitiously, as parents often do, that I was properly disciplined and
thanked the school for giving me what they should have done.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: (no subject)
Date: Thu, 11 Jan 2001
I have just read your web sight in a hope to be more open minded. I truly
cannot believe what I have read and there are so many parents that spank
their children on a bared bottom. I must say you have covered the topic with
incredible detail. Needless to say, I was never spanked. Paddling was the
preferred method of discipline in our school district from when I was in
elementary to High School. I was very scared in school and was never
punished, although once I came close, but got out of it due to my
intelligence. I cannot relate to anyone who has been spanked as a child. I
have two very well behaved children who would never be able to live in a
household such as those described. The reason I am looking into the websights
on this topic is because of the widespread lack of respect and obedience of
children today. I am appalled at the lack of manners children have today. We
trave! l frequently and I must say we (as Americans) are the rudest nation. And
why is this? Is spanking a viable solution? All the emails seem to come from
loving families with both a mother and a father, but what about all the
single parent families? What about the poor and those who lack the ability to
get this information so that children will not be slapped and beaten? What
do you feel is the best form of education for parents outside of the
Internet? Should schools become involved in the parental roles of spanking
since so many parents are not involved in their own children's upbringing.
Your points are well taken, unfortunately I am a person who could not
administer a spanking. Perhaps I need to receive one first.
PS If there were any concerns that I would have with your book, I would have
to say the ages for spanking. Children of preschool age (under 5) should
never be hit. There are so many other ways to get children of that age to act
appropriately, unfortunately few parents are willing to take the time. They
want the quick fix.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: spanking.....the most horrible invention of man
Date: Tue, 9 Jan 2001
i am a 44 years old. my history is so long and full of loss in my life. i
have recently had flashbacks of my childhood spankings and have been
previously diagnosed with cfids, and bipolar. it turns out that i have ptsd
from my childhood. i had a thriving chiropractic practice which i lost. i am
currentley on disability and it can all be related to childhood trauma. no
matter how one spanks there is anger and violence associated. what about the
fear the little child experiences? the repressed feelings? i suggest you read
alice millers book, "for your own good". i am a christian, and bought in to
the dobson, ezzo, concepts of parenting, how horrible. and if you are a
thinking, feeling, compassionate individual and have any influence on this
organization...please consider this...read alice millers book.....i would be
shocked if you ever raised a hand to a child again.
sincerely,
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: Spankings
Date: Fri, 5 Jan 2001
I dont understand how some people, after hearing all the sucess stories from
children and grownups that were "spanked with love" can continue to criticize
with their left wing liberal views.
I too would like to share a story of my childhood. I was one of five children
and we were pretty poor. Since there wasnt much to deprive us from, perhaps
the only effective punishment would be to prevent us from going out to play.
My parents were very affectionate and found it very awkward to hug and kiss
us while we were being punished, besides they felt guilty since we had so
much less than every one else. So early on they felt hitting us was the way
to go.
We must have all agreed because no one ever complained (unless we
thought we took a swat for no reason which wasnt often). We were all spanked
when were young (under ten years old) by both parents but my father did most
of the hitting as we grew older and it was usually slap on the arm for minor
things and a strap to the legs several times for very bad behavior. My mother
would say "why dont you take them to their rooms, put them across your lap
and spank them." My father would say they are to old for that now.
I was the youngest of four boys and although he ocasionaly spanked my younger sister,
he and we felt that a man spanking a grown boy was unmasculine and we all
agreed. So when I was around thirteen I hadnt been spanked for about three
years and none of the previous spankings were especially memerable.
Around that time a friends mother saw me and my cousin smoking and told our
mothers. We denied that we smoked, but my mother warned me if she ever caught
me she would give me the spanking of my life. I didnt pay her much heed and a
few months later during the summer, I would sleep with just my shorts on.
One morning just me and my mother were home, I got up went to the kitchen to
have breakfast when my mother called me to my room. She was holding my genes
over her arm and asked me what was tucked under the reverse folded cuff. It
was of course a pack of cigarettes. I stood there dumfounded. She closed the
bedroom door and locked it, moved my dress chair to the middle of the room,
took me by the ear, grabed my brothers ping pong paddle and walked me to the
chair, sat down and put me across her lap.
I was much stronger than her and
could have easily broken loose, but I was so shocked and embarassed from
being caught that I did not resist. She pulled down my shorts and prceeded to
give my completely bared bottom the hardest spanking it ever got. She was in
complete control and I was in total submission, saddled across her firm but
comfortable lap. It hurt terribly and when she stopped spanking me, as much
as I wanted to get up I knew that I had to stay there until she dismissed me.
She gave me a good lecture, but never during this whole ordeal did she raise
her voice. I remained across her lap for several minutes sobbing and
listening as she softly told me that she love me very much. She pulled up my
shorts and let me up and I imediately hugged her and told her that loved her
more than anything in the world. She told me that if I ever disobeyed her
again, she would spank me the same way. Although I was able to sit down
imediately afterwards, my butt stung for a few hours with still a little
slight redness when I checked it in a mirror.
I never had to be spanked again and never smoked until years later when she
gave
me permission. She never told my father or any of my siblings. I know one
thing is certain that if my mother ever told me that I needed a spanking
after that time, no matter how old I was, I would submit to her. I believe
that a father relinqueshes that right when a child reaches puberty, a mother
has it forever. Throughout my life I ocassionally met a person, male or
female, that would hate their father, but I never met anyone that hated
their mother.
With that in mind I prefered that my wife spank our chidren and I only did it
ocassionally. However my wifes hands were small as was she and she said that
with three young children, that she didnt have the patience take them to
their room and spank them the proper way. Therefore she wanted me to spank
them when I came home from work. I wanted to hug and kiss my kids when I came
home. Besides I went to college at night and was not home every night. So I
made her a paddle about 3/8 inches thick, four inches wide, about six inches
long and an inch and a half wide handle. That solved the problem. She didnt
have to use it to often and I know why, she kiddingly swatted me with it
once in a while and it stung.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: Spanked
Date: Fri, 5 Jan 2001
I have only been spanked twice in my life.... they left quite an
impression on me. I think that spankings should be used very sparingly.
They make much more of an impact then being spanked every couple of weeks or
months. The spankings I got weren't very severe, but they were enough that I
never forgot them.
Once when I was six years old, my father and I were waiting to cross a busy
road and he grasped my hand firmly while we waited for the light to turn red.
I don't know what got into me... part of it was defiance. I wanted to show
him that I could do what I wanted and he couldn't stop me. Also, I wanted to
show that I was a "big girl" and could cross by myself... Anyway, while cars
were still coming, I yanked my hand out of his and darted into the street.
The cars coming stopped abrubtly (luckily for me) and I made it across
safely. The light turned read and my father walked across the street. I
could see the anger in his eyes, and I was scared. As soon as he got across
he bent me under his arm right there on the sidewalk and walloped me VERY
hard 10 times. I was so shocked that I didn't even cry until after it was
over. It was my first spanking ever.
The second time was more severe. I was 9 years old and (again, I don't know
WHAT got into me) I decided to draw a picture... on the new white and black
carpet with a black magic marker. ::Groan::. I drew a small picture, and
satisfied with my work, went outside to play and forgot about it. In fact,
my parents didn't even notice it for a week! By then I had forgotton all
about it. My mother came into the room where I was, dragged me out the the
carpet where I drew the picture. She screamed at me for a long time
(wouldn't you?) and then began to punish me. I must admit, she came up with
a very creative way. She brought me a bucket of warm soapy water and a scrub
brush. Then she told me to take off my pants and panties. She had me on all
fours, doggie stye. She made me push my bottom high into the air. Then she
told me to scrub the drawing. &nb! sp;While I scrubbed it, she smacked my bare
bottom over and over again. I had to scrub and scrub to get the marker
out.... it must've been over 6 minutes of continuous hand spanks. My bottom
looked like an over-ripe tomato when she was done with it. It really left
quite and impression on me.... to this day I don't like to see Magic Markers
::wink::.
So anyway, I think spanking is an acceptable punishment.....if done sparingly
and properly.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: (no subject)
Date: Thu, 4 Jan 2001
I read your site and highly recommend it to anyone who has children. I'm 47
and was raised by my mother and grandmother who believed in spanking. I wish
there was this kind of site for them to read then. I remember getting
spankings right up till I was 17. I have three brothers and we all recieved
bare bottom spankings when warrenitted. When we got older it was more severe
like by the strap.
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From: [email protected]
To: [email protected]
Subject: Spanking
Date: Tue, 2 Jan 2001
Firstly, a very interesting site, I was spanked frequently as a child,
and realise now the importance that was given to the position I was requested to adopt.
My Father who was a staunch believer in Corporal Punishment spanked to
punish and for no other reason, he always explained why he felt it
necessary to spank me which added emphasis to my wrongdoing, a
spanking was nothing to be ashamed of he constantly reminded me, that
was reserved entirely for the misdeed I had perpetrated.
The OTK position as he sat on a chair was usually favoured, my head
would be inches from the floor and his left arm would wrap around my
back holding me firmly in position, one of my legs would intertwine
with his allowing minimal movement, my two hands had to remain on the
floor, and the warning not to move them was always given.
Every spanking ever given was administered to my bared bottom, again
this added emphasis to my punishment, in retrospect my father was
actually quite puritanical, to be seen Nude was considered "RUDE" in
our home, Private parts as we referred to them were exactly that,
"private" showers and baths were always taken behind the closed
bathroom door.
When a young boy Dad used his palm to spank my bottom, the spanks
varied in their number, my bottom had to be seen to be the colour
red, and I had to be heard to apologise for whatever misdeed I had
perpetrated.
When I entered my teenage years, Dad used a table tennis bat, I was
instructed to lay down on my bed on my back, and then raise my two legs
upwards pointing towards the ceiling, he would then wrap his arm around
my two thighs lifting me slightly higher, both buttocks were then
entirely at his disposal, the table tennis bat which was made of
pine would then swat each buttock in turn, usually ten swats each, the
noise on impact would echo around my bedroom followed by my yelping.
Dad was never "lenient" and used the Table tennis bat very effectively,
This position enabled him to manoeuvre me in anyway he desired, bend
my legs further backwards and my bottom became more accessible,
ocassionally he would swat the inner buttocks where the skin is far
more tender, he swapped the Table tennis bat for either a plastic ruler
or wooden one, my anus being exposed was naturally very embarsssing
for me, which again added much emphasis to my punishment.
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