I find your recommendations to be very helpful. Allow me to share my own experiences in disciplining my 15 year old daughter.

I agree wholeheardedly that there should be due care taken in respecting the feelings of embaressment among older children with regard to their bodies. I spank C(...) on her bare bottom, but she is already prepared for the spanking by the time I enter her room. Customarily, I send her to her room (when others are not around, of course), and wait a few minutes before entering. This allows her time to think about the gravity of her mistake and also to remove her pants/undergarments. In this fashion, I do not see her front side. None the less, she often turns her head to me to acknoledge her wrongdoing. With her buttocks on the edge of the bed, I talk sternly but lovingly to C(...).

She is very vocal during the spanking, but as your website points out, this is not to be discouraged. Signaling that the spanking is over, I give her one more light tap on her butt and I stand up facing in her opposite direction. This affords her to put on her pants and underwear. When she is fully clothed again, we sit on the bed and I put my arm around her to let her know I care. After a few moments of embracing, she usually smiles and we can get back to normal.

I hope that this experience could help other readers who face the same dilemmas I am in raising an older daughter.
 

Hello,

I wanted to write in and tell you that I really like your site. It is very informative and really clears up a lot of the typical misconceptions about spanking. I am a rising author. I have not published anything yet, although I am working on two books, one about the United States Government fulfilling end times prophecies and one about the usage of domestic discipline in a marriage. Even though your site is about the spanking of children, I have found a lot of it useful in my book and I have been thinking a bit now about eventually writing a child discipline book and since your site has the best info available, I thought we might collaborate and use some the info in your site in the book. It may be awhile before we begin. I'm still struggling through the miasma of my other books and it looks as though I may be moving to LA within another two months or so. What do you think?
 

Interesting and informative site you have! I was reminded of the sole "real" spanking I got, at around age 6. I had done something wrong, nothing major, but then lied and claimed I hadn't done it. When my father discovered that I had, he lectured me about lying and told me he was going to "teach me a lesson."

He took me to my room and told me to take down my pants. I knew what was coming and was none too happy about it, but there was nothing I could do about it so I put up no resistance. When I had taken my pants down, my father pulled my underpants right down to my ankles and lifted me over his lap. I had a terrible tight feeling in my stomach and abdomen. He asked me if I was ready for my spanking, and I said yes. There was a second of awful anticipation before he spanked me.

I remember being shocked at how hard he spanked and how much it stung. I started bawling at once and he gave me a long, vigorous spanking. I felt very ill-treated but I never lied to him again!

Sincerely,
 

I am a guy in my mid twenties and I still get spanked by my parents, but mostly by my mom. I always get spanked on my bare bottom. Up until I was about 8, my parents spanked me with their hand, but as I got older they started using a thick wooden paddle or a belt. People have told me that I am too old to get spanked, but my parents are just really strict. Thay say that as long as live in their house then I have to go by their rules. I got spanked very often my whole time in high school because I got poor grades and for missing curfews. Now, I just get spanked for missing curfews and talking back. I always deserve every spanking I get. The worse one was when I was 17. My mom found cigarrettes in my room. I was at the age when I thought I knew everything. My mom told me that I was going to get it with the paddle. I thought she was joking cause I am much bigger than her and I did not think she would do it. I was wrong. She made me bend over my desk and I got 20 swats with the paddle that I will never forget. I had to lay on my stomach for awhile because I had a very red and very sore bottom. Immediately after my paddling, my father came home and found out what had happened and I got another spanking with my bottom still sore from the last one. My second spanking was also on my bare bottom. I had to bend over my bed, I was terrified while I waited for my father to come back to my room with the paddle. When my father came back he gave me 10 more swats, hard ones that came in about 30 second intervals. I cried like a little girl because my bottom felt as though it was on fire. After he was done paddling me, He told me that if I ever smoke again, the next spanking will be a lot worse. Needless to say, I never smoked again.