I truly believe that corporal punishment, given in love, justice and fareness, helps to strengthen the bond between parents and their children, and in some cases, is an absolute write of passage. I believe that there should be no upper age limit until a legal adult. The methods should be traditional and formal, and the punishment only given for already agreed offences. There should be a certain ritual to each session. I personally advocate elther a hand spanking or the cane, dependent on the age and seriousness of the offence. There should be a full and frank discussion before and after a punishment, this way the need for such measures will diminish as time goes on, as understanding is the key to maturity.
 

I am one who always was spanked on the bare bottom with a paddle. I was made to strip completely naked to receive my punshment. I have to kneel on the floor with my buttocks showing. I am 26 and I still get paddled with holes in it by my mother the same way. Only now she has increased the number of swats that I get. She is much shorter than me. I am 6 feet 2 she is 5 feet. For the spanking I have to kneel on the floor. I get on the average about 10 hard swats. Every time i misbehave I get the paddle on the bare buttocks. I get the paddle at least once a week. I deserve it though. I was paddled last week for not cleaning my room. I was paddled in front of all of my friends for talking back. This morning I was paddled for forgetting to mail a bill. A couple of months ago, my mom caught me smoking and she wet my buttocks prior to paddling me so that it would be more painful, it was. I got 20 swats and i couldn't sit. People think I am too old for spankings, but I still live at home so I have to follow the rules.
 

I just wanted to say that I think your website is really sick. It reminds me of an HBO documentary on Neo-Nazi's on the Web which I found very disturbing, but those sites have nothing on you guys! "Correct tools for spanking"???... "spanking positions"?? How does this not sound sick to you?? Maybe I'm just another dumb teenager who needs to be 'taught a lesson'... I don't know.

I just want to point out that the vast majority of the time spankings are not meticulously planned out. Parents spank their children when they are angry, frustrated, and irrational. I cannot remember one time when my parents sat me down and calmly informed me what I'd done wrong and that I was now going to be punished. This has been my experience and this is what I have witnessed throughout my childhood: your parents get mad and, lacking the patience to review the situation with a cool head, grab you by the arm and hit your bottom over and over again until you're crying hysterically. I doubt that this is the desired result of such "discipline," but that's what happens anyway. When I was a kid (which I suppose technically at 17 years old I still am) and I was spanked, all I felt was pain: physical for obvious reasons, and emotional because most of the time I didn't know what I had done that was so wrong that it would make my parents want to physically hurt me. I hate to use the words "always" and "never," but I know that if I ever have kids, I won't use the threat of a thrashing as a means of control. Anyway, I'm sure you get a lot of mail like this, so if you actually read this whole thing rather than just clicking 'delete,' I thank you for your time.