| My beliefs in Life, BDSM, D/s, and the Lifestyle - can all be summed up in a few words: Character, Honor, Integrity, Respect. It is how I view the world, what I insist upon from the world. I realize the world is not perfect, nor are the human beings in it. However, how we act, how we treat others, what we say, what we do, reflects who we really are. I have made choices in My life, to seek out, and enjoy the company of, those others in the world who are of strong character, are honorable, have great integrity, and a genuine caring respect for the world around them and the people in it. I also believe that I am not in the Lifestyle, but rather, that the Lifestyle is in Me.... I adore the BDSM Lifestyle, and all its wondrous gifts and the potential for building strong loving relationships, deeply caring and genuinely committed relationships, that far surpass any I could experience outside the Lifestyle. I believe that the sharing of BDSM (D/s) is a journey of self exploration and discovery, and a great opportunity for personal improvement, and growth, intellectually, as well as interpersonally. And a means to really get to know very special O/others in O/our lives. I believe that D/s is a 2-way street - that Dominant, and submissive, are in a way, equal, yet different... on parallel journeys that intertwine on so many incredible levels. As a submissive, I learned what it is, to really serve with one's whole heart mind body and spirit. As a Dominant, I serve the needs of My submissive, with all My power, My heart, mind, body and spirit too - I must see that her needs are met, otherwise she will not be happy nor content, and her heart will become heavy and her spirit will not sing with joy, and she cannot serve Me with her whole heart anymore, and the relationship will fail. So W/we are equal, My submissive, and I... equal , different, on parallel course towards the joys and exhilirations of a deep and meaningful shared D/s relationship. == =============================================================== My experiences have been incredible and wonderful, breathtaking and simultaneously heart-wrenching. I have shared immense joys, incredible thrills, and enormous disappointments, as well as heartbreak. These are all a part of life's journey, and I have learned at great personal cost, just how precious and fleeting life truly is. I started My journey when I was age 18, with a loving Domme on the East Coast, who over time, introduced Me to the Lifestyle and its many wonders and joys, and not long after O/our first meeting, went from a very naive young person, to living fulltime and learning and training, working towards earning My very first collar - "submissive-trainee-under-consideration". Months later I earned that training collar, and months after that, My "full submissive" collar, and the right to finally address Her as "Mistress"! What a journey that was! Full of ups and downs and goods and bads, but I made it and the joy I felt was immeasurable!! She saw more potential in Me than I saw in Myself, and not long after, during one of O/our evening before-bed conversations, She confided that She saw great potential in Me, the potential to become a "full slave" -- I was stunned, and could not see Myself as a "slave!?!" But even while it sounded impossible, and unlikely, inside Me, in My heart, it sounded so very right -- and I believed in Her words, that I was not yet complete, that I had more hunger, more yearning inside of Me than I could understand. So She gently, lovingly, urged Me to push Myself to find out. To go beyond what I had accomplished so far, and strive to do more, explore Myself more deeply than I believed I had the courage to do -- My gawds, what if She was right?!? With Her knowing and caring Guidance, I continued My journey, striving to push Myself and learn more about what was inside of Me, and slowly, gradually, learning how to feel safe in letting it show, around Her, and around O/others. I ultimately did earn a "full slave collar" and She saw still more inside of Me, and as much as I adored Her, I could not say "No" to Her, and so further I went, deeper, with eagerness and a trust in Her, that I would never have dreamed possible. I went on to become Her "pleasure slave" and what a world of experiences that was!! Unfortunately, that relationship ended after just over 5 incredible years, and I experienced a heartache beyond measure. It took a while to get over the loss, but I moved on, with the help of some caring Others, who also saw promise in Me and showed Me the glories of the awesome power of Dominance, as well as the immense responsibilities, which I learned over the following 2 years, and learned a new respect for My most wonderful First Mistress, and All Dominants everywhere. Domination in the D/s sense, is not about manipulation of the weak, or oppression by fear - but rather a sense of loving giving and genuine caring for the well-being of O/others in our lives. It carries enourmous responsibilities with it that must be treated with the utmost care and respect, and taken most seriously. |