| September 1, 2001 | Vol. 1 Issue 1 |
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Well let's see, HELL! I went in about 6:00, February 16, 1999 to have my baby. I was going to have to be induced; my beautiful stubborn daughter (just like me) did not want to make her entrance in to this world, so 2 weeks after my due date my midwives decided they better get the show on the road. I went to the hospital and got settled in. They weren't going to give me pitocin until in the morning so I had all night to lay in the hospital scared out of my mind. The inserted something called cervidil into my cervix to get my cervix ready. They told me that this would not start the contractions. "All that will start tomorrow", so they said. They were mighty wrong. At 9:00 about an hour after the cervidil I started to have sharp pains in my lower back. This was of course about the time that my mother and my boyfriend had stepped out. I was a little freaked out, needless to say. I labored all night. In the morning after 11 hours of labor I had only dialated about 2 centimeters (I was a little mad), so I had to have the pitocin. They gave me a shot of that and I thought the world was going to end. The pain got twice as bad. I was sick to me stomach throwing up. It was not fun. Two hours latter I was 4 centimeters so they could give me an epidural (so much for natural, I was begging for that thing.). Finally after 13 hours of pain I could sleep. I slept for about 3 hours then my midwife came it and said that she would check me in 30 minutes. At 1:30 she comes it to check me. "I can see the hair" she said, my baby had crowned and I hadn't felt a thing. My mother ran to get my boyfriend. His response, "Do I have time to finish my lunch?" My mothers, "NO! The baby is coming". I pushed for 20 minutes, it was easy (I felt nothing)! I laughed at my midwife's jokes. At 2:05 my baby was born. A beautiful little girl, 7lbs 10ozs and 21 & 1/2 inches long. It was the most amazing feeling I have ever felt in my life. Poems
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Articles: By Heather D. As I sit here, contemplating what to write I wonder
what would help YOU most. In my introductory article I do
not want to subject you to the harshness of many of
opinions (because perhaps you won't read again). But I
want instead to share a bit of my story, knowing that you
can identify with at least part of it. When I was
fourteen I started seeing this "man" who was
6.5 yrs. older than me. Through out our relationship,
which lastest until I was 17 he put me through the
wringer in every way possible. He took my money, my
dignity, even my bedroom (I slept next door at my
grandparents house for almost a year). He cheated, lied,
and raped me. When I found out I was pregnant I was 15.
He took of to Florida, did god knows what and even tried
to pull the its not mine you are just trapping me
routine. Getting pregnant litarally saved me, I now had
some one who needed me more than I needed myself. You
grow up real fast when you figure that out. My daughter
was born half way through my junior year of high school.
I took the six weeks off, had a tutor for four of them.
At the end of year I received an award for being on the
honor roll all four semesters. This was my first step
proving every one wrong. Skip to senior year. I had a job
part time to pay for my daughter's needs, the crappiest
car ever, and attended school full time. In November my
boyfriend revealed to me just how sick he really was, by
informing me that he did not want to take care of our
daughter any more because he "sometime's felt like
doing things to her." At the time he was watching
her 3 days a week while I was in school. To ashamed and
afraid to tell any one, I started skipping school to
prevent anything from happening. Thankfully in December
he found some one who would give me a place to live, and
a completely open relationship (meaning they could sleep
with who ever they wanted). In a matter of hours, I was
again a new person. My head was clear and I knew I had to
keep my daughter away from this monster. A few months
later I met a wonderful man, who fell in love with both
of us. He has been her father since she was 1.5. I
graduated high school, and started college. It was very
hard, I won't lie. Taking 5 college classes, working part
time, and trying to balance home life. I got married just
over 3 years ago, and am able to stay at home with my
daughter and am expecting my second next month. We own
our house and two cars too. I am not bragging, although I
am extremely proud of my life, I am saying all this to
show that it is possible to succeed against any odds,
especially the ones we have to deal with. My daughter's
biological father has not seen her in four years next
month. Very shortly my husband is legally adopting the
daughter that is in everyway his already. In closing, I
just want you all to know: You are not alone. Sometimes
it feels like the world is out to get you, but there is
always another person who knows exactly how you feel. It
is up to you alone to fix your situation, don't wait for
your signifigant other, your parents, or the government
to save you. You have to do it yourself. With the endless
possibilities of the internet you have many ways to
network with those of us that have been where you are and
those who are standing next to you now. |
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