This questionnaire is intended to allow you to give some careful and serious thought to collars, both in general and when considering giving or begging one.  If just filling it out to give some thought, perhaps keep a copy on hand with your answers, they may change.  If taking it to decide whether to bestow or beg a collar, it may be a good idea to take it more than once, for your answers may change over time, and even to share the questionnaire with each other if you feel comfortable with that.  If you don't feel comfortable with that, perhaps you need to rethink the collar.

Just fill the questions out in this document, and save the whole thing.

1.  What is a collar? What does it mean in general and to you personally?


2.  What do you expect of one whose collar you wear, or who will wear your collar?  (slaves answer this honestly, not the standard "Whatever he wishes."  That answer is a cop-out and allows him to learn nothing of you, allows you no chance to learn and grow, and is *very* lazy.  Yes, he will decide how things go, but you and he both deserve to know your feelings and thoughts.)


3.  Do you view a collar as permanent, or do you believe people outgrow them?  If you have been collared before, how long has the longest lasted for you, how many have there been, and what is the average duration?


4.  Have you spoken to previous owners of the slave you wish to collar, or her previous chain sisters?  If you are slave, have you spoken to slaves he has owned?  What concerns did this raise?


5.  Do you think yourself a good Master/Mistress/slave? Why or why not?


6.  Are you wishing a collar to go from online to real life?  In what time frame, and what expectations have you for this, or special considerations?  (i.e. children, marriage, location, career)


7.  What personal details of this person do you know?  This includes everything from hair colour to sugar and cream in coffee, to religious beliefs and their views of the world in general.


8.  What are your views on humiliation as a tool?


9.  What do you view as the best possible discipline given your current situation?


10.  Do you live Gorean philosophies in your day to day life?  Give examples.


11.  Is Gor a lifestyle, a set of beliefs, or an online interaction to give BDSM some flair?  Explain.


12.  Are you more interested in the sexual or the psychological aspects of this lifestyle?


13.  Free, if a girl displeased you, how would you deal with it?  List examples for minor errors, large mistakes, and deliberate misbehaviour.  Slaves, if you displeased, how would you expect it dealt with?  List examples as above.  Would your expectations be different for a girl you owned or did not, or for a Free who owned you or did not?


14.  What is more effective, physical punishment, mental and emotional discipline, or release?  Why?


15.  Are there things you refuse to allow?  For Free, that means do you intend to place restrictions?  For slaves, that means are there things you are incapable of or simply will not do?  Before you answer, think carefully on things such as children involved, physical inabilities or disabilities, religious beliefs, and so on.


16.  If you could create Gor as you wished it, what would you change?  Why?  Do you still feel you are Gorean despite this?


17.  How long have you known this person?


18.  Slaves, do you feel begging release is okay?  In what circumstances is it, and is it not?  Free, do you feel that if a slave begs release, you will release her, or refuse and force her to either live the collar out, or lose value?  


19.  How many names have you had and name them?  This question will mean little to players, so be careful of one who says "I have always been this."


20.  Are you willing to wait a set period of time and decide if this is the right thing, and if you know this person?  If you are not willing to wait, list the reasons why.  Sometimes this alone will show you that you are perhaps not ready for it.


21.  Free, to what depth does your responsibility for (not to) a slave you own go?  Slaves, how much do you expect an owner to take responsibility for, and what do you feel falls on your shoulders alone?


22.  How long have you known of Gor, been a part of it?  How many of the books have you read, and do you own?


23.  Do you ever find that the person you are interested in does or says things you do not agree with, and find yourself saying, "I don't like ... but that will change with a collar."?  Most times, it does not change, so be careful of this and think it over carefully before answering.


24.  Do you feel your happiness plays a large role in collars comings and goings?  Is your happiness hinged on owning someone, or being owned?  Why or why not?


25.  Have there been collars in the past?  Why did they fail, and who did they involve?






This Questionnaire is supposed to have made you think.  Do not be surprised if you take it again in a few weeks and find the answers changing with your growth.