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ADVICE ON MEETING THE PUBLIC
by
Terilynn Richards
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I've heard
many comments recently concerning the remarks some of you have
received from the public, while you were out dressed en-femme.
Well, I'm no expert at going out, but I do it alot these days.
And yes, each time I go out, I get read by a few people - probably
more, but the others don't make it obvious.
The
last time I got a rude comment from a female, I replied, "Pardon
me! What did you say?" Most apologize at this point,
whether or not they are sure about you. If they don't, (which has
happened to me), I say, "Ma'am, do you have some concerns about my
appearance?" At this point, any respectable woman would certainly
apologize and drop the matter. If not, you could add (politely,
of course), "You could use a little sprucing up yourself." If we
keep it civil, but stay firm, most folks will drop the issue. You
don't have to apologize for your appearance.
I get
read at least by one person on each outing to women's stores, like
Macy's, etc. Once a girl pointed me out to her mother and I could
lip-read that she said "crossdresser." Well, I slowly made my way
through the isles until I was next to her. Softly, I said, "Am I
that unusual a sight?" She told me that they had never seen a CD
in person. I then added, "Well, how do I look? She said
that they were surprised how nice I looked. I thanked her
and we parted ways. (I did see a very tall CD in
Let me
give you an example of a recent outing:
I visited
a Kohl's store. As soon as I headed for the women's section, four
young female clerks spotted me. I noticed alot of looks, smiles,
giggles, and pointing to each other. Finally, I mosied up to
one clerk when she was alone and told her what I had observed.
I asked whether I was such an unusual sight. She was very open with me and told me that although she has heard of CD's, she has never seen one this close and certainly had never spo You do not have to take being insulted about
your appearance/gender. Just remember to smile, and if you
confront anyone, do it softly, in a friendly manner. But, also remember to stay strong
and firm in your response. You do not have to apologize for your
appearance. And if all your charm doesn't work, then you can
always try saying, "Ma'am, have you looked in the mirror lately?"
-- politely, of course.
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