That's life, i guess. There's no one set pattern. We all live different lives. What works for one may not work for another. The only correct answer is to just get out there and try...

1. Should I find someone who's into bondage, see if we fall in love and if we do get married?
2. Should I find someone to love and then see if they'll like bondage and train them after we are married?
3. Should I find someone to love and then see if they'll like bondage and train them before we are married?
4. Should I tie up everyone I date?
5. Should I just dream about doing it?