Speech Training

Speech training is very important as is shows respect for Masters and Mistresses.

In general, the submissive should begin and/or end everything they say with a respectful term. As an example "Master, may i have another, Master?". This example is to the extreme, as many will say that beginning a statement such as the above, needs on to be prefaced by Master or Mistress.

The submissive should usually speak only when directly spoken to, or after being given permission to do so. A submissive can request permission by either slightly raising her hand or indicating her desire through another established signal. By doing so the Dominant notes her desire to have an opportunity to speak.

This of course, does not apply to the use of safe words. No permission is required to utter the pre-established safe word. They are in place for the submissive - not the Dominant.

Some dominants do not allow their submissives to refer to themselves as "I" or use the world "me" or "my" in speech. Instead, they are required to speak of "your slave", "slave " or just "slave".

In the written form, you will see that the restriction of the personal pronoun "I" is prominant. submissives, if they do refer to themselves by name, never capitalize the first letter in their name (eg: blondie not Blondie). All other terms used to refer to themselves directly are also kept in lower case. The opposite holds true for the Dominant. All references to the Dom are to have the first letter in upper case.

Another modification of speech many utilize is the manner in which a slave indicates her desires to the Dominant. submissives are instructed to respond with "Master, if it pleases you Master" when that which the Dominant is suggesting is something that the submissive would enjoy. If the submissive is uncomfortable with that which the Dominant has suggested, the appropriate response would be "Master, only if it pleases you Master".

Although the rules with regard to speech may vary throughout the scene, it is impressive and a good reflection on both Dominant and submissive when manners are respected and words spoken precisely and correct.