My Kind of Spanking

I am sometimes asked what the kind of spanking I give entails.  The straight answer is that it depends on my partner at the time!  Some ladies like to be spanked very hard, some ladies not very hard at all.  The skill of the sensual spanker is to judge this.  You don't want your partner to be turned off by the pain of the spanking, she needs to be aroused by it which also means she needs to be taken to her actual, but not theoretical which is often another thing altogether, limit and maybe have that limit exceeded by a tiny bit otherwise she may feel cheated.  Well that's my theory and its worked pretty well so far

Here follows a copy of my response to a lady looking at the idea of being spanked for the first time and a little unsure of what such a spanking might entail:

"A typical spanking session - well difficult to describe as it varies in every case. With someone like yourself who is new to it you'd probably be very nervous. You're not 100% sure you won't be closeted with some maniac (although I promise you I don't look like one and I am not one) or someone who is going to turn your bottom purple and raw (I wouldn't unless you wanted me to - and I'm not sure I would even then).

I'd probably ease you over my knee and start spanking you over your clothing - not too hard. Assuming you were wearing a skirt I'd probably pull that up and continue spanking you over your panties - maybe pull the edges of your panties up and spank you a little on your bare cheeks. Just warming you up a little . Then I'd move to pull your panties down, maybe rub your bottom a little, spank some more, rub a little - maybe edge my hand down between your legs and if you didn't stop me rub your pussy a little too. Then carry on a little spanking, a little rubbing - and assuming you were really excited by it and didn't stop me I'd massage you around the clitoris until you came to orgasm - then spank you some more, rub you some more (all the time with the hand so far). If you were enjoying it I might try a little spanking with a hairbrush or a deck shoe (not hard) coupled with more rubbing and more orgasm(s) - I'm not exaggerating. If you're disposed towards multiple orgasms and you find the experience exciting you'd come a lot. Last lady I spanked came more than 10 times and the later orgasms were stronger than the earlier ones!

This lady also likes her pussy being spanked (everyone I've tried this on has found it exceptionally arousing) - some find that exceedingly erotic and apparently it makes the whole area very sensitive. If you weren't finding the pain too intense I'd probably spank you a little harder (well a spanking should hurt at least a little). Then things might progress sexually. I'd probably, at some stage, want you to make me come too and whether that's by hand, by mouth or penetrative sex would be up to you, but I'd probably need some kind of relief by then as I find the whole process extremely arousing too. From there on , some ladies have stayed the night some have gone home - and all have wanted me to do it again sometime - some again the same day, some the next morning when they've stayed over - or perhaps in the middle of the night too .

There's one lady I have spanked several times where no sex of any kind is involved ( I suppose apart from the spanking itself which should be regarded as sexual play) - very frustrating , but manageable. There are a couple where the sex is just mutual masturbation (but they come much more than me so its not really fair !) and the remainder (nine or ten) have had full sexual intercourse with me (protected). Some like to be spanked harder than others, some don't like to be spanked hard at all.

I'm very flexible!"

Of course some women like a little roleplay to be involved, some just like to be bent over and spanked.  Some only want a handspanking, some like implements, some like to be caned - or want to try that at least.  And some, as I mentioned above, like their pussy spanked (I'm told this can be quite painful, but exceptionally arousing).  I tend to use a strange implement for this - a long handled bamboo shoehorn where the business end could have been shaped perfectly for a pussy spanking , but I guess a wooden kitchen spoon would do just as well! 

I'd be open to other contributions to this page.  Ladies - do tell me what you would like from a sensual spanking - or think you would like, and let me know if you would like me to put your response up on these pages as a part of an ongoing discussion (attributed or anonymous - your choice).

Meanwhile if you think would like the kind of spanking I give do e-mail me.  You never know I might be able to get to your part of the world and oblige.

Charles