Genesis 2:18 says, "Then the Lord God said, 'It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him'." In life we all know what it feels like to be alone, and thus we understand why God said that it was not good to be alone. We often wish that there was "one special person" we could always talk to. We get so caught up in the "one special person" mentality, that we forget that Jesus died and rose from the dead and especially that He lives in us. We should be content with just God, but even God knew that some of us would not be content with just Him. Consider Adam walking literally with God, and yet God knew he needed someone else. I wonder if Adam even understood these desires. Adam only knew the animals and God. I wonder if he realized the desire that God created in him for companionship. It shows in a way, man's pathetic state, and yet at the same time, the sheer beauty of marriage. We can't be completely happy having a one on one relationship with an all knowing, all powerful, God. Yet at the same time, God created us to desire partnership, and He himself compares His love to us, as the feelings one would have toward a bride. Marriage is the small example of God's love for us.
All of us are concerned with whom we are going to marry, and for many, it starts at a very young age. Too few I feel realize that getting married is not the only path in life. I Corinthians 7:8-9 "But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I (single). But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion." I Corinthians 7:32-35 "But I want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; but one who is married is concerned about the things of this world, how he may please his wife, and his interests are divided. The woman who is unmarried, and the virgin, is concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband. This I say for your own benefit; not to put a restraint upon you, but to promote what is appropriate and to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord." Think a moment upon these things. As you are now, a teenager, you are single, you don't have to work a job to support a family. If you get fired from a job, if you have one, you just look for another one and don't have to worry about credit card bills, and grocery bills, clothing, and insurance. If you're married, you always have to tell your wife where you are going, and why, and how long you'll be gone, and get her permission. Getting married is a wonderful thing, but too many times people are so distracted by how Hollywood portrays it.
Hollywood marriages, on and off the screen are pretty similar. They are immoral, they have a different wife each week, pre-marital sex, and who knows, or wants to know what else. I understand that all cases aren't like that, but many are, especially on the movie you watched just in the past few weeks. It seems odd that we would see these movie stars, the role model of most kids today, and for some reason want to be like them. Jesus should be our role model, not movie stars.
When we read the New Testament we can look at fourteen people, Jesus, John the Baptist, and the 12 disciples. John never married, and Jesus said that there was no man greater than John the Baptist. The 12 disciples all left everything to follow Jesus, that means houses, money, boats, and even wife and kids. Jesus, we all know had women as friends, but did not marry, nor try to overstep friendship. Jesus is the example of perfect Christianity. Just as Paul says in I Corinthians 7:8 it is good to remain single. The example Christ set was to love all, and be friends with all, not to look for a romantic relationship.
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