Telling Others and Advice to Kids

One of the hardest things to do for a DL is to share thier secret. It took me over 20 years to do it.

The first person I ever told was something of a mistake. But every person I have told since has been very understanding and
supportive. The second person I ever told eventually (4 years later) became my wife. I have also told my sister. My wife has
told a few of her friends, who I have also talked with. The more people that know, the less of a big deal it becomes. There
are probably 5 or 6 people out there who know the real truth. And there is more than one way to tell people about it. There
are a lot of people who know I wear diapers, but they don't know the real reason.

At this point in my life, I am pretty open about the fact that I wear diapers. I don't tell people, but I don't hide it either.

A few tips if you are considering sharing your secret with somebody.

1: Make the decision to tell someone: In my experience, the only way something like this is going to come out, is if you
make a promise to yourself to do it. Make up your mind to share your secret, and then do it.

2: Your secret will be as big a deal as you make it: Telling somebody will be as big of a deal as you make it. If you play
it off as not a big deal, people won't think it is such a big deal. If you make it out to be the deepest, darkest secret in the
history of humanity, people will make a bigger deal out of it. My advice: don't blow it out of proportion. A good approach
might go something like this: tell your friend there is something you want to tell them about yourself. Acknowledge that it is
kind of different. "This might sound really wierd, and I don't even understand it myself, but my whole life I have always
wanted to wear diapers...."

3: Be selective of who you tell: It is impossible to predict how people will react to you telling them. Generally, if they really
care about you, it won't matter (assuming you are older. If you are 10 and tell your mom, I don't know what will happen). If
it is your first time, tell someone who is open minded! It is hard to explain open minded, so if you don't know what it means,
I highly encourage you to figure it out. Examples of people I wouldn't recomend telling: highly judgemental people, people
with control issues, extrememly conservative people, and people who don't really care about you. One possible way to test
how people might react: Ask them how they feel about homosexuality. If they think it is "wrong", or "bad" or "sick", be
careful! If they are accepting and tolerant (they don't have to like it, the important thing is that they don't condem it) it is a
much better sign.

4: If you are a kid (under 18): Coming out as a DL is even harder (much harder actually) if you are younger. Telling your
parents is an option, but be careful, they might not understand. If you have a good relationship with your parents, and they
are open minded and understanding, they might be OK with it. Try to homosexuality test and see how they react to that one.
But don't expect them to start diapering you again, or even let you wear diapers yourself.

5: Tell them by directing them to this website! Telling people by giving them this web address is an option. In fact, it is
one of the main reasons I made this thing! Use it!