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Most DLs have a vision of what the perfect partner would be. It might be another DL or perhaps someone who just loves playing a
parenting role. In a fantasy world such a person would love nothing more than to make sure your diaper is clean and change you
when it was not. Then there is reality. I think many DLs biggest fears are that they will never find anyone who can accept their
desire to wear diapers (never mind actually participating in such things). Some never do.

I got lucky. Not only did I find a wonderful, intelegent and caring girl, I also found a really cute, open minded, accepting and
supporting girl! I know a good thing when I find it, and now, four years later we are married.

Mrs. Sea Otter and I have talked at great length about being a DL and my personal history. She has always been supportive of me.
And while she does not enjoy diapers like I do, she has always been willing to allow me to do whatever I want and supportive of my
choices. In some cases she has been willing to let me play with her. To answer the question most DLs have, yes she has changed
my diaper before. But it is not a regular thing at all.

Mrs. Sea Otter also likes her privacy, so there are no photos of her or specific descriptions, but here are the real basics: Mrs. Sea
Otter was born in 1979. She is 5' on the nose and weighs 115. She has brown hair and blue eyes. I can objectively say that she is
very cute, and when she wants to be, she is downright beautiful. Mrs. Sea Otter graduated from college. Her parents are still
married and she also grew up in a loving home.

Mrs. Sea Otter told me that she also wanted to contribute to this site. In order to help her address some of the question I think DLs
might want to hear about, I have given her some prompts(in blue).

What do you remember feeling/thinking when I first told you I was a DL?

Answer: I can remember the exact location, the cold night air, the hot chai I had in my hand and thinking, hmmm that is
different. I had heard of infantalism on a talk show once but did not know any details. What I really remember is, as he is trying
to tell me through hints, thinking, "what in the world is this guy driving at?" At the end of the conversation I was just really
touched by the fact that he had shared something so personal and intimate with me and I wanted to maintain this trust,
honesty and respect that had been established between the two of us.

Do you think being a DL is really that big of a deal?

Answer: About as big of a deal as hair color to be perfectly honest. To me, this side of him is just an interesting personality
quirk, and I believe we all have them although we do not always share them or have a title to put on them. It does not harm himself
or others and can be kinda fun sometimes. If anything, I think this side of him makes him more snuggly and I LOVE that.

What are your thoughts on telling your secret to others? (should you even tell them)? Any suggestions on how to go about it?

Answer: I want to think that anyone you care about is going to be open and accepting because they love you and because
this truly is no big deal, but that is a perfect world. I believe in excersing some caution but you really have to go with your gut
instinct about the person. It has been my experience that when some of my friends have learned about it they think it is different
but take a "whatever floats their boat" attitude and remain non-chalant as they really are not bothered. At the same time, not all
my friends know because I just know that some of them are not ready to hear this and understand and do not really need to know.
I believe in living life honestly. So although I do not advocate flaunting certain things about one's self, I do believe in telling the
truth if asked directly.

What is it like to date a DL? Any advice for somebody who just learned that their boyfriend/girlfriend is a DL?

Answer: Dating a DL is like dating anyone else as far as I am concern. They are still the same person they just like to do
things a little differently. I was a little apprehensive the first time I saw him in a diaper. I hadn't seen a diaper that big before.
But after the initial curiosity died down, it just was. I now think he is cute in his diaper. He looks naked to me without it and I
miss patting his bottom with it on.

If you have just learned about this, ask them questions! Do this as much for them as yourself. Give it a little time to sink
in and you will probably find they are the same person as they were yesterday. As for changing a diaper, I do not LOVE it, but I
enjoy having a way to pamper (no pun intended) and care for him in such a tangible and simple way. I do not do it often but
definetely do not mind it now and then as a way to say I love you. And go for it! Try one on sometime, surprise yourself!