THEORETICAL ASPECTS OF

THOUGHT PROCESSING AND BEHAVIORAL SCIENCE

By   S . D . MEHENDALE ( March 2005)

 

This essay focuses  on various aspects of the titled theme, as I see it. The deliberations are neither listing other authors’ elaborations nor an exhaustive and comparative treatment of the subject. All the thoughts are as they occurred to me. You may also read my relevant essays on some of the sub-topics for my detailed views ( Thought processing, Perception, Vaisarth, Practical lessons for behavioral  improvement, Tips for behavioral improvements available on internet in my website:< geocities.com/sdmdom/index.html > (home page) and inlaid pages of the website: <geocities.com/sdmdom/a.htm>  and also …b.htm, c.htm, d.htm, e.htm, f.htm, g.htm ).

 

Various sub topics discussed here are:

  1. Five major aspects of behavioral science
  2. Negative attitudes, conditions
  3. Bap ka maal’  Attitude
  4. Thought Processing
  5. Exercise / training needed for human uplift
  6. Possessiveness
  7. Evolution / revolution
  8. Ultimate aims of actives / inactives
  9. Tapasya
  10. Self realization
  11. Life / death / rebirth
  12. New thoughts
  13. Siddhhi and modern gadgets.
  14. Creator / ownership
  15. vastness of universe

 

1.FIVE MAJOR ASPECTS OF BEHAVIORAL SCIENCE

( Discussed in detail in my essay “ Tips for behavioral improvement”)

 

a. REVIEW: Review of self, society, religious, economic, health, scientific views is necessary on an ongoing basis for improvements.

 

b. OPENNESS: Openness is required to improve awareness, consciousness, adaptability, desire to inspect new ideas, adoption of new ideas. This will open flood gates of improvement.

 

c.DILOGUE: This is the greatest tool to seek information, give counseling to needy, identifying strengths/ weaknesses/ requirements of self and others, improving awareness and being a constructive part of society.

 

d.NAK DABLE KI TOND UGHADATE: To make stubborn understand and implement good advice, corner them, shut their nose to open their mouth. Polite advice, counseling, don’t help sometimes. In such difficult cases, you have to force them ,their back to wall and nowhere to run . Solely at your mercy, they follow your advice.

 

 

e.SURVIVAL: Is the greatest driving factor for human behavior. Inherent knowledge, acquired knowledge, and training usually come in play before one acts. These become secondary factors giving way to the sense of survival when pushed into a corner and existence is challenged.

 

2. NEGATIVE ATTITUDES, CONDITIONS.:

These are the best teachers. Be grateful to negatives. Only positives will not be able to impart effective training. Negatives activate SURVIVAL, the greatest thought processing and action director. Hence negatives are forceful teachers.

 

After- reactions to negative experiences  can be two:

i)                    Learn not to practice negatives and restrict others practicing negatives. This is a healthy reaction after judicious thought processing. Roots of such reaction are traced to exposure to positives earlier.

ii)                  Instead of restricting negatives, you may turn more and more negative. Thus, you practice negatives if not exposed to positives at all.

iii)                 Thus nurturing in positive atmosphere and some exposure to negatives is best combination as a teacher.

 

3. BAP KA MAAL: High handedness taking others for granted is absent in First Generation Politicians, Social workers, Businessmen. They are aware of team mates, co-workers. Hence these colleagues are respected and positive outcomes are shared with them.

Second generation and onwards, all this sense of belonging fades. Accountability responsibility and awareness for others decreases. They forget that they are standing on others’ shoulders. They think that they only are owners and makers of all the booty and have right to squander it or siphon to personal coffers. All this is bad.

To reduce this attitude, exposure to negatives to stimulate SURVIVAL director is necessary.

 

4. THOUGHT PROCESSING ( TP) :

Analysis, comparison, modeling various solutions, all using your knowledge helps you arrive(TP) at the best action plan. Other tools for TP are: Thinking out of box, Dreaming solutions, Altogether different and unconventional approach.  The mind takes into account all positive and negative thoughts.

Important help for good TP is having arranged all TP tools systematically in your mind, facilitating easy and instant retrieval. ( not different than hand tools!)

Help of physical props like Listing, sketching, computer search also come handy for effective TP.

Need of language, visuals etc. for TP are already discussed in my essay on TP                      ( geocities.com/sdmdom/d.htm)

 

5. EXERCISE / TRAINING:

Needed for uplifting humans. Everybody needs Training and related regular exercise for improving on the following factors:

  1. BODY: Skin, internal organs, joints, speech, sight, hearing, etc.
  2. MIND: Thought processing, Learning, Analysis, Mind control, Meditation.
  3. EATING HABITS: Food and drinks, alcohol-tobacco avoidance, stomach, surroundings, (Pollution control, hygiene).
  4. BREATHING HABITS: Pranayam, ( lungs, heart, brain, stomach). Breathing is the most important faculty controlling  mind, blood circulation, internal organs.

 

  1. INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS: Since we live in a Society, successful dialogue is important.

 

  1. NO REPETITIONS OF MISTAKE: This is crux of all the training. Hence retraining, refresher courses are required.

Every one is not able to decide how to train himself. Hence an efficient counselor / SADGURU is necessary to guide. ( For detailed discussion, read tips for behavioral improvement < geocities.com/sdmdom/g.htm> )

 

6. POSSESSIVENESS:

This evil is at the root of many negative experiences. When an American president ( 150 years back) offered to purchase land from Red Indians, their chief replied , “The land cannot be sold because the land  and nature don’t belong to us; rather we people belong to  the land, nature and its beauty and enormity.” This is a great eye opener.

Animals have limited or no storage. They are not as possessive as humans. Human TP and manipulating skills help breed possessiveness. Possessiveness breeds more possessiveness. Possessiveness is good to a limit. Beyond that it becomes ‘Hoarding’ which is bad for society. Hence one should become a Trustee and not an Owner.

Possessiveness of humans i.e. relations, friends, leads to ‘love’ , love affairs, and many concomitant problems like Partiality, Degradation of  human freedom (especially in case of women). Possessiveness of land, property, cars, houses, etc., money, power, breeds greed and resultant negatives.

Hence, do not hoard/stock. Build dams on rivers only big enough to hold part of the water . Supply the held water to land by canals.  – keep it flowing. –do not stagnate. Sea is also not stagnant . The water flows by evaporation / cloud formation. All celestical bodies are not steady. They keep moving. Hence keep everything moving –money, electricity, water, air, food, everything!  You may also change food habits rotationally, change your residence periodically, taking you out of comfort zone. Keep moving, reduce possessiveness and related evils.

 

7. EVOLUTION / REVOLUTION:

Evolution  is slow. Revolution is fast and acute. Evolution: inputs, results and requirements go on slowly equilibrating . Some examples are conversion of Ape to human, higher organisms from lower ones, Actives from inactives via amino acids, etc.. Social structure also evolves by equilibrating current values, needs of tomorrow and available resources. Creation of ACTIVES (Animals, herbs) from INACTIVES ( elements, earth, water, etc , is also evolution.

Natural revolutions are earth quakes, volcanic eruptions, global warming, asteroids-hits, typhoons, tsunamis, etc. Social revolutions are are created by people viz: Hitler, Czar, industrial progress, etc.

Both natural and social factors give rise to various revolutions and evolutions. Social/ technical revolutions are resented as it is always difficult to clean the slate before new lesson. Natural revolutions are also not liked but cant work against tremendous natural forces!

 

8. ULTIMATE AIM OF ACTIVES( ANIMATED) / INACTIVES( INANIMATE):

Humans if act just like any animal, it is OK. Using TP, if they want to excel over animals, a warning bell is sounded. TP should be positive ,wholesome and synergizing with natural evolution. TP coupled with negative attitude, will lead to destruction. TP used to unravel process of routine happenings and natural evolution is nothing but development of Science. Applied science is to study nature and use the knowledge for technical revolutions. Hence Science is not contrary to nature.

Negative attitudes and TP combination should be discouraged. Then it is better to behave only as an animal to avoid nuisance. With this in mind, all are free to behave as they feel, without developed TP. At least they wont harm the texture of society. Natural evolution will take care of all, even if some do not contribute for betterment and stay neutral.

This attitude will pacify ‘Anger’ of those against people not responding to training.

 

9. TAPASYA:

To heat is tapasya.

i)                    Heating to enable bending, shaping, forging.

ii)                  Heating to melt , alloy and recast into desired mould.

Tapasya will help change / transform partially or totally. Activating Survival mode to teach adamant subjects by pushing them to a corner is one way to transform stubborn. Tapasya is an alternative for all cases simple or difficult. A deep Tapasya will transform a Valya Koli to Walmiki.

Initially one can give up some food intakes like tea, coffee, icecream, or shun viewing TV, wearing some type of clothes, etc. for a specified time. This will start chiseling you in a small way. If continued longer, you will see a new sculpture very soon. Consult your Guru for taking up a Tapasya.

 

10. SELF REALISATION:

Learned persons say it is to be experienced only. It cannot be explained. I feel this must be explainable partly if not fully. The percentage of explainable part will slowly increase. Same was the case with many riddles in life sciences and other faculties. Slowly it is becoming possible to explain and quantify many riddles.  With measurements of energy involved in description, quality and quantity, reproduction of many brain activities of ‘Siddha purush’ , can be studied, unraveled and reproduced mechanically.

 

11. LIFE, DEATH, REBIRTH:

In fact, you go through this cycle daily. Each night is like death. Each morning is like rebirth. Take this daily chance to improve yourself.  And your relations with others. Get up in the morning like an innocent child and enjoy the life anew!

 

Apart from this daily cycle, you also experience a longer cycle , say : few months or few years! This is when you see somebody after that long a time. He may be liked or disliked by you at the end of last meeting. After a long period, let the relations take a rebirth- innocently like a child! Make friends and enjoy . Both will understand that any bitterness of the past is dead and each one has faced a life with celebrations. Then why continue animosity? Laugh it off and be friends , start life anew, with the maturity you have gained during the recess!

 

12. NEW THOUGHTS:

a.  Practising Kriya yoga, pranayama, sadhanas , one achieves various Siddhis. For this practice, they observe ‘Indriya Nigraha’ , perhaps to fully concentrate on capabilities of mind. Many people achieve siddhis, by mere will or no Sadhana. Since Indriyas are part of one’s self, one may also be able to achieve Siddhi without Indriya Nigraha. ( Osho ?)

 

b. Many sadhakas practice  sadhana inHimalayas. Pranayama trains body to use less oxygen. In Himalayan heights, oxygen is lesser in atmosphere. Mere staying there and acclimatizing might be giving a higher dimension to Pranayama sadhana.The cool weather also increases sustenance  of body and perhaps difficult sadhanas may be little easier to achieve there.

 

c. It is more pertinent to reclassify ‘Live and Lifeless ‘ as ‘Active and Inactive’. The well sunk concept of ‘ life =  body + soul’  is rather hypothetical , soul signifying ‘chaitanya’ or activity. The concept of soul (chaitanya) needs review and it is not a constituent of of life but merely a property of life. Hence everybody comes in this world for one use only and at the end, vanishes into earth. This concept is elaborated in my essay’ Vaisarth’                                   < geocities.com/sdmdom/c.htm>

 

d. Faith and doubt both are required for progress. Experimentation and analysis installs any faith. Practice of faith raises further doubt by activating ‘Review’ after a time. The doubt needs more experimentation and analysis to clarify and rewrite new concepts on a firm ground. Thus Faith and Doubt are complimentary and carry on the progress continuously.

 

13. SIDDHIS  AND MODERN GADGETS.:

a. Sanjaya had ‘door drishti’. Now we have television, videophone, mobile phone. In the light of this example, various siddhis may be explained scientifically and mimicked by modern gadgets.

 

b. Persons appearing at a distance . . . something  like human transfers in ‘Startreck’. This may be mechanically possible one day!

 

c.Curing diseases by transferring energy wirelessly can also be practiced when energy transfers are studied and reproduced.

 

d. Activating computers and machines by mere thought is almost  achieved now , may be with electrodes attached to scalp. Refining this method and wireless versions are on cards.

 

e. There are examples of persons living without food and water and living merely by taking solar energy. Doctors are studying this.

 

f. Can oxygen parlours replace some ‘ Pranayama kriyas’?

 

14. CREATOR /OWNERSHIP, ETC.:

These concepts arise due to natural training of mind in our society and we accept that everything has a creator and owner. To get over these concepts you must unlearn the age old training of our minds . Then only you can think out of the box and overcome the default- concepts of creator and ownership. These are outcome of Possessiveness, which must be dropped.  TP with these fixed parameters in mind will lead nowhere. Hence one must not only think but dream and discover newer dimensions of TP .

 

Concept of flowing ‘time’ also is a fixed dimension in our mindset needing review. Linear time measurement is only a matter of convenience. We get carried away by flowing or passing time which is mere hypothetical. Time does not move. We move in time dimension. Time is just another dimension of space like length, breadth and depth. This is what physicists have enunciated and proved.

 

We know that Earth moves around Sun and also rotates around her axis creating day and night. Yet we daily talk about sunrise and sunset. This just a matter of convenience of expression. We may term it as ‘HUMAN THEATRICAL EFFECT’ . Same is true of human philosophies which are woven around this ‘Human Theatre’. Hence we think of Body, Soul, Paramatma, etc..If you come out of this ‘human theatre’, and try to unravel nature, the study is termed as ‘Science’ and  treated  as ‘Outcast’ by those living inside ‘human theatre’.  Science is nothing but art of elucidation of nature and a go at harnessing the knowledge for progress by ‘Revolution’(of Technology) rather than waiting for a slower ‘Evolution.’

 

15. VASTNESS OF UNIVERSE  AND BEYOND:

Stars, planets, galaxies—unlimited! Black holes gulping stars and giving rise to Galaxies. What a mammothness of masses , energies, spaces and distances!  The vastness is unending and  unimaginable! Can you have a God to take care of all these? Or rather you need to reconsider this concept?

 

Also consider earthly catastrophes like hitting by asteroids, typhoons, tsunamis, earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, volcanic dust covering earth atmosphere for 6 years causing a great global warming and long night! ( This has happened) All these leading to destruction, cleaning the slate, starting everything anew – several times – is the history!

 

Will one untiring everlasting creator be able to take care of all this vastness and destructions and reformations!

 

As pointed out in “creator-ownership “ paragraph, perhaps possessiveness gives rise to this line of thinking!  We always expect everything with ‘Boundaries’,  and ‘Ownership’. Such concepts may be fallacious. Physicicts might have got the answer to clarify / modify concepts of Creator and Boundaries. Perhaps they are close to have a tangible explanation!

 

 

PRACTICAL LESSONS IN BEHAVIORAL IMPROVEMENT

By  S. D . MEHENDALE  ( March, 2005)

 

After writing ‘ Hints for Behavioral improvements’ , and ‘ Theoretical  aspects of Thought Processing’ ( <geocities.com/sdmdom/f.htm>  and ….g.htm ), the present effort is to provide you with Practical lessons for improvements suggested in other two essays. The types of lessons and lessons within a type are not exhaustive and certainly not the last word. I am presenting this preliminary work for your benefit right now!

 

Some of the principles underlying the practicals are listed below:

 

A.      Doing a thing repeatedly develops a liking for it . Then one follows the technique even unconsciously.

B.      Exercise, Pranayama, Meditation, are beneficial in general and increase alertness, freshness, enthusiasm.

C.      Faith in your Guru or somebody reduces your fear and helps accept any challenge.

D.      Do not become slave of habits. Habits of sitting place, sleeping place, working place, eating styles, etc. must not overcome you. They limit your performance. Hence make it a point to periodically change your comfort zones at will . Do not make them a habit.

E.      Tapasya is a method of teaching you to change habits. Give up some habits for a week: viz: viewing TV, using telephone, driving car/bike, drinking tea/coffee. Depending on the degree of difficulty involved, you can be repaired, changed, transformed.

F.       Auto suggestion is best practiced under light hypnosis. Analyse yourself and identify three or four of your major weaknesses. Plan how you will slowly improve on these counts. Daily at a serene time ( early morning) do ‘Shavasana’ , lying down on back, relax your body and mind. Close your eyes. From feet to head, ask yourself part by part to relax (feet, legs, torso, hands, neck, head, mind ). You can listen to a soft pacifying  music, preferably a Sur vadya and Flute only. Have dim lights. Do not make particular effort to make your mind thoughtless. Relax, chant a mantra silently  ( Om namah Shivaya / Om namo Narayana / etc). now you will be relaxed. Now suggest yourself that you will not get angry, you will give up greed, you will give up impatience, you will give up fear and accept opportunities.( or any variants as per your self evaluation). Then lie relaxed for a while. Get back to consciousness of your body slowly  and turn on to right side and lie that way for awhile. Now open your eyes slowly, get seated. Then do other exercises, and yogasanas. Pranayama is preferably done before Auto suggestion. Do auto suggestion daily and see the difference . Your attitude will gradually improve.

G.      ‘Do a corner first! Whole of the home will go right automatically. ‘ Use this principle to start any large scale improvement. Aim only at attacking a small part and do it well. Your confidence and enthusiasm will multiply and help complete the whole job. Never aim at redoing the whole thing in one go. You may crash!

 

Suggested experimental lessons can be broadly categorized as follows:

  1. Coming out of comfort zone.
  2. Thought Processing ( TP) activation.
  3. Adaptability activation.
  4. Consciousness and awareness activation.
  5. Interpersonal relations.
  6. Stop worrying.
  7. Control Impatience.
  8. Pushing to a wall: making a difficult person learn.
  9. Reducing “ Bap ka maal” attitude.
  10. Repeating mistakes –a common trait.

 

1.  COMING OUT OF COMFORT ZONE.

Try to CHANGE the following for a few days:  Try a few.

Ø      Usual sitting / reading chair / place.

Ø      Sleeping place (near window / away from fan /etc) / mattress / direction(NE / SW etc)

Ø      Lighting in room-using bulbs/ tube lights/viewing TV in dim lit room/lights at dining table

Ø      If taking lunch to work place , eat outside in canteen, for seven days.

Ø      Do not use telephone on a Sunday.

Ø      Do not see TV on Friday, Saturday, 7pm to 10pm.

Ø      Instead taking a cab, walk back home from station for 7 days.

Ø      Make your own tea in the evening for 7 days.

Ø      Do not drink tea -7days.

Ø      Change your residence for 7 days (stay at friend’s /relative’s place and commute to work from there.

Ø      Go for an outing to a remote place and stay in a tent, -no electricity-no telephone/mobile,-no piped water—try 3 days with 1 or 2 companions.

Ø      Cook your  own breakfast-7 days.

Ø      Wash your clothes-7 days.

 

These trials will help change your attitude for better.

 

2. THOUGHT PROCESSING (TP) ACTIVATION:

Many times we do a thing without analysis, evaluation, sensing  involved hurdles, etc. If you practice TP, very soon, the answers/ pitfalls will start flashing in your mind. We tend to jump to conclusions/ actions which are sometimes oversimplified. We concentrate on small gains and let go big ones. Then repenting! Hence train yourself to do TP.

  Try a few of the following and design your own experiments.

 

  • Daily write down one failure and one success in diary.—Mon to Friday. On Sunday write down reasons and solutions for them. Continue for one month and evaluate your TP activity.
  • Since you are an expert at finding faults of others, every Sunday write down two such events, your analysis of faults, possible solutions, and how you would have reacted .Compare similar notes of one more person.
  • Consider a few abnormal happenings in your locality. Yourself and two more persons should think out the situation from victim’s point of view . have group discussion.
  • Your group for above exercise to think out a solution and have a group discussion.
  • Situations for above exercise can be : missing a plane/train/bus , mugging encounter, infectious disease attack, heart attack, accident, theft, robbery, bad currency notes, exam failure, love-lost, etc.

 

3.  ADAPTABILITY ACTIVATION:

One must be able to adapt to changed situation. One must be able to have openness to accept a new idea. At least will to inspect it if not practice! The best help is to do ambidextrous exercises / activities. Exercise involving movements of feet and hands- changing  R & L limb combinations at will. You can design your own. March on the spot moving L hand with R leg and R hand with L leg. Then change to move L hand with L leg and R hand with R leg. Keep on changing at will after say 2 sets, then after 4 sets, then after each set , etc at random but at will. Many such movements are possible. You may combine leg kicks with hand punches. Try to eat, write with L hand( with R hand for lefties.) Try to walk backwards looking at a distant object. Do this in open lawn to avoid accident. These exercises will activate L & R brain to catalyze creativity and adaptability.

Try some from below:

ü      Wear a cap -7 days ( if wearing daily, remove-7 days)

ü      If wearing tucked in shirt, don’t tuck in -7 days. ( reverse for reverse)

ü      Change favorite drink ( tea / coffee / rasam) -7 days

ü      Eat disliked vegetable twice a week for a month.

ü      Do not shave – 7 days.

ü      Take bath only in evening  - 7 days.

ü      Do not use mobile phone—7 days.

ü      Clean a stretch of road in front of your house –7 days.

ü      If going to office daily on time, go 30 min late –twice a week- one month.( if going late daily, go in time twice a week)

ü      Try other tricks from “coming out of comfort zone”

 

4.  CONSCIOUSNESS AND AWARENESS ACTIVATION.

You must closely observe yourself  as a third party. List your short comings, and strengths. Try to improve on your weaknesses . You might have to improve on your appearance, health, clothes, speech, expression. You can consult any specialist viz. doctor, speech therapist, fitness instructor, etc. But to do all that you must develop awareness. Visit <geocities.com/sdmdom/g.htm>   Try the following:

 

  • While taking bath , clean all parts of your body . Usually feet, back and private parts need attention for cleaning, shaving, nail clipping.
  • Address common problems like dandruff, itches, injuries, by cleaning, application of simple ointments-lotions.
  • Wash eyes daily using eye bath-glass.( or a wati)
  • Wash hands after entering home/office, and before food.
  • Wash teeth scientifically in morning, evening and after lunch. Massage gums thrice and get cavities filled immediately.
  • For other health problems, consult doctors.
  • Daily practice exercise,(all types- static, dynamic, stamina-uppers, aerobics, stretches, gait improvers., muscle builders ), pranayama, meditation. Learn from able teachers. Carefully observe your breath.
  • Practice Auto suggestion ( outlined earlier)

 

5.  INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS.

It is better to visit a club, participate in team sports. Take lessons in some hobby – singing / painting  /trekking . Form clubs / groups of persons with common hobbies. Join Satsang, Bhajans. Keep smiling. In any of these groups, three persons to form a sub group . Each one to tell his life story to other two in 10 minutes. Each one to ask other two , questions and discuss their problems/ successes.

 

 

Try a few of the exercises , below:

  • Visit people you have not visited in a year.
  • Talk to four persons you don’t like.
  • Talk to a tree in a garden / street side , loudly in presence of public.
  • Visit three neighbors in your building & see how you could help each other.
  • Write daily , how many times you have not thanked others for help.-7 days.
  • Your score should reduce every week.
  • Write down every Sunday, about one incident, you could have pleasantly settled . Try a month.
  • Ask your partner / spouse to write about such an incident about you. Compare notes.

 

6.  STOP   WORRYING.

It is easy to preach than practice. But you must start somewhere. Do not take on big worries first. Take up a small worry like planning a week end – picnic. Members are husband, wife, two children. You are expert in planning. Plan the day, time, vehicle, place to visit, eatables, dresses, first aid, play kit, special supplies, bathing costumes. Inform all members, tell them their responsibilities. Get everybody to  work as per plan in the week end. Do not excuse anybody. No impatience! Schedule to be sticked to. Schedule will reduce your worry. A little flexibility can be exercised. Don’t give concessions in advance. You must develop confidence in all members and in yourself also! You have successfully arranged so many trips in past. Then you wont fail now. Convince yourself. You always keep contingency plans ready for critical things-like vehicle and driver.

 

Sticking to a strategy helps. Be in the Present. Do not imagine future disarrays. Address the present and be in present tense. Slowly you can extend your strategies – well designed for larger jobs.

 

In case of a problem, breath deeply by belly few times. You will cool down. Always use a trick like a whistle or a ‘chutki’ or clap  to make you come to the present (away from imaginary problems). This helps in long run. Have faith in somebody, say Guru, who will always help you even if physically absent on the spot. This is a confidence building measure and a psychological help.

 LESSER WORRIES – LESSER MEDICINES – BETTER HEALTH!

 

7.  CONTROL  IMPATIENCE.

 

Impatience is expectation to finish a task immediately. Impatience occurs due to lack of confidence in others and self. Although you have done a job yourself several times, either by yourself or as a team,, lack of confidence leads to impatience. Impatience breeds worry. To put an end to this vicious cycle, you must plan in detail, every job with responsibilities assigned and step wise time limits set. Provide for meeting possible contingencies. You must plan for a day, months, and years ahead. This eliminates last minute hurries. Have alternative plans for critical steps ready. The plans can be flexible, but then at such times, reorganize time tables and inform everybody and ensure their readiness. Don’t assume anything, don’t take anybody for granted. Clear road maps and detailed procedures always help. Don’t ridicule such efforts. Always clap and ‘come  to the present’. When you concentrate on job in front with your 100%, time becomes immemorial!

 

 

 

Some Tips:

v     Daily practice Autosuggestion. ( outlined earlier)

v     Recite a ‘Shloka’ uttering one word / syllable in one breath. ( try “Shantakaram Bhujagashayanam-“..-) This will slow down your pace and remedy impatience.

v     Also try reading a text letter by letter (preferably vernacular) , not word by word. This will sound abnormal but helps reduce pace.

v     Any meditation  helps. Learn from a teacher.

 

8. PUSHING TO WALL.

This is an extreme technique to be used when normal means of counseling fail. Since survival is the strongest director of human actions, create a dramatic scene where the subject will be forced to follow desired directions. Be careful while doing this as the subject should not get harmed, undergoing this. Controlled atmosphere is desirable. Those who do not listen normally have to be pinched their nose to make them open mouth. This is a psychological vaccination.

    Some trials are suggested below.

Ø      Cut down allowances if a goal is not reached. In time.

Ø      Ask the subject to voluntarily abstain from consuming his favorite dish till goal is achieved.

Ø      If things are thrown helter skelter , as a habit, pick up wrongly put things and put under lock. There will be books, watches, goggles, purses.

Ø      To cut down late coming habit, don’t serve any dinner on such occasions.

 

If you have better exercises, please let me know ( [email protected])

 

9.  REDUCING BAP KA MAAL ATTITUDE. 

 

This attitude is observed in people getting to reign on legacy acquired by ancestors – may be permanently (Private property, company) or for few years ( politicians, employees ). They forget their predecessor’s efforts to to put up the establishment. The efforts also belonged to relatives, friends, employees, equity holders. All these contributors are taken for granted and fleeced. There are two varieties: i) Those who grab everything , don’t give to others, spend only for getting power. ii) Spend recklessly, with no look at balance sheet, and future growth.

The requirement of remedy is:  To invoke  responsibility towards all contributors -past and present,  future growth, , conservation, generating satisfactory returns for all, legal and moral rights of stake holders.

Possibly here are some ways out:

  • Do not introduce yourself as son / father / brother of somebody great.
  • Change constitution to increase transparency  and checks in all fiscal deals.
  • Regular audit / regulatory check. Regulator to have teeth and will to  bite.
  • Define responsibilities and holdings at start and periodically afterwards.  No third party / fictitious company to hold any stake.
  • Ensure constitutionally that a few cannot be heavily compensated / rewarded.
  • Limit and strictly observe time period for holding power for a person.
  • Dissolve special purpose vehicles immediately after their objective is served.
  • Introduce self appraisal, appraisal by superior and inferior. Folllow this in letter and spirit.

If you have better exercises, please let me know ( [email protected])

 

10.  REPETING    MISTAKES

 

Learning by mistakes is ok. But  mistakes need not be repeated. Repetition of mistakes is natural trait until the compensation is not high or your account is not debited. Mistakes inviting small fine or casual reprimand are always repeated by non sensitive persons.

 

Try some experiments:

ü      Daily write down mistakes of the subject . Point out repeated mistakes. Discuss with subject.

ü      Subject to discuss these with counselor , make commitment not to repeat. Decide a mutually acceptable fine, heavy enough to feel.

ü      Put Rs.10 per repeated mistake into a piggy bank.

ü      Open the bank after 3 months in front of all members pf family and give them a treat!

ü      Try your own methods to generate awareness of reputing mistakes.

ü      Rather than a fine, try any abstinations ( from ‘coming out of comfort zones’)

 

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