Exposing the Myth of the Deadbeat Dad

by Charlton Hall

Staff Writer

 

In the local Child Support office, there’s a poster.  It consists of a picture of an infant with the caption “It’s amazing how many guys disappear when one of these shows up”.  We’ve all heard the stories of the father who abandons his children and runs off to some sunny spot with his secretary, never to be heard from again.  At every turn we seem to hear about “Deadbeat Dads”...fathers who refuse to accept financial responsibility for their children.  Judging from recent legislative actions such as the Child Support Enforcement Act of 1992, you might think that every divorced Dad in America is running from child support payments.  But is this really the case?  What do the statistics reveal?  According to information provided by the United States Census Bureau (Series P-20, No. 458, 1991), 26.9% of non-custodial fathers totally default on their child support.  But what about non-custodial mothers?  Of those non-custodial mothers who have been ordered to pay child support, 46.9% are in default.  So is it really fair to use the term ‘Deadbeat Dad’?

What can a divorcing Dad look forward to in terms of child support?  In South Carolina, up to 50% of your gross (not net) pay can be ordered as child support.  And if you are ordered or choose (for your protection) to pay child support through Family Court, 3% of your child support payment goes into the general fund of your local county as a ‘collection fee’ (It is unclear why this fee should be a percentage rather than a flat fee...does it cost the child support office more to mail a $1000 check than a $100 check?).  If you ever get behind in your payments due to a layoff or loss of job, there is no upper limit on the amount a judge can seize from your paycheck or your assets for arrearage.  In addition, you could suffer loss of your driver’s license, professional licenses, passports, and even your freedom.  You can be sentenced to up to one year imprisonment for non-payment in the state of South Carolina.  But is imprisoning the father really in the best interest of the children?  Not only do they receive no support for the entire time he is incarcerated, they are also deprived of their father’s involvement in their lives for that entire period.  Granted there are some fathers who deliberately avoid paying child support, and these fathers should be punished, but a visit to your local Family Court will show you just how small a minority these fathers really are.  Yet the fathers who are sincerely making an effort to support their children financially and emotionally but who are temporarily in dire financial straits because of employment circumstances beyond their control are painted with the same brush as real ‘Deadbeat Dads’.  Many of these Dads receive jail sentences just because of a layoff at their place of employment.  Does it help children for them to have to see Daddy through the bars of a prison cell on visiting day?  Or to do without any support at all during the time he is imprisoned?  What are we doing to an entire generation of children who will learn by our actions that the only thing Daddy is good for is to provide money, and when he can’t do that we should lock him up?

What can be done to change current trends?  Family Court judges are elected officials. You can vote  for judges favorable to Fathers’ Rights.  You can contact your State Representatives and Senators and tell them that you want them to sponsor legislation for joint custody, and to revoke the Tender Years Doctrine.  There are also several Fathers’ Rights Groups.  Check your local telephone directory or search the Internet, but get involved in one way or another.  Things will not change until fathers demand their rights too.

Next week: Custody issues...is there a gender bias in the Family Court system?

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