1. KINKY SENSUALIST: Not into servitude, humiliation or giving
up control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist's own
terms and for the masochist's own direct pleasure (i.e. turned on solely/mainly
by one's own bodily sensations rather than by being "used" to gratify one's
partner's sadism). A kinky sensualist is usually not a masochist and is
not into pain nor the areas of SM or edge play.
2. PLAY PARTNER: Not into even playing "any form of slave,"
but into other "light play areas of submission" role-playing, e.g. school
teacher scenes, infantilism, "forced" transvestism. Into a great many areas
of play, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a
large degree. Usually play with a wide variety of people and nothing on
a permanent committed basis.
3. BOTTOM: Likes to play at being a sub likes to feel
subservient; may in some cases like to feel one is being "used" to gratify
partner's sadism; may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but
definitely only on the "bottom’s" own terms. Dictates the scene to a large
degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worship). And is not necessarily emotionally
committed to their Top. Doesn't desire the training of a submissive for
service. Doesn't give up a great deal of control. Has a desire for a wide
variety of different play partners. May be with a specific Top or Dominant
for a period of time, but not willing to really give up control.
4. ROLE PLAYING SUBMISSIVE: Gives up some control (only temporarily
and within agreed-upon limits), but gets her/his main satisfaction from
aspects of submission other than serving or being used by the dominant.
Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up responsibility.
Doesn't dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seek
mainly her/his own direct/pleasure (rather than getting one's pleasure
mainly from pleasing the dominant). Only steps into this role for play,
then steps out.
5. PLEASURE SUBMISSIVE: Rarely gives up control (maybe only
temporarily; only during brief "scenes" and within limits) and gets main
satisfaction from serving/being used by dominant-but only for FUN purposes,
usually erotic. Mainly seeks their own pleasure.
6. SUBMISSIVE: Really gives up control (usually within limits);
wants to serve, obey, please and be used by the dominant; wants to provide
practical/non erotic as well as fun/erotic services. May even step into
full-time slave for, say, several days at a time. Usually has a long-term
relationship with one's Master. Usually involves a contract. Deep level
of commitment. Is *much* more dedicated and devoted to the needs, wants
and desires of the Dominant, rather than their own personal pleasures.
Their pleasure is usually received from serving, pleasing and obeying the
Dominant. Takes pride in their service, and is usually very well trained.
Some may live with their Dominant on a part-time or full-time basis, though
this is not always the case. Most submissives wear the Dominant's collar.
7. PART-TIME CONSENSUAL-BUT REAL SLAVE: Has an ongoing commitment
to an owner/slave relationship and regards oneself as the dominant's property
at all times. Wants to obey and please Dom in all aspects of life-practical/non-erotic
and fun/erotic. May devote some of time to other commitments (e.g. job)
but Master has first pick of the slave’s free time. Usually a very specific
and defined contract is written.
8. FULL-TIME LIVE IN CONSENSUAL SLAVE: Within no more than
a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself as existing
solely for the Master's pleasure/well being. Slave in turn expects to be
regarded as a prized possession (property). A great many slaves are employed
outside the homes plus have the duties of the traditional housewife. The
slave's wages are willingly given to the Master, and the needs of the slave
are taken care of. Within the S/M world the slave's position is more likely
to be fully consensual, especially of the slave is male. Within the S/M
world, a full time "slave" arrangement is entered into with an explicit
awareness of the magnitude carefully, with more awareness of the magnitude
of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much
more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much
clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional
marriage. Again a very detailed, defined and specific contract is written.
9. CONSENSUAL TOTAL SLAVE WITH NO LIMITS: You're willing
to do absolutely anything for your Dom, with no limits at all.