Well for many of you, I'm sure this is not what you will expect to have found on this page. But I hope you leave with more than you expected. This was a paper written by a very close friend of mine for school. Happy reading.
It is the year 2020 and the FMHS class of 2000 is flooding the gymnasium for their twenty-year class reunion. Old friends are hugging and crying, the "brains" of the school bragging about the milions of dollars they are making, and the "popular" women are discussing how young everyone looks. Suddenly the students start to realize something's missing...Where's the prom queen? Suzy was voted the most beautiful, she was kind to everyone, had a 4.0 G.P.A. and donated her time mentoring grade school children. Then Barbara, Suzy's best friend explained that Suzy had committed suicide fifteen years ago. At graduation, Suzy was three months pregnant and forced into marriage at a young age. From the very beginning Suzy's husband cheated on her. Due to insecurities, Suzy was bulemic for all five years of her amrriage, until she became severly depressed and shot herself.
Sex is no game, yet it's treated as lightly as one. Sex, is very serious and has many consequences. This is why I believe that one of the wisest decisions a person can make is the decision to save sex for marriage.
In 1995 alone 4 in 100 girls ages 15-17 became pregnant. If you think pregnancy is the only downfall to sex; you need to be worrying about other things. People who engage in sex have3 four times as much of a chance of getting an STD than that of getting pregnant. Not to mention, three million teens are affected annually by STD's. The general response to these figures among tenns is "it's not going to happen to me," or "I don't care, by the time AIDS would kill me there will be a cure." I'm sorry, but viruses' don't live in the fantasy world teenagers create. Never, in history has there been a documented cure for any virus.
On the other side, teenagers are taught to engage in safe sex, but once again, in reality, there is no safe sex. Condoms, they're said to be safe, but we all know of cases where couples who used condoms still ended up being pregnant. Keep in mind that a sperm is 450 times the size of an HIV virus, that's the difference between a basketball and a bee bee; and sperm still goest through a condom. Now look at the size of a period in this article; all you need to know now is that 300,000,000 million HIV virus' can fit into the space one period takes. How many of these does it take to kill you? Just one. These staggering statistics leave me speechless, and yet, I can't contemplate why it is that teenagers continue to have sex. This is why I believe that one of the wisest decisions a person can make is the decision to save sex for marriage.
After recieving several anonymous responses from a survey about sex, I hope to be able to convince teenagers to keep their virginity. These responses left me in tears and will be in my mind forever; I can only hope they'll have an impact in your life as well.
First of all, how do teenagers feel about saving sex for marriage? Teenagers on this topic, are completely divided. Some feel that saving sex is the only way to go, and others don't want, or don't feel the need to wait. One student stated he didn't feel it was important because "girls won't marry you because you don't know how to have sex." Many of the teenagers that felt saving sex was important based the importance on the fact that it's a "sacred" moment to share with one other person, God made it that way, "but from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one" (Mark 10:6-8).
When you have sex with more that one person, this bonding is ruined. An example that Pam Stenzel (a pregnancy counselor) used was to stick a piece of tape on your arm, it bonds to your arm; then you rip it off, leaving on it a few particles of you. Then you stick the tape on another person, it boneds a little, you rip it off them, and there's particles of both of you. Continue to do this with the tape, and eventually it won't bond because it has too much junk on it.
Another studied dowfall to premarital sex is that many future relationships start our with suspicions and mistrust. With the spouses concerning themselved with questions such as: "Am I attractive as his lat parter?", or "If someone better comes along will I be left in the dust?" So, really, how many partners would teenagers prefer their future husband/wife had? Most students stated no more than one if any at all. "I'd like him not to compare me with 10 other people," sarcastically remarked Rachel, a senior. Pam Stenzel testified that her husband was 23 years old and a virgin. On their wedding day she said, "he said 'I love you' with his life not with words," the fact that she was good enough for him to wait for. Now that's a reflection of true love.
A married woman who engaged in sex before marriage felt like she took "a lot of hurt, pain and baggage into the marriage, instead of purity, peace and happiness." This woman in highschool felt like her worth was dependent on how attractive she was to men. Saying "Every time I had sex with someone I felt worse about myself and would continue seeking men to make me feel better." During the vicious cycle she became pregnant and eventually got married to someone she claimed she "barely even knew." For the first nine years of their marriage her husband had what she described as, "sexual addictions and for all of those nine years, he had affairs." To me this isn't exactly newly-wed bliss.
A psychotherapist was asked, "How often do you see clients who wish they had not explored their sexuality so much before marriage?" And the psychotherapist remarked, "Oh, very often." The next question was, "and how often do you have clients who wish they had gone farther before marriage?" Then the therapist's eyes widened and the therapist emphatically answered "Never!"
Many teenagers don't think about the consequences of sex in their future; they just want to have fun now. Sex being catalyst for fun in generic. It's like settling for second best in the sexual realm; it's like "a diet of fast food served in plastic containers. Life's feast is available to those willing to engage life on a personal level."
Of course, there are teenagers that have lived and learned. ALL of the teens that commented that they had sex, wish they could take back their first experience because they were too young. An FMHS sophmore said, "If I could take it all back I would never even talk to a man, let alone do anything else with them...every time I see a couple together it kills me...because I gave something so im
