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SAMUEL'S CHURCH POSITION
ON
DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE
We at Samuel's Church stand squarely behind
making marriages work. We grieve over the destructive effect divorce brings
upon a couple, their children, and the many who are touched by their lives,
and we are committed to doing anything we can to assist couples to turn
from divorce and work at healing their marriage. Yet, realizing that divorce
is a real part of many people's lives, we at Samuel's Church adopt the
following statement on divorce and remarriage.
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Marriage was intended by God to be an unbreakable
union (Matt. 19:6) for the purpose of companionship (Gen. 2:18), procreation
(Gen. 2:24) and pleasure (Deut. 24:5). God hates divorce (Mal. 2:16), but
allows it as an accommodation to man's sin (Mat. 19:8).
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The only Biblical grounds for divorce are
(1) fornication and (2) the desertion of an unbelieving spouse. Fornication
includes all sexual perversions, such as homosexuality, bestiality, incest,
as well as adultery (Mat. 5:32; 19:9). The desertion of an unbelieving
spouse means a non-believer no longer desires to remain married to a Christian
spouse (1 Cor. 7:15). In these two cases alone, God allows for divorce,
although He certainly does not require it. The response God desires is
illustrated in Hosea's treatment of his adulterous wife, Gomer. Instead
of divorcing her when she committed adultery, Hosea forgave her and restored
their marriage (Hosea 3:1-2). It is church policy to never advise divorce,
but rather to work at restoring the one caught in sin (Gal. 6:1) and then
work at restoring the marriage through forgiveness (Eph. 4:31-32).
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Remarriage is permitted only if a divorce
was based on one of the two Biblical grounds. In cases where a divorce
was not on Biblical grounds, God still views the parties as married, even
though the state may not. Becoming sexually involved with another or remarrying
commits adultery (Mat. 19:9), and the person who marries someone divorced
on nonbiblical grounds also commits adultery (Luke16:18).
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Believers who pursue divorce on nonbiblical
grounds are subject to church discipline because they openly reject the
Word of God (Mat. 18:15-17; 1 Cor. 5:1-13). The one who obtains a divorce
on nonbiblical grounds and remarries lives in a state of adultery, since
God still views them as married to their original spouse (Mat. 5:32; Mark
10:11,12).
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If a divorce based on nonbiblical grounds
has become final both parties should make no attempt at justifying their
action, but rather should seek God's forgiveness (1 John 1:9). God intends
they either seek to reconcile their marriage or remain single (1 Cor. 7:11).
If a remarriage has taken place, the person should remain faithful to his
or her present marriage partner.
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Both the innocent party of a divorce and the
repentant party of a nonbiblical divorce are free to serve the Lord. Forgiveness
and the ensuing privilege to serve is the right of every child of God,
but since the church has a responsibility to uphold the Biblical ideal
of marriage, especially in the example of its leadership, the appointment
to any leadership position must be handled individually and on the basis
of their present character qualifications and marriage relationship.
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Should one partner be experiencing either
physical or emotional abuse that becomes intolerable, and there is no Biblical
ground for divorce, that person may seek legal separation for their own
protection and that of the children. Legal and/or professional help should
be sought in order that reconciliation may be achieved.
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