Live, Love, and Hate – by Orpheus

 

Week 69 – Lunch, dinner, Jeff

 

                (7/7/05) Tonight, I ate Jeff alone. Not that I’m not normally alone when I eat Jeff, but usually Amy and/or C is/are online at the time and I’m talking with them. Okay, let me back up and explain what I’m talking about. With the way my schedule is these days, breakfast just isn’t practical; during the weekdays I just don’t have enough time when I’m getting around in the morning, and on the weekends, I sleep until, 11 or noon usually. However, I try and still eat three meals a day, so I have one between 10:30 PM and midnight, I call it Jeff.

 

                I keep forgetting just how awesome these two bands (Tiamat and Genitorturers) are, I need to get some of their CDs. Tiamat’s got good music and lyrics (and their cover of Sympathy for the Devil kicks SOOO much ass), Genitorturers, on the other hand, have awesome music, but the lyrics tend to be a bit on the perverse side (I’ve used their song Lecher Bitch in a menagerie or two, so if you want, you can go back and check that, and I’ve also used Tiamat’s Cain). Seriously, people, if you like metal, you owe it to yourself to check out these bands.

 

                Now, if you weren’t totally asleep while reading last week’s column (which I apologize for the poor quality of), you probably noticed a comment about R squeezed in the middle of the paragraph about my returning to writing. I believe it was something about how we seemed to be drifting. Sadly, I suppose this is true, but it’s not the entire problem, and I guess I should get around to discussing that.

 

                I am perfectly aware as I am writing this that I will regret writing it later, much as I regret what I said in fennRis, my first continuation, and decidedly shorter than intended. However, I think that if I hadn’t written them, then I probably would have snapped, that my relationship with R wouldn’t have lasted (as writing these always helps me sort these things out in my head).

 

                Okay, thing is, I just don’t feel like I’m important to her anymore. I feel like the imaginary friend who got left behind when she made real friends. Twice now, she’s just gone away for two weeks without even saying goodbye to me on the day she leaves, but that’s not really what’s bothering me (though it does to an extent). Nor is the big issue the comments of hers that seem like when she said them she had no purpose in mind but to try and make me uncomfortable (such as two tales of other girls grabbing her chest).

 

                What’s really bothering me is that it seems like, while she doesn’t mind spending time with me, it always seems like there’s a hundred things she’d rather be doing. Like, she’ll say she’ll be right back, then not return for an hour because she got caught up watching something on TV, or she’ll be too tired, or sick, or too busy burning a CD, or drawing, or something. And then there’s always the parties and the movie going. Here is more-or-less a bit of conversation between myself and her on the matter.

 

O: “It seems like there’s always a hundred things you’d rather be doing”

 

R: “It’s not that there’s something I’d rather be doing, but there’s all these parties I had to go to”

 

                Yeah, there was more to what R said than that, but is it just me, or does that kind of say that “It’s not that there’s something I’d rather be doing, it’s just that I’d rather be going to this party”. I mean, if the parties are such a problem, then with all the movies she goes to see, listening to music, and the drawing, how DOES she find time to have a little fun every now and then? And then there’s times when it’ll take her twenty to fifteen minutes to respond to anything I say. And the real kicker here is that she acts like I’m being unreasonable when I say that it seems like I’m not important to her anymore.

 

                Oh, and the Small and Wicked One has gone missing.

 

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