Women in Society
Prof.
Abdur Rahman I. Doi
Professor and Director, Center for Islamic Legal Studies,
Ahmadu Bello University, Zaira, Nigeria.
Courtesy of USC Muslim Association
The family in Islam is a unit in which a man and woman unite to
share life together according to the rules and regulations laid down by the
Shari'ah. They become as close to each other as a garment is to the body. The
husband's honour becomes an integral part of his wife's honour, and vice versa.
They share each other's prosperity and adversity. Thus in Islam the bridal
couple are united as husband and wife in the presence of witnesses seeking
Allah's blessings to increase in mutual love and compassion and agreeing to
care for each other in sickness and adversity. This fundamental principle of
Islamic marriage, understood and observed by the spouses, is the basis of the
institution of Muslim marriage. In the family, the man is charged with the duty
of being the leader of the family and the woman is assigned the duty of looking
after the household. Even if the man has more responsibility than the woman
and thereby has a degree over her, it does not make a husband inherently better
than his wife. The Qur'an contains a verse which says:
And in no wise covet those things in which
Allah has bestowed His gifts more freely on some of you than others: to men is
allotted what they earn, and to women what they earn... (4:32)
Commenting on this verse Sheikh Muhammad 'Abduh says that it does
not imply that every man is better than every woman or vice versa, but it
emphasizes that: "each sex, in general, has some preferential
advantage over the other, though men have a degree over women . "
What is this "degree"? There are different views about it.
One view is that it means the qualities of leadership, surveillance and
maintenance which are bestowed on men. Another view is that it
signifies the tolerance with which men must treat their wives even when in
extremely bad moods. Yet another view is that it is man's natural gift
from Allah for judging matters pertaining to his family and managing the
problems affecting it. However, the consensus of the scholars is that the
"degree" comprises the principle of guardianship and nothing
more.
Muhammad
'Abduh feels that guardianship has four elements: protection, surveillance,
custody, and maintenance. 'Abd al-'Ati considers that over and above these
four elements is the element of obedience. According to 'Abd al-'Ati obedience
consists of the following aspects:
Modesty is a virtue which Islam demands of Muslim men and women.
The most powerful verses commanding the believers to be modest occur in Surah
al-Nur and begin with the words:
Say to the believing men that they should
lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that will make for greater purity for
them: and Allah is well aware of what they do. (24:31)
The rule of modesty is equally applicable to men and women. A
brazen stare by a man at a woman or another man is a breach of correct
behaviour. The rule is meant not only to guard women, but is also meant to
guard the spiritual good of men. Looking at the sexual anarchy that prevails in
many parts of the world, and which Islam came to check, the need for modesty
both in men and women is abundantly clear. However it is on account of the
difference between men and women in nature, temperament, and social life, that
a greater amount of veiling is required for women than for men, especially in
the matter of dress. A complete code of modesty is laid down in the Qur'an as
follows:
And say to the believing women that they
should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; and that they should not
display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof;
that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their
beauty save to their husbands, or their fathers or their husbands' fathers, or
their sons or their husbands' sons, or their brothers or their brothers' sons,
or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands
possess, or male servants free of physical desire, or small children who have
no sense of sex; and that they should not stamp their feet in order to draw
attention to their hidden ornaments. And O believers! Turn all together towards
Allah, that you may attain bliss. (24:31)
A key term in the above verse is zinat. It means
both natural beauty and artificial ornaments. The word as used in the
above verse seems to include both meanings. Women are asked not to make a
display of their figures, not to wear tight clothing that reveals their
shapeliness, nor to appear in such dress except to:
While Muslim men are required to cover the body between the navel
and the knee, every Muslim woman is asked to cover her whole body excluding the
face and hands from all men except her husband. The following traditions of the
Prophet (peace be upon him) give us further guidance in the matter:
"It is not lawful for any woman who
believes in Allah and the Last Day that she should uncover her hand more than
this and then he placed his hand on his wrist joint. "When a woman reaches
puberty no part of her body should remain uncovered except her face and the
hand up to the wrist joint."
'A'isha reports that once she appeared got up in finery before her
nephew, 'Abdullah ibn al-Tufail. The Prophet (peace be upon him) did not
approve of it. "I said, 'O Apostle of Allah, he is my nephew.' The Prophet
replied, 'When a woman reaches puberty it is not lawful for her to uncover any
part of her body except the face and this and then he put his hand on the wrist
joint as to leave only a little space between the place he gripped and the
palm."
Asma', the
sister of 'A'isha and daughter of Abu Bakr, came before the Prophet in a thin
dress that showed her body. The Prophet turned his eyes away and said, "O
Asma'! When a woman reaches puberty, it is not lawful that any part of her body
be seen, except this and this" - and then he pointed to his face and the
palms of his hands. Hafsah, daughter of 'Abdur-Rahman, once came before 'A'isha
wearing a thin shawl over her head and shoulders. 'A'isha tore it up and put a
thick shawl over her. The Messenger of Allah also said, "Allah has
cursed those women who wear clothes yet still remain naked." The
khalif, 'Umar, once said, "Do not clothe your women in clothes that
are tight-fitting and reveal the shapeliness of the body." The above-mentioned
traditions make it explicitly clear that the dress of Muslim women must cover
the whole body, except for the face and hands, whether in the house or outside,
even with her nearest relatives. She must not expose her body to anybody except
her husband, and must not wear a dress that shows the curves of her body. Some
scholars, like Muhammad Nasiruddin al-Albani, are of the opinion that, because
modern times are particularly full of fitnah (mischief), women should go as far
as to cover their faces because even the face may attract sexual glances from
men. Shaikh al-Albani says, "We admit that the face is not one of the
parts of the body to be covered, but it is not permissible for us to hold to
this taking into consideration the corruption of the modern age and the need to
stop the means for further corruption."
It is
respectfully submitted, however, that in the light of the Prophetic
traditions it suffices to cover the body, leaving out the face and hands up to
the wrist joints, since this is the specified Islamic covering and it may
sometimes be essential for a woman to go about her lawful engagements with her
face uncovered. However if a woman prefers to put on the veil (burqah),
she should not be discouraged as this may be a sign of piety and God-consciousness
(taqwah). The rules on dress are slightly relaxed when a woman reaches old age
and her sexual attractions have faded. The Qur'an says:
Such elderly women as are past the prospect of
marriage, there is no blame on them if they lay aside their (outer) garments,
provided they make not a wanton display of their beauty; but it is best for
them to be modest and Allah is the One who sees and knows all things. (24:60)
However, if a woman is old but still has sexual desires, it is not
lawful for her to take off her over- garments. Women at whom people are not
possibly going to cast sexual glances but rather look at with respect and
veneration are entitled to make use of the relaxation and go about in their
houses without wearing an over-garment.
Islam requires its male and female adherents to avoid illicit
sexual relations at all costs. Because the desire to have sexual relationships
originates with the look that one person gives another, Islam prohibits a
person from casting amorous glances towards another. This is the principle of
ghadd al-basar (lowering the eyes). Since it is impossible for people to have
their eyes fixed constantly to the ground and inconceivable that a man will
never see a woman or a woman will never see a man, Islam absolves from blame
the first chance look, but prohibits one from casting a second look or
continuing to stare at a face which one finds attractive at first sight.
The following
traditions of the Prophet (peace be upon him) offer us guidance in this regard:
Jarir says,
"I asked the Prophet what I should do if
I happened to cast a look (at a woman) by chance. The Prophet replied, 'Turn
your eyes away.' " According to Buraidah, the Prophet told the future
fourth khalif, 'Ali, not to cast a second look, for the first look was
pardonable but the second was prohibited.
However, there are certain circumstances in which it is
permissible for a man to look at another woman. Such circumstances may arise
when a woman is obliged to be treated by a male doctor, or has to appear before
a judge as a witness, or when a woman is trapped inside a burning house, or is
drowning, or when a woman's life or honour is in danger. In such cases, even
the prohibited parts of the body of the woman may be seen or touched, and it is
not only lawful but obligatory on a man to rescue her from danger, whatever
physical contact it may entail. What is required by Islam in such a situation
is that as far as possible the man should keep his intentions pure. But if in
spite of that his emotions are a little excited naturally, it is not
blameworthy for him to have looked at such a woman, since having contact with
her body was not intentional but was necessitated by circumstances, and it is
not possible for a man to suppress his natural urges completely.
The Shari'ah
also allows a man to look at a woman with the object of reaching a decision
about whether he should marry her or not. The following traditions explain the
matter further: Mughirah ibn Shu'bah says,
"I sent a message to a woman asking for
her hand. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said to me, 'Have a look at her for
that will enhance love and mutual regard between you.' "
Abu Hurairah says that he was sitting with the Prophet when a man
came and said that he intended to marry a woman from among the Ansar (Helpers).
The Prophet asked him if he had seen her. He replied in the negative. The
Prophet told him to go and have a look at her because the Ansar often had a
defect in their eyes. According to Jabir ibn 'Abdullah, the Prophet said that
when a man sent a request to a woman for her hand in marriage, he should have a
look at her to see if there was anything in her which made him inclined to
marry her.
It is thus
clear that no man is prohibited from having a look at a woman as such, but that
the real idea behind the prohibition is to prevent the evil of illicit
intercourse. Therefore what the Prophet has prohibited is only such casting of
the eyes as is not essential, as does not serve any social purpose, and as is
loaded with sexual motives. This command applies to both Muslim men and Muslim
women and is not confined to only one sex.
Maulana
Abu'l-A'la Maududi has made a fine psychological distinction, however, between
women looking at men and men looking at women. The man, he says,
"...is by nature aggressive. If a thing
appeals to him, he is urged from within to acquire it. On the other hand, the
woman's nature is one of inhibition and escape. Unless her nature is totally
corrupted, she can never become so aggressive, bold, and fearless, as to make
the first advances towards the male who has attracted her. In view of this
distinction, the Legislator (the Prophet) does not regard a woman's looking at
other men to be as harmful as a man's looking at other women. In several
traditions it has been reported that the Prophet (peace be upon him) let
'A'isha see a performance given by negroes on the occasion of the 'Id. This
shows that there is no absolute prohibition on women looking at other men. What
is prohibited is for women to sit in the same gathering together with men and
stare at them, or look at them in a manner which may lead to evil results.
"
The Prophet (peace be upon him) told Fatimah, daughter of Qais, to
pass her 'iddah (waiting term), in the house of Ibn Maktum, the same blind
Companion from whom Umm Salamah had been instructed to observe purdah. Qadi Abu
Bakr ibn al-'Arabi has related in his Ahkam al- Qur'an that Fatimah, daughter
of Qais, wanted to pass her waiting term in the house of Umm Sharik. The
Prophet did not approve of this for the reason that the house was visited by
many people. Therefore he told her to stay in the house of Ibn Maktum who was
blind, where she could stay without observing purdah.
This shows
that the real object of the Prophet was to reduce the chances of any mischief
occurring. That is why the lady was not allowed to stay in a house where the
chances of possible mischief were greater but allowed to stay in a house where
they were less. On the other hand, where there was no such need, women were prohibited
from sitting in the same place face to face with other men.
The real
object of ghadd al-basar (lowering the eyes) is to stop people with evil
intentions from casting lewd looks at others. It is common knowlege that a
person turns their eyes towards another person innocently in the beginning. If
the latter is attractive, the former may go on casting glances and thus drift
towards the precipice of sexual attraction and ultimately fornication or
adultery. Islam encourages regulated love in order to build up happy family
lives since it is healthy families that provide the blocks to construct a
healthy society; but it abhors promiscuity which ruins people's family lives
and seriously damages people through the ultimate disaster of illicit sexual
relationships developing between its adherents. Islam blocks the path that
finally leads to active temptation by prohibiting the casting of looks by one
person at another except when they do so by chance.
The Shari'ah has placed restrictions on men meeting strange women
privately. Similarly no man other than her husband is allowed to touch any part
of a woman's body. The following traditions of the Prophet (peace be upon him)
are worth noting in this connection:
"Beware that you do not call on women who
are alone," said the Messenger of Allah. One of the Companions asked,
"O Messenger of Allah, what about the younger or the elder brother of the
husband?" The Prophet replied, "He is death." (Tirmidhi, Bukhari
and Muslim)
"Do not call on women in the absence of
their husbands, because Satan might be circulating in any of you like
blood." (Tirmidhi).
According to 'Amr ibn al-'As, the Prophet forbade men to call on
women without the permission of their husbands. (Tirmidhi)
"From this day no man is allowed to call
on a woman in the absence of her husband unless he is accompanied by one or two
other men." (Tirmidhi)
The Prophet said,
"The one who touches the hand of a woman
without having a lawful relationship with her, will have an ember placed on his
palm on the Day of Judgment." (Takmalah, Fath alQadir)
'A'ishah says that the Prophet accepted the oath of allegiance
from women only verbally, without taking their hands into his own hand. He
never touched the hand of a woman who was not married to him (Bukhari).
Umaimah, daughter of Ruqaiqah, said that she went to the Prophet in the company
of some other women to take the oath of allegiance. He made them promise that
they would abstain from idolatry, stealing, adultery, slander, and disobedience
to the Prophet. When they had taken the oath, they requested that he take their
hands as a mark of allegiance. The Prophet said, "I do not take the
hands of women. Verbal affirmation is enough." (Nasa'i and Ibn Majah).
According to
Maulana Maududi these commandments apply in respect of young women. He says,
"It is lawful to sit with women of advanced age in privacy and touching
them is also not prohibited. It has been reported that Sayyiduna Abu Bakr used
to visit the clan where he had been suckled and shook hands with the old women.
It has been reported that Sayyidina 'Abdullah ibn Zubair used to have his feet
and head pressed gently for relief by an old woman. This distinction between
old and young women itself shows that the real object is to prevent such mixing
of the sexes as may lead to evil results.''
It is most
unfortunate, however, that in spite of this guidance from the Prophet (peace be
upon him) many Muslims have adopted the Western system of shaking hands with
women, using these traditions in respect of old women as a justification. This
is clearly an unreasonable extension of the permission. It is, therefore,
submitted that the Muslims the world over, and 'ulama in particular, must pause
to reflect and stop this un-Islamic practice which has crept into our society.
There cannot be a better form of greeting than uttering 'as-salamu
'alaikum ' (peace be upon you) and greeting back with 'wa
alaikum as-salam '(and peace be upon you too).
The Shari'ah
wants people to live in their houses in peace and privacy. It therefore
commands a Muslim, when visiting friends, relatives or strangers not to enter
their houses without seeking their permission. The Qur'an particularly forbids
him to enter their houses without alerting the women of the house so that he
does not surprise them in a condition in which he would not normally see them.
However, children do not have to seek such permission until they reach the age
of puberty and sexual awareness stirs in them:
When your children attain puberty, they should
ask for leave before entering the house, just as their elders asked it before
them... (24:58)
The Holy Qur'an also gives categories of people who should not
enter anybody else's house without permission:
O believers! Do not enter houses other than
your own until you have taken permission; and when you enter a house, greet the
people therein with salutation. (33:33)
At the beginning of Islam, the Arabs could not grasp the real
significance of these commands. Therefore they used to peep into houses from
the outside. Once when the Prophet (peace be upon him) was in his room, a
person peeped through the lattice. The Prophet said:
"If I had known that you were peeping, I
would have poked something into your eye. The command to ask permission has
been given to safeguard people against the evil look." (Bukhari) Then the
Prophet publicly announced: "If a person peeps into somebody else's house
without permission the people of the house will be justified if they injure his
eye." (Muslim)
No matter how urgent the need is, no-one is allowed to enter
anyone else's house without permission. The Qur'an says:
...and when you ask women for an article, ask
for it from behind a curtain; this is a purer way for your hearts and theirs.
(33:53)
These restrictions also apply to household servants. Once Bilal or
Anas asked Fatimah, the daughter of the Prophet, to hand him her child. She
handed it to him by stretching her hand from behind a curtain. It is noteworthy
that both these men were the personal attendants of the Prophet (peace be upon
him) and he used to affectionately address them as "Ya Bunayya" (O my
son). The real purpose behind those restrictions is to safeguard men and women
against evil inclinations. By keeping a safe distance between them, the
Shari'ah ensures that they do not grow too familiar and free with one another
which may make them drift towards sexual intimacy.
The Qur'an lays down the code of conduct for women in the
following words:
And play your role by being in your houses and
do not keep exhibiting your beauty and decorations like what used to happen in
the Jahiliyyah period (before Islam). (33:33)
Abu Bakr al-Jassas says in explaining this verse,
"This verse points out the fact that
women are ordered to play their role in the house and are forbidden from
loitering outside of their houses."
It was revealed when the Muslim ummah was being formed in Madina
as an example for the coming generations of Muslims. It sought to put an end to
the Jahiliyyah practices of the pagan Arabs. The khalif 'Umar remarked:
"By Allah, we did not give any position
to women in the Jahiliyyah period until such time that Allah sent His command
in respect of them and apportioned for them the role that was to be
theirs." (Muslim)
Under this apportionment women were given the role of making their
own homes the centers of their attention rather than going about exhibiting
their physical charms and worldly possessions. The Prophet (peace be upon him)
said that the following type of women constitute one of the categories of the
dwellers of Hell:
"Those women who seem naked even when
dressed and those who walk flirtingly and those who plait their heads like the
humps of camels, thus inviting people's attention, will not enter Paradise nor
will they smell its fragrance even though its fragrance can be smelt from a
very long distance." (Muslim).
Islam, however, does not prohibit beautification (zinat) on the
part of women as long as it is not done in a way that injuriously interferes
with the limbs or the body. In ancient times there were many kinds of
defacement practiced on the bodies of men and animals, partly on account of
superstition or pagan custom and partly on account of the craze for fashion and
display. Examples of this were tattooing, sharpening or spacing the teeth,
shaving or plucking the hair, wearing hair pieces, etc. Many of these practices
still survive and are, in fact, getting more and more refined.
Since all
these practices change or seriously interfere with the natural creation of
Allah, the Prophet (peace be upon him) cursed those who indulged in them for
the purpose of mere beautification. One report says,
"The Messenger of Allah cursed women who
tattooed, and those who got themselves tattooed, those who engaged in
sharpening the teeth (as a mark of beauty) and those who had their teeth
sharpened." (Bukhari and Muslim)
The Messenger of Allah cursed women who had spaces made between
their teeth in order to increase their beauty, thus changing the creation of
Allah. A third report says,
"The Messenger of Allah cursed the women
who plucked hair and those who were employed to pluck the eyebrows." (Abu
Dawud)
This method of beautification would include the modern practice of
shaving the eyebrows and then painting on new ones, or shaving certain hair and
leaving the eyebrows to look like two inverted crescents.
However, if a
woman has some obtrusive hairs on her face which are a problem and
embarrassment for her, she may remove them. When 'A'ishah was approached by the
young wife of Abu Is'haq who wished to remove her facial hairs in order to look
beautiful for her husband, she advised her to do so. (Reported by atTabarani)
On this basis some Hanafi jurists are of the opinion that there is no harm in
removing the hairs from a woman's face and applying cosmetics if it is done
with the permission of the husband, in order to please him and with a good
intention. But Imam alNawawi opposes even removing the hairs on a woman's face
because he considers the practice similar to plucking hair.
A fourth
report says:
''A'ishah reported that the Messenger of Allah
(peace be upon him) cursed women who wore hair pieces and the women who aided
in this practice." (Bukhari)
This method of beautification would include the modern practice of
wearing wigs. It consists of using a plait of one woman's hair or artificial
hair and joining it to another woman's hair with the object of making the
woman's hair appear very long and beautiful. Mu'awiyah, while holding a plait
of such hair in his hands during his address to the Muslims, castigated the
'ulama:
"Where are your learned men gone?
(meaning why did they not stop women from using such hair) I heard the
Messenger of Allah stop them from using this." He also said,
"Undoubtedly the Israelites destroyed themselves when their women adopted
such things." (Bukhari)
The Shari'ah also requires women to abstain from displaying their
"decorations" except to a restricted circle of people. The Qur'an
says:
And say to the believing women that they
should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; and that they should not
display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear
thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display
their beauty save to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husbands'
fathers, or their sons, or their husbands' sons, or their brothers or their
brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom
their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical desire, or small
children who have no sense of sex; and that they should not stamp their feet in
order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O believers! Turn all
together towards Allah, that you may attain bliss. (24:31)
Thus, the following people fall in the exceptional category to whom
decorations can be displayed by a woman:
It is noteworthy that the above verse of the Noble Qur'an does not
mention uncle, but uncle is included in the exceptional category on the basis
of a tradition of the Prophet (peace be upon him). The Prophet said, "The
uncle (maternal or paternal) is of the same degree as one's father."
(Muslim)
Let us here
give a little more consideration to the women to whom another woman is
permitted to display her finery. These are the women with whom she has blood or
family relations. It should be borne in mind that the foregoing Qur'anic verse
implies only women of good character. Other women who may not be well known to
her or who are notorious for their evil ways or who may be of doubtful
character are excluded from this permission, because contact with them might
easily lead to disastrous results. That is why the khalif 'Umar wrote to Abu
'Ubaidah ibn al-Jarrah, the Governor of Syria, to prohibit the Muslim women
from going to the baths with the women of the Ahl al-Kitab (the People of the
Book). (At-Tabari, Ibn Jazir) According to Ibn 'Abbas too:
"...a Muslim woman is not allowed to
display herself before the women of the unbelievers and non-Muslim poll-tax
payers (Ahl al- Dhimmah) any more than she can display herself before other
men." (At-Tabari).
This distinction between women on grounds of character and
religion is intended to safeguard Muslim women against the influence of women
whose moral and cultural background is either not known or is objectionable
from the Islamic point of view. However, the Shari'ah allows Muslim women to
mix freely with non- Muslim women who are of good character. It is important to
note that permission to display zinat does not include permission to display
those parts of the body which fall within the female satr. Thus zinat covers
decorations, ornaments, clothing, hair- dos, etc. that women are by nature fond
of showing in their houses. But tight jeans, short blouses, sleeveless dresses
are not counted as zinat for they also reveal that satr.
The Shari'ah further
requires a woman not to stamp on the ground while walking, lest her hidden
decorations should be revealed by their jingle, and thus attract the attention
of passers-by. Writing about these restrictions, Maulana Maududi says:
"It cannot, however, be claimed that a
display of fineries will turn every woman into a prostitute, nor that every man
who sees her will become an adulterer. But, at the same time, nobody can deny
that if women go about in full make-up and mix freely with men, it is likely to
result in countless open and secret, moral and material disadvantages for
society."
As against this view, the Egyptian scholars, notably 'Abbas Mahmud
al-'Aqqad, are of the view that these restrictions were only imposed on the
wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him) and other Muslim women are not bound
by them. 'Aqqad says, "We should discuss this point in the light of the
fact that the command to stay at home was merely addressed to the wives of the
Prophet (peace be upon him) with particular reference to them without referring
it to Muslim women in general. It is for this reason that the verse begins with
the statement of Allah: O women of the Prophet, you are not like other women.
(33:32)
It is
respectfully submitted that this view of Al-'Aqqad needs reconsideration. There
are a number of verses in the Qur'an which, though apparently laying down
"dos" and "don'ts" for our Prophet and for the other
Prophets (peace be upon all of them) preceding him, contain clear messages for
Muslims in general, nay for all mankind. And Al-'Aqqad contradicts himself when
he quotes the following verse of the Holy Qur'an:
O you who believe! Do not enter the Prophet's
house until leave is given you for a meal, (and then) not (so early as) to wait
for its preparation; but when you are invited, enter; and when you have taken
your meal, disperse, without seeking familiar talk. Such (behaviour) annoys the
Prophet. He is ashamed to dismiss you, but Allah is not ashamed (to tell you)
the truth. And when you ask his womenfolk for anything you want, ask them from
behind a screen; that makes for greater purity for your hearts and for theirs.
Nor is it right for you that you should annoy Allah's Apostle, or that you
should marry his widows after him at any time. Truly such a thing is an
enormity in Allah's sight. (33:53)
This verse apparently lays down a code of manners for the
believers when entering the house of the Prophet (peace be upon him) and taking
food there. After quoting this verse, Al-'Aqqad says:
"And this is part of the etiquette of
visiting people with which all visitors should be well disciplined.' In other
words, he agrees that this ayat, which is specific to the house of the Prophet
(peace be upon him) and taking food there, in reality contains rules applicable
to all believers who want to enter somebody else's house. If from this special
case a rule of general application can be deduced by Al- 'Aqqad, there seems no
reason why he should refuse to deduce a rule of general application for Muslim
women from the verse addressed to the wives of the Prophet.
Moreover, this view seems to get support from
a tradition of the Prophet in which he said: "...a woman who freely mixes
with other people and shows off her decorations is without light and virtue
" (At-Tirmidhi)
Hence we may conclude that no Muslim woman should display her
zinat (decoration) before others intentionally, but she is not held responsible
for something which cannot be helped e.g. her stature, physical build, gait.
etc. nor for uncovering her hand or face when there is a genuine need to do so
and without any intention of attracting men. In such cases it is the
responsibility of Muslim men not to cast evil glances at women with the
intention of drawing pleasure from them. The Qur'an ordains:
Say to believing men to lower their eyes.
(24:30)
Very often, a man may receive male visitors and guests in his
house. In such a situation the question may arise whether the wife of the host
can come forward to serve food and drink to them. If a woman's husband is not
present when his guests arrive, she should not serve them. However, if her
husband is present and the guests are known friends, relatives and
well-wishers, a woman may come forward to serve them with food and drink
provided that she is properly dressed and her manners, movements and method of
talking are such that they are not likely to encourage evil in them or arouse
their passions and thereby become a source of fitnah (mischief).
We have a
very good example in the following:
"When 'AbdurRashid al-Sa'adi got married,
he invited the Prophet (peace be upon him) and his Companions. His wife, Umm
Asyad, prepared the food alone and served it herself. She soaked some dates in
a stone bowl overnight, When the Prophet finished eating, she offered him the water,
after stirring it well, as a present." (At-Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud)
If a woman is not properly dressed, it is better that she does not
come forward to serve guests. In this case she should pass out the food and
drinks to her husband and he should entertain the guests and visitors on his
own.
A Muslim woman should not use public baths (hammam) or swimming
pools because these places are likely to be a cause of her exposing herself to
evil influences. The following tradition treats this point:
"Some women from Homs or from Sham (now
the area of Damascus) came to 'A'ishah. She asked, 'Do you enter the public
baths? I heard the Messenger of Allah saying that a woman who undresses
anywhere else other than in her own house tears off the satr which lies between
her and her Lord .' " (At-Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud)
If the public baths and swimming pools are mixed, with both men
and women using them, it is all the more objectionable. At one stage the
Prophet (peace be upon him) forbade both men and women to enter public oath-
houses but later he allowed men to use them on the condition that they were
never naked. "The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace, forbade all men to enter public baths but later allowed them to enter
them wearing waist-wrappers."
If a wealthy
man builds a private pool on his own property there is no harm in him and his
wife using it together. However, if he has more than one wife, he should not
bathe with more than one at a time, and, if he has grown-up sons, they should
not bathe together with their mothers or step-mothers.
Places in which men and women dance together are totally at odds
with the ethos of Muslim society and the Shari'ah does not tolerate the participation
of Muslim men and women in this activity because it may so easily prove the
first step towards greater evils such as adultery and fornication. Dancing is
most certainly not compatible with the simple, purposeful lives that all
Muslims should lead. Mixed gymnasiums where women remove their clothes and wear
skin- tight costumes for doing physical exercises are also against the dictates
of the Shari'ah.
The Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him) granted permission to
Muslim women to attend the mosque and pray standing behind the rows of men. He
even advised the Companions: "Do not prevent the female servants of
Allah from going to the mosque." And husbands were specifically told by
him: "When your womenfolk ask you for permission to attend the mosque, do
not prevent them."
Of course
this permission to attend the mosques was on the condition that women strictly
observed the various restrictions imposed upon them by the Shari'ah regarding
dress, etc., and it is known that the Prophet (peace be upon him) considered it
preferable for women to pray in their own homes rather than attend the mosques.
This is borne out by the following incident.
Once the wife
of Abu Hamid Sa'adi pleaded with the Prophet to be allowed to attend his mosque
(the Prophet's Mosque in Madina) as she was very fond of offering prayers
behind him. He told her,
"What you say is right, but it is better
for you to offer prayer in a closed room than in a courtyard. Your prayer in a
courtyard is better than on a verandah, and your offering prayer in the mosque
of your own locality is better than your coming to our mosque for it."
Thereafter she appointed a room for offering prayers and continued offering
prayers there till her death, never even once going to the mosque.
There is a
clear tradition of the Prophet (peace be upon him) encouraging women to offer
their prayers inside their houses: "The best mosques for women are the
inner parts of their houses."
Since the
Prophet had not forbidden women to attend the mosques, they continued to come
to the mosques. But after his death it became increasingly clear that it was
not in keeping with the dignity and honour of Muslim women to come to the
mosques for prayers, especially at night, because men, being what they were,
would tease them. Therefore the Khalif 'Umar told women not to come to the
mosques, but to offer their prayers inside their own houses. The women of
Madina resented this prohibition and complained to 'A'isha. But they received a
fitting reply from her: "If the Prophet knew what 'Umar knows, he
would not have granted you permission to go out (to the mosque)."
'A'isha also
prevented women from going to the mosques. When she was told that the Prophet
(peace be upon him) had permitted them to attend the mosques, she replied:
"Had the customs and manners which women
have adopted since the Prophet's death been there in his lifetime, he too would
have prevented them."
Now, what 'A'isha said by way of admonition was in the context of
what happened immediately after the death of the Prophet. But what is happening
today 1350 years after his death is much more serious in the context of modern
fashions and manners. It would probably have shocked 'A'isha beyond measure and
she would have reinforced her admonition. Be that as it may, the fact remains
that our Prophet did grant permission to women to attend the mosques. In the
modern world a new situation has arisen. There are many Muslims living in
Western countries, and Western culture and fashions have affected women, even
in the East. In addition, the economic tyranny of today has forced many women
to work in factories and offices to earn their living. These developments have
largely contributed to making many Muslims neglectful of their prayers. We
Muslims have to find ways and means of encouraging Muslim women to be
particular about their prayers. With due respect to what the khalif, 'Umar, and
the Mother of the Believers, 'A'isha, said, it appears to this humble writer
that such a way can be found by reverting to the original Prophetic tradition,
that is to say, permitting Muslim women to attend the mosques to offer their
prayers, subject to all the restrictions laid down by the Prophet (peace be
upon him) about their dress etc.
People
generally learn by example. Therefore the chances are that, if women started
coming to the mosque for prayer, a social pressure would start building up that
would make Muslim women feel the urge to come to the mosque to offer their
prayers and give up their neglectful attitude. However, it goes without saying
that proper arrangements would have to be made for Muslim women to attend the
mosques. They must not be allowed to mingle with the men, and their rows must
be kept separate from those of the men, preferably behind them, because this is
what was approved by the Prophet (peace be upon him).
It is
reported by Abu Hurairah that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
"The best row for men is the first, and
the worst for them is the last. The best row for women is the last, and the
worst is the first." (Muslim)
It is well known that, in the time of the Prophet, women were
permitted to attend the mosques subject to the condition that they satisfied
the various restrictions imposed on them by the Shari'ah, such as the putting
on of a jalbab (a large sheet used for covering the entire body), wearing
simple and dignified clothes, not using any perfume, avoiding ostentatious
display of ornament, etc. Therefore, if the suggestion of this writer is
accepted, efforts will have to be made to persuade Muslim women who want to
attend the mosques to start complying with the traditional restrictions on
dress, etc. But what has been suggested above should in no way be taken to mean
that all women should be required to attend the mosque and indeed those who
feel that their houses are as good as the mosque should be encouraged to offer
their prayers there.