HIJAAB
It is late in the afternoon at
the University of British Columbia and I have been cooped up in this library for
hours, trying to compose a thesis for my American Literature term paper.
Deciding that a break would help clear my thoughts, I leave the confines of the
library to sit outside, only to hear a female voice come up from behind me to
ask: "Just how is it that you can live with yourself from day to day
wearing that THING on your head and letting THEM control your life?"
Granted, it is an original line, a creative way to break the ice, yet why the
code words? Only because I've been yelled at in public before for reasons
connected to my appearance do I know what this woman means.
Code word # 1: "head
thing"= 30inch X 30inch yellow and maroon flower patterned polyester
blend, a piece of cloth I happen to be wearing to cover my head and neck;
Code word #2: "them"= all Muslim men who, sinister-like with
their dark beards, heavy accents, and hidden Uzi's get a rush out of making
women their life-long slaves.
Having deciphered all this
quickly, I turn to face the stranger-a cross looking thing-I smile politely and
signal to the empty chair beside me:
"Would you like to have a
seat?" HIJAB, the head to ankle covering that leaves only the face, hands
and feet visible in public, has made me a very patient Muslim woman. The brave
individuals who have mustered the courage to verbally express their opinions
about my scarf haven't been the most trying. There are many who can't formulate
words coherent enough to communicate > > their disapproval, and so, rely
on simple gestures and sign language. Walking through downtown Vancouver, I've
been fingered, spat on, scowled and cursed at.
I can ignore the flagrant
distortions no more than I can deny the fact that I am a Muslim living in
Canada. Who I am and what popular culture thinks I am, has become a
tug-of-war-competition of who can explain the status of the Muslim hijab-wearer
convincingly. The media tells the public that I am a weak freak of nature who
has been forced to subject herself to the tyranny of Muslim fundamentalists.
Catherine Meckes assesses that wearing hijab is "some kind of twisted
logic" because it entraps women like animals in a cage.
The Muslim dress code, she
argues, is a form of hiding from society so that I don't have to deal with the
realities of my "natural habitat." Ms. Meckes seems to be familiar
enough with the Western culture to know that women are constantly objectified,
used as commodities, tools to sell beer and boost sales for the next football
season. Sadly enough, though, she views women who wish to distance themselves
from this commercial degradation with fear.
She finds women who cover
"disturbing" and wished that she didn't have to confront them on
their "home turf."
Pardon my feeble-mindedness,
I've pinned my scarf on too tight and squeezed reason out of my brain....just
WHO is running away from the truth? I have chosen to set myself apart from
millions of Canadians, placed myself in the way of ridicule by a society that
demands women to conform to certain ideals,I have refused to hide in the
crowded university hallways and malls by looking the way Cindy, Cosmo, or
Calvin Klein think I should- all because I'm a spineless caged rodent?!?! I
have rejected the hip-hugging jeans, the breast-enhancing halter tops, the
poofy hair and made-up face, and accepted hijab so that I can be appreciated
for my intellect and personality rather than my figure or fashion sense. When I
face a classmate or colleague I can be confident that my body is not being
scrutinized, my bra-strap or pantyline visible. I have repudiated the perverted
values of our society by choosing to assert myself only through my mind. I
understand my "natural habitat" very well thank you.
I fully comprehend the
distorted image of the "ideal woman," but the difference between me
and the Catherine Meckes's of the world is that I am NOT afraid to defy those
standards. Islam liberated me from THAT prison.
Perhaps hijab is so
misunderstood because it is prescribed by a religion that makes a bold and
shocking statement: Women are precious creatures who have the right to be
valued for who they are, and not what they can juggle. When I decided to start
wearing hijab, my mother pulled me aside and posed this question: "If you
found a diamond that was exquisite in every way, would you show it to all your
friends, let them gawk at its dazzle, caress it, or would you covet the stone
and protect it by preserving its natural splendor?"
Once you bear something for all
to see, the second you display something for its beauty, you objectify it and
diminish its value. Because its worth is built on its ability to attract, when
it no longer elicits awe from onlookers it becomes worthless. Is it a wonder
that neck lines keep plunging every year?- more cleavage means women won't bore
oglers, the commercial industries, and the rest of society for awhile. But when
will those skirts quit shortening?? For how long will women remain sex
objects??
Islam tells us that every woman
is a jewel and when she respects herself enough to preserve her beauty for
herself and her loved ones, she rejects being objectified by a society which
does NOT value her. Only the dearest people in my life know me without hijab
because they love me enough to value ALL of me. John and Jane Doe don't love me
or care for me, so why must I meet their notions of an "ideal woman"
if they are meaningless to me? It is the desire to please popular culture that
makes 15 year old girls want to fit Kate Moss's jeans by sticking their fingers
down their throats and wretching(throwing up) three times a day. It is the
unattainable Perfect-Body society has conjured, that make "fat",
"ugly" girls splatter themselves on sidewalks because they just are
"not thin and pretty enough". AND THEY TELL ME ISLAM OPPRESSES
WOMEN??
I am thankful that I am not
suicidal or psychologically unbalanced because I can't meet the demands of my
culture. I am fortunate that my concerns and goals in life lie on a higher
plane than the dictates of a pretty fashion industry. I am quite content with
my religion, for it values my power to achieve great things through my mind,
not through my body. Whether I am physically beautiful or not, you have no
clue. Perhaps this fact is disturbing for Catherine Meckes and the library
stranger because they are not ready to meet a woman who can get by without her
looks. Then again, perhaps it is because they are just ignorant of the (WHAT IS
IT?) facts. Either way, I don't need anyone's sympathy, I am not really that
scary, and your anger does me no harm.
I am not under duress, or a
male-worshipping female captive from the barbarous Arabian deserts.
Why Women Should
Wear the Veil?
Women throughout the world
spend millions of Dollars on facial beauty. Companies manufacturing 'beauty'
products make a colossal figure in sales. It would be nothing short saying that
the products used on the face far exceed other products. This in itself proves
that humans are particularly possessive of their looks - facial expression.
People especially women take great pride and time in making up their faces.
Allah Ta'ala has placed the
beauty of man and woman in the face. Perhaps the busiest part of the body is
the face - used extensively in communication. The face communicates the
person's mood and facial expressions and expresses the character and mannerism.
Because so much of
identification is assembled by the face, least to mention the beauty of women,
Muslim women are required to hide away their beauty. The veil forms part of
their concealment.
The Noble Qur'an declares:
"Oh Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women
of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e.
screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That
will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women so as not
to be annoyed." (Ahzaab 59)
Furthermore, the Noble Qur'an
declares in Sura Nur verse 31, that the believing women 'should not display
their beauty and ornamentation' except to their husbands and immediate family
(Mahrams).
Allah Ta'ala says clearly that
a woman's body should be covered by loose-fitting, non-transparent clothing so
that the shape of her body is not revealed. The Hijaab hides the beauty of the
woman's form.
No one can dispute that a
woman's primary focus of beauty is her face. Therefore, if Allah Ta'ala places
so much of emphasis on hiding the beauty of a woman's body, it's only logical
that the centre of greater attraction - the face - should without a doubt also
be covered.
Referring to the wives
(Radhiallaahu Anhunna) of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) warns the
men:
"And when you ask (His ladies) for anything you want, ask
them from behind a curtain: that makes for greater purity for your hearts and
theirs." (Ahzaab 33:53)
If Allah Ta'ala expects the
prophet's wives to be so guarded then surely none of the believing women can
claim greater purity of heart and consequently exemption from the directive to
hide their beauty.
Hadhrat Aaisha (Radhiyallaahu
Anha) says, '(during Hajj in the state of Ihraam) when the male should walk in
front of us while in the company of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam),
then we would drop our veils from the head over the face.'
This Hadith emphatically shows
the manner adopted by the honoured wives of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi
Wasallam). They have exemplified an extremely dignified way of life for the
women of the Ummah.
Courtesy of jamiat.org.za-jamiat ulema