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Text for this seminar was remarks by Reb Nachman on Peace & Anger.

R. Nachman says:  The biggest kiddush haShem is if I can give overto you [that] there's no distance between you and G-d.

The Rabbenu shel Olam gives you whateve ryou need in order to dowhat you need [to do] in this world.

If I am vaery distant from G-d, then there's fear of G-d.  If I'mvery close then the real yirat is this awesome G-d awareness.

R. Motele Chernobler says:  A pagan is one who does the most awfulavera in the world -- and then he davens mincha thinking, G-ddoesn't listen to me.

Avraham Avinu says ... Sdom -- just give me 50 tzadkim and I willshow them [how to do tsuva and become more whole, more holy.]
{Reference:  Genesis: 18:24}

Real tchuva is just to realize, I'm -- mamash -- there.

When you do something wrong, the greatest punishment is, you feela stranger to G-d.

R. Nachman says -- if Yosef had done something wrong with the wifeof Potiphar (sub-reference:  Genesis 39), he would not have hadthe strength to not be angry with his brothers (Genesis 45)

Most of us are afraid to talk to ourselves.

Most people are strangers to their own neshama.  All our mistakescome because we're so far from ourselves.

Sometimes parents and children, husband and wife, we fight over 5dollars and lose out on 1 million.

All the Rebbes say:  Davening -- Meshiach will teach us.  Wehaven't learned to daven yet.

R. Nachman says:  I don't know if any person knows how to tellanother they did wrong.  If you tell them too much, you destroythem; if you tell them too little, you're lying to them.  
[Caveat:  Recheck this quote from tape; the preceding is only asummary paraphrase.--sa]

R. Nachman says:  The heaviest thing in the world is a mistake.
R. Nachman says:  When you see the donkey of another person youhave to help him.  {Ref:       } ... My donkey is my stupidity.

The Baal Shem Tov says:  Why do we eat the 3rd meal [of Shabbat --Shal Shudes] when it's dark -- I realize ... Shabbos hasn'treached my dark side yet.

The first thing is:  you have to make peace among Yidden.  Thenyou hae to make peace between a person and their emotions. {Presumably commenting on Peace #6, from R. Nachman (33)}.

A person has to be prepared -- you can't fix an emotion while it'shappening --- 

A person always has to know a little bit who's talking to them.

Today, Brother S {the Adversary} is too refined to utter the wordwrong -- why do we yell at each other -- Bro S comes to us andsays -- you know you took this Assertiveness Training?  Now's thetime --

R. Nachman says:  You have to prepare yourself for everyeventuality.

The Baal Shem Tov? [check tape]:  Bro S knows more than anyone inthe world -- he can quote you every Gemora to make you crazy

My father know every person in the city [Vienna]; and every personin the city knew my father.  My father was very close to theCardinal, because my father was the only one who really knew thewhole Bible in Latin and Greek.
[[R. Shlomo was here telling a story of how his father was able tointervene to save a Jewish man facing deportation for youthfulradical activity.]]

I want to be close to people, and I have the stupid idea, I haveto listen to everything you say -- ... It is so easy to puteverything on other people.

Everybody has their share in the Torah in the world.

The story of Joseph.  The brothers throw him into a pit and say'and we will see what happens to his dreams'. {Genesis 37:20}
A voice from heaven echos 'and we will see what happens to hisdreams.' {Midrash: _____}.  Reuven heard it.

G-d is telling me what I need for the fixing of my neshama.

*You cannot bring peace unless you have a little bit of an ideawhat you have to do in this world -- and you havae to stick to it. It's so easy to get lost.  
	It's so easy to be angry with G-d.  Because I don't reallyelieve that G-d knows what I need to do in my life.

To become more of a mensch -- you have to not be so sad -- to get
closer to G-d
 
What does saed mean -- I'm so sad that it's this way, and not theother way -- paganism.

There is strength and there is joy --

Sadness on Shabbos is a bit avera --
We're not talking here about fake joy --
R. Nachman? does not say you should not be sad inside -- wheredoes it say that while you are sad you cannot be happy?

All the sicknesses in the world are coming from sadness.  He [R.Nachman] says:  I don't care if you're happy because of somethingstupid -- even the dirtiest jokes -- 

It's a special privilege to be happy.

G-d can only speak to you when you're filled with joy -- otherwiseyou have no vessels.

The headquarters for joy is not in your head.  ("I love exercising-- I watch it for hours.").  R. Nachman says:  the headquartersfor simcha is in yhourheart.  So why are we not b'simcha ...because your heart is crooked -- if I would keep my heart the wayG-d gave it to me, it would be full of joy.
	The Gemara says, thunder was only given to straighten out yurheart.  R. Nachman says:  thunder is davening with all yourstrength.  (Heart.)

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From 2nd Seminar Day, 12/27/93

Everybody's talking long-distance nowadays 
Joke:  [A guy complains to a rabbi:] 'I'm talking to myself longdistance and I can't pay the bill.'  'So call yourself collect.'

You can't live without air -- without a a certain ammount of lightof G-d


*The closest anyone could get to the Baal Shem Tov was the oldLubavitcher Rebbe

Hatred is:  `If you wouldn't be in this world, I could also exist'
           `I don't know why G-d created you in the first place.'
           
If you hate someone, you don't see them anymore.
If you hate someone, you can't see them.

R. Nachman says:  When you hate each other you put a tornado inthe air ... in that air you can't talk.

When people don't like each other, not only they can't ehar whatthe other says, they hear the opposite.

*I don't mean to talk politics, but:  How can you make peace whensomeone doesn't hear what you're saying.

*When the old Lubavitcher Rebbe came to America, the first thinghe said was:  we have to purify the air.
 
Before the Law was given on Mt. Sinai, there was a moment ofsilence.

They came to Balaam and they said, is there a tornado coming?  Hesaid, yes, but not a tornado that will destroy the world, atornado that will rebuild the world.  {Ref:___________}

Whenever you want to talk to a person,there has to be the utmostpeace between us.

When Yakov met his brother he bowed down 7 times {Genesis:   }...Obviously he was not bowing to Essav ... he was praying tht whenhe gets there, he should only talk to his brother -- because Essavwas his brother for 5 minutes -- but then it says Essav went backwhere he came from --
For 5 minutes the world was our brother 

Hagar was the daughter of Pharoh -- when Sarah left, Pharoh giaveher as a gift one of his daughters -- in the house of Avraham evenhis slaves, servants, were treated as a princess

You have to give people a balance
Avraham is Hesed, Sarah is Gevurah, to keep it in balance --
Avrham had a yeshiva for men, Srah had a yeshiva for women
Tosefta [says]:  they were fixing the world -- Gevurah sh'b'Hesed
You have to know who to love and who not to love
To do charity for an evil person is not love
[In the 'peace' negotiations] We're not talking to the goodpeople, we're talking to the murderers.                           If Hagar even thought to become Rosh Yeshiva, she was on the real? - she had Clear Prophecy -- she spoke to angels -- you thinkAvraham got some little Filipino girl?
Hagar was the wife of Avraham
Her mistake was, she thought you could run the world with justlove --
The angel said, you have to go back --
The wife has to balance the husband --
Husband and wife have to balance each other.

Yishamel said to Yitzak, you are not the son of Avraham, you arethe son of Abimelech -- that's murder -- first of all, [if Yitzakis the illegitimate son of a married woman] he's a mamzer --Yitzak wants to be the holiest person in the world --

*We were hoping that the people who are [presently] running thecountry [of Israel] would be connected to the people -- butthey're not -- it's a goyische place. [27.12.93]

*The people [of Israel] are so broken [at present] because theyrealize the leaders are not connected --  [27.12.93]

*The Gemara says, when Avraham Avinu died, Ishamel did tchuva.  Ina certain very deep way the Arabs give us more kavod [honor,respect] than the Xians.

*What's going on -- why are we silent -- there's a passagae thatsays, 'You have to raise your voice like a Shofar'.

*	On a deep level, it's my fault because I  have to love them[`Palestinians'] first -- if I wait for them to love me first, itwill never happen.
[If] I'm a black man, I hate the white man.  A black taxi-driver - I quote him like the Ishbitzer -- [said]:  You Jews, you've beenpersecuted for so long and you have not yet learned how to hate.
                 
R. Nachman says, all the time:  Peace is not between ideas, it'sbetween people.

*Sometimes you are not in the right place, and sometimes you aremamash in the wrong place.

*There is a sefer from the Kotzker Rebbe's gandson -- I wishsomeone would translate it into good English -- [in which he says]There is no mitzva which is so unclear as the mitzva of living inIsrael -- "Go to the land which I will show you" [Genesis:    ]. This land is for people who G-d shows it to.

A stewardess on an airline said:  What's wrong with you Jews -- ifI ever convert, the next morning I'm in Israel -- 
	What's wrong with su?  Because we were there wehn theMiraglim were ther [Exodus:   ].  It contaminated us [withambivalence about the land of Israel] -- the converts were onlythere at Mt. Sinai.  

*My connection to Israel is beyond choice. 

*There are some yidden who think we always have to apologize tothe world, because we have the land [of Israel].

*The last 3 hours before Messiach comes, it will be so hard -- inthe last three hours before Meshiach comes it will be absolutelyclear [in our minds] [that he will never come].

*They [the present government] don't care for peace -- they wantto be accepted by the goyim -- let the goyim be accepted by us --
Because they don't like us, we have to leave?

*The problem [in the present 'peace' negotiations] is we are nottalking to the good people.

*Right after the 6-Day War we should have given concerts in everyschool [in the occupied territories]

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Excerpted Notes from Seminar Day 3, 12/28/93

Re: R. Nachman on Anger:
The question is not only what you see, the question is where areyou sdtanidng while you're seeing [learning].

When I was 4 I took off my yarmuke and said, I won't wear itanymore.  My brother went crying to maiy father and said, Mybrother ever be a rabbi anymore.

*If I'm a little bit good, it's because my father never yelled atme.

*The Kozhnitizer Maggid says, the greatest evil in the world isexcuses. 

*Most good people also have a lot of cruelty in their hearts ...you have to control it ... unless you reach the level of DavidHaMelech ... you have to work like a dog on yourself -- you haveto cry your eyes out ...

	The teachers today -- evidently it is necessary for them tocut kids short -- it's the age of tailors 
Don't cut them short -- you want to make them so tall they don'twant to do it anymore.
	Do you have the right to fill your heart with cruelty -- doyou have the right to take poison -- 
	If you can be angry without cruelty --
If they walk away from you and they have so much strength theydon't do it again --
	If they walk away from you broken, it was cruelty

*Imagine if every second of our life, we would be aware, what isour purpose in life.

R. Nachaman says:  Sometimes a person lives 70 years, and thewhole purpose was to do a favor for another human being.

*I have no idea what my ultimate purpose is.
 
*	On Tuesday G-d created food -- on Friday G-d created [man]
	What does a cow walk on all four's -- the head and thestomach are on the same level -- most people are on that level

*[[Irrelevant quote:  Why does a hammentaschen have 3 corners?  Ifit had 4, you'd have to put on tzitzit.]]

*There are very few Rebbes who talk so deep about anger as RebNachman.

*The '60's -- gates opening -- the world wasn't ready for it --the world thought, a person is a clean shirt and tie

*The real need is on Friday, a person needs most a little honor --and inner strength--
	How do you know if you fix your relationship to honor -- thequestion always is, how much honor do you give to other --
	The Maharal says, the most holy gift one human being can giveto another is honor.

*A top political man -- I have to give him [secular] honor -- Iget up -- which part of me is getting up?
[If I get up to give honor] to the Lubavitcher Rebbe -- which partis getting up -- my neshama.

*The Bobover Rebbe [in WWII he was impersonating a Polish officer,as a member of the underground] -- he carried people out ofconcentration camps -- he once organized a coal train with 20 cars-- on top was coal, underneath were hundreds of people -- he wascaught 127 times by the Nazis [but escaped]
	1000 people came to see him when he came to the USA [afterthe War] -- a little girl of 9 -- he was 38 when he came toAmerica -- the king -- the Rebbe put his arms around her, andcompletely ignored the whole world --

*You need a privilege to see spiritual people --

*When we were little we had a goat -- one night she would sleepwith my brother, one night with me -- when my mother came into theroom, we would cover her up fast -- not that my mother wasn't agood person -- 

*When do you have the privilege that G-d shows you the holiness ofthe world -- when instead of being angry, you turn it intocompassion.                                                      

*G-d does not let you destroy more than you can rebuild.

*When my children fall in the mud, do I drop them?

*There is one thing my neshama cannot take -- and that is anger --my neshama is waiting in the dining room -- when you're finished,tell me -- 

*The Ishbitzer says -- the hassidim say -- Why is a horse a horse-- because it doesn't know how strong it is.

*The souls of S'dom came back, and they were the slaves in Egypt.
The people of S'dom -- what they leared as slaves was, how much ithurts -- 
SEMINAR, YAKAR, DAY 4, 12/29/93

Don't every say I'll never get angry gain; say -- for th next 20minutes I won't get angry.

*In heaven, every thing [every step toward reducing one's vices]counts.

My Rebbe for Sukkos is Bobov -- I don't mean to knock Lubavitch[[from which R. Shlomo received ordination]] -- every Rebbe hastheir speciality.  The Bobov Rebbe never takes his eyes off theSukka. 

R. Nachman says:  The heaviest thing in the world is guilt -- itdoesn't let you move.

*When you do something wrong, it's `bad'.  What is `evil'?  Yousay to yourself, I'm evil.  That's evil.
	[For example,] On Shabbos, I walk into a Doggy Diner.  I sayto myself, I'm so bad [because I bought lunch at the Doggy Dinneron Shabat], I don't deserve [Shal Shudes, Maleva Malkeh, etc.]

Guilt is destroying your life.
You say, Master of the World, I made a mistake, forgive me, I'monly human.

This is a torah that changed my life:  R. Mottele Chernobler says: If you do the most terrible thing in the world, and afterwards youcan't daven mincha like Yom Kippur, you're a pagan.

We take wine, and because of wine I remember there's one G-d.
I hold the kiddish cup on the palm of may hand -- I'm telling thewine, you're not my master, I'm your master.

*In the world, how do I show ownership -- I step on something -- Ibow down -- [to acknowlege that another has mastery over me]
How does G-d show ownership -- He lifts us up -- "on eagles wings"[Exodus:    ] ... beyond where you thought you could fly.

*My uncle [ R. Carlebach of Altona/Hamburg?] said:  Messiach canonly come when instead of sending children to school, they sendparents to school.

*When G-d wants to give us something, one minute before, He givesus a little test --
 
Everything which belongs to us is part of our soul --

*In the Gemora, money is something which puts you on your feet.
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Before G-d gives you some money he test you -- can you keep ittogether

*To have a good name, you have to have 5000 sparks together --when you get angry, all those sparks fly apart

*Anger is not merely cruel to the person you're yelling at; gevaltare you cruel to yourself.

*You have no right to yell at somebody and destroy them.

*You can walk around your hwole life being angry,l and then youfind out it was a mistake.
	Most marriages go broke because they don't tell each other 

When you're at the bottom floor, what's the first thing you do --look for the elevator -- don't stay where you are.

*The first thing you do, if you have the strength, go up to theperson you yelled out and tell them, 'I swear tp upi. every wordwas a lie.')

You don't stand on somebody's to4es unless you're very close.

Reb Nachman says:  We're angry, we never finish anything.

*The greatest fixing is to have compassion on yourself.  It's easyto have compasison on others.

*What always makes us angry is the most stupid thing in the world. I don't have time [to get angry]. 

Ishbitzer:  A pure person is someone who's not angry at G-d.

*Where is the headquarters for wiping out anger -- the holy land - [suppose] I walk into a hospital -- [and I say] it's disgusting,all filled with sick people!  -- Jerusalem is the hospital foranger.  

*Someone tells me, you hippies, you don't need a watch, you need acalendar.

The real Rebbes, the way they treated their children -- so muchrespect -- 

*There are moments when G-d wants us to forget about ourselves,and there are momeents when we can be ourselves.