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Wedding is like Yom Kippur
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THE WEDDING DAY IS LIKE YOM KIPPUR
<abe
Today is your Yom Kippur.  Gevaldt, we don't know what Yom Kippuris.  
 	I heard that the Alter of Nevordoch, Reb Yosel, one of theholiest and the deepest, said: imagine if Yom Kippur would be oncein seventy years, how much would we pray that G-d should grant uslife, that we should have at least one Yom Kippur in our life.  	OK, we have the privilege that it's every year.  But I wantyou to know, the Yom Kippur you have [at your wedding] is once ina lifetime.  
	And everybody knows the end of Yom Kippur is Neila, the lastprayer.  So everybody's asking, why is the last prayer calledNeila?  It should be called an opening, why Neila, `closing'?  
	The heilege rebbe Reb Hershel of Riminov says, that all YomKippur long, so to speak, G-d is talking to all the Yiddentogether.  I mean G-d talks to every Jew.  But by Neila, the lastmoment, the Ribbono Shel Olam says to every Yiddele, "Let's lockthe doors, I just want to be alone with you."  
	But can you imagine what kind of Neila this is for you? It's, for you anyway, just for both of you.  Can you imagine thatG-d says, "Let's close all the doors?"  It's even too awesome tothink.   

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<abe                                 
I just want to sing a little bit Nusach from Rosh Hoshana and YomKippur, before the Badecken because it's your T'fillas Neila.
	(Singing): "Pesach lonu Sha'ar b'eis Neilas Sha'ar..." YaelMalkah, it means, "Master of the World, before you close thedoors, please let me in."  

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THE WEDDING DAY IS LIKE YOM KIPPUR: Through Gehinna to Gan Eden
<moshe.ak

 I want you to know the last few minutes before the chupah, isalways like... you know when you up a mountain, the last fewinches are always the hardest.    And here chasan and kallah haveto walk out just two more inches.    So we are just here to giveyou both koach.  We will be behind you, we are pushing you out. ,[To the groom]  you are shining like the High Priest on YomKippur.  [To the bride] you are shining like all the four holymothers.    I'm so proud of you.  

	You know friends, the Gemora says that sadly enough, on theway to Gan Eden, you have to go through Gehenim.  There is noother way, there is no other way.  And right now  you are on yourway, you are standing by the gates of Paradise.  That means youhave two more inches of Gehenim.  So what do you do, the last twoinches.  The last two inches are Yom Kippur.  Because everybodyknow, Succos is Gan Eden.  After Yom Kippur, you go into theSuccah.  

	I want you to know, my favorite story, your favorite story,the Gemora says that before the chasan and kallah go to theChupah, there has to be a little fight.  So the Heilage HaFlah  says to Reb Shmulkie and his two holy brothers, the son of theHaFlaw married the daughter of the Rebbe Reb Shmulkie, he says,you know something, we completely forgot to fight.  So he says,OK, let's start a fight.  So the HaFlaw says, I will not let myson marry your daughter because your daughter is much too holy formy son.  And then the Rebbe Reb Shmulkie says I will not let mydaughter marry your son because your son is much more holy than my
daughter.  And then they bagan fighting.  Each of them said, yourchild is more holy than my child.  And then after two minutes,they said, OK, we fought, let's go to the Chupah.   

	[The groom at this wedding] on his own made his way, not onlyto come to Eretz Yisrael... his neshama is really hanging on tothe highest place in heaven.  [He] stood on the crossroads athousand times.  He could have gone the other way.    I bless youthat your house should be Gan Eden.  
	OK, now we can sing, Siman Tov, V'Mazel Tov, have to pour itout!  Let's go!  (Singing- Siman Tov U'Mazel Tov)
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WEDDNG IS LIKE YOM KIPPUR:  Reb Nachman on sin, hate, andcleansing

	Reb Nachman says: each time you make a mistake, you hate oneperson, you make two mistakes, you hate two people. So lets behonest: with all the mistakes we're making in our lives, we don'teven know what loving is anymore. So God, in his infinite mercy hewants both of you to love each other so much, today he made YomKippur, a very special Yom Kippur. 
	So the first part is, you cleanse yourself on the outside,but then there's some inside, where nothing reaches, only thedeepest deepest depths of the world.
   So this is where the chuppah begins.  Heb singing:

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WHY DO GROOM AND BRIDE WEAR WHITE AT THEIR WEDDING?

    Now everybody knows that the High Priest on Yom Kippur walksinto the Holy of Holiest,. 	
    The Sokotchover [rebbe] says: why do we put on a kittel Sedernight?  So he says:  everybody knows, when the High Priest walksinto the Holy of Holiest, he wore white garments.  You know whatwhite is?  Beyond colors.  Infinite.  So he says, Seder night,when we talk to our children, because the whole Seder is talkingto our children, giving over to our children that there is oneGod.  Children are always the Holy of Holiest.  So you have towear white.  
	You know why you wear white at the wedding?  The Kallah wearswhite and the Chosan wears white.  You see on Yom Kippur, the HighPriest walked in all by himself.  But {bride and groom}are walkingtogether into the Holy of Holies, because you are bringingchildren to the world.  

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THE KITTEL

	The saddest thing in the world is to die.  But on the otherhand, it's not so terrible.  You know, if you do in this worldwhat you have to do, if you do what G-d wants you to do in thisworld, and when you die, you feel so beautiful and so deep and sogood, and you think, "Thank you G-d, for giving me such a holyopportunity to do your will in this world!"  'Yiskadal vayiskadashshemeh raba'.  
	There's one person which G-d gave you, to remind you that youhave to do something in this world.  More than all the Rebbes inthe world can tell you, more than anybody, and this is your ownwife.  Because she always reminds you, you're not here forever. You're here to do something in this world.  And therefore beforethe Chuppah, you put on your Kittel.  The Kittel is very holy,because you only wear it on Yom Kippur, for your Chuppah, and onSeder night.  You also wear it...(someday, someday)... youshouldn't have to, because Mashiach should come before

	How could you marry {your bride} without telling her, "I wantyou to know Zehavala, I accept you as my Rebbe.  I want you toteach me all the time, and to remind me that I'm not hereforever."   
{The kittel is put on the groom -- I am not clear whether or notit is the bride who does this.}

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WEDDING LIKE YOM KIPPUR

	Can you imagine  how much the High Priest prepared himself towalk into the Holy of Holiest. It was once a year, but  oncemamash it opens... all the gates of Heaven... it's just for thetwo of you.  
	*You  know  why Moshiach didn't come?  Because the HighPriest walked in without his wife.* 

	{Shlomo leading the prayer in singing Ya'ale v'Yavo}  

{To the groom}
	The High Priest went to the Mikveh five times {on Yom Kippur: Cf. sidra Avodah, Yom Kippur musaf service}. But  you weretoiveling already  [toivel = Yiddish, to immerse in a mikveh;immersing yourself in the holy waters]  in tears and in pain.  Sowe bless you that from now on your Mikvah should be joy.   ,  
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WEDDNG LIKE YOM KIPPUR

	We want you to know, from now on until the chupah is over,all the Rebbes  say one thing, G-d gives you the holiness of theKohen Gadol on Yom Kippur.  Because the Kohen Gadol would wearwhite,garments.  Mamash we bless you, you should always walk intothe Holy of Holiest, with your wife, with your children, with thedeepest depths of your heart.  
{To 2 men who are assisting the groom:  put on first the Kittel. Then the Tallis.
	(Singing-Nigun)
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