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WEDDING TEACHINGS:

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You know the Medrash says when Yaakov Avinu, "V'yifga b'makom", Rashi says, that the Ribbono Shel Olam says, `Zadik ba l'beismaloni'.  The Tsaddik came to my hotel, "Bait maloni", where Isleep, my sleeping place,  `and he shouldn't sleep?'  You'rebuilding a hotel for G-d?....  
	What's the most important thing in a house?  Basically thehouse is there for children when they are born.  They should havea place to sleep.  We adults can hang around anywhere in theworld.  Children, mamash, they need the Ribbono Shel Olam's hotel. Bais Maloni.  And you know what a hotel is?  What's a good hotel? Where you have alot of privacy.  
	So right now you're building the Bais Maloni of the RibbonoShel Olam.  And I want to bless you when both of you are mamashjust alone with G-d, alone with each other, alone with G-d.  Ibless you that you should be so close to G-d, that those fewminutes should carry you forever.  And I bless to give thiscloseness over to your children.  
  	You know children when they are born, their eyes are closed. Because I'm sure on the day when children are born, it's their YomKippur.  So one second before they're born it's their T'fillasNeila, so they close their eyes.  
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	The whole Torah of Lechem Mishna is in Parshas Chaya Sara,because Sarah, when she baked Challah for Shabbos, was on thelevel of "Lechem Mishna".  I bless you the Challahs you bake forAvraham Avinu, for your holy husband Avraham, should always belike the showbread.  They should always be warm.  
	You know it's so deep.  Sometimes you buy fresh bread andit's fresh, it's warm but it's so cold, it's so cold.  Sometimesyou come to somebody's house and they give you a piece of stalebread but it's so warm.   But I bless you mamash you  should be sorich, mamash, simply "begashmius", in this world, you should haveten maids and fifteen butlers.  But still I bless you should bakethe Challahs yourself, because Challas are so holy.  Challahs ofShabbos.  
	The Heilige Yid HaKodesh said, maybe the biggest rasha (Evilperson) in the world, would taste the Challah of my holy wifeShaindele, he would have to do Tshuva.  

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	{<abe {Wedding teaching for Shabbos (Jakov's Dream)
	When Yaakov  woke up from his dream, it says "V'yidor YaakovNeder Laimor".  Yaakov made a vow.  I want you to know, mamash,right now you're standing under the Chupah but the truth is,gevaldt are you dreaming.  Right?  Both of you.  Gevaldt are youdreaming of the ladder going up to heaven.  Gevaldt are youdreaming that the Ribbono Shel Olam is with you, and gevaldt areyou dreaming about your children.  I want to bless you that allyour dreams should come true.  And I want to bless you, you shouldalways keep your vows to each other.  Gevald.  And to yourchildren.                 
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	 Do you know how deep marriage is?  So deep, so deep.  If G-dwouldn't have given us the privilege to marry, we would neverthink about it.   
	You know, G-d created the world.  You know what the Gemorasays, G-d creating the world is a very big miracle.  But itdoesn't compare to the miracle of putting two people together.  Iam I, and you are you.  For two people to become one...
	And just remember Josh and Tara, the Zohar Kodesh says, oneis not one.  One and one, ah, that's one.  And then even one andone is still not 100% one.  One and one and a little more one, alittle one, ahh, that makes it really one.  So we bless you withthe little one.  It should become bigger, bigger, bigger and makeyour one and one, into the most beautiful one in the world.  
                 
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WEDDING TEACHINGS
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Context:  Wedding held during Chanukah

(From the Midrash)
	The Torah says: here Rachel comes with the flock of herfather [Ref. Genesis 29:9 (Vayetze)].  
	The Midrash says:  How did he [Jacob] know that she wasRachel? And so says the Midrash:  Everyone knows that the Prophet[Jeremiach(?): "Behold, a voice crying in the wilderness, Rachelmouring for her children and will not be comforted..."{get exactquote}] says Rachel cries for her children, and 
The-Holy-One-Blessed-be-He consoles her that her children
will return to their borders.  Yacov our Father [the archetypalpatriarch Jacob]  when he saw Rachel he saw how she comes with thesheep, with the People of Israel, the flock of her Father.

	Tonight is Chanukah and we don't have permission [in halacha]to use them [the Chanukah lights], only to see them.
	Everyone knows that on the night of Chanukah the Holy Onereturns the power of prophecy to all of Israel -- especially you[the bridegroom] , because for you its not just Chanukah its alsoYom Kippur [the bridegroom traditionally wears a white shroud-likegarment, as one traditionally does on Yom Kippur], and I bless youthat now that you are coming to find your soul-mate that youshould see orly coming with her flock with your children andgrandchildren and you should merit to see how [she]  is walking[to the chuppah] with them and "Rachel is coming with the flock ofher father." [loc cit. supra.]

	[To the bride[ Everyone knows that when Yacov saw Rachel itis written he cried [Genesis 29:11]. 

     We know that he cried about the destruction of the HolyTemple.  The Temple was destroyed because of "needless hatred".  Hhe saw, in his holy spirit, [?Ruach haKodesh, "DivineInspiration"?] that their children won't have love between them.
	And I bless you, Chatan and Kalla, that now that before youare coming with the flock of your father that you should pray
from the depths of your heart that your children should have
so much love and brotherhood between them that your children
should build the Holy temple that they should rededicated the
Holy Temple "and afterward they came to" the oracle of your
house "and lit the lights" in your holy courts. [from Amidah forChannukah].

  *It is impossible to be a Jew without loving.  You are full ofcharm and you are full of everything holy.*
   It is written in the Midrash or the holy Zohar that the chatangoes to find the kalla -- and I just want to bless you that "herways are ways of sweetness and all her paths are peace" [Siddur,service for replacing the scroll of Torah].
	And I want to wish you and wish the Kalla --  I say likethis: grown ups walk on the highway, they know what to do, butlittle children are "paths of peace" [loc cit.];  little childrenonly walk with little steps a little byway.   I bless you that youand your kalla should merit to walk in the "ways of sweetness"your ways should be full of sweetness -- like Reb Nachman says thesweetness from on high -- but the main thing is that,from thedepths of the heart, I wish you that "all her paths are peace"that you should merit to love your children and that your children should love you, as it says "all her paths are... peace" .
 
	And "repentance and prayer an charity pass over the harsh
judgement" [from service for Yom Kippur]  and so I wish it foryou, Chatan and Kalla and all of Israel and -- "You are the Kingthe Everliving G-d" [? from service for Rosh HaShanna?]

	And now, Chatan, we are so happy,  just like the happiness ofthe Water Drawing Ceremony [Simchat Beit HaSho'eva, the drawing ofwater during Sukkot from the pool of Siloan or Shiloach in theCity of David for the water libation,  Nisuch HaMayim, in theTemple -- (from Kitov)] "he who has not seen this joy has not seenjoy all his days"[Ref: Talmud?_____].

	 [To the groom (?)] I want to bless you that you should meritto walk with {your bride} , to walk to cover the faces of yourchildrens' bride, that you should
walk with peace and joy with a lighted candle  -- the candle of
G-d is the soul of man.   

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WEDDING TALES ABOUT REB HIRSHEL RIMINOVER

	The Heiliger Reb Hirshele Riminover was the greatest pupil ofReb Mendele Riminover.  He was so holy and so hidden, that he wasthe shamasel.  He would put wood in the oven, he would make hisbed, bring him food.  So the way-out Chassidim knew that he is thegreatest in the world.  But the straight ones..!  And, sadlyenough, the son of Reb Mendele also was straight, and that's whyhe didn't become a Rebbe after him.  He also was convinced thatRebbe Hirshele is not completely there.  So Reb Hirshele gotmarried, (without telling you long stories), and the wedding wasfinished after 2 o 'clock {AM}.  One of the functions of RebHirshele was that he would wake up at 4 o' clock, and he wouldtake a broom, and go and sweep the floor of the Beit Medrash.  Sothat morning after the wedding, Reb Hirshele, 4 o'clock is back. So the son of Reb Mendele, (his name was Reb Yossele), knocks onhis fathers door, and he says, "If you wanted to have a proof thatyour greatest pupil, Reb Hirshel, is not normal, you have it rightnow.  He got married last night.  2 o'clock the wedding wasfinished, and 4 o'clock he's back to sweep the floor.  He's notnormal, right?"  So Reb Mendele says, "Thank G-d he came to sweepthe floor, because I was so afraid I would not be able to praytoday.  Don't you know when he sweeps the floor, that he paves theway for all the prayers to reach heaven?"  

	Chevra, I want you to know it's a beautiful story.  Thisstory took place maybe 160 years ago.  

	About 80 years ago, the heiliger Reb Chatzkele Shinover, theson of the holy Sanzer went to Pishtian.  It's in Hungary, andit's a beautiful summer resort.  A lot of Rebbes went there.  Hecame there, and he walked into the Beit Medrash, and it was sodirty and so filthy.  He says to the people, "Aren't you ashamed? This is a Synagogue, and it's just so dirty.  Can somebody comeand clean it a little bit?" 
	The next morning, Reb Chatzkele goes to shul early in themorning, and he sees a little Yiddelele is there sweeping thefloor.  So he says to him, "You know it's really beautiful, thatyou got up early in the morning to sweep the floor."  
	He says, "I'll tell you the story.  
	When I was a little boy, I heard the story of Reb HirsheleRiminover on his wedding day, waking up early to sweep thefloors."  So I thought, okay I'm not Reb Hirshele Riminover, and Idon't know how to make the way for the prayers to reach heaven,but I know how to sweep the floors.  So I came."  
	You know sometimes, when you do something without knowingwhat you are doing, and you are just doing it for G-d, that's thedeepest thing there is.  
	So Reb Chatzkele looked at him and he say's, "I'll tell yousomething.  If you would know where your sweeping the floorsreached this morning, you wouldn't be able to take it.  Youreached the highest place in the world."  He says, "I want you toknow", he says, "I know you are married for 15 years and you don'thave children yet.  And just because you are sweeping the floors,I bless you to have children."  

      I want you to know, there is a beautiful story.  It's a longstory, but Reb Hirshele Riminover's first wife was nebach verysick.  It was very heartbreaking.  So anyway, one day, a womancomes to him, and says, "Rebbe, I want you to know I'm looking fora shidduch".  And he says to her, "Don't  fall off the chair. Just talk to me straight."  You have to realize that, when RebHirshele got married, let's say he was 16.  Then when he was 21,he became a Rebbe.  Maybe at this point, he was maybe 25, and thewoman who came to him was maybe 25.  She says, "You know, I haveno parents, and I'm looking for a shidduch, you know.  So bless meto find one."  So Reb Hirshele says to her, "Listen, I want you toanswer me very honestly.  Would you consider marrying me?"  So shesays, "Please don't make such jokes with me, because I'm verysensitive.  Just bless me I should find a shidduch.  I'm notdreaming of a Rebbe Reb Hirshele to be my husband."  So he say,"I'll tell you.  Obviously I have to explain myself.  You are fromthat village?"  She says, "Yes".  He says, "Your father was RebMoishele?"  She says,  "Yes".  He says, "Do you remember a littleboy Hirshele, a tailor , who would bring always the pants of your10 brothers when they were torn?"  
	Here we have to stop the story for a second.  Reb HirsheleRiminover was the son of a tailor.  His father passed away veryyoung, so he grew up by his uncle.  Listen to this.  Until he wasBar Mitzvah, he did'nt know anything, but his heart was burning upfor G-d.  So after his Bar Mitzvah, he decided to run away toRiminov, so he could become a Chassid.  So this was when he wasstill in that shtetele.  So this Yiddele had 10 sons and 4daughters, and every Friday some of the pants were torn from hischildren.  So this Hirshele, later Reb Hirshele Riminover, everyFriday afternoon, would fix pants.  
	So he says, "Do you remember a little boy, Hirshele, wouldbring your brother's torn pants before Shabbos?"  She says, "Yes". He says, "Do you remember I had no parents, and I walked into thehouse, and here I saw 14 children sitting around the table Fridayafternoon, and your father was teaching you the Portion of theWeek?  All the 14 children?  And it was so special.  So I alwaysprayed every Friday,`Please G-d,let me marry one of those 4Girls!"  So anyway, this girl was one of those 4 girls, you know. So the story is like this, which is unbelievable.  

	You know how Reb Hirshele married her?  She was obviously hisreal soul-mate.  He told his shamasel, "Please don't tell anybodythat we are to get married.  But I want you to drive to a certainvillage, and there in the Beit Medrash you will see 10 shleppers. Put them on the wagon, and bring them here, and we will make awedding."  And he told the Chassidim, that anyone that comes tothe wedding is playing with his life.  Obviously it was a veryhigh wedding.  

	So I want to tell you, you know all of us here areshleppers,you know.  But mamash, obviously G-d wanted you to havea wedding with the biggest shleppers in the world.  (laughter)Mazel Tov, Mazel Tov.	      
	So now, listen, I'm begging you, all of you, and me, all ofus shleppers.  Let's put it all together.  Let it be, let it be,mamash, a wedding of the 10 shleppers of Reb Hirshele Riminover. Gevalt.			
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A TALE OF REB MOTELE CHERNOBLE

	  It's a good thing to tell a story of Reb Motele Chernobleunder the Chuppah.  
	Reb Motele Chenoble was the one who looked after the LamedVav Tzaddikim, and Eliyahu Hanavi would always hang loose aroundReb Motke Chenobler.  Reb Motele Chenobler, when he was 12, 13,14, he had this craziness, that he would walk up, and mamash givepeople a 'frask.' You know, a 'patch'.  He didn't say anything,he'd just give them a patch, you know.  I'm sure he knew what it'sfor, and the person who got it, also knew what it's for, you know. But he never said anything.  So there were some Chassidim who werecomplaining, "I mean, OK, when he'll be a Rebbe, he can dowhatever he wants to, but now he is just a Bar Mitzvah boy". OK,it's true, maybe he has clear prophecy from one corner of theworld to the other, but which chassidele who is 70 years old wantsto 'chap a frask', from a boy of Bar Mitzvah?  So Reb Nachum callshim in, his father says to him.  "You know you are making troublewith my Chassidim.  Do me a favor, stop giving people patches." So Reb Motele says, "OK".  And the truth is, wherever Reb Motelewas travelling, nobody wanted to go with him because they wereafraid. But since word got around that Reb Motele stops hitting...So OK, the next day Reb Motele announces that he's going to acertain village.  So a Chassid says, "I'm going with you.  Still,the Rebbe's son needs a shamesel."  Anyway, so they come to thatvillage and they arrive there 4 in the morning.  And as they aredriving in, suddenly the dogs begin to bark.  So Reb Motele looksat the Chassid and he says, "Oh, dogs are barking."  'Frask'.  Hesays, "What's going on there?  You promised you won't hit anyone." Reb Motele doesn't say anything.  Let's say they arrived in thatcity 10 minutes after 4 in the morning.  A few days later, theycome back, and the Chassid runs back to Reb Motele.  "You know,when we arrived in that city, 10 minutes after 4, my wifeprematurely gave birth to a baby."  A  little boy or a littlegirl, whatever it was.  So Reb Motele says, "Now you understandwhy I hit you?   Because the dogs were telling you, 'Mazel Tov'.  And you, stupid fool, didn't understand it."  So here, all thedogs on the moshav are barking.  

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RETURNING TO THE LAND OF ISRAEL

	It's a few days after Tisha B'Av. 
	Can you imagine when we were driven out from the Holy Land. It's even too heartbreaking to think about.  Thousands, thousands,thousands, all of us, with our hands chained to the back, chainson our feet.  We are walking down to be sold as slaves.  But youknow what we did?  We told the Romans, when you'll be dead, andwhen your great grandchildren will be dead, we are coming back. Nobody will remember you.  But we are coming back.  
	I just don't know, I have this very strange feeling, the lastJew who left this holy place here [present location of MoshavAminadav, in the Jerusalem Hills], I guess he was praying,  Masterof the World, let my great great grandchildren make their weddinghere, just to show the world that we live forever.  I don't know, 
if [the ancient ancestors of the bride and groom] were living hereon this place -- because  suddenly [this is the location where thewedding was held] --  it's from heaven.  
	So I want to sing this song in honor of your forefathers, ourforefathers, who were blessing you that your wedding should behere.  Because this is our land.  It's not to be believed.  Solet's sing "Chasdei Hashem", and if some of you don't speakhebrew, it means "G-d's Goodness has no end."

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TEACHINGS:  WEDDINGS ON THE 15th of Av
{Teaching by R. Shlomo at a Wedding on the evening of 15th Av}                         
	Chamisha Asar B'Av (15th Av)  is the night that all the holygirls in Yerushalayim in the time of the Holy Temple, would danceon the streets.  It was so special!  And any young man who lookedat one of the girls and said, "Ah, this is my soulmate", he'd walkup to her and say, "You are my soulmate", he'd get married righttonight.  Any young lady, if she would see a young man standingthere, maybe a little bit bashful, she would walk up to him andsay, "Hey, do you know I am your soulmate?"  The Gemora says thatShaul HaMelech, King Saul was so bashful, he was standing there,Chamisha Asar B'Av, and he saw his soulmate, but just couldn't gethimself to walk up to her.  She walked up to him.  She says, "I'myour soulmate."  It's beautiful, right.  
	So I have an announcement to make, in the name of, so tospeak, all of us, the married couples, anybody here who sees theirsoulmate right here, don't hesitate, just jump on the chupah andwe'll knock you off, also.  The Chupah is very high.  In order toreach your soulmate, you have to jump up very high, sometimes.  Ifyou are afraid to jump so high, then tell us after the chupah andwe'll all lift you up, all of us.  I'm for real, I mean it. Tonight is the night.  
	And then is my message to all the married couples: tonight isthe night to ask G-d to be so much closer, so much closer.  Youknow why husband and wife are not so close?  A lot of times theyjust think they are married, but they forget they're soulmates. They forget they only came to the world to be together.

	  The Gemora says, the Zohar Kodesh says, on Tisha B'AvMashiach is coming, but tonight he'll build the Holy Temple. (Singing, {during the Sheva Brachas under the Chuppah}
"Im Eshkochech Yerushalayim", "If I forget Thee, Jerusalem"  and"Oovinay Yerushalayim")

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swyb (1979)

 	Yaakov Avinu, our Father Jacob, was the first one to receivethe brochos. The Torah says so. 
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WEDDING TEACHINGS ON CHILDREN
 
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You know friends maybe some of you remembers we were talking a lotof times, especailly last year Rosh hasshana, sometimes our holysisters, our holy mothers are just a little bit downheaerted, theythink you known we are spending so many hours feeding ourchildren, diapering the babies, really in the meantime we couldmaybe write a book about loving children and here we are wastingour time on diapering them.  But let me tell you somethingsweetest friends, let me tell you, if you would know, if you wouldknow, how much light you bring into the world when you are takingcare of children; you know we men, we could sit and learn for 100years, it doesn't compare to what you are bringing down into theworld when you are taking care of little children.

    What is G-d doing all the time, He is taking care of Hischildren.  It says in Etz Haim:   G-d created the world in orderto take care of His children.  

      When G-d created thw world it took six days, and imagineuntil Chava had children everything took time, when Mashiach iscoming everything will be ready. {So a wedding in which the brideand/or groom already have children is a Meshiach wedding.} 

	We bless you that there should be light in your house all thetime.  That in the darkest night there should be a candle burning,that even when the sun is shining there should always be one holycandle, that candle which even the sun can't reach.  We bless youthat your house should really be, mamash, just not the BeaitHamikdash, you house should be the holy of holiest.  And we blessyou whowever comes to young house should feel the taste of theBais Hamikdash.
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HEALING ONESELF AND OTHERS

	TALE OF THE ALEXANDERER REBBE

	{TRANSCENDING PHYSICAL PAIN}

    The Holy Reb Yechiel Alexanderer who was the greatest pupil ofthe Holy Vorker. 
	One Friday night his eyes hurt him very much, and  he wassitting there  by the feast and he was in pain.  
	The holy Vorker [Rebbe] sensed it. So he called him and said,"Yitsik'l, heilige Yitzik'l,(Yechiel?)  What's the matter? Whathurts you?"  He said, "My eyes hurt me." So the holy Vorker puthis holy hands on his holy eyes. And he smiled and went back tohis place,  and he ate the soup and he ate all he had to eat. Hasidim asked him, "It doesn't hurt anymore?"..."Yeah it stillhurts, but it's a different kind of hurting."   
	I want to bless you that from now on,  even if somethinghurts you ...let it be a different kind of hurt. Let it be thiskind of hurt which doesn't take away your smiling... doesn't takeaway your simcha...doesn't take away the joy of life.

{HELPING PEOPLE BY MAINTINAING A SPIRITUAL PRESENCE}  

    [To the bride] I want to bless you like G-d blessed Avraham,Not that you should give out blessings...  {You should bea blessing}.  
	You  know, sometimes you walk down the street and you don'thave time to give out blessings. I want to bless you... anybodywho sees you should be  blessed too, without you even taking outtime. I want to bless you... whoever you carry in your handsshould be blessed forever and ever.  I want to bless you to carrychildren in your hands, and I want to bless you to carry childrenunder your heart. And I want to bless you...when Mashiach iscoming, you should get to see  the children who surrounded you. Infront of you, in back of you, on top of you, and running aroundall over the place.  

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WEDDINGS TEACHIGS: Rachel and the sheep (Midrash)

	 How did Yaakov know...that Rochel is his soulmate? (So oneof the things) The Midrash says a gevalt Torah'le - 
     When Yaakov came to see Lavan...suddenly he saw a girl and hesaw her with sheep. And it says,      and she camewith the sheep.  So the Midrash says, that usually a shepherdesshad a big stick and the sheep are running all over the place. Andshe is running after them, yelling at them, hitting this sheep,hitting this sheep. Telling this sheep to go this way, and tellingthis sheep `will you please follow the other sheep', and she'syelling all the time. And Yaakov saw Rachel and he saw the sheep. There is no stick in her hand,  no yelling.  Mamash she waswalking with the sheep, because, would any sheep miss just walkingtogether with Rochele.   And I want to bless you, that you shouldbe privileged, that the children should follow you so much. Youshould never have to yell at them. You should never need a stick,like our holy mother Rochele. 

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WEDDING TEACHING:  OPENING GATES

 	The same way as G-d is opening gates for you now, wheneveryou need them you should open the gates on your own.  You shouldbe privileged to open gates for your children, for all of Israel.  
	There are two ways of opening gates, sometimes you have tobreak the gates open, and sometimes you have to push a littlebutton, you have to know where it is.  So we bless you right nowG-d should reveal to you all the  buttons in heaven, sadly enoughmost of us don't know.  

	The Gemorra says that the gates of heaven which are sometimesopen are sometimes closed, and then the Gemara says that a Mikvais always open, day and night.  We bless you that your houseshould be on that level, 
[INSERT HEBBREW FROM TYPESCRIPT P7 PAR 2], the light of Hanukah,[INSERT HEBEREW______________________________]
you should mamash bathe in the holiness and the sweetness of themikvah here of holiness and sweetness, and gates should always beopen for you.

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WEDDING/ TU B'SHVAT TEACHING: The Tree of Life

	  Right now it's mamash midnight, Chamisha Asar B'Shvat (theFifteenth of Shvat).  Remember we were learning the whole time,the New Year of the Tree.  The Mishna always says, "One Tree", itdoesn't say all the trees.  One tree.  So all the Rebbes say, it's the Tree of Life.  Mamash all our lives, all year long, we arejust eating from the Tree of Knowledge.  Tonight, especially atmidnight, mamash at midnight, because  everything which happens atnight, always happens at midnight.  It's mamash the beginning ofthe Tree of Life.   
      	Remember the Heilage Pshischer Torah.  What's so badabout knowing what's right and wrong?  How could you live withoutknowing what's good and what's bad?  You have to know it.  So whyare we looking down at the Tree of Knowledge.  He says, the Treeof Knowledge means that my knowledge of good and evil is fromoutside, not from inside.  
	{Imagine that somone were tosay} ` I would kill, but I'm notpermitted.'  How does it sound to you?  {Or, to imagine otherexample} `I would love to steal, but I'm not permitted'.  It's alloutside stuff.  
      	The Heilage Ishbitser says:  `When G-d `says', "Don'tkill", it's not mamash, {that we are being told} `don't kill'.  Itwas {already quite} clear to us it's really forbidden to kill. It's to put in us so much love for people.  Mamash G-d put into usso much respect for life,  that you CAN'T kill.  	
	When G-d says to us, "Don't steal", it was not, `you know, Ireally shouldn't steal, it's not nice.'  That's  kid's stuff. It's Tree of Knowledge stuff.  When G-d says to us, "Don'tsteal"... it was so clear to us that whatever G-d gives to oneperson, mamash belongs to that person.  It belongs so much to thisperson,  you can't take it away from him.  
	You know people who steal, they really don't know whatbelongs to me and what belongs to you.  
	The Pshischer says, before we ate from the Tree of Knowledge,we also knew what's right and what's wrong.  Inside,  mamash wewere connected to the highest place in heaven.  G-d was shininginto us what's right and what's wrong.     
         	There is one thing in the world when you cannot listento the outside world.  I can maybe not steal because it says so,then I come to Paradise because I never stole.  When it comes togetting married... G-d forbid, if you listen to the outside,you'll never know.  Moshe says Chana is my soulmate, and Chatskalasays Rivkala is my soulmate.  I can get crazy, right.  Unless youare connected to the Tree of Life, you'll never know.
	So I want to bless you tonight that your getting togethershould mamash come from the Tree of Life.  And I just bless youthat the Tree of Knowledge should never ever come between you. Meaning to say, that the snake is the Tree of Knowledge.  Mr.Snake comes, he has something to say.  I bless you, you shouldhave a big sign outside the house, "Snakes not wanted.  No vacancyfor snakes"

	The snake is crawling ON the earth.  How do things grow?  INthe earth. By the snake, nothing is growing.  You know, when youlove somebody on the level of the Tree of Knowledge, it doesn'tgrow, their love.  Their closeness doesn't grow because nothinggrows from outside... Only from the inside.  Snake stuff doesn'tgrow.  That's the Tree of Knowledge.  Ahh, the Tree of Life...under the earth.  Mamash, "Chaya olam nota b'sochenu"  (He plantedinside of us everlasting life)  Inside, inside, it's plantedinside.  So the Gemora says, on the Fifteenth of Shevat, the rootsare becoming so deep, so deep.  So I want to bless you that yourroots, both of you, your roots should become one.  So deep, sodeep.  And your apples and your fruits... your children should bejust so, so beautiful.  

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{To the bride who is (a) a woman  (b) a musician and (c)apparently a Levi.}

  OK, we talk about Moshiach's coming.  Do we really think he'scoming in five minutes?  A bit hard, right. The Gemora says:, maybe he's coming in one minute.  I want to bless you from thisminute on, your life should be so holy, that every second of yourlife, if you should get a call from the head of the officer of theLeviim, and they say, "Just come right over.  Come right over toYerushalayim".  It shouldn't be, `No, no.  I'm not prepared rightnow.'  Mamash I want you to be always prepared.  

	And you know there's a big "machloses" (argument).    Somesay that David HaMelech was playing a violin.  But also DavidHaMelech had a harp.  Everybody knows that.  And then, DavidHaMelech, everybody knows also, he played with new instruments.   You know whatever there's music in the world, it's all DavidHamelech.  David HaMelech is the master of music.  And so I blessyou mamash, you should be the first woman in the world who playsthe melodies of King David on the harp.  	
	You know, sadly enough we don't remember the melodies ofYerushalayim.  Because you know why?  Because if we would know themelodies, it would be so beautiful, we wouldn't be able to last inexile.  Because it would be so beautiful, we would say, "RibbonoShel Olam, please I want to hear them in the Bais HaMikdash, Icannot live like this."  So the Ribbono Shel Olam in His infinitecompassion, sadly enough, made us forget how beautiful themelodies were.... Gevaldt, were they beautiful.  Gevaldt, werethey beautiful.  So I should bless you that you should be thefirst woman who hears all those melodies, but please don't forgetus poor shleppers here.  And give us a little free concert whenMoshiach is coming.	       

{To the groom}  
	We went through fire and water, heaven and earth.  We wentthrough all the oceans, all the heavens, all the hills, all thegutters, everything together.  It's unbelievable, 
 	First of all I bless you, you and Tanya should stick it outtogether.  And when ever the mountain goes up or down, if it's aquestion of walking or swimming, going on a bike or jumping into aConcord, you should mamash hold out together.  

	
A WEDDING STORY OF THE WORLD LOST TO AMALEK

{To the bride}
	what it is to get married, what do I know what I'll think ayear from now, I don't even know what I'll think tomorrow morning,nine o'clock.  I mean how can I, simple, normal, shvach, halfsenile human being say to somebody else, "I love you forever". Who knows if I'll love you in five minutes?   But you know what itis.  It's a gift from heaven.  

	Once I met the absolutely most `in love' couple in the world. When we were six years old, maybe even five,  my parents took usin Baden by Wien to a couple.  They got married and she wasexactly a year younger than him.  A year and a few days.  She wasexactly twelve, and he was exactly Bar Mitsva when they gotmarried.  Have you heard anything so cute in your life?  He wasninety six and she was ninety five.  I have never seen a couplebeing so madly in love with each other.  You want to knowsomething?  Do you know how holy it was to be in their presence? And you could mamash see husband and wife, you could see mamashthe Shechina (the Divine Presence) is between them.  
	You see he was not just a little Yiddele, he was mamash oneof, like the Galitsianer chassidim who knew Shas (the Talmud)backwards and forwards mamash...I mean Shas on the tip of hisfingers.   When he was ninety-six when we met him, he was an oldman and he looks at us, and he says something.  A gaon mamash.  Agaon adir v'nora.  And he was one of the best pupils of the BaisYitschak.  The Bais Yitschak was the absolutely most exaltedgenius in sharpness in his generation.  So he was an unbelievableperson.  And he was so sweet.  You know how much honor they gaveto each other.  And you know, she went out to get some cake, andmy brother and I were watching his face, and every two seconds hewas looking to the door, if she's back already.           
   	So I bless you, mamash, I bless you, that this couple I'minviting them to your wedding here, because I think I must be theonly person in the world who really remembers them, because 
 nebech all the Yidden in Baden {bei Wien} , nebech, all thepeople in the city where we lived, were all wiped out.  Only a fewpeople left.  So mamash I'm inviting them and he should walk youto the chupah, and she should walk you to the chupah.  And theholiness, the holiness  which they accumulated while they werealive.  I don't want to tell you something sad, but just to knowwho they are.  When the Germans took over the city, they were thefirst two people who walked out to be shot on the street.  You seewhat it is, the unholy side knows what holy is.  So who knowswhere they are in heaven.  But anyway, I'm inviting them in thename of all of us, they should come to your wedding, and theyshould bring you all the blessings.   	       

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HASSIDIC STORY ABOUT REBBE REB ZUSHA
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    Told by R. Shlomo Carlebach in honor of the Wedding of Avrahamand Eleanor Shifrin ca. 1974?  
Input by R. Joshua & Emunah Witt, not dated

	Tere were a lot of Chassidishe Rebbes.  Some were straightand some were way out.  Rebbe Yebe was a very holy Rebbe, but hewas very straight.  You know, he did everything right.  Reb Zusiawas Reb Zusia, was way out, Reb Zusia was a different kind ofRebbe.  
	So Reb Zusia came to vist Reb Yebe on Succos.  You know ifyou are a very holy Yiddele, you have to sleep in the Succah.  SoReb Yebe had a very beautiful bed in the Succah.  It was cold inRussia, Succos, I don't have to tell you.  He had five blankets, abeautiful bed, he wanted to go to sleep.  Reb Zusia says to him, Idon't want a bed in the Succah, I just want to sleep on the holyfloor.  You'll freeze to death, it's so cold!  Reb Zusia says,don't worry.  OK, Reb Yebe is lying in the bed and even with thefive blankets, he's still  shivering and Reb Zusia is lying on thefloor.  Suddenly Reb Zusia says, "Ribbono Shel Olam, Ribbono ShelOlam, Zusia is freezing."
	So suddenly it became warm in the Succah.  The first thing,Reb Yebe throws off one blanket and then the other blanket.  Andthen Reb Zusia says, "Ribbono Shel Olam, Zusia is still freezing." It is more warm, he's throwing off another blanket.  By this time,he has no more blankets on him, it's so hot already.  Then RebZusia says, "Ribbono Shel Olam, Zusia wants a warm succah."  RebYebe is getting out of the succah, he's lying on his bed and sweatis coming down.  So finally he says, "Reb Zusia, please stop.  Therate you're going, you'll burn the whole succah!" 
	I want you to know Reb Avremala, the truth is, the truth is,Reb Avremala was nebech in Siberia, Reb Avremala said, "Ribbonoshel Olam, Avremala is freezing."  It became a little bit warmer. More warm and more warm and more warm and then he said, "Avremalawants to go to Erets Yisrael, to the Holy Land", and then hedidn't stop.  "Avremala wants to get married."  So I'm asking youAvremala, don't stop.  "Ribbono shel Olam, Avremala wantschildren, Ribbono Shel Olam, Avremala wants peace all over theworld."  Don't listen to Reb Yebe if he tells you to stop.  Listento the Holy Rabbis, keep on doing what you are doing all the time. Your wife is right, you better tell the Ribbono Shel Olam, she isthe Kallah.  Don't ever stop!!

	I want to bless Avremala.  Who know how many years that theytalked of this chupah, and then the Jews came from Russia, howholy are these Jews!   I want to bless you that you should beprivileged to see in your life that the Jews in Israel willunderstand that these Jews from Russia are the real tsaddikim. They are the real Rebbes.
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And I bless you ... mamash you should have `holy feet'. `Holyfeet' is, when someone asks you a favour, when your children wakeyou up in the middle of the night, you jump up with so much joy. Ribbono shel olam how can I ever thank you, that there's somebodywho needs me in the world.  Chatan and kallah, I bless you withholy feet, with holy everything. 

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	As proud as you are of your holy wife right now, I bless youshould always be so proud of her.   I bless you as proud as youare of your holy Choson right now, you should always be so proudof him.  And above all, mamash all of us, we bless you, that youshould have the privilege of bringing children into the world. Mamash children who should be mamash the pride of all of Israel,of all generations to come.  
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{To a bride married a man named Ya'akov}
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WEDDING MISC
    	
  You know, the world will never know what the House of Love andPrayer was all about.  When Meshiach is coming, it might berevealed. 

       We bless you that everything which is hidden from youshould be revealed to you to make your heart feel good and happyand sweet.  
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